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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by njelrapheal: 7:37pm On Dec 22, 2021
babavik:

When you share stuffs here, what actually happens?
lol. I forgot to put outside this platform.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Gkemz: 7:41pm On Dec 22, 2021
Yes, I engaged to her when I was under her spell because I was covered by a veil but when the veil was removed and the spell cleared I was able to see that we have no future together.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nyascobar1414: 7:43pm On Dec 22, 2021
1Sharon:

Are you kidding me? This is a stupid reason to dump someone.
A bigger dick disvirgin the idiot.. She's now shifting blame to an innocent man.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 7:44pm On Dec 22, 2021
iheasi645:
Mine might end soon, we are supposed to get married around February next year , but someone had a dream where she died during the wedding and last month I went to collect list from the family, after like 3 weeks the girl's family called her that the wine we came with just broke one night and nobody touched it... . I'm kind of confused.

Pray against every aura of death around you. Nothing go happen. It's good your instincts are awake, though.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nyascobar1414: 7:52pm On Dec 22, 2021
MufasaLion:


I would be sad but I always respect people's decision. I wouldn't want her to cheat on me after marriage.

Anyways, I'm big down here. I can't have such problem with women.

And who asked whether you are big or small...
Chasing clouts

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nyascobar1414: 7:54pm On Dec 22, 2021
Inyayiz:
Yeah, he proposed 2019 and when I asked him about his plans for wedding by 2020, he asked me why I was in a rush to get married lol, that marriage shouldn’t be the top of my priority list, whereas, he proposed on his own, I wonder why he’ll propose without the intention of marriage, December 2021 and we’re still not married, I’ve returned his ring.. we’ve been dating since 2016

Sorry..
You gonn' get a better man

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Hkff: 7:55pm On Dec 22, 2021
Yeah
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nyascobar1414: 7:57pm On Dec 22, 2021
larryking540:
yeah you deserve better,but where your hands clean during the whole relationship

Confirm jamb qst..
If she go ft answer am wholeheartedly
Trust them at your own peril
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Seunpaul01(m): 8:00pm On Dec 22, 2021
Gandokiejim:
My Experience
I've always said,I won't marry anyone I had sex with.I believe you are cheap if I sleep with you before marriage ( my ideology though)
I dated and engaged 4 Ladies,I'll tempt them for sex,they will just fall and open their legs,that will be the end of that relationship.
I want to have a feel of my wife first time wedding night.

Your mentality (ideology) is a problem for you bro.
You should 'grow up'

The world has evolved and still evolving. The way things was in the old Testament is different from the New Testament, that of BC is different from AD. Ppl get married early those days but it's quite a different thing nowadays. And in those days too there was no condoms.

Marriage is not all about sex! If you do it because of sex, it won't be blissful.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by tolguy(m): 8:00pm On Dec 22, 2021
My story is painful, i loved her with all my heart

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Zendinho(m): 8:03pm On Dec 22, 2021
[quote author=Sunday2021 post=108724301] bubu is not your problem.
I can confidently tell you that if the Constitution allow for 3rd term buhari will win. All your propaganda since 2014 is useless. Your governor is owing civil servant 23 months, go and meet him.
Buhari is not your governor
Buhari is not your senator
Buhari is not your rep
Buhari is not your assembly member
Buhari is not your chairman
Buhari is not your councilor.
You can use the lagoon if you are not happy with Buhari.

Guy.... You funny no be lie

Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by intruder15(m): 8:05pm On Dec 22, 2021
LolaO:
Yes I have
We dated for 5 years.
Proposed to - Jan 2020
Introduction - February 2020
Engagement and wedding was supposed to be - November 2020
I called off the wedding in August 2020 due to the below reasons:
- Dishonesty in finances (non-communication too)
- LIES, very strong ones
- Cheating (deal breaker was while engaged)
- Sexual incompatibility
- Loss of love and attraction because of the above.
The red flags had always been there, but I chose to ignore because I was blinded at the time.
He got married to someone else in less than a year.
I don’t regret my decision and I’m glad I called it off; I deserved better.

Dishonesty in finances? Can you throw more light on this? Cuz that's women specialty.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by UncleKoboko: 8:06pm On Dec 22, 2021
havigold:





You are juvenile delinquent ...
Who lacks sense of direction and suffers from MPD stage 5.....
Sometimes you should learn the attitude of " keeping silence when you do not know the subject matter."
Frustrated old hags everywhere...
Shame!

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Timmi: 8:06pm On Dec 22, 2021
Zendinho:
YES
To all those that voted APC in 2015:
It was love at first sight.

By 2019...they were all promised next level in the relationship: ENGAGEMENTS.


Now, you want to divorce from your darling BUBU...due to bad economy, insecurities, inflation, hunger, political assassination, national debt profile, religious intolerance, political rascality from the cabal, marginalization, victimisation, nepotism, bigotry, terrorism, banditry etc...

Don't worry we all still have two good more years of this engagements.

Mention one problem that BUBU have not cause in this corntree. cheesy

I guess Bubu is the cause of your non performance in the other room and the cause of your spaghetti like Oko. Stupid people, why not jump and pass if you can’t respond intelligently to the issue raised.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by pocohantas(f): 8:07pm On Dec 22, 2021
Beze992:


This their usual response is so predictable and hilarious at the same time. Men playing the bitterness card when they don't have any comeback is so tiring.

Do they have anything in their coconut heads? Logical my foot. Lmao

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by 1Sharon(f): 8:10pm On Dec 22, 2021
Nyascobar1414:


And who asked whether you are big or small...
Chasing clouts

Lol they would never come out to say they are small
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Seunpaul01(m): 8:11pm On Dec 22, 2021
LolaO:
Yes I have
We dated for 5 years.
Proposed to - Jan 2020
Introduction - February 2020
Engagement and wedding was supposed to be - November 2020
I called off the wedding in August 2020 due to the below reasons:
- Dishonesty in finances (non-communication too)
- LIES, very strong ones
- Cheating (deal breaker was while engaged)
- Sexual incompatibility
- Loss of love and attraction because of the above.
The red flags had always been there, but I chose to ignore because I was blinded at the time.
He got married to someone else in less than a year.
I don’t regret my decision and I’m glad I called it off; I deserved better.

I like the way you enumerate it. It shows you actually know what you want, maybe you kind of become wiser all along.
Because 5yrs was just too long to make a decision. You don't expect him to stop cheating while you were engaged. What he didn't stop while you were dating.

One thing people should know is - once you decide to date someone, you must have seen the prospect of making that person your life partner.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Kirkman: 8:12pm On Dec 22, 2021
BigDawsNet:



I knew she was difficult but I Wana try to change here but it got worrst
Lol! That's missionary journey in futility. grin
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Magnoliaa(f): 8:16pm On Dec 22, 2021
AfroKnight:
Oh, Sexual incompatibility. grin Talk to me Maggie. Explain. grin

Explain what? How? Lmao. grin You want me to be giving you details? What do you want to know exactly?

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by nameo: 8:16pm On Dec 22, 2021
8BitGee:
Yes, we started dating in 2016, did introduction in 2017, we were due to get married in 2019 after waiting so long, but the event had to be moved forward due to the pandemic. We were a power couple and people liked us together. Expensive gifts and surprises, flowers, romantic getaways to remote islands, it was a jolly ride.

Late in 2018 she started behaving funny which of course I objected to, perhaps too strongly. I guess she had cold feet because she said she wouldn't have considered marriage at all if not for me. Anyway, she started bringing up the issues we had in the beginning and had supposedly resolved. We hired a Nigerian-Canadian counselor who tried to help but my ex fought with in the end because she said "the counselor took my side".

I started exploring other options after this. And oh, we would have been married before 2019 if not that their side kept giving excuses to not hold the event. I guess she was ultimately not ready. I was the one that was ready to be married.

Needless to say, I was devastated. I can't say I was blameless in all. We didn't have infidelity issues, it was just behavioural differences. I loved her so much, I was willing to adjust, come to the middle and also get my concerns listened to.

I learnt a lot from the relationship and I'm happy that I'm a better man today.

Another good read
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Guruengineer: 8:16pm On Dec 22, 2021
Which one is okafors law chief �����

Guyman02:
Yes, we dated for 4 years as students, proposed to her after my NYSC when I secured a job, met her family, discussed my intention and they felt we are not on the same level (full of themselves), later they even claimed that they went to investigate my family in our village and they were told that mental illness runs in our lineage.
They convinced her to abandon our marriage plans which she did instead of fighting for us, I asked her to refund part of the bulk money I gave to her for the marriage preparation which she later did because I wanted a proper closure to the relationship, felt really humiliated, locked myself inside and cried, washed my face and told myself it was time to move on.

Deleted her contact from my phone, never scooped around her social media handles, put aside all our pictures together under a locker and didn't worry myself about her anymore.

Started another relationship with a lady I was close to as friends who was very passionate about me but I didn't look at her because I was faithful to my ex.

Suddenly from the blues, my ex elder sister called me after some months that she has been erratic, cursing everyone for making her to abandon the love of her life and that the family has agreed to our plans for marriage.

Later she called me asking for forgiveness and that it was an Uncle of mine who told her family that mental illness runs in our family because he felt I was marrying into a prominent family and to a girl who works in a big establishment while his own children are scattered.

I simply told her I have moved on and wasn't gonna look back and had already started marriage plans with the lady I mentioned earlier and I even invited her to the superlative wedding we were planning in an exquisite location then.
I used the opportunity to tell her that I am wiser now as I go for only ladies who stand by their men because I am afraid if I show any signs of madness (as my uncle told her family) instead of taking me to a psychiatrist hospital, she will rather take me to a market square so that the madness will become permanent.

Today we are both married to different people and talk freely on general topics anytime she calls me, but I totally avoid making any reference to our 4 years failed relationship to avoid Okafors Law.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Magnoliaa(f): 8:17pm On Dec 22, 2021
Omo. This thread is still hot. See viewers. cheesy

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nyascobar1414: 8:19pm On Dec 22, 2021
gift0123:




Who even asked you?? You can keep your belief to yourself, then live for years die and get buried nobody knows or cares.
Make we hear word mbok

I know you are pained asf..
No hard feelings.. Respect peoples choices
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by AfroKnight: 8:19pm On Dec 22, 2021
Magnoliaa:


Explain what? How? Lmao. grin You want me to be giving you details? What do you want to know exactly?

Talk to me na. Explain the incompatibility. grin
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by FalseProphet1(m): 8:24pm On Dec 22, 2021
pocohantas:


Lol. You think say you wise ba? You done see wetin pass you. grin
See wetin pass me how, you're just a bitter frustrated soul, who I can't waste my precious time on.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Seunpaul01(m): 8:25pm On Dec 22, 2021
Dumte:
It all started during the COVID-19 lockdown period. In the morning hours of 4th April 2020, I met this lady who is a Tiv girl from Benue State. And we came to mutual agreement as we started dating. She was so much in love with me that I was invited by her aunt who she has been with for over 8years.

The aunt who is a professional prostitute that runs her business in Niger �� Republic while the girl and her aunt's daughter lives in the said northern state, got annoyed that throughout her entire life she hasn't seen any one who wants to take her as a wife except the ones who are for sex.

She wasn't happy with the relationship, but the more she hated us the more the girl loves me (someone once told me that the best time a girl expresses her love is when someone in her family is objecting her relationship, I don't know if that is true).

My ex's parents asked her to bring me so we can start proper planning. After 6 months of relationship we went home to see her parents. On getting to Benue, the dad accepted everything whole heartedly but the demon exhibits her monster through the mother who was fed negative information about me. That I am a private school teacher, that I speak different language etc. Lots of useless reasons.

That was the beginning of my ex's misbehavior. And to cut the long story short, she is currently into prostitution as I speak, same business her aunt is doing.

I'm planning to send her my wedding I.V coming next month. Just to let her understand that evry man is someone's favorite.

My dear brother, she has been into the prostitution all along. She had no reason to hide it again so far she's no longer with you.
Somebody stayed for good eight years with her prostitute aunt and You believed she hasn't learn one or two things from her about the job or engage in it herself.

For good EIGHT years.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nyascobar1414: 8:28pm On Dec 22, 2021
gift0123:




The truth be say if we even see physically you know go even fit talk to me sef. I know blame you shaaa I blame the faceless forum, small boys like you can be spitting trash anyhow. Senseless he-goat.

I am still a young and beautiful working class graduateoo,I never reach 26oo.. i dey select menoo, incase you believe every shit you see me post here. Next time u wanna talk to me add ma'am, then try to get a job so you stop bringing your depression to nairaland all the time... Small boy���

Madam as your dp dey so..
You still get mouth?

Shaa, another man food is another man ........

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by derbykol(f): 8:28pm On Dec 22, 2021
whytepawn1:


That once a man has slept with a lady , he can always sleep with her again if he so desire...
There are exceptions to this so called Okafor's law.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by pocohantas(f): 8:30pm On Dec 22, 2021
FalseProphet1:

See wetin pass me how, you're just a bitter frustrated soul, who I can't waste my precious time on.

You have said that before. Now can you focus on the argument? cheesy

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by 1Sharon(f): 8:30pm On Dec 22, 2021
gift0123:





Oga u fit marry woman with a wide and unending hole??
You fit marry ugly or breastless woman??
If you can't do any of those above please stop attacking that lady.. Thanks

A "wide hole" can also be worked on, you do know that right?
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 8:32pm On Dec 22, 2021
Gkemz:
Yes, I engaged to her when I was under her spell because I was covered by a veil but when the veil was removed and the spell cleared I was able to see that we have no future together.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Magnoliaa(f): 8:34pm On Dec 22, 2021
AfroKnight:
Talk to me na. Explain the incompatibility. grin

Okay ooo. lipsrsealed Na me be the fargin, and this guy was a recovering bad boy. He coped with me for five months, max, as we were already making plans for getting married in the next three months.

One night like that sha, he got tipsy and begged me. I gree. He no fit even wait make we tumble go bedroom. Oga say no, mba, we must do it right there, right now on the white couch. I say okay. I pushed the mental discomfort of the fact that it wasn't the perfect night as I envisioned with Indian love song playing in the background and turari burning on the nightstand with amadioha's-like red, fat candles on the floor.

Sha sha, one thing led to something to another thing and it was time for pene***tion. And... and... omooo, at the verrryy first touch of his thing to my tip, I give him one strong leg kick and jumped out of the window o. Ah! E be like say dem wan use giant saw cut me into two. Ah. Emi omolomo; omo iya e kan soso. cry Is me one boy want to come and scarra and pulverize and destabilize. I couldn't take it!!!

Blood was gushing out from my elbows and arms like this ni o, from my batman stunt. And this boy started screaming the whole house down, cursing me and everything and telling me he's locking me outside, ehn igbadakodo, yada yada yada. And all the neighbours were looking - some outside, some from their burglary-proof windows. Chai. That was one of the most embarrassing moments of my life, let me tell you. I now started the walk of ****** out of the compound...

See, I'm teary already. I'm coming back. cry cry cry Lemme blow my nose and comport myself... you've taken me down a memory highway... Oh, God.

Wait.

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