tomtomastom4:
Continued....

My babe is in 400 lvl. She just finished IT and preparing her report. So she requested for some money to help finish up everything that concerns that. I told her to gv me time, that I will send the money for her. Though I told her to borrow the money, so that later I can give her to return it. She consented to it and went ahead and borrowed.

So am trying to raise the money for her and send to the person she borrowed.

Just last week, she showed me a pix of a gown that her friend sells.
The gown is about 25k. No doubt, the gown is beautiful and if I had the money, I would have bought it for her myself. Then I told her to hold on the gown let me first of all settle the money she borrowed. She didn't really flare up sha, but her choice of words wasn't encouraging to me

Karleb:
This girl, is she her orphan?

Doesn't she has any relative?

Saintmary:


I believe that for you to sustain your relationship for three years means you really love your girl, and if you can't sort out problems in this one, how will you learn to make things work in another relationship and marriage?

Keep your focus and you will be glad at the end. Good luck.

tomtomastom4:


Nah...
Though her mum is late. But she has like 3 brothers and two sisters.

Dollywood:
Well, I'm not in a relationship and I don't actually know what you mean by that.

tomtomastom4:


If I say she isn't a good lady, am not doing justice to her. When I compare to other ladies that I knw and to other ladies that my friends/brothers are dating, I can fully say that she's good.
Our relationship have been going on fine with the last two years. She's not even the demanding type. 90% of the time that I have given her money, I did that in my own, not on her request.

It's just within the last three months that this one started happening.

tomtomastom4:


Am all willing to make the relationship work. We've had issues in the past and we resolved it one way or the other.

All things been equal, our marriage plans is supposed to begin by January next year.

I tried my possible best to manage this situation. I tried telling her that she can do her IT defence and any other occasions she want to attend with the cloths she already have. But she's making it look as if I don't care about her appearance.

I work in an organisation where one have to look good and dress smartly, but I can tell you that since Feb this year after I got a property in my home state, I haven't bought any reasonable cloth for myself.

tomtomastom4:


Am all willing to make the relationship work. We've had issues in the past and we resolved it one way or the other.

All things been equal, our marriage plans is supposed to begin by January next year.

I tried my possible best to manage this situation. I tried telling her that she can do her IT defence and any other occasions she want to attend with the cloths she already have. But she's making it look as if I don't care about her appearance.

I work in an organisation where one have to look good and dress smartly, but I can tell you that since Feb this year after I got a property in my home state, I haven't bought any reasonable cloth for myself.

Saintmary:
Any marriage that is headed for success, especially one that is so decent like this one is an easy target for the devil who knows that it's pleasing to God. What I mean by decent is that you're avoiding sex, which is an admirable decision.

We are not ignorant of the devil's devices, he aims to steal, to kill, and to destroy.

And when you now have a woman who can't watch and pray? Easy prey. Just to whisper some nasty stuff and watch them start fighting.

Take time to pray well, set time for private time together, tell her she's important to you, don't listen to redpillers who are just bitter people. Yoruba people call their type "elegan"

Don't listen to naysayers, especially women who are advising you against your future wife, they are just jealous. When they get over their personal bitterness, they will not ask you for permission when they find their own partners, be wise.

May God give you the strength to overcome.

Saintmary:


It's understandable. And to be honest, she's being headstrong.

Nevertheless, I would want you to consider where you started from, then try to reach out to her family too, let them know that you have good plans for her beyond expensive clothes, and really, show them how you plan to carry her along. If she has a reasonable Mom, she'll call her to order.

I believe you can make it. Just one step further and you'll overcome this challenge. Please pray too, pray against the devil that is trying to scatter your efforts over your family. I hope you pull through.

Saintmary:


I believe that for you to sustain your relationship for three years means you really love your girl, and if you can't sort out problems in this one, how will you learn to make things work in another relationship and marriage?

Keep your focus and you will be glad at the end. Good luck.

Bola146:
she should understand your situation now if she can endure with you. This is the time she should be with you if she is not demanding till the loan is paid and the business is successful. You should explain better to her if she is misinterpreting you

cooooooks:
The girl? Guy na you f up.

Why are you pushing her away because you are financially tight??

If you guys get married and financial pressure is too high, will you also push her away?

cooooooks:
She wants to spend time with you. Let her come and join you in the work. Let her come and just be around you while you work. Tell her you don't have time for going out. That you are building a future for your family to come.

tomtomastom4:


Thanks so much for the advice.

tomtomastom4:


The only member of her family I can be able to relate this issue to is her brother who is currently in Canada and his number have not been going.

Saintmary:


I'm glad you appreciate it, and I'm praying that your union will be successful to the shame of the devil and mockers. Cheers.

tomtomastom4:
I told my gf to give me some space and break.
She glared up. Said somethings to me and told my friends that I broke her heart.

Plz judge from my story if I what I did was wrong.
Sorry my story might be long.

I have been dating my gf for about 3 years now. I have the plans of marrying her by next year. Our both family knows about our intention.

But off recent, things haven't been all rosy for me and it's affecting my relationship with her.

Everything was going fine until I started a new business that am pushing. I got a new product from another state and began bringing it into my state of residence. It's not a fast moving goods, so it's difficult to market and I believe once the goods gets acceptance, it's going to move very well and the profit is promising.

So right now all I do is to push and push. And pumping money also. All these my gf knows about. In other to expand the biz a little, i got a loan of 1.5 million wch I added to the biz. The loan is to be paid back around march and I pay the person 100k per month.

Also to add, I work in a company that pays me 130k per month. So I use 30k for my monthly up keep and send 100k for loan repayment.

I must confess, since I started the biz things haven't been easy for me. I usually make sales from the biz, but right now I put all the money back to the biz just so that I won't run it down cos profit haven't started coming yet. Am still in the stage of putting in more money.

Mercychen:


See them. Na them.

Always asking a Man for what their father can not buy for them. But to work with their own hands so they can buy the world themselves, no way!

I wonder why y'all (especially the ladies) always quick to misinterpret my honest opinion as seeking the male attention or wanting the person concerned to pick me. So myopic of you ladies. It also goes to show y'alls intention on here.


Y'all know what? I will never stop dropping the bombshell where it matters, just to please you guys. You musn't all agree with my submissions but learn to disregard it, drop yours and vamoose!

Na una type Dem dey use for money rituals easily.

Receive sense and don't ever mention me again.

Fake things everywhere.



Your type is rare. The lucky man that will marry you is blessed. OP thankGod this is happening, its a big REDFLAG. One thing am happy is that you have common sense, you know what to do

gentlestdude:
please I'm interested in the products you deal with, I will like to venture into something new.


about that girl, the funny thing is she will still wear that same gown to another guy's house just to impress the guy... abi no be student again?

Saintmary:


Take it up prayerfully and handle the situation as the compassionate head of your home. Sometimes, mediators will not be available, will you give up because of that?

tomtomastom4:

Wch state are you...

tomtomastom4:


What do I do. She kept making it feel that I don't care for her.

The complain coming these days is really disturbing me. Am someone that don't like been under pressure.

A lot of time she complained that we no longer have time to go out to have fun.

But even aside the money, where is the time to do that.

I couldn't hold it any longer, I just had to tell her to give me a break.

tomtomastom4:

Seriously, I cherish her a lot.

tomtomastom4:
Continued....

My babe is in 400 lvl. She just finished IT and preparing her report. So she requested for some money to help finish up everything that concerns that. I told her to gv me time, that I will send the money for her. Though I told her to borrow the money, so that later I can give her to return it. She consented to it and went ahead and borrowed.

So am trying to raise the money for her and send to the person she borrowed.

Just last week, she showed me a pix of a gown that her friend sells.
The gown is about 25k. No doubt, the gown is beautiful and if I had the money, I would have bought it for her myself. Then I told her to hold on the gown let me first of all settle the money she borrowed. She didn't really flare up sha, but her choice of words wasn't encouraging to me

tomtomastom4:


Prayer....

That's what my mum said sha.

God will see us through.

tomtomastom4:


Prayer....

That's what my mum said sha.

God will see us through.

tomtomastom4:

Well I don't knw how you want me to say what she's adding to my life.

Aside from the normal "companionship" that one get from been in a relationship, what else is expected.

And mayb before you bring up sex, it's not part of our relationship. Am for "no sex till marriage" and so is she.

Elporo:


You are starting a new phase in life and do not need any dead weight.

How could she be this terrible? You are neck-deep in debt, but she asks for a 25k gown. When she knows your monthly expenses cannot exceed 30K.

she's init for the digits

Mercychen:
only a stupid girl would request for gown of 25k when she's not working or even able to afford a 5k gown herself. She's materialistic!

Some men are slowpoke though and would go ahead and buy it for her. I hope you don't fall into that category of mumu men.

If after letting her know of your current biz project which is gulping your finances, + her debt you're trying to offset, she still had the guts to request for such nonsense, then she's not a wife material. Her type will wreck you if you marry her.

Since they are already calling you a heart breaker, kuku scatter everything, let her go abeg! .

For now face and nuture your biz until it grows. Then look for good girl and marry.

AutoChick4U:
Hope u read d story about d guy who's wife stopped feeding him because of gas? Self centered people can't hide their nature for long.

AutoChick4U:
Remember a supportive and respectful spouse supersedes all.