Ladycewhy:
This one na suicide mission. Op na those type wey dey think say dem dey all knowing and wise such people dey hard to deal with.

Fine babe with big ukwu never catch am, he will change his manifesto

Ladycewhy:
lol, shege unto say ? I am glad it is no longer the era of women being told never to return to their father's house after marriage , neither is having a child outside marriage considered sacrilegious.

Infact Ini Edo is the typical modern woman every girl who thinks marriage is not for her should emulate . Las las everybody go dey alright.

are you sure INI EDO HAS A womb?
I'm happy for you!

Simran94:


This is a personal expense, the woman should foot these bills with her own money except the man wants to do that for her because we have cases of men taking care of their wives. But when it comes to the general welfare of the family, like food, rent and other expenses, the man should be in charge except the woman wants to willingly contribute.

Okay..
But ladies gonn' face the cold world of men from this year..
Just put that stantement on your dairy.

Misterdhee1:

LOL, so your husband works every month and dumps the rewards for his Hardwork into your account

Some men need serious lashing I swear.

How old are you?
You probably don't have any family value, truth is with this mentality once you are off cash your woman will threat you like thrash.

Nyascobar1414:


öhh I see. Then let her make upto 200k b4 she thinks bout marriage..
Women suppose make money b4 they think bout marriage..
But this 21st century they think its all about being a woman..

Did you know what the man went through b4 making that 300k, struggles in school,and other hustling b4 getting a job that pays such amount.. So, cos of marriage he should deny himself right of enjoying his labour all those years?

Thats why I say this marriage stuff benefit women.. A kinda business.

see me see wahala o
Then the guy shouldn't propose to her Na knowing she has just 80k as salary Na.
If this lady should do this same struggle and earn like the man, y'all will still be the one to say she used her v for money or she has a big god somewhere. Wetin be una problem colour sef?
If women are selective with marrying a guy based on his salary, then y'all should do same ,abeg jor.
So because of marriage the woman should be the one to deprive herself of enjoyment Abi?

For most of you on the girl's side, answer this question? As a single mom, would she not spend her money? Why do Nigerian ladies want to burden their husband with the financial responsibilities of the whole Family and others? They are supposed to be helpers, but the Nigerian mentality needs to change, that's why it is very hard for some in the US to survive

dmostcheerful:

How old are you?
You probably don't have any family value, truth is with this mentality once you are off cash your woman will threat you like thrash.

Lol, I can already see the kind of woman that you’re. All the best to your husband and his SIMPLICITY

ukaface:
see me see wahala o
Then the guy shouldn't propose to her Na knowing she has just 80k as salary Na.
If this lady should do this same struggle and earn like the man, y'all will still be the one to say she used her v for money or she has a big god somewhere. Wetin be una problem colour sef?
If women are selective with marrying a guy based on his salary, then y'all should do same ,abeg jor.
So because of marriage the woman should be the one to deprive herself of enjoyment Abi?

yea.. That why I said the man should go look for a woman that earns upto 150k asap

Nyascobar1414:


Okay..
But ladies gonn' face the cold world of men from this year..
Just put that stantement on your dairy.

LOL, there is no cold War coming, some of you men have been saying this for centuries but you people still end up going back to these ladies.

Nyascobar1414:


yea.. That why I said the man should go look for a woman that earns upto 150k asap

he go find o

Mariangeles:




God go bless you.

You see why I said he's not yet ready to marry?
What does he even know about a woman's needs?
A pack of common sanitary pad now is about #500. I bet he doesn't know that.

#600

Simran94:

LOL, there is no cold War coming, some of you men have been saying this for centuries but you people still end up going back to these ladies.

okay...

franchasng:
Fine babe with big ukwu never catch am, he will change his manifesto

she go just rub e gorimakpa shiny head e go melt like ice cube .

Nyascobar1414:



You are a type of lady that thinks your beauty will stay long enough..
When you are 30, and you've not seen an already made man..
You will be desperate which might be soo late..
Makeup, artificial should be minimal, who you wan impress again?

Ah don talk am say de generation of ladies we have noe go see shege ehh

Where in my post did I talk about an already made man? All those things I mentioned above are made for women even our grandmothers in their 80's uses those things so what has being 30 and desperate has to do with what I said? You are talking off point and it's high time you men erased this mentality of a woman being desperate at 30 and stop using it as a threat, you think this generation of ladies really care about marriage like 10 to 20 years back? It seems you don't even know what is going on around you.

So it's the generation of men we have now that are not seeing more than shege? Which gender wails, wallow and complain on this forum the most?

bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

From your analysis let’s say she earns exactly 80k, she drop 10k monthly for the children welfare, let’s say she drop 5k for nepa bill, another 20k into joint account for vacation right? Let’s say 10k also goes for food supplements in a month which I’m sure cannot be enough… that makes it 45k, now let’s say she set aside 20k monthly to buy herself wares and other women needs like tampons and maybe make up kits… now she has just 15k left to her name, she has siblings and her parents are still alive… those people look up to her for financial assistance cos she works and earn money, now let’s say the rest of the 15k cover up for that. If you see this and you’re still not convinced you’re wicked and you’re only going to suffer the poor lady when she finally moved in with you then the whole problem lies with you. As I be man my blood dey boil as i dey read your post… damn it man.

Nyascobar1414:


makeupthings,artificial hair... Habba! This generation of women go see shege ehh...
As a lady if you no dey financially stable no find husband wey dey financially stable make you no frustrate en life.. If you are financially stable,find a financially stable man.. And everything will run smoothly.
Period!

Abi nah
Simple

NigeriaIsGreat:
acquiring university degree isn't synonymous to richness or making money

If you are a Man, it is expected of you to shoulder the financial responsibility provided you chose to get married. If otherwise, it is expected of you to remain single and chaste. No crime in doing that

The dick inbetween our legs isn't just for fun but RESPONSIBILITY

Ur just a simp talking nonsense.... go and shoulder all the responsibility and die b4 ur time for a non virgin and die before ur time and leave woke men alone....

Simran94:

No I wouldn't.

The OP is not ready for marriage because someone told him to go and marry single medical doctor or someone who earns close to what he earns, Oga said no, that the higher a woman earns, the more difficult she becomes

Yeye people on NL.

This same dude can't even marry a woman earning the same 300k he earns.

The lady is very smart I like sharp girls.

Kwinesther:
Where in my post did I talk about an already made man? All those things I mentioned above are made for women even our grandmothers in their 80's uses those things so what has being 30 and desperate has to do with what I said? You are talking off point and it's high time you men erased this mentality of a woman being desperate at 30 and stop using it as a threat, you think this generation of ladies really care about marriage like 10 to 20 years back? It seems you don't even know what is going on around you.

So it's the generation of men we have now that are not seeing more than shege? Which gender wails, wallow and complain on this forum the most?

Being 30 and desperate isn't a threat its advice in love. The beauty of a woman actually expires on her 27th birthday.... she's still beautiful but she can't negotiate lifetime exclusivity at that age.....

Kwinesther:
Where in my post did I talk about an already made man? All those things I mentioned above are made for women even our grandmothers in their 80's uses those things so what has being 30 and desperate has to do with what I said? You are talking off point and it's high time you men erased this mentality of a woman being desperate at 30 and stop using it as a threat, you think this generation of ladies really care about marriage like 10 to 20 years back? It seems you don't even know what is going on around you.

So it's the generation of men we have now that are not seeing more than shege? Which gender wails, wallow and complain on this forum the most?

The reason men wail more on this forum is because they were taught monogamy. As I speak I hv 40 wives and 750 girlfriends.... so I never wail

Holluwhakemmy:
ask your parents or your teacher when you resume have a nice dreams . Bye

And when next you meet your primary school teacher on the road, run after him or her shouting excuse me Sir ! ! , Excuse me Sir ! ! ! , please explain to me the difference between plural and singular, and how to use them properly while making a sentence; to avoid grammatical blunders like you just did above "have -a-nice dreams "

Lmao

Community hig school graduate, talking to someone who has left school a decade.

Cocao:
There is nothing wrong with financial planning. In fact I am glad that the OP is thinking that way and all couples should emulate that. What I have a problem with is the income disparity and the amount of her contribution.

By the time she removes all of that, say 50k, it only leaves 30k for her own needs, which may not be enough. And you earn times 3 of her salary. Pity her small.

If you want that kind of contribution, look for a woman with a higher income, maybe around 200k to complement you.

On the other hand, how has she been living with the 80k?

Its all about compromise, OP, try and see.

I like your thinking on this, and I also disagreed with OP on that number 4 especially. I don’t think they should put more than 12% to 15% of income towards vacation. Cheers!

Nyascobar1414:


na women like una I like..
Cos ah 4 show you shege ehh..
Woman my foot..

You wish.

Nyascobar1414:


5years from now your beauty will begin to dwindle, not a big deal. Women age like milk.. Enjoy the attention while its last

Do you know how old I am?

My beauty is forever green. Forget stories.

wirinet:


Resaearch has shown again and again that married men live longer and healthier life than single men.

Married men with active sex lives are less prone to prostrate cancer that single men or men with less active sex lives.

Alright. So, do you agree with the notion that it's far better to be a married man than a single one?

BigBashiru:


There is a constant stream of young girls and aged desperate girls over 35 that will keep him company without commitment....

So his life won't be lonely at all....

He can even decide to have 100 girlfriends + 5 wives..... how'd that a lonely life??

Will they keep him company when he starts hunching and starts growing grey hairs? Will they be there when all chips are down and also no one to fall back to?

See, getting married is a blessed thing. Don't try to force your cursed and sick opinion down our throats.

BigBashiru:


Ur just a simp talking nonsense.... go and shoulder all the responsibility and die b4 ur time for a non virgin and die before ur time and leave woke men alone....

Are you a virgin? With the rate at which fathers are raping their daughters, maids and neighbours. With the rate of rapist and peadephile you still have mouth to call a lady non virgin. At least ladies still have sense enough not to sleep with their teens sons unlike we Men

Nobody is pursuing you sir. There's no late commer in marriage. Work hard enough as a man and be financially independent coupled with your mental state

Stop looking for who to share your responsibility with. You are a man sir. I believe your parents must have educated you on the responsibility expected of a man in the society and family. My sister got married 3 years ago and she never shared a penny with her husband. She got married to a man and not a boy sir. My friend uncle got married last year and he said his uncle never discussed that with his wife. He's fully incharge of the family upkeep as the Man. Marriage is meant for Men and not for boys who's looking up and down for who to share their responsibility with

The last time i checked, our fathers, forefathers and present men of this generation whom alot had air their view here didn't die taking their responsibility

The only thing that kills a man including women is over joyous which Yoruba refer to as AYO.

Historically, taking your responsibility as a man has not and will never kill a man. Except a lazy ass man who shouldn't have any business with marriage for the time being. Not until he works on himself and finances

Nyenatetan:


And when next you meet your primary school teacher on the road, run after him or her shouting excuse me Sir ! ! , Excuse me Sir ! ! ! , please explain to me the difference between plural and singular, and how to use them properly while making a sentence; to avoid grammatical blunders like you just did above "have -a-nice dreams "

Lmao

Community hig school graduate, talking to someone who has left school a decade.

You are just a fool nothing else.

LagosInter:


Any issue with microwaved food?

Empirical back up will be appreciated and not whims.

Nothing everything in life is backed up empirically, certain things are choices, I just hate food you cook in extra quantity with the sole aim of microwaving it, I don't like it, it's solely a personal thing, maybe superstitious, am not saying those kind of food are bad, I don't just like it.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Alright. So, do you agree with the notion that it's far better to be a married man than a single one?

I have never argued otherwise. But then some marriages can be very toxic and thus unhealthy.

Nice plan.
Fair deal.

I don't know why she waltz outta the door.

I like men who plans things out. She is missing out.

lexy2014:


How is the op a gold digger?

Go and look for a sugar mummy to spoon feed you.