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dollytino4real:
Let her be! Stay ur lane to avoid bashing and biting,,call ur brother on phone instead of going there,

Evil advice from a devilish heart.

Why should a wife chase away her husband's family.

Shes not rude,
Na who she be be that, it's her husband, her house, her family ,if you having problems with that na you sabi

Rachel98:
I'm nice to her, sometimes I try to bring up things we could just talk about, but she replies me like I'm forcing her to talk.

She's too full of herself, probably because she's a PhD holder. Honestly I don't understand.

Is she an educated IBO lady? They good at that.

HilcomTech:
Evil advice from a devilish heart.

Why should a wife chase away her husband's family.

And how you take believe say na true this O.p dey talk?
Have you heard from the wife herself?

Make una learn to mind una business and naija go better

Realestbae:
ode! leave Ur brother's family alone. Mind you is her home nt urs. It nt bad enough that d whole family is leeching on him but U also want to invade her home. African entitlement mentality with their blood is thicker than water but if smtin happens to d brother is d wife that will single handedly take care of d children he will leave behind uncle n aunty go yapa. See Ur mouth like " his own family" my friend his own family is his wife n kids gt that into your head

Omo, is that the same kind of treatment you give or intend giving to your in-laws?? Your husband/future-husband's family members don enter one chance.

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

We all know that feeling. The issue is left for Ur brother to settle. It doesn't make anymore sense to say another thing other than that.
The only person that can handle her 4kup is her husband and believe me, there are ways for him to do that. I mean her making that statement about his going to marry his househelp is a no go, talkless saying it Infront of his sibling. It's not for his family to handle but him alone.

Applelips:
According to you, you are not a swallow person, and decided to make noodles. And you are angry she asked why you didn't eat the swallow Do you know that you were meant to inform her before going to prepare noodles Its her house, her kitchen, her rules. In as much as you have a choice to make, u cant just do whatever you like because it seats well with you.

The semo you refused to eat, who is going to eat it? Semo is one meal I do not do leftovers. If you didn't want to eat, what stops you from informing them beforehand?


It is people like you that cause issues in marriages. Has your brother complained about not being happy? Your tone, choice of words and actions shows you do not like the woman, and may have even recruited other people to join you. That one is not enough. You now want your brother to see her the way you see her. Get a life sis.

The bolded is what a lot of people are ignoring, it's common courtesy but the mentality is 'its my brother's house'I can behave how I want and different women would react differently.

I don't think I can even do that in my sisters house, I would have told them I don't eat swallow and will prefer noodles simple.

The madam is saying you do anyhow you see anyhow

The woman might have her own issues but OP sef get for body.

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

So u can’t have a civil discussion with ur own brother about his wife? Not to bad mouth her cos no one is perfect bt to raise the concerns and Atleast know where his head is at and if he notices all the things u all notice and how he plans to manage, handle or correct it?

And the end of the day he knows who he married and her attitude b4 he married her.

When growing up I had this uncle that we all love to go spend holidays at his house, he lets us eat whatever we want, watch movies and sleep late as we like. Lol bt after he married the whole party crashed. This lady was opposite of him. Not friendly at all. So It happens and sometimes u should let them live their lives.

Cyphar:
you should just leave her and let her be. your uncle saw her like tht before he married her ..

una no dey kw anytin pass uncle..i hate ppl lik dis...sorry to say dis...same tin alwys hapen to me..d next tin ur uncle gt money now..i said my brthr...mk una dey gt sense

pocohantas:
I am calm. That dude’s brother impregnated the first girl, then he impregnated another badly behaved one. Isn’t it clear he is a man with a poor taste in women?

So I will na leave enjoyment in my husband’s house to go fight her? Make person chook me nail for eye ba?

True sha, lol for that "chook nail for me eye" comment. So you're this fearful.

flington4550:
So disheartening...you guys go be Yoruba be that...have got an uncle going through almost the same thing but you let the woman know sey if craze dey her head na madness dey ya own head...I gave it to her hot hot and she composed herself...But for the sake of peace I stopped going to their house.
After all the wahala wey he dey give my uncle we lost him to suicide this time last year....

Wow.. sorry for ur loss. I hope it's marital wahala that pushed him to that door of no return

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

Ur elder brother ignorantly and unconciously gave her that power. She is in control, not necessarily Jazz. The only way ur brother would get that power back and make her submissive to him is by BRUISING HER EGO.

Cyphar:
you should just leave her and let her be. your uncle saw her like tht before he married her ..

U sound like a fool.

Realestbae:
ode! leave Ur brother's family alone. Mind you is her home nt urs. It nt bad enough that d whole family is leeching on him but U also want to invade her home. African entitlement mentality with their blood is thicker than water but if smtin happens to d brother is d wife that will single handedly take care of d children he will leave behind uncle n aunty go yapa. See Ur mouth like " his own family" my friend his own family is his wife n kids gt that into your head

This Ur comments sounds like it's from experience. I don't necessarily agree with U. Not when madam decides to insult her husband Infront of his younger sibling. It questions who the man in the house is. I can understand madam cracking a dry joke but that comment was an insult that the husband needs to handle.
Ofcos his family needs to give them some space and I don't support leeching but here doesn't seem to be the case. Ofcos we don't know the whole story but only what OP posted. Hence speculation mayn't make much sense

NIGGA LEAVE YOUR BROTHER AND HIS FAMILY ALONE . GO AND BUILD YOUR OWN PYRAMID TOO , GO AND CREATE YOUR OWN FAMILY TOO .

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

Your brother is among the morose generation of men that have lost their senses with women.

franchasng:
I strongly believe you.


Very few Nigerian women escaped that crazy trait of being harsh towards subordinates, especially their domestic staffs and husband's relatives lol


That shouting at helps when they do little mistake is one trait I dislike in my wife. Aside that, the chick na confirm lol, and I pray she overcomes it as she always promise me she will with time

Shouting at them isn’t so bad if she uses the right words and balances it out. With time she would calm down. Funny the domestic staff might even prefer her to you.

Growing up I had this aunty that can shout, but once she is done, she forgets it. I had this other one that never shouts, but she has a diary where she writes your fckup with date and time- I am not even joking here. You can tell who we preferred.

Dybala11:
True sha, lol for that "chook nail for me eye" comment. So you're this fearful.

I avoid confrontations with everything in me. Even if my partner hits me, I won’t fight back. As far as I survive am, na to pack my bag leave o.

Ishilove:
It makes me you wonder at their psychological health. It is like they gravitate to the worst of the worst

That's what ticks them.
The same way good gals gravitate towards bad boys.

Lots of people won't understand.

pocohantas:
Shouting at them isn’t so bad if she uses the right words and balances it out. With time she would calm down. Funny the domestic staff might even prefer her to you.

Growing up I had this aunty that can shout, but once she is done, she forgets it. I had this other one that never shouts, but she has a diary where she writes your fckup with date and time- I am not even joking here. You can tell who we preferred.

That auntie is a sociopath

descarado:
That's what ticks them.
The same way good gals gravitate towards bad boys.

Lots of people won't understand.

I'm a good gal and I never gravitated to bad boys. In fact, they scared me.

Na u dey see am...
Leave her and her house and don't bother going and visiting the house . And don't give her a bleep...


Na u dey see am, ignore and face Ur front. If she want kill Ur uncle with rudeness, leave him make he die

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

Better mind your business and face your life. Your brother is happy in his marriage and you call it jazz.

NoToPile:
Seriously @ bolded

You Wan chook mouth for husband and wife mata? You go collect small.

Leave Maria. Na Voltron, action lady and defender of her brother. E go shock am.

descarado:
That auntie is a sociopath

Better one o. Everybody’s fck up was inside, even my papa own.

Ishilove:
I'm a good gal and I never gravitated to bad boys. In fact, they scared me.

Are you sure you’re a good girl?
If you are not gravitated to bad boys,then your good girl level isn’t complete

Rachel98:
you don't get it....She has PhD degree in sociology & Anthropology

But what she does for a living is planning of events. She really a professional in her job. Sometimes I wonder how she treats her staff.... She's so mean and rude

I get your worries, but i think it will be cool if you can get busy towards achieving what she has achieved already(being someone's wife/getting married). Try giving them a little space and pray/hope she comes back to her senses. I will like us to talk outside here though.

Rachel98:
I can't be rude to my in-laws when I get married, becus i'm not ill-mannered, ill-bred and rude... So I can't.

Ill_ bred indeed, do you know that's an insult to her parents? Maybe they tried their best to give her good training but she chose to be rued...

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

Your bro married the wrong woman so he is been carefull not to crash his home by himself. Just go hussle make your own money she go still learn. let her know why u r not coming to that house again.

pocohantas:
Leave Maria. Na Voltron, action lady and defender of her brother. E go shock am.




Better one o. Everybody’s fck up was inside, even my papa own.

Loool, it's the husband that will even start defending the wife you are fighting.

Rachael please don't do that to my family when we get married. I will share my number with you if you want

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

pocohantas:
Well said. I hope people can understand these things. I was the last person to meet my sister in-law physically, but I am the only one she is close to. Despite the petty complaints I heard about her, I approached her without bias. Some of these in-laws can sense our vibration. They know the one that hates them and the one that doesn’t. Currently the same girl that they say is rude dey greet me good morning for WhatsApp. She told me recently that she would come to my place for a holiday. She reports my brother to me and I know the one wey my brother truly do.

Maybe when I was younger I would have a different approach to things. Probably expect my husband to start shouting at his siblings in my presence to defend me. But I am older now and I have mastered family politics. Nobody can get me in a spot I do not want to be. You have to be really skilled to pull that off.

That Family Politics eh........... you got it right

pocohantas:
Shouting at them isn’t so bad if she uses the right words and balances it out. With time she would calm down. Funny the domestic staff might even prefer her to you.

Growing up I had this aunty that can shout, but once she is done, she forgets it. I had this other one that never shouts, but she has a diary where she writes your fckup with date and time- I am not even joking here. You can tell who we preferred.



I avoid confrontations with everything in me. Even if my partner hits me, I won’t fight back. As far as I survive am, na to pack my bag leave o.

Fear fear.

Anyway I personally hate staying with people that likes shouting to convey their message. My mom is in this category before, she has learnt to cool down now sha. Cos I won't even say a word when she's shouting, after then I'll now ask her to tell me my fault and let us enter into dialogue. She saw it as me been rude to her, but I just wanted her to be able to voice her opinions/misgivings without resorting to shouting at the top of her voice. Like I said, I hate shouting and ranting with perfect hatred, I love staying or reading in a serene and quiet environment, hence I'm considered weird by a lot of people including my close friends. So others even termed it arrogance. In real life situations, I'm fine with all individuals voicing out their misgivings or annoyance with me or my behaviour. But if you start shouting just know that you're talking into empty space, I'll just blank-out my mind and will ask for a dialogue when you're done. Online I'm a member of the association of keyboard warriors.

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

Help your brother,call her out,confront her,he wants you guys to do that... After 2face brother dragged Annie,she composed herself.
Jesus saw peter when he brought out the sword to cut off the ear of the soldier,but did not stop him until the deed was done.

Help your brother.
My take!