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[quote author=Ochibaisik post=111175491][/quote]your last paragraph tho.. not my handwriting

pansophist:
In the 21st century, lots of women sees marriage as a permanent vacation to Miami, a place where they go and enjoy themselves till thy kingdom comes. To brag to their single friends, and a place where the merriment of life rains abundantly. Infact the wedding is more important than the marriage, its all glamorous and nice. But marriage is actually not like that.

Marriage is a place where all the immaterial skills you cant buy, that you've been building as a single person comes to test. It will test your virtues such as patience, contentment, tolerance, sacrificial abilities, courage, maturity, inner strength, teamwork abilities, hardwork, self-leadership, and compassion, to name a few.

If any of the partners lacks the above, then the one that doesn't lack it will suffer, because when one is dead, they don't know they are a burden to the living. When one lack this immaterial virtues, then they will be a burden to those who have it. For example lots of people become poor because they married a materialistic partner who knows how to spend not make money.

You have said it all, jus how I have wanted it that you don't enjoy comfort you build and labour for it.

But to come across that virtuous lady who possess those potential you have mentioned, then that man is not lucky he is blessed.

czarr:
Just know most guys wouldn't ask to just be friends with benefits, because most girls would feel insulted and not agree...so instead we wine you, make you feel special small, fvck a few times and ghost you.... that's how most guys move, it's left for you as the woman to be able to see through the whining and see who has genuine attraction for you, but women are blinded by appearances.(looks and money)

You nailed this!

Johel:
Are you Gemini,Cancer or Scorpio?
Introvert?

You seem to have deep insight on certain things many are unable realise...I like.

I'll take that as a compliment.. thank you

The question is: are u your spec's spec? .. If u answer this question, all is solve.. I used to luv a gal that is still in luv with ha exs.. Damaged to a fault.. I happen to know one of ha exs who never agree they dated.. All he said was, they were just sex partner and he never counted ha as a gf. How do u call a partner that does not call for days, he only call u wen he wants sex... And u go ahead thinking u have a bf. Wen he gets tired and decides to move on, u claim hrt break. We can tell ourselves the truth, we all know when we are in a meaningful relationship.

debbydams:
hmmmm... Wish some men can be straight with their intentions,like ' babe let's be hitting ourselves' but instead some men will promise you marriage and waste your time at the end of the day, they will leave, same applies to some ladies

Kalatium:
This is the paradox of liberty. We want freedom to do whatever we want this is what it as brought us to.

Paradox of liberty

martinmiller:
You have said it all, jus how I have wanted it that you don't enjoy comfort you build and labour for it.

But to come across that virtuous lady who possess those potential you have mentioned, then that man is not lucky he is blessed.

Them full everywhere, them just no plenty for naija

pansophist:
There is no static in life. It's either things are getting better, or getting worse. And if things are not getting better, then its getting worse. Stagnancy means its is worse also. So yes, as things stands, even if you argue that this is the worse of it, it will get even worse in years to come.

Time compound everything even if you do nothing. If you buy a brand new lamboghini and Park it without driving it for ten years, then it will rust, get dusty, and won't start at all. Compare to one you drive. I'm only trying to prove with this analogy that even in nature, its evident that being static makes things worse. So yea, franchasng is right, and I agree with your implication.

And this relationship and dating problem will only get worst lol



Everyone should just find a way to live happily, be smart.


Before you approach a girl, know your target or mission and stick to it, and strive to achieve your mission.



As a girl, before you accept a guy, know your goal or target and find ways to maneuver to achieve your targer lol.




As a guy, have it in mind that your girlfriend or fiance or wife could cheat or she is cheating or planning to so when it happens you wont be too shocked lol.


As a lady, know that that your financially loaded boyfriend or fiancee or husband is also being admired by other ladies far better than you and anything can happen...but so long as he still treats you like the number one lady in his life, try and ignore some flaws and be happy with life.



Above all, always protect yourself sexually, use a condom or if you are a loaded guy, always take your girls to a reliable lab for test before you chop and even at that, use a condom, always

pansophist:
Them full everywhere, them just no plenty for naija

Really, them full nija too ..

Abeg, organised one for me sharp sharp ..

martinmiller:
Really, them full nija too ..

Abeg, organised one for me sharp sharp ..

You get reach 20k usd for account ?

pansophist:
You get reach 20k usd for account ?

10-12M before persin go fit date decent nice chick? Haba na only mud God get when e create Adam o

franchasng:
And this relationship and dating problem will only get worst lol



Everyone should just find a way to live happily, be smart.


Before you approach a girl, know your target or mission and stick to it, and strive to achieve your mission.



As a girl, before you accept a guy, know your goal or target and find ways to maneuver to achieve your targer lol.




As a guy, have it in mind that your girlfriend or fiance or wife could cheat or she is cheating or planning to so when it happens you wont be too shocked lol.


As a lady, know that that your financially loaded boyfriend or fiancee or husband is also being admired by other ladies far better than you and anything can happen...but so long as he still treats you like the number one lady in his life, try and ignore some flaws and be happy with life.



Above all, always protect yourself sexually, use a condom or if you are a loaded guy, always take your girls to a reliable lab for test before you chop and even at that, use a condom, always

E do me. I don comot hand for love matter

DoctorOlasDesk:
10-12M before persin go fit date decent nice chick? Haba na only mud God get when e create Adam o

Come on. Him go buy flight come meet her na. He say make I dash am foreign babe

pansophist:
Come on. Him go buy flight come meet her na. He say make I dash am foreign babe

If babe wey make sense dey, 20k USD no be big deal. But she go worth am? The other dilemma is people aren't up to the standards they place demand on/for

pansophist:
You get reach 20k usd for account ?

Money isn't problems, and besides are you buying ha over with cash ?..

martinmiller:
Money isn't problems, and besides are you buying ha over with cash ?..

Na play na, you sef

cybriz82:
I cn relate bro...she will never give up when iz come to argument n bible stuff...u just av to admit she won..or else she go stylishly insult u ontop..

LoL
I don rest
Life's Good
Make them dey

DoctorOlasDesk:
E do me. I don comot hand for love matter

lol

franchasng:
And this relationship and dating problem will only get worst lol



Everyone should just find a way to live happily, be smart.


Before you approach a girl, know your target or mission and stick to it, and strive to achieve your mission.



As a girl, before you accept a guy, know your goal or target and find ways to maneuver to achieve your targer lol.




As a guy, have it in mind that your girlfriend or fiance or wife could cheat or she is cheating or planning to so when it happens you wont be too shocked lol.


As a lady, know that that your financially loaded boyfriend or fiancee or husband is also being admired by other ladies far better than you and anything can happen...but so long as he still treats you like the number one lady in his life, try and ignore some flaws and be happy with life.



Above all, always protect yourself sexually, use a condom or if you are a loaded guy, always take your girls to a reliable lab for test before you chop and even at that, use a condom, always

You don talk am finish. I cosign. Nothing to add.

DoctorOlasDesk:
If babe wey make sense dey, 20k USD no be big deal. But she go worth am? The other dilemma is people aren't up to the standards they place demand on/for

True, if 20k USD will sort it why not give it a try, then it will be what I wanted and specs ..

pansophist:
Na play na, you sef

Haa I for say make you fly am come Berlin where I base ..

Then we know the next thing moving forward.

martinmiller:
True, if 20k USD will sort it why not give it a try, then it will be what I wanted and specs ..

Gone are the days when mehn dey broke o. Sorting 20k USD isn't a biggie. In fact as i write, I met an American lady i have intentions of bringing over. The challenge is previous relationship failures has somehow trimmed the energy most men have. When we start, to continue to the end is the problem cause the internal energy don decline. We're open to dating and spoiling our ladies but then, i just don't know jor. Make i still dey pack the money together. I'm now beginning to consider the idea of not getting married at all sha

debbydams:
hmmmm... Wish some men can be straight with their intentions,like ' babe let's be hitting ourselves' but instead some men will promise you marriage and waste your time at the end of the day, they will leave, same applies to some ladies

Sorry

Fiscus105:
Since many of you blindly follow men not because of future purposes but solely what you want to gain from him immediately.

(So many guys not dere visit their girlfriend if they don't cash in their pockets, is that relationship ma?)

Unlike before 90's or even early 2000. Then, on the average. Ladies dating mainly for future partner, I still remember that ,the easiest way to get to the pant of woman was to tell her, that I wnt you to be my future wife. Then, when ladies noticed that guy they were going out with married already, they would run as fast as possible away from him, but now, its pure amount you able to spend, married or no married not concerned.
Infact teenagers preferred married men this day, hope you know the end results of such relationship even before it started?

Now, even 4-5 ladies know themselves that they are dating just one same guy, they would still not use their head and think logically, if you ask all of the girl individually, each of them would say, I know I am his main girlfriend and that others are just warming bed. With this,why won't you be dating guy and the guy will not date u.

You can say that again bro! Ladies circa 2006 dated you for your personality and your future potential! Don't know the year our ladies lost it and now think only about the benefits they get from a man or the wealth he has SMH. Unfortunately, my sister too is lost in this craze for money and enjoyment and keeps shouting money is good SMH.

DoctorOlasDesk:
Gone are the days when mehn dey broke o. Sorting 20k USD isn't a biggie. In fact as i write, I met an American lady i have intentions of bringing over. The challenge is previous relationship failures has somehow trimmed the energy most men have. When we start, to continue to the end is the problem cause the internal energy don decline. We're open to dating and spoiling our ladies but then, i just don't know jor. Make i still dey pack the money together. I'm now beginning to consider the idea of not getting married at all sha

I can relate with your position, like you have said doling out such an amount to get to a lady is tantamount to her to have all qualities and would have won my specs and not under pretences.

Here, in Berlin we have such wonder like woman, they are straight forward and industrious. But due to experience and lackluster from Thier previous relationship they tends to be very careful.

debbydams:
Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess. If you are already married, God has saved you. If you are in a serious relationship with someone who's goin to marry you, you are very luck lucky.

A lot of us are in relationships but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you. I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become, how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish?

"I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?

Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'

You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside, you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when you are not even ready to change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return. Isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

#Lalasticla

You just nailed it

Fiscus105:
Since many of you blindly follow men not because of future purposes but solely what you want to gain from him immediately.

(So many guys not dere visit their girlfriend if they don't have cash in their pockets, is that relationship ma?)

Unlike before 90's or even early 2000. Then, on the average. Ladies dating mainly for future partner, I still remember that ,the easiest way to get to the pant of woman was to tell her, that I wnt you to be my future wife. Then, when ladies noticed that guy they were going out with married already, they would run as fast as possible away from him, but now, its pure amount you able to spend, married or no married not concerned.
Infact teenagers preferred married men this day, hope you know the end results of such relationship even before it started?

Now, even 4-5 ladies know themselves that they are dating just one same guy, they would still not use their head and think logically, if you ask all of the girl individually, each of them would say, I know I am his main girlfriend and that others are just warming bed. With this,why won't you be dating guy and the guy will not date u.

Plus the man that has this wealth they seek has a lot of options and there are many ladies also gearing out there to be replacements. So why will he not put them on cruise? No sane man that is rich will treat you well when you came to him when he already had money and did not build with him when he had none. There is a reason women get a great deal of respect when they build with their man! Such marriages last long and even if there is cheating by the man which is bound to happen, it can never be glaring unless if the man involved is an irresponsible man!

martinmiller:
I can relate with your position, like you have said doling out such an amount to get to a lady is tantamount to her to have all qualities and would have won my specs and not under pretences.

Here, in Berlin we have such wonder like woman, they are straight forward and industrious. But due to experience and lackluster from Thier previous relationship they tends to be very careful.

I'm very careful with long term consequences of relationships too. If i will marry, i think of the belief systems and ideologies of the lady's society i'm marrying from. Trust me bro, I won't marry a lady from some countries even if an angel appeared and tells me she's my wife, i'd rather marry a pig. There are some annoying tendencies in the German, Russian society. No disrespect, the society can be rich and industrious, but if i go marry o, it comes with Nigerian ladies first, after that West. Anything asides the main west, I nor do. In fact, i'm tired.

Make all of us dey careful dey go

PreciousBro:
Well believe it or not, most men are tired already too. It's hard to find a good decent woman these days. Modern fad has so much intoxicated women to the point they wanna live like men. Imagine 'optionising' men and expecting them to be exclusive with you. It's against the natural instinctive ways of men.

How can women expect men to take them seriously when you make him think he's just an option as there are other men. If you don't get to choose who marries you then how can you dictate or give conditions ?

If our holy Bible says; "A woman may take any man as a husband but a man must choose his wife carefully "
Then why do these so called "modern" or woke specie set of women think it's their call to make? Men aren't wired to be chosen, we do the choosing. Many women of today are highly flawed morally, mentally, domestically. They went to school but aren't educated. Only for clout(Especially African Americans, Nigerians), they can't be womanly and be meek at heart. They feel that only rich or wealthy men deserve subservience or Submissiveness. If they can't get a rich guy, they'd rather settle for lapdogs or "simps" for a man as they're called here.

They flirt with reckless abandon leaving every womanly grace,decency and sacredness expected of them as virtuous women.

I'm unapologetically stamping my "manly" submissions on this matter because the truth lies in there. If you like call me a chauvinist or sexist or whatever, the truth remains that, women have bitten more than they can chew. We gave them undeserved power and now they use such against humanity by refusing to wear their garment nature tailored for them as women and desirable by men. They want the freedom to 'whõre' around and not be called 'whores', they think financial freedom equates 'independence' and hence feel they're worth having by 'real' men. They challenge the headship of financially incapable men, they think their little change in their purse grants escapable functions in the homes.

My dear, I'm also tired. Men of course aren't perfect either, we have the foolish ones who also don't appreciate good women due to immaturity on their part, and we have the wise ones who feminists dont like because they'd not bend the knee in homes when the resonance of financial power leaves them.

In relationships, it's the same thing, how can a man be exclusive with you when you damn his emotions and go on multiple dates with other men? A girl i know too well, believes, even while numerically old,that relationship isn't her primary focus because she thinks guys would want her for having meagre change in her purse. Whilst not putting to consideration the fact that, men will only want you when you know how to appeal to his ego, not your ability to close legs, or your money, or even your beauty.

What girls don't understand when they optionise men is that, they get distracted and even if not, how do you know whom you like will like you back? If a woman thinks she can eat her cake and have it, well, look at the world today. Broken marriages, failed relationships, women stylishly crying,regretting to wear the garb of "misguided feminism" ,ruining their chances at getting loved up by reasonable men.

You sir, you're wise!!!
And no it's no validation!!!!

A man is polygamous in nature,know this and have peace ma dear..

Angelfrost:
Haaaa... Even relationships?!!

Buhari don hear am!!!

Yes na. Almost a decade of hardship. Someone that was 8 years when Buhari came into power is now almost 16, someone that was 20 is now almost 28. It's all Buhari's fault. Bringing a generation of poverty, hate and instability.

Manlikechoba:
Me that is looking for a serious relationship and ready to be committed

I don dey find woman for almost 6 months, na insult I just dey recieve left,right and center.. some say if I'm willing to take care of their Bill's that they are ready....

I don weak

Currency is the driving force for relationships these days unfortunately SMH