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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by larryking540: 4:07pm On Dec 22, 2021
ezegenigbonine:


My sister, if only he met you a virgin and was the one that deflower you, his small joystick would have matched your virgina.

God made it in a way that if you open a hole with 2 inches nail, the hole will always match 2 inches nail.
But to you women, a 6 inches nail will open your hole and you will be complaining that 2 inches nail is too small for the hole.

However it piss me off when a woman will be disvirgined by a big prick and she will be putting blame on an innocent man with small prick.

Try and allow your husband to disvirgin u and see if you will ever complain even if the man has the smallest penis in the world.
but she can't be disvirgined again na ,it's over .

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by DAVE5(m): 4:07pm On Dec 22, 2021
MEGA4BILLION:
broken engagement is better than a broken marriage

I still wish till tomorrow that my relationship was broken, but no, here I am

I gats live with my cross or some day grow some balls and call the hell I’m in a quit

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by larryking540: 4:08pm On Dec 22, 2021
phenase:
grin grin

YES, I bought an engagement ring and gave her, and she got home, her elder sister took it and throws it away. That's was the end of engagement.
women are women's own enemy ,

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by larryking540: 4:09pm On Dec 22, 2021
DAVE5:


I still wish till tomorrow that my relationship was broken, but no, here I am

I gats live with my cross or some day grow some balls and call the hell I’m in a quit
why the regret man ,share if u don mind

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by whytepawn1(m): 4:12pm On Dec 22, 2021
Akalia:
interesting. What's okafor's law if you don't mind me asking?

That once a man has slept with a lady , he can always sleep with her again if he so desire...

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by ezegenigbonine: 4:12pm On Dec 22, 2021
Sunday2021:
bubu is not your problem.
I can confidently tell you that if the Constitution allow for 3rd term buhari will win. All your propaganda since 2014 is useless. Your governor is owing civil servant 23 months, go and meet him.
Buhari is not your governor
Buhari is not your senator
Buhari is not your rep
Buhari is not your assembly member
Buhari is not your chairman
Buhari is not your councilor.
You can use the lagoon if you are not happy with Buhari.

I think you are still a child depending on your parents that's why you don't know what is happening in this country. Children everywhere

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by DomoSabs(m): 4:14pm On Dec 22, 2021
ezegenigbonine:


My sister, if only he met you a virgin and was the one that deflower you, his small joystick would have matched your virgina.

God made it in a way that if you open a hole with 2 inches nail, the hole will always match 2 inches nail.
But to you women, a 6 inches nail will open your hole and you will be complaining that 2 inches nail is too small for the hole.

However it piss me off when a woman will be disvirgined by a big prick and she will be putting blame on an innocent man with small prick.

Try and allow your husband to disvirgin u and see if you will ever complain even if the man has the smallest penis in the world.

grin grin angry grin
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Elidrisy20: 4:21pm On Dec 22, 2021
Because of sex after marriage issue
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by EmzyT: 4:22pm On Dec 22, 2021
Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.


This is so Emotional embarassed embarassed

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by ezegenigbonine: 4:22pm On Dec 22, 2021
larryking540:

but she can't be disvirgined again na ,it's over .

That's why she is the one to be blamed instead of shifting blame on an innocent man.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by 1Sharon(f): 4:22pm On Dec 22, 2021
Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.

I don't understand you.

Someone made a claim that mental illness runs in your family and you instead expected your girl to defend you?

Why didn't you vehemently deny it to her yourself?

If someone comes at me with an allegation I know isnt true, I won't stop denying it.

The girl is stupid for going along with an allegation without asking for proof, but you didn't defend yourself

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by deltateam: 4:25pm On Dec 22, 2021
Wakando:

She was about to travel abroad, i spent more than a million for her travel, engaged her then she traveled, few weeks later her father called me to stop disturbing his daughter, that I'm too poor to be his son in law

If your fellow guy ask you for #20k now, you will swear heavens you don't have. Now someone you are not even married to, you spent #1millala.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by FalseProphet1(m): 4:26pm On Dec 22, 2021
daxon001:



so what then is OKafor's Law undecided
It states that once you're in a sexual relationship with a woman, you will always have access to her Honey pot in future, whether or not she's married.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by iheasi645: 4:27pm On Dec 22, 2021
Mine might end soon, we are supposed to get married around February next year , but someone had a dream where she died during the wedding and last month I went to collect list from the family, after like 3 weeks the girl's family called her that the wine we came with just broke one night and nobody touched it... . I'm kind of confused.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 4:27pm On Dec 22, 2021
Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.
you are a wise man sir

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by larryking540: 4:28pm On Dec 22, 2021
ezegenigbonine:


That's why she is the one to be blamed instead of shifting blame on an innocent man.
no man joystick is small mostly the African man , probably the virginal has been widen by someone else, you are right bro

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by pipnator00(m): 4:28pm On Dec 22, 2021
pocohantas:


Of course it is brainwashing when you men are at the receiving end, but let your mother reject your fiancee and you would dump her in seconds because what an elder can see sitting down…

So a Nigerian woman in Nigeria, who is not even regarded as a member of the family she is marrying into. Who is seen as disposable. Should marry you without the support of her family because she LOVES you? Same love that would make you cheat on her because men are polygamous in nature. Only a very foolish lady without a strong family tie will do that and only a more foolish man would expect a woman to go against her family to prove she loves him. When he starts dealing with her, she will know the importance of her family and run back home. They always do. Toor!

Love indeed. No Naija woman should try to prove any nonsense love to a Naija man.

Wetin happen? Anyone ate your lunch, why all these hate in one comment?

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by deltateam: 4:29pm On Dec 22, 2021
Helper1991:
I got her engaged 2019 after my NYSC, she was in her final year. I met her on facebook, she was a nice girl. Though, as a born again brother I am, she thought I will be bleeping her but to her surprise I didn't do that. Instead I helped her to control herself and drew her closer to God. I engaged her three months into the relationship. She was nice but very aggression. After a year and six months, I discovered that she couldn't be my wife due to the consistent revelations I had at night. I couldn't quit instead, I did 14days fasting asking God to intervent. God did and we separated peacefully. We are still friends til date.

Are you married now?

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by 1Sharon(f): 4:29pm On Dec 22, 2021
Helper1991:
I got her engaged 2019 after my NYSC, she was in her final year. I met her on facebook, she was a nice girl. Though, as a born again brother I am, she thought I will be bleeping her but to her surprise I didn't do that. Instead I helped her to control herself and drew her closer to God. I engaged her three months into the relationship. She was nice but very aggression. After a year and six months, I discovered that she couldn't be my wife due to the consistent revelations I had at night. I couldn't quit instead, I did 14days fasting asking God to intervent. God did and we separated peacefully. We are still friends til date.

What revelation did you have at night
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by bolseas(f): 4:30pm On Dec 22, 2021
SurvivorM:
we were born on the same hospital on the same day, my mom was friends with his mom.
And we even have the same native name.
Everyone assume we will get married but we didn't.
I guess I was engage when I was just a baby lol wink

Same with my son and one girl.. born on the same day, though different hospitals, named at the same mosque.. their Arabic names are male/female version.. smiley

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by 1Sharon(f): 4:32pm On Dec 22, 2021
Phoenixk:
Got Engaged to someone who had asked me out years ago ,I wasn't interested but I felt he had been persistent enough ....

Next thing he said as a good Christian he will wait till after the wedding to consummate

It sounded great till someone hinted he may be hiding a health problem

She was right! D was tiny finger small & man cums in 10seconds

He also wanted me to forge some important docs ,I realised our values are very different.... Returned his ring & took a walk

Are you kidding me? This is a stupid reason to dump someone.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Made619(m): 4:34pm On Dec 22, 2021
pocohantas:


Of course it is brainwashing when you men are at the receiving end, but let your mother reject your fiancee and you would dump her in seconds because what an elder can see sitting down…

So a Nigerian woman in Nigeria, who is not even regarded as a member of the family she is marrying into. Who is seen as disposable. Should marry you without the support of her family because she LOVES you? Same love that would make you cheat on her because men are polygamous in nature. Only a very foolish lady without a strong family tie will do that and only a more foolish man would expect a woman to go against her family to prove she loves him. When he starts dealing with her, she will know the importance of her family and run back home. They always do. Toor!

Love indeed. No Naija woman should try to prove any nonsense love to a Naija man.
you sound bittered and hurt by men...

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by bolseas(f): 4:36pm On Dec 22, 2021
sassiemyk:
Discovered she is a Lesbian too. I mean full blown Lesbian. [/b]I spend over 3days bathing myself feeling like I'm defiled[b]...

grin cheesy grin cheesy

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by 1Sharon(f): 4:37pm On Dec 22, 2021
Anonnymoously:
you are a wise man sir

He never denied the allegations.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by pocohantas(f): 4:38pm On Dec 22, 2021
Made619:
you sound bittered and hurt by men...

The truth is bitter to you and your kind. In the absence of a logical rebuttal, you play the “you sound bitter and hurt by men”. I would have expected you to put on your thinking cap and tell me what part of my submission is wrong.

Ad hominem is stale and only goes to butress how mentally deficient you are. T for tenkz.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by DAVE5(m): 4:39pm On Dec 22, 2021
larryking540:

why the regret man ,share if u don mind


The regret plenty ohh bros, if I talk am for public, them go ask me wetin carry me enter becos truthfully looking back from then till date, there hasn’t been any gain for me as a man since I took that step, non whatsoever, it has been losses and regrets at every turn

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by FalseProphet1(m): 4:41pm On Dec 22, 2021
pocohantas:


Of course it is brainwashing when you men are at the receiving end, but let your mother reject your fiancee and you would dump her in seconds because what an elder can see sitting down…

So a Nigerian woman in Nigeria, who is not even regarded as a member of the family she is marrying into. Who is seen as disposable. Should marry you without the support of her family because she LOVES you? Same love that would make you cheat on her because men are polygamous in nature. Only a very foolish lady without a strong family tie will do that and only a more foolish man would expect a woman to go against her family to prove she loves him. When he starts dealing with her, she will know the importance of her family and run back home. They always do. Toor!

Love indeed. No Naija woman should try to prove any nonsense love to a Naija man.
What's with the outburst...I can see that you're speaking out of experience. Hope the heartbreak wasn't that bad, and hope you're recovering very fast, sorry ok?

I see you meeting a sugar daddy before the end of this year, I see him buying you iPhone 13 but it will be fake, I see you angry very very angry, I see you doing plastic surgery for your breast and bum, I see you looking more sexy than chioma davidos ex.

This I have seen.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by pocohantas(f): 4:43pm On Dec 22, 2021
FalseProphet1:

What's with the outburst...I can see that you're speaking out of experience. Hope the heartbreak wasn't that bad, and hope you're recovering very fast, sorry ok?

I see you meeting a sugar daddy before the end of this year, I see him buying you iPhone 13 but it will be fake, I see you angry very very angry, I see you doing plastic surgery for your breast and bum, I see you looking more sexy than chioma davidos ex.

This I have seen.

Please stop seeing nonsense and take a break. Hypocritical elements that can’t take the same treatment they dish out. Stand by you indeed. How many women have Naija men stood by? Always wanting to collect till they leave a sister drained and gasping for breath.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by oloko1859(m): 4:45pm On Dec 22, 2021
FalseProphet1:

What's with the outburst...I can see that you're speaking out of experience. Hope the heartbreak wasn't that bad, and hope you're recovering very fast, sorry ok?

I see you meeting a sugar daddy before the end of this year, I see him buying you iPhone 13 but it will be fake, I see you angry very very angry, I see you doing plastic surgery for your breast and bum, I see you looking more sexy than chioma davidos ex.

This I have seen.

grin adding salt to injury

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by FalseProphet1(m): 4:47pm On Dec 22, 2021
pocohantas:


Please stop seeing nonsense and take a break. Hypocritical elements that can’t take the same treatment they dish out. Stand by you indeed. How many women have Naija men stood by? Always wanting to collecting till they leave a sister drained and gasping for breath.
What's your problem, did you see me in your dream?

I gave my opinion if you don't like it, swerve and pass. Last time I checked we're still in democracy, meaning I'm free to make my own independent opinion.

You can't force yours down my throat neither can I force mine down your throat, so if you dislike mine rather than rant like a girl whom her guy dumped a day to their wedding, look for the nearest transformer in your area and hug.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by SirMichael1: 4:47pm On Dec 22, 2021
aviationguy:
We dated for like 5 years, everything was going very good until 3 weeks to our wedding when all plans are in top gears we discovered we are both As the pains is unbearable but we have to shut down all the plans because of the future pains.

I decided I have to stop the wedding although my woman believe miracle can happen but I told her is better we don't know than claim ignorance due to our selfish love...the future is bright.


But Glory be to God Almighty we are both happily married with wonderful children.

Jeeez!! Did you just say three weeks to the wedding?? Aren't you guys suppose to ask yourselves when the relationship looks like it's headed for marriage?? That's some pain it must have brought. So sorry.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by descarado: 4:51pm On Dec 22, 2021
1Sharon:


Are you kidding me? This is a stupid reason to dump someone.
Seriously? shocked shocked shocked

The lady told herself the truth.
She doesn't want tiny dick which may propell her going outside to search for it.

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