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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 9:33pm On Dec 22, 2021
Chukapage:
Bia Nwanyi hapu m aka ooo.... No be only women dey yarn men sef dey yarn ,..that " u too talk" shaming tactics can't work here. Allow me to pass my message to that woman.

grin grin grin grin
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Raalsalghul: 9:39pm On Dec 22, 2021
Mrsserene:

Have you ever thought about yourself in 40 years? Being old and lonely is not fun at all

And so, what if he is single at 40?

Will you help him with the struggles, bills, responsibilities and family pressures that comes with marriage?

Is it your lonely?

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Raalsalghul: 9:41pm On Dec 22, 2021
i926:

Have you ever thought about nerdfrost traveling all over the world, making money, having quality friends, investing and fvcking and dumping beautiful models like tissue papers.

I don't plan on marrying. My mom still thinks that I'm kidding about the firm decision. she don tire

E go shock them! No mind them!
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by cayorday89(m): 9:42pm On Dec 22, 2021
pocohantas:


Of course it is brainwashing when you men are at the receiving end, but let your mother reject your fiancee and you would dump her in seconds because what an elder can see sitting down…

So a Nigerian woman in Nigeria, who is not even regarded as a member of the family she is marrying into. Who is seen as disposable. Should marry you without the support of her family because she LOVES you? Same love that would make you cheat on her because men are polygamous in nature. Only a very foolish lady without a strong family tie will do that and only a more foolish man would expect a woman to go against her family to prove she loves him. When he starts dealing with her, she will know the importance of her family and run back home. They always do. Toor!

Love indeed. No Naija woman should try to prove any nonsense love to a Naija man.

Each time I am reading your post, it goes with a unique voice, I was already half way and it just sounds like a poco thing, I went back up and I wasn't disappointed.. Always love your counter points and I tend to have a better understanding of how humans reason. The person. You quoted is also not wrong, he is just on the side of the gender he falls into.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 9:44pm On Dec 22, 2021
Magnoliaa:


Okay ooo. lipsrsealed Na me be the fargin, and this guy was a recovering bad boy. He coped with me for five months, max, as we were already making plans for getting married in the next three months.

One night like that sha, he got tipsy and begged me. I gree. He no fit even wait make we tumble go bedroom. Oga say no, mba, we must do it right there, right now on the white couch. I say okay. I pushed the mental discomfort of the fact that it wasn't the perfect night as I envisioned with Indian love song playing in the background and turari burning on the nightstand with amadioha's-like red, fat candles on the floor.

Sha sha, one thing led to something to another thing and it was time for pene***tion. And... and... omooo, at the verrryy first touch of his thing to my tip, I give him one strong leg kick and jumped out of the window o. Ah! E be like say dem wan use giant saw cut me into two. Ah. Emi omolomo; omo iya e kan soso. cry Is me one boy want to come and scarra and pulverize and destabilize. I couldn't take it!!!

Blood was gushing out from my elbows and arms like this ni o, from my batman stunt. And this boy started screaming the whole house down, cursing me and everything and telling me he's locking me outside, ehn igbadakodo, yada yada yada. And all the neighbours were looking - some outside, some from their burglary-proof windows. Chai. That was one of the most embarrassing moments of my life, let me tell you. I now started the walk of ****** out of the compound...

See, I'm teary already. I'm coming back. cry cry cry Lemme blow my nose and comport myself... you've taken me down a memory highway... Oh, God.

Wait.
Oh boi..... See storri... See narration. I have laff tire.

Come and complete your story oooo.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Raalsalghul: 9:47pm On Dec 22, 2021
BigBashiru:


i recently met a man that had this mentality. no wife no kids (at 56) and he says that's his biggest regret in life... you can't eat ur cake and have it...those investing in marriage aren't fools... but marriage isn't for everyone....

but I agree marriage in its current form is a scam towards men.

nothing in it for a man except kids...m

And you can get the kids outside self.

Why didn't the man get kids either through baby mama or surrogacy at least?
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by TheRealOwner(m): 9:54pm On Dec 22, 2021
Helper1991:
I got her engaged 2019 after my NYSC, she was in her final year. I met her on facebook, she was a nice girl. Though, as a born again brother I am, she thought I will be bleeping her but to her surprise I didn't do that. Instead I helped her to control herself and drew her closer to God. I engaged her three months into the relationship. She was nice but very aggression. After a year and six months, I discovered that she couldn't be my wife due to the consistent revelations I had at night. I couldn't quit instead, I did 14days fasting asking God to intervent. God did and we separated peacefully. We are still friends til date.

I like the way you handled this

What was the nature of the revelations if you don't mind me asking?
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Raalsalghul: 9:54pm On Dec 22, 2021
larryking540:

if as a man you gat no family bro you are on a long thing,it's funny now because you gat bones to hustle and drive Benz around ,but the end is very ugly

for a lady who says marriage na scam , check online love scam on white women many of them are those who abandon their marriage and divorced their husbands taking huge amount of money from them via court room ,,but went to look for online lover ,and guess wat the money is gone and who is regretting the women ,old age no funny o trust me ,am speaking from experience most of our nairalanders grew up in homes where the father and mother were to gether ,but little ups an down but still stock to gether ,and you want to try the lonly part ,

REMEMBER THE SLARY YOU TAKE HOME MONTHLY BECAUSE YOU ARE A NURSE OR DOCTOR OR BUSINESS WOMAN ,HAS AN END ,AND GOVT SOMETIMES FAIL IN PAYING PENSION ,,AND OLD AGE DISEASE OR ILLNESS IS REAL GET WHO TO LOVE ABD LOVE THE PERSON BACK

You folks will say just about anything to force someone into that plantation.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Magnoliaa(f): 9:55pm On Dec 22, 2021
AfroKnight:
Okay. This wasn’t what I expected.

Must have been really embarrassing. Omo!

Make I give you e-hug. Collect!
Awwwwwwwwwnnnnnnn. So all I needed to do to get you to give me a hug was to tell a story? ^_^ I should have done that tipe tipe e. O ba ti so fun mi tele tele e. cheesy Omo. I don learn this trick now. I'll definitely start to milk it!

Palema007:
Oh boi..... See storri... See narration. I have laff tire.

Come and complete your story oooo.
grin grin grin No wahala. I have more exciting stories to tell, as long as it is guaranteed to make Afro putty. cheesy If he now promise to book a spa treatment for me, or an healing trip to a nature setting, I'll share another one of my stories. This one a tour to the Olumo Rock and 8 cultist boys. lipsrsealed

Woman eye don see sha. But, we meuvee.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Raalsalghul: 9:57pm On Dec 22, 2021
pocohantas:


Why do you men ask this question when it is a woman saying it? Isn’t it your usual chorus that men are polygamous in nature? Seems men know the truth but hate to hear it from women.

Of course you are right.

Men are polygamous and women are hypergamous.

It's a fact we all have to live with.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by rocken001: 10:00pm On Dec 22, 2021

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by ugnoble: 10:01pm On Dec 22, 2021
This thread has lost it to banters.

Those who wish to share their stories (especially the female folks), may not want to do so any longer.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Raalsalghul: 10:03pm On Dec 22, 2021
larryking540:
will you also accept the fact that women lie and cheat also ?

Women cheat too but not in the "polygamous" sense you would think about.

A man cheating on his wife all comes down to sexual pleasure: meaning he can sleep with a Blessing tomorrow, Nkechi the day after and maybe Bolanle next week. He can sleep with as many women he wants as long as they tickle his loins and still he loves his wife.

A woman on the other hand cheating on her husband mostly comes down to emotion. She has lost the attraction she has for her partner and is emotionally involved with some other guy: just one guy. So that is the guy she sleeps with not just any random dude she comes across.

This is mainly based on observation.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 10:09pm On Dec 22, 2021
8BitGee:
. I loved her so much,


I bet you still do.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Inyayiz: 10:12pm On Dec 22, 2021
Nyascobar1414:


Sorry..
You gonn' get a better man

I hope so, thanks

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by pocohantas(f): 10:13pm On Dec 22, 2021
cayorday89:


Each time I am reading your post, it goes with a unique voice, I was already half way and it just sounds like a poco thing, I went back up and I wasn't disappointed.. Always love your counter points and I tend to have a better understanding of how humans reason. The person. You quoted is also not wrong, he is just on the side of the gender he falls into.

Yes he is not wrong, but we both know he wouldn’t have said that if roles were reversed. Why would any HUMAN with a working brain want their partner to marry them against the family’s wish and even call it LOVE? Na LOVE dey keep NIGERIAN marriage? Lol

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 10:15pm On Dec 22, 2021
Magnoliaa:

Awwwwwwwwwnnnnnnn. So all I needed to do to get you to give me a hug was to tell a story? ^_^ I should have done that tipe tipe e. O ba ti so fun mi tele tele e. cheesy Omo. I don learn this trick now. I'll definitely start to milk it!

grin grin grin No wahala. I have more exciting stories to tell, as long as it is guaranteed to make Afro putty. cheesy If he now promise to book a spa treatment for me, or an healing trip to a nature setting, I'll share another one of my stories. This one a tour to the Olumo Rock and 8 cultist boys. lipsrsealed

Woman eye don see sha. But, we meuvee.
Lol... Honestly I can relate to your story, although mine wasn't as dramatic as yours and it wasn't on engagement level, however it hurts as hell when you lose love for something as cheap as sex. Perhaps sex is that cheap lol. Wetin eye don see just because you wan hold body, mouth no fit tell. I remember one guy giving me ultimatum, then it was painful but reminiscing over it now it sounds very stupid. Like Dee, iye iwo nah? Aye ti baje oooo grin grin.
Me just negodo for one corner dey watch everybody now, when I ready I go enter game with sensible person grin

Olumo rock and 8 cultists boys? Please share ooooo. No worry Afro will cuddle you . grin

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Raalsalghul: 10:21pm On Dec 22, 2021
gift0123:




Gerrra here, keep your thought to yourself know tell us mbok.
Naa people like u go open mouth dey vomit yeye, come deceive others join.

Next year we go see you in love with mama tobe daughter before we know it you don marry score two goals in one month.. abeg shift. Hard hard man b say dey never fall in love

Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by emonis88: 10:28pm On Dec 22, 2021
Sunday2021:
the NASS can even impeach him if they follow due process. Where I will get problem with the NASS is if they didn't follow due process.
For the bill, the Constitution gave the national assembly the right to overide his decision as long as they can get 2/3 majority. Secondly, I want you to look at the reasons he gave for not signing the bill with an open mind. We have 18 political parties and we have almost 9000 words and if these 18 political parties conduct election in all the 9000 words what do you think will happen.
Mind you, we have almost 7 seats that would be contested on.
Mr Man, the only politician I ever voted for was Gej in 2011, so please don't bring Gej issue here. The Gej you are talking about is a friend to buhari,he visits buhari almost every month, he was there when buhari son was getting married. What about you? Were you invited? Gej has moved on while poor people like you are still stuck in 2014 matters.
Grow up boy!!!
I m not talking about y he declined signing the bill , let be clear here, I was giving instances n not saying he was right or wrong on d non signing of d bill.
So u know that these politicians r eventually friends, so call out who ever , what ever is not right cus this is for Nigeria n Nigerians. What we were trying to tell u is that what is good for the goose should be good for the gander. So stop defending mediocrity, call it out, cus if we don't these politicians il use as as folder at d end of d day. Their children go to d best schools abroad but they come n tell the ordinary Nigerian that their presidential form was bought for them, but their children were in UK schooling , do u know how much it takes to pay school fees in d UK?
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Magnoliaa(f): 10:34pm On Dec 22, 2021
Palema007:
Lol... Honestly I can relate to your story, although mine wasn't as dramatic as yours and it wasn't on engagement level, however it hurts as hell when you lose love for something as cheap as sex. Perhaps sex is that cheap lol. Wetin eye don see just because you wan hold body, mouth no fit tell. I remember one guy giving me ultimatum, then it was painful but reminiscing over it now it sounds very stupid. Like Dee, iye iwo nah? Aye ti baje oooo grin grin.
Me just negodo for one corner dey watch everybody now, when I ready I go enter game with sensible person grin

Olumo rock and 8 cultists boys? Please share ooooo. No worry Afro will cuddle you . grin
Awwwn. Hugs and kisses, dear. kiss kiss kiss You have gotten over it, so make I join you laugh instead of feeling sorry for you. cheesy grin Omo. Really? Sex really dey cause things o. But... edakun, ma jewo. My own na fabu. cry Truth to God. You pointed it out, too, na. Jumping out from a window? Indian love song? Blood dripping from my arms? I no sure say any truth wey dey for that my narration reach 2%.

Wow. I can't imagine you were enthralled and even felt a relatability. Haa. I catch cruise a lot oh, and I'm a writer. Sorry, babe. I will have to think and engage my imagination if I'm to narrate an experience of me and eight cultist boys oh. cheesy

I like your MO, though, of observing from the sidelines. Na the best thing be that. Watch, strategize and 'strike' one sensible bobo. There's no gain in waddling into the slush and picking just anything one's hand come across.

Ermm, Afro, cry, I hope you won't terminate my hug and other future goodies bayi? E mo binu o. My compelling and shaking and emoshunal story isn't real. Haf mercy, e jo.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by descarado: 10:34pm On Dec 22, 2021
MufasaLion:


I totally agree with her. She made the right decision for herself. She wasn't being a hypocrite that's gonna end up committing adultery.
Thank you for seeing it as what it is.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Nobody: 10:45pm On Dec 22, 2021
Magnoliaa:
Awwwn. Hugs and kisses, dear. kiss kiss kiss You have gotten over it, so make I join you laugh instead of feeling sorry for you. cheesy grin Omo. Really? Sex really dey cause things o. But... edakun, ma jewo. My own na fabu. cry Truth to God. You pointed it out, too, na. Jumping out from a window? Indian love song? Blood dripping from my arms? I no sure say any truth wey dey for that my narration reach 2%.

Wow. I can't imagine you were enthralled and even felt a relatability. Haa. I catch cruise a lot oh, and I'm a writer. Sorry, babe. I will have to think and engage my imagination if I'm to narrate an experience of me and eight cultist boys oh. cheesy

I like your MO, though, of observing from the sidelines. Na the best thing be that. Watch, strategize and 'strike' one sensible bobo. There's no gain in waddling into the slush and picking just anything one's hand come across.

Ermm, Afro, cry, I hope you won't terminate my hug and other future goodies bayi? E mo binu o. My compelling and shaking and emoshunal story isn't real. Haf mercy, e jo.
Oh lawd.... Is this where I get to comment "I'm typeless" (there should be a word like that since we write not talk cheesy)
Nevertheless, you have a very good imaginative and writing skills. I believed everything you wrote and already created the scene in my head. Ah ah ah ah gullible me! grin grin

No Afroknight won't be giving you no hug! You fooled us! cry cry Afro I will hug me instead. tongue

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Magnoliaa(f): 10:52pm On Dec 22, 2021
Palema007:
Oh lawd.... Is this where I get to comment "I'm typeless" (there should be a word like that since we write not talk cheesy)
Nevertheless, you have a very good imaginative and writing skills. I believed everything you wrote and already created the scene in my head. Ah ah ah ah gullible me! grin grin

No Afroknight won't be giving you no hug! You fooled us! cry cry Afro I will hug me instead. tongue

I swearrrr, e shock me seff!!! I thought the part where I wrote I gave him a kick and jumped out of the window would give me away o. Kai. One spirit is pushing me like to create it as a thread, or open an anonymous account and post the story. Like the countless tales we see on NL Romance and Family section. grin grin The bashing and reactions no go be for here. Hehe. Thank you @ bolded o, even me gan come dey reason am say e be like the tory good and sounds a tad bit natural.

Afro response sef, I never expected it!

Ohhhh. So you mean I won't get any hugs anymore? I have use my hand and do myself!

Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by descarado: 10:54pm On Dec 22, 2021
gift0123:

I heard so, but I am not sure those procedures work.


Surgery(vaginoplasty). Kegel do help.

Our grandmothers know how they did it.
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Sikpa04(m): 11:09pm On Dec 22, 2021
They have finally defeated the purpose of the thread. Una try oo, wehdone Ladies and Gentlemen.
angry
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by abah001: 11:13pm On Dec 22, 2021
Dvido and chioma needs to be in this trend
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by BigBashiru: 11:32pm On Dec 22, 2021
Raalsalghul:


Women cheat too but not in the "polygamous" sense you would think about.

A man cheating on his wife all comes down to sexual pleasure: meaning he can sleep with a Blessing tomorrow, Nkechi the day after and maybe Bolanle next week. He can sleep with as many women he wants as long as they tickle his loins and still loves his wife.

A woman on the other hand cheating on her husband mostly comes down to emotion. She has lost the attraction she has for her partner and is emotionally involved with some other guy: just one guy. So that is the guy she sleeps with not just any random guy she comes across.

This is mainly based on observation.

Very true.... so we can conclude female cheating is more serious... cos once u lose ur emotions for ur guy wetin remain??
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by 8BitGee(m): 11:33pm On Dec 22, 2021
toren:


I bet you still do.

Nah, I wished we had worked it out, but having tried to fix things several times without success, I grieved in own way and moved on.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by RichieMichie: 11:41pm On Dec 22, 2021
aviationguy:
We dated for like 5 years, everything was going very good until 3 weeks to our wedding when all plans are in top gears we discovered we are both As the pains is unbearable but we have to shut down all the plans because of the future pains.

I decided I have to stop the wedding although my woman believe miracle can happen but I told her is better we don't know than claim ignorance due to our selfish love...the future is bright.


But Glory be to God Almighty we are both happily married with wonderful children.

Preimplantation Genetic Diagnosis is now a thing, if you have money.

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Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by RichieMichie: 11:45pm On Dec 22, 2021
sassiemyk:
Discovered she is a Lesbian too. I mean full blown Lesbian. I spend over 3days bathing myself feeling like I'm defiled...

grin grin. grin
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Mypeople2(m): 12:03am On Dec 23, 2021
Wakando:

She was about to travel abroad, i spent more than a million for her travel, engaged her then she traveled, few weeks later her father called me to stop disturbing his daughter, that I'm too poor to be his son in law
Wow! Can you imagine that ?
Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by pclick(m): 12:25am On Dec 23, 2021
...na guys de talk...girls de comment

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