Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

I support your bf.

Stand your ground...
If he takes you to a hotel next time, don’t have sex.

He must have some weird beliefs for not wanting to have sex in his house but every other place.
Or maybe he’s fetish

He likes sex in a hotel yes? Stop giving him sex in a hotel. If he wants sex, it has to be in the house.
I think you should also give attention to one or two other guys. U know Plan B.

What if he's trying to protect you in a way that might not be explained yet....
Or what if there is an hidden camera in that apartment..
Or what if he has a very good plan for you yet..

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

Rachel98:
Pls stop it. I'm not a prostitute. My parents trained me well.

Ignore the crazy comments, your a pretty lady and deserves the best. You will have a loving nairaland boyfriend soon. Since you were able to have such number of likes.

Orisirisi obe gbegiri ....
(Different different kind of beans soup)

[Hello please let me advice you, kindly take this
Leave that guy andove on, to a better man, I repeat leave that guy and move on

See it is either he has a fiancee he does not want to catch him in the act
Or he is married and the wife must have put a curse in that house that he will suffer if he sleep with any woman in his matrimonial home , something is not just right .

You do not need to come into his damaged and confused life, it will affect you.























quote author=Rachel98 post=108746542]Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments?? [/quote]

But any girl that would open her legs for a man that she's not legally married to is a Prostitute!

Boniwhite:
frustrated& sad woman. You are the one that got no life!!
did we send her to be sleeping around?
abi we send her to hawk her vagina upandan?
listen the internet is like a market place, and people will say thier mind if you bring your private life to the internet... We will continue to catch cruise with people here! We no send you to take your matter to internet o!

shame on you! for supporting that cheap slut of a girl for trading her body!!
no pity for her.

Its your right to say your mind but must your mind be foul and twisted all the time? Can no kind saying proceed from your mouths? If she had come with a post of no sex till marriage, you will bash and call her names. She came with a problem like this, which judging from your vitriolic comments, I doubt you read, and if you did read, I doubt you understood, any still she gets disgusting comments! It just shows the level of narcissism and bitterness in your soul! Tueh!

Your boyfriend is smart, he has someone whom he cherishes so much. That's the only person who constantly questions him if he usually have sex with ladies in that house, and he will boastfully say "I have never had sex in this house" and he will not go further to say he takes girls to hotel for intimacies.

You need to be more observant, so that he won't put you into mental agony.

Jennyclay:
Broke, low-life, zero emptiness dead brain like you.

I guess that was your mother profession(OLOSHOISM) before she retired, that was why she could not conceive another child after giving birth to a trash like you.

Her cursed womb was damaged and knocked down like engine because of too much dicks and abortion pills. I'm 100% sure your daughters will follow suit.

Animal and non-entity like you. Disgusting pig... Abeg shift let me puke!!

Just look at what you typed, and you are a woman, tueh. You are such a badluck. I pity the man that would spend the rest of his life with you.

Lol the guy is using you may be he probably don’t want to be caught by his main chick red handed

Sister don't let him just b using you why can he have sex inside his house and you don't tell us about his other girlfriends b4 he met with you may be that is how he use to do with them too

I think your Boyfriend don't want to have sex in the same room that he prays to God. He just feels he don't want to pollute his room with sex. It's just his belief. He thinks sex is meant in the Hotel and not in his Holy House. That's just what I think.

Haba! Make una stop quoting OP lengthy message. Is annoying..

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

Seven bloody hells! I had to stop reading comments when I got to the second page. I really don't understand how this forum got to this level, so many harsh, uncouth words. I guess they all want to appear tough, redpillers abi wetin dem dey call demselves. You guys are terrible! @Op his actions ain't normal and I'll suggest you take a walk from the relationship. But I believe you've gotten some good pieces of advice here as well, just sift through and go with the best. I hope whatever decision you make works out fine for you.

toujurs:
Just look at what you typed, and you are a woman, tueh. You are such a badluck. I pity the man that would spend the rest of his life with you.

Sir, please with all due respect, Shut up!!!

Didn't you read what he said to me, so I should fold my hands while he insults me right?? You guys feel you can just insult women and get away with it?? If any of you depressed and frustrated soul insult me, I will give it you guys hot hot.

birds of same feather flock together!! Nonsense!!

Jennyclay:
Sir, please with all due respect, Shut up!!!

Didn't you read what he said to me, so I should fold my hands while he insults me right?? You guys feel you can just insult women and get away with it?? If any of you depressed and frustrated soul insult me, I will give it you guys hot hot.

birds of same feather flock together!! Nonsense!!

You are a bitter girl, at such a young age you have this kind of hate. With time you will realise the badluck following you, as a result of your bitter heart. Feminism my foot. I know what he said was wrong, the best answer to a fool is silence, you are a girl
You should be smart. What you typed there is too bitter and full of hate. For a lady to be have in her mind. You have badluck around you. But you don't know you better go to church and seek for divine help and restoration

Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which go I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

Hello madam having sex in the car doesn’t make you a prostitute pls.

toujurs:
You are a bitter girl, at such a young age you have this kind of hate. With time you will realise the badluck following you, as a result of your bitter heart. Feminism my foot. I know what he said was wrong, the best answer to a fool is silence, you are a girl
You should be smart. What you typed there is too bitter and full of hate. For a lady to be have in her mind. You have badluck around you. But you don't know you better go to church and seek for divine help and restoration

Oga, I refuse to be silent. If you insult me, I would give it back to you as e dey hot. I always encourage ladies to do such, because y'all guy in this forum are sickos.

Sir, point of correction, it is your sisters that have badlucks, please take them to church, they need divine help and restoration.

toujurs:
You are a bitter girl, at such a young age you have this kind of hate. With time you will realise the badluck following you, as a result of your bitter heart. Feminism my foot. I know what he said was wrong, the best answer to a fool is silence, you are a girl
You should be smart. What you typed there is too bitter and full of hate. For a lady to be have in her mind. You have badluck around you. But you don't know you better go to church and seek for divine help and restoration

Are you not a fool and a stupid human like this
So if a man bridle his tongue will he turn to a goat?
Why is that when a woman give a man what he is giving her, your fingers will be itching to type and remind a Woman that she should keep quiet. Hypocrisy no go kill una for this life like this. If you don’t want to be insulted then don’t be the first person to throw insult around. So the guy is not bitter with bad luck? She is the one bitter with bad luck.?

Una go dey alright last last.

Rachel98:
Pls stop it. I'm not a prostitute. My parents trained me well.

Rachel98:
I'm not cheating on him. I'm having been faithful. He knows me well.

I'm just fed up.

Lol, lot of reasons I can see that he is not talking you serious, maybe he found you in hotel or club, or maybe some of his friends have bang you before and they introduced you to him as a runs girls, or your pus**y so wide like well, may be you are cheating on him codely and he know but you don't know, maybe your Brest is like slippers like i saw in your dp, who know.

Maybe he just used you as his side chick and have a serious gf and you know side chik are only bang in the car or hotel like he bang you.

Maybe he it's just after your body and you look like runs girls to him

Maybe the guy is married and his wife is not around, and he promised his wife that he will not bring any girls to his home,

BEST THINGS TO KNOW WHY HE IS DOING LIKE THAT IS TO JUST BUY SOME BISCUITS AND SWEET OR GIVE THEM MONEY THOSE KIDS, THEY KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT HIM, THEY WILL TELL YOU EVETHIN YOU DON'T KNOW, GOOD LUCK

Jennyclay:
Broke, low-life, zero emptiness dead brain like you.

I guess that was your mother profession (OLOSHOISM) before she retired, that was why she could not conceive another child after giving birth to a trash like you.

Her cursed womb was damaged and knocked down like engine because of too much dicks and abortion pills. I'm 100% sure your daughters will follow suit.

Animal and non-entity like you. Disgusting pig... Abeg shift let me puke!!

pained asshole, olosho confederate.... You are here to defend your partner in crime. We are aware of how you put up your own kpekus up for 250 kobos & we also know the unfortunate zazu boys that are entering your smelly kpeku pot any time they like.

Olosho chairperson, ask your moma, the guy who yank her off then is somewhere now drinking brukutus. Know this and know peace that, that innocent guy you taking for a pop man isn't the right guy. Ask the olosho senior by 1am this night. She will be kind enough to tell you how she got your pregnancy....

Social misfits like you would have been better washed off the wc channels in moma's heyday as pro prostitute.... Anyway you are just a chip of the old block... What do I know sef.....

Come with me.... I will take you down the memory lane..... .

I see genuineness. Your bf grew up in that area. The apartment belongs to his late parents who warned against sexual immorality in the building. He is not ready to settle now.

What is wrong with sex in the car? Fine you don’t like it, all you have to do is let him know your preferences.
I suggest you end the relationship because your values & his are at opposites. Trust me, HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU SERIALLY if he comes across any woman willing to be as kinky as he is.

Oshodipikin:



pained asshole, olosho confederate.... You are here to defend your partner in crime. We are aware of how you put up your own kpekus up for 250 kobos & we also know the unfortunate zazu boys that are entering your smelly kpeku pot any time they like.

Olosho chairperson, ask your moma, the guy who yank her off then is somewhere now drinking brukutus. Know this and know peace that, that innocent guy you taking for a pop man isn't the right guy. Ask the olosho senior by 1am this night. She will be kind enough to tell you how she got your pregnancy....

Social misfits like you would have been better washed off the wc channels in moma's heyday as pro prostitute.... Anyway you are just a chip of the old block... What do I know sef.....

Come with me.... I will take you down the memory lane..... .

Your English can break coconut. Please go back to primary school, it will help you refurbish your English.

I don't know why I'm responding to a failure like you.

Small boy. Don't quote me in your life again.

Dear OP, it's either your bf is married or has a babe he cherishes so much .it can also be he is not the owner of the house. There must be something about him he does not want you to know and the neighbours are aware. He is not quiet anything he is being careful at his games . Trust me if you are very smart and intelligent , 3 months is enough to find out what he has been hiding. If you engage him in meaningful conversations, you will get the answers you are looking for .

Are you whorrring around

Jennyclay:
Your English can break coconut. Please go back to primary school, it will help you refurbish your English.

I don't know why I'm responding to a failure like you.

Small boy. Don't quote me in your life again.

E pain am Your English is so good that it turned you to charge and bail lawyer on Nairaland. Na you suppose de sweep this nairaland sef, abi make I give you the title of chief cleaner. Nincompoop.

If you sef de do corporate olosho, jawo n be. Stop it lo n jebe. Else, you go use Mr. Right do boyfriend wey go yansh you go for free. Anfani adugbo (Communal property).

A word is enough for pikin wey get sense.

RedpillAnalyst:
Y'all guys need to chill okay. She only bangs people she is dating so she is not a pro.

Guys online can be rude. but some guys are very based and they see things for what it is. How we always want to mingle things that are in opposite directions and want to find a middle ground is beyond me. See, men are logical and they see things as either one or zero. All these new buzz words like ethical cheating, friendly armed robber, nightclubs for born-again, decent prostitute, vegetarian burgers, don't blend well with men with rational thinking.

Most girls have been taught wrongly. A girl can either be a wife material or a practice material. All girls are good for practicing and few, very few are marginally considerable to be wives.

I totally understand what you mean by being decent, not being a prostitute because you don't charge money outrightly, and I bet you are right when you said you are from a good family. And it is okay to bang in any private location. However, if the banger is not your husband, baby girl that is low-level prostitution.

Red pill Analyst, indeed.

Some bachelor lyfstyle slf dey baffle me and each wid dia own individual policy and shit. I bet he hasn't brought a girl home to sleepover and in his own mattress or 1ex don do am shege b4. perhaps since he moved into dz new crip. The truth is, he is not ready to go all in, lyk be 100% real wid u. Jst stop d intimacy n all dat and giv him some space lyk 2-4 months to resolve his conflicted feelings abt wat he truly want from u, is it u in his life outrightly or u on his timeframe waiting till he says he ur time is up. In love mattas, d one wid d least amount of affection controls d relatnshp. Are u in control of d way u feel abt him? It seems to me dat he is d one in control and 's been exploiting on ur selfless efforts while u take d full weight of feeling lyk shit n miserable jst wheneva relatnshp misundsng ensued btw u and him. Telling him now dat u want to sleep in his living bed wuld be lyk u are invading on his man cave wid out being let in willingly in da 1st place. Space him buh kip comms open & clean

myami:
your parents didn't train you well fornicator/hotelprostitute

How is she any different from your girlfriend or sisters or the useless ashawos you patronize. Stupid hypocrite . Useless fool that patronizes ashawo and pays for sex on a daily is calling another person a fornicator