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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by FERNANDEZISBACK: 7:14am On Jan 12, 2022

DonroxyII:
This seems like a Bad Idea. You don't want your kids to be in the creche and be reported to be sleeping on other people's kids because they practice what they see

At 4yrs

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by drnoel: 12:31pm On Jan 12, 2022

GenderMix:
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol

I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room.

We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids)

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Thank you

It's all normal, she is an only child.
My son tried to pull his baby sister down the bed when she was born, thank God we saw him on-time.
You guys made the initial mistake to let her still stay in Ur bed that long. Now U don't have any choice but to be hard and retain the hard stance. Let it move her to tears and whaling,....keep Ur stance.
If she wakes up in the middle of the night and start crying, let her cry it out. If she comes to Ur bedroom console her and send her back. Make her understand that her being is Ur bed is a previlage not her right. She will learn and U guys will have peace to do what adults do

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by DonroxyII: 2:14pm On Jan 12, 2022

FERNANDEZISBACK:
At 4yrs

at any age before adolescence or age of maturity.

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by saphiere(f): 2:24pm On Jan 12, 2022

GenderMix:
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol

I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room.

We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids)

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Thank you

Is sex the only problem men have?

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by HonestFriend: 2:27pm On Jan 12, 2022

Try knacking at noon na.. My neighbor has 4kids in one room.. Na afternoon the man dey hammer him wife wen the kids don go school.

GenderMix:
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol

I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room.

We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids)

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Thank you

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Patented: 2:28pm On Jan 12, 2022

GenderMix:
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol

I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room.

We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids)

Oga na wetin u teach pikin e go learn. it is not too late. let her sleep, after she sleeps taker her to her room adn leave a weak light on. if she wakes and all hell breaks loose. switch off hell adn repeat teh proceedure. the following day Rines and repeat. with consistency she will get used to it. worked for me

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Thank you

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Otiv: 2:29pm On Jan 12, 2022

God bless your wisdom. I don't think there would be a better response than this

daddytime:
Hmmm...this is a very very tricky one.

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

Yes, this is where you guys missed it. She should have been introduced to her room by age 3 at the latest.

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

Never, it can't be too late. It's time to let her know who's in charge and the boss.
Kids are like "puppies or dogs". They play on your intelligence and patience to an elasticity and should you fall for the " blink-first" game, you'd remain their puppy and always at their mercy.

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

Like "NIKE", just do it.
Introduce her to her room, make her understand she's a big girl now and needs to act like one. The best person to implement this should be mummy. The trick should be to spend time with her gisting and telling her stories until she falls asleep. She'd rebel for a while but after a while she'd eventually get used to it.

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

She shouldn't be encouraged or given any reason to ask such " adult" questions. However, in a case where you both get careless and she stumbles in on you, if you weren't caught in your "birthday suites" just tell her you and mummy were praying.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Isn't she a girl? Ask her mummy

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Slurity(m): 2:29pm On Jan 12, 2022

Simple, get another bed in her room, sleep one of you or both you parent should sleep with her in her room then sneak to the other room when you need your wife.

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by melviniyke2002(m): 2:29pm On Jan 12, 2022*

Stevenbright:
She and her mum should sleep in her room. When you both need to be intimate, your wife will come to your room at night when the little child is fast asleep!

nah so i dey run am.......again if u see d child sleeping in d afternoon,kindly wake her....most tyms dat afternoon sleep der make dem disturb for night �

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by geesilver(m): 2:30pm On Jan 12, 2022

Try this remedy it works like magic.
Anytime you want to have nice time out give her sleeping medicine and feed her well before bedtime. Till next morning she will sleep off and allow you to enter promised land in peace.

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by RPG2020(m): 2:30pm On Jan 12, 2022

Na waoo all this write ups and downs plus many many advice all because of s ex

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Prettychild(f): 2:31pm On Jan 12, 2022

Mehn kids of nowadays don tear eye O! Me that was sleeping in my parents room from age 0 to 16, I didn’t even know what was happening behind the scenes

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by omoharry(f): 2:31pm On Jan 12, 2022

Na everything Una dey carry to Nairaland or online ?? Nawa ooo!

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by phemmyfour: 2:32pm On Jan 12, 2022

GenderMix:
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol

I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room.

We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids)

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Thank you

Why are you using "My wife" instead of "her mother"

Anyway, make her room more attractive with wallpapers and things loved by kids

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Justice4Toto: 2:33pm On Jan 12, 2022

GenderMix:
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol

I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room.

We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids)

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Thank you

You made a mistake by letting her used to your room. The deed has been done
Now the answer
Let your wife sleep in her room while you sleep in the living room.
Do this for four weeks
She will get used to sleeping alone

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Mariangeles(f): 2:33pm On Jan 12, 2022

HonestFriend:
Try knacking at noon na.. My neighbor has 4kids in one room.. Na afternoon the man dey hammer him wife wen the kids don go school.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha grin

How you take know? Gbeborun!

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by flokii: 2:33pm On Jan 12, 2022

4yrs old don get sense na.. what is she still doing sleeping with you and your woman?
Some people sef.. that's how they raise lazy and spoilt brats.

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by lekan3531(m): 2:34pm On Jan 12, 2022

daddytime:
Hmmm...this is a very very tricky one.

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

Yes, this is where you guys missed it. She should have been introduced to her room by age 3 at the latest.

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

Never, it can't be too late. It's time to let her know who's in charge and the boss.
Kids are like "puppies or dogs". They play on your intelligence and patience to an elasticity and should you fall for the " blink-first" game, you'd remain their puppy and always at their mercy.

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

Like "NIKE", just do it.
Introduce her to her room, make her understand she's a big girl now and needs to act like one. The best person to implement this should be mummy. The trick should be to spend time with her gisting and telling her stories until she falls asleep. She'd rebel for a while but after a while she'd eventually get used to it.

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

She shouldn't be encouraged or given any reason to ask such " adult" questions. However, in a case where you both get careless and she stumbles in on you, if you weren't caught in your "birthday suites" just tell her you and mummy were praying.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Isn't she a girl? Ask her mummy

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I can see that u have a better sense past our president for this country...

Thank u bro for replying the questions in a professional ways.

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Legendoo: 2:35pm On Jan 12, 2022

Omo , this is supposed to be a man oh

Anyways, no comment.

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Mariangeles(f): 2:35pm On Jan 12, 2022

phemmyfour:
Why are you using "My wife" instead of "her mother"

...because she's first his wife.

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Bigpapi: 2:35pm On Jan 12, 2022

GenderMix:
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol

I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room.

We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids)

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Thank you

You no get shame ? Useless man because you live in one room .....no go defile that 4yrs old child o big fool

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Deen100: 2:36pm On Jan 12, 2022

GenderMix:
I see your point. However, How long can we continue doing this? I cant abandon my bed for hers, we are in charge not her.

You are not incharge in any way, if you are in you won't tell her to do something and she'll disobey you

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by usah4(m): 2:36pm On Jan 12, 2022

Stevenbright:
She and her mum should sleep in her room. When you both need to be intimate, your wife will come to your room at night when the little child is fast asleep!

Make them lock door so that she no fit just enter self

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Nten: 2:36pm On Jan 12, 2022

U are in charge of your house and you should determine how you are supposed to run it
If you have difficulty with just this kid, I wonder how families in the ghetto copulate with 8 children inside one room.
Man restrategize the ball is in your own court!

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by flokii: 2:36pm On Jan 12, 2022

phemmyfour:
Why are you using "My wife" instead of "her mother"

What difference does that make?

He married her legally as his wife so she is his wife.

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by tuboi: 2:36pm On Jan 12, 2022

proff010:
You can go to her room whenever you want to have sxx , she is already used to your bed let her be.

Problem solved grin

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by kokomilala(m): 2:36pm On Jan 12, 2022

If you're a man,father and husband, be one. Put your foot down. Insist on it.She'll get used to it.It's like weaning a child.

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by phemmyfour: 2:36pm On Jan 12, 2022

Mariangeles:
...because she's first his wife.

You're missing the point.

The he did not establish any form of mother to child relationship in the write-up

Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by HonestFriend: 2:37pm On Jan 12, 2022

Mariangeles:
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
How you take know? Gbeborun!

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