Palema007:
You are pained. The truth hurts... Go treat your inability to reason and help your saint op out.

Y'all are yet to make any reasonable point or solution to op's problem!

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

skj1377:
A married prostitute is a woman on vacation. Your wife is one of the lowest of the low. A bad woman can't give you a good marital experience. It's not about money

Joelobioha:
how do u females reason

Cuttycool:
Stop giving marriage a bad mage. Do not discourage men. You didn't take time to chose the right woman to marry.

From what you said, your wife was not working as well, and you were jobless and broke. You men should always encourage your wife to get something doing, or you help set up a business for her, especially since she may start having babies.

AGurlnoname:

Na you go taya, lol

ekerintee:
I strongly agree with you ,even if you marry the right woman,she can still turn against U ,not every woman has the capacity to endure tough time and hardship.The generation of women we have now , majority only want men for comfort.if U go thru tough times,only the good one will stay .In future ,there may be less marriage ,men are going thru bad times in hand of women.The society has so much empowered them,I must say men have their own weak side too.

Sure men have their weak side but then we just need God to help us keep our home.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

Aurelius1:
Oga Viking why you go awol for that Alabi thread na? Anyway, I won't blame you, that thread is not what it used to be.

That thread is dead and gone. Trolls have taken over that section for more than 3yrs. I’m sure they’re still cursing themselves till date.

wonderr:
I would have supported chasing her away but what's the probability of him not getting a worse lady, you can see some of them here already supporting her

DannyXpress:
The signs have always been there just that you chose to ignore it because she has a fine face and a large ass/hips


Once you build your relationship on a faulty foundation, you won't escape things like this

Just move on and Keep working to improve on yourself.

CaptainAyub:

Men should encourage their wives to work?
So a human being with all her senses intact needs encouragement b4 she knows she needs to be doing something?

Omonigeriarere:


Which signs are you talking about? See, an angel can turn to mo ster in marriage and vice versa.

If you like wait till eternity to fully study and understand your spouse, you could only see the tip of the iceberg cos the motives before, during and after marriage are different and each stage would surface with different dispositions.

Only prayer and the grace of God could save someone bro.

Saynoomore:


You are truly blessed to have that woman sir! She's indeed a wise woman by ensuring that she endeared herself to your family. Mine is the exact opposite. Too many quarrels by my oversabi wife! I've also vowed that since she won't apply wisdom, I won't make it any easy for her! She is good at packing her luggage at the slightest provocation!

Czario:


Exactly what I told myself some years ago....now I wish I didn't listen to myself.

vickydevoka:

Exactly. He can never love her again. He should divorce her

DannyXpress:

Character is inbuilt man
No matter how you try to hide or fake it, it will still show

You don't expect a woman to be submissive in marriagr when you didn't lay that foundation for her to see you as a no-nonsense dominant man.

These generation of women are different, they are not our mothers, you need to be more powerful not just in terms of strength, but in terms of action in order to put them in check.

AGurlnoname:


Abegi, you men on Nairaland always come online to say whatever you like about women. I know things like this happens, the best he can do is to pray and with faith and hardwork he will surely overcome. My problem here is you men have more to say about "women" but forget the roles y'all play in some women life's too.

Rtk5:
My brother, you're right on point, the parent are even over struggling. Do you know anytime she packs and go to her parent's place if i don't go to beg them amd her to come back, she would forever remain there?

AGurlnoname:


Abegi, you men on Nairaland always come online to say whatever you like about women. I know things like this happens, the best he can do is to pray and with faith and hardwork he will surely overcome. My problem here is you men have more to say about "women" but forget the roles y'all play in some women life's too.

DannyXpress:

Character is inbuilt man
No matter how you try to hide or fake it, it will still show

You don't expect a woman to be submissive in marriagr when you didn't lay that foundation for her to see you as a no-nonsense dominant man.

These generation of women are different, they are not our mothers, you need to be more powerful not just in terms of strength, but in terms of action in order to put them in check.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

Lmao.... Nairaland men are so emotional , see quotes abeg