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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Tosdam(m): 11:14am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
You expected me to shy away from the bitter truth? it is the reason I'm always the odd one out in most opinions on issues because i spit reality,you are enjoying marital bliss and other conjugal enjoyments but you don't want to spend,are you her creator? As long as you are sleeping with her please don't complain of any demands from her,nothing is free,not even the air we breath.
Aboki... Comot here... You are uttering nonsense....
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Prevailing: 11:15am On Dec 05, 2021
yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.


She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.

Bro, you don't have to be this rude to her undecided undecided. It's not by force to send her money, at least just tell her you don't have much to send to her, besides there is nothing wrong in sending her feeding money in her parents house. You both have started living in a family way and it's normal to send feeding money when she visits her parents. Seem like you have started loosing interest in the said lady already.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Bellerophon: 11:16am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
I'm not near anything greedy but if I decide to be wayward today believe me i must cash out big time from it and anything short of that, I remain in my papa house with my legs closed in peace.You'll stop arguing when you truly get my point

It will be sad if against being foretold you still ended up being remanded for your wanton sense of entitlement! Desist from these thoughts now lest you eventually donate body parts to a mindless ritualist! It will be a shame to read that the police is waiting for advice from DPP on your matter! Be warned
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Tosdam(m): 11:16am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
Useless men everywhere, I pity ladies that give you people free sex all in the name of expression of feelings, even Adam couldn't touch Eve till God asked him to do something which serves as the bride price before he was allowed to touch her but some ladies wey nack head for ground will begin parting their legs over nonsense expression of feelings. Its unbibilical to have free sex,go and find out.So Oga Op if you can't feed her then leave her for her parents and go your way,you did not complain when you were winning your pelenge waist on top of her.
. Do you think before typing at all?
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 11:16am On Dec 05, 2021
liya11:


If it's not transactional sex like prostitutionring. Then it should be free. Relationship should be give and take, if one is at the receiving end, doesn't always end well.
Relationship should be give and take according to you,now that she's giving him sex outside wedlock,what will be her own take?
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by aktolly54(m): 11:17am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
Useless men everywhere, I pity ladies that give you people free sex all in the name of expression of feelings, even Adam couldn't touch Eve till God asked him to do something which serves as the bride price before he was allowed to touch her but some ladies wey nack head for ground will begin parting their legs over nonsense expression of feelings. Its unbibilical to have free sex,go and find out.So Oga Op if you can't feed her then leave her for her parents and go your way,you did not complain when you were winning your pelenge waist on top of her.
abeg where in the bible did God ask adam to something which you see as bride price in your own eyes ooo
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Tosdam(m): 11:18am On Dec 05, 2021
Skmoda360:

Your opinion sound like someone that can't think straight....what a dumb opinion.... undecided
.. So dumb.. The she is so senseless
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 11:19am On Dec 05, 2021
Bellerophon:


It will be sad if against being foretold you still ended up being remanded for your wanton sense of entitlement! Desist from these thoughts now lest you eventually donate body parts to a mindless ritualist! It will be a shame to read that the police is waiting for advice from DPP on your matter! Be warned
Don't worry about me but your girlfriends and sisters
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by owunabastard: 11:20am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
Useless men everywhere, I pity ladies that give you people free sex all in the name of expression of feelings, even Adam couldn't touch Eve till God asked him to do something which serves as the bride price before he was allowed to touch her but some ladies wey nack head for ground will begin parting their legs over nonsense expression of feelings. Its unbibilical to have free sex,go and find out.So Oga Op if you can't feed her then leave her for her parents and go your way,you did not complain when you were winning your pelenge waist on top of her.
this lady what's your problem about this your believe that women are doing great things by giving sex to a man. The way men want sex is the same women desire sex. Just that women can pretend better than men. Think about it, do you know that women benefit more from raising kids when they are old? And of course the products of those children is through sex
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 11:22am On Dec 05, 2021
Only men and women that are freely fornicating will have problems with my posts,I still maintain what I said.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Tosdam(m): 11:23am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
All this balderdash won't work on ladies that are thinking right,you all think you can downplay sex so that you'll be enjoying coitus while single and not spend abi? lai lai it will not happen, since you all want to normalize fornication then be ready to part heavily with your money,at least sin and earn money.The era of oshofree is long gone,wake up sir 2021 is almost gone.If you can't zip up till you are married then you must spend heavily to enjoy marital privileges,its that simple.

Lol... How much does Olosho like you charge?

You need to change your poverty and entitlement mindset... Stand up and work and stop seeing a man like a jackpot...
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 11:26am On Dec 05, 2021
Tosdam:


Lol... How much does Olosho like you charge?

You need to change your poverty and entitlement mindset... Stand up and work and stop seeing a man like a jackpot...
You only see problems with me saying sex is not free but none of you has condemned the guy for keeping and having free sex with someone's daughter but only scolding him for spending on her.Well,I still maintain all I've said here.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by yoged(m): 11:28am On Dec 05, 2021
yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.
. Bro i was in your shoe . I did everything for her , ( but she is hardworking ). school, feeding and accommodation. And at times I do help her parent .but when her parent and siblings wants to turn me to money making machine. Her mom, elder sister and 2 siblings will keep asking me for money . me I told her the relationship can't work mainly because of her family .she cried and apologise. She went home and para for them that none should ever ask me for money. Since then it stopped. We are married now with children . Also I limit the mum and siblings from coming to my house. I explained respectfully and calmly to my wife . and she understood.my obligation is to take care of my wife and children.. If I have extra money, I do send them. But don't put the responsibility on my head. Speak to your girlfriend. Understanding is what matters most. If things keep going like this and you get married to her. I swear you'll be carrying the family responsibilities.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 11:28am On Dec 05, 2021
Tosdam:


Lol... How much does Olosho like you charge?

You need to change your poverty and entitlement mindset... Stand up and work and stop seeing a man like a jackpot...
As per how much I charge, it will cost you your life,deal?
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by gstream: 11:30am On Dec 05, 2021
Guy, keep providing for her joo... it's too late to change.
yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by DaveHarry(m): 11:32am On Dec 05, 2021
Ntorr...see ur life, op. So this is what u could do to ur parents reputation.

#LegaliseAbortion
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by hardon1(m): 11:33am On Dec 05, 2021
Don't be surprise the poster's parents are in the village rotting

Nothing Toto no go cause for this life. I wonder his some me suddenly go senseless all in the name of pussy
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by yinkaOdutuyo: 11:36am On Dec 05, 2021
ednut1:
after 3 years u better send her 20k now hahahha

Think before you talk sometimes bro

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by olamoses75(m): 11:36am On Dec 05, 2021
You people that normally ask your gf to come and stay with you for weeks, how are you coping? You must be ritualist for taking such responsibilities. Me I cannot even allow her to stay for 3 days. Where I wan dey see money to feed her? Maybe I'm just too poor sha. Any relationship or marriage that kicked off with money will surely collapse. Because, the receiver will keep demanding, while the provider will surely get tired one day. And that will be the end. Even God that created us is not providing all our needs, why would a lady now think I can provide all her needs. Financially independent is the number 1 thing I looks for before starting any relationship. Can this lady provide for her needs? If NO! Is the answer, I move.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by MorningStar233: 11:37am On Dec 05, 2021
liya11:



But it's OK, for the men to work their ass of every damnd thing?

Every gender should work and be responsible for themselves,
Life is actually hard and unfair for everyone,
no adults should put they're responsibilities on their lovers.


I don't support women depending on men but I discovered that once u as a woman decides to be independent you will start hearing even ur husband telling you " u r strong na, I believe u can pull through, no be I again and that's how in the next 3 months he won't even want to give u anything tangible for the family not even for yourself.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by GreaterFuture(m): 11:40am On Dec 05, 2021
yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.
Honest Question here Bro..
What do you do for a Living? Wetin dey bring in money for you?

E get reason why I ask
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by alizma: 11:41am On Dec 05, 2021
yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.
You were not wrong but your tune is wrong, you already know the question you asked, so asking in that manner can ruin your relationship with her.you should have simply said you don't have money. Then when she returns home you can sit her down and tell her certain things that you expect. On her part trying to put up like others, especially where such is above her and unreasonable, I will advise you to be very careful in your spending on her especially that she not your wife yet.such girl will eventually betray their benefactor sooner or later
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by CSTRR: 11:42am On Dec 05, 2021
AfroKnight:
Guys, please focus your helping hands on men. When you invest in men, you have indirectly invested in other people. Stop investing in entitled women.
That is the situation of things.

It is men that help women. Women don't help, nowadays.

All these indiscriminate women-centric intervention everywhere is wrongly directed. They are still using the old mindset of empower a woman means empowering a family.

Right now, it is men that needs empowerment because of the responsibilities.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Gaddafih001(m): 11:42am On Dec 05, 2021
yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.
You are in a loooong thing bro.
Inadvertently, you are the one feeding the family.
You are one of her and her mothers preys and you are the most fatty prey around for now.
Flee.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by goodheart01: 11:42am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
You expected me to shy away from the bitter truth? it is the reason I'm always the odd one out in most opinions on issues because i spit reality,you are enjoying marital bliss and other conjugal enjoyments but you don't want to spend,are you her creator? As long as you are sleeping with her please don't complain of any demands from her,nothing is free,not even the air we breath.

Old cargo with hairy balls claiming to be a woman. Will she also pay him for the sex too?? From all i can tell the sex was mutual and she enjoyed it too, and the guy kept using his hard earned energy.

The sex was mutual but the stress in making the money wasn't. He sweated alone to make it. Too bad the OP is a pathetic simp
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 11:48am On Dec 05, 2021
goodheart01:


Old cargo with hairy balls claiming to be a woman. Will she also pay him for the sex too?? From all i can tell the sex was mutual and she enjoyed it too, and the guy kept using his hard earned energy.

The sex was mutual but the stress in making the money wasn't. He sweated alone to make it. Too bad the OP is a pathetic simp
weak.Stop fornicating it's that simple
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 11:48am On Dec 05, 2021
dennis7179:
Your mates are out there making great things with their lives, breaking grounds but you are here monetizing sex like obviously you cant make it in life unless you offer sex for money.I pity you seriously.

Your mates are out there making money and doing great with their lives, they see women as not a Sex object but a treasure, paying their bride price and marrying them legally but you are here thinking about how to have sex with a woman that you are not even married to and yet still jobless.

Get a life

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Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Urchmantete: 11:50am On Dec 05, 2021
Japa japa
yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.

I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.

Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.

I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.

Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.

At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.

So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.

She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?

I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.

And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.

And I didn't send any money to her.

I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by MrMacinterchi1: 11:52am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
You expected me to shy away from the bitter truth? it is the reason I'm always the odd one out in most opinions on issues because i spit reality,you are enjoying marital bliss and other conjugal enjoyments but you don't want to spend,are you her creator? As long as you are sleeping with her please don't complain of any demands from her,nothing is free,not even the air we breath.
what truth? that women are sex object one can use anyhow so far they are spending money on her ?

Seriously?
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by goodheart01: 11:52am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
weak.Stop fornicating it's that simple

STFU and face your bedeviled Sunday
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by Nobody: 11:52am On Dec 05, 2021
yinkaOdutuyo:
Pls I need your advice on this.

Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.

.

What you do for her is your choice. My own concern is.. will she marry you? Cos if she doesn't, you may never bounce back emotionally.
Re: I Asked Her, Can't Your Parent Provide Basic Needs? Are My Wrong? by November24(f): 11:52am On Dec 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
Shebi you've been having sex with her so stop complaining and do your responsibilities in peace or didn't you know she has parents before you start parting her legs endlessly and asking her to come spend weeks, months with you?there's nothing like free sex,even the married one's are directly and Indirectly paying for the sex,let's all stop deceiving ourselves

Ashara

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