pansophist:


Exactly, hence I hammered on the concept of "deregulation of the sexual marketplace". What we have is purely romantic capitalism that is brutal, with no democratic elements to it. Its basically sexual oligarchy, survival of the richest, where you have to be rich first, and she wish you'll be a good person, and to be beautiful and hot first, then he wish she will make a good wife.

We never see anything yet. To guess what is yet to come, take a look at relationships in the African American communities, they are the first in this journey of decadence. To predict the future, the past is a good place go start.

Tajbol4splend:



These holy holy people actually think they know who God is, they know absolutely nothing about him

PreciousBro:
Well believe it or not, most men are tired already too. It's hard to find a good decent woman these days. Modern fad has so much intoxicated women to the point they wanna live like men. Imagine 'optionising' men and expecting them to be exclusive with you. It's against the natural instinctive ways of men.

How can women expect men to take them seriously when you make him think he's just an option as there are other men. If you don't get to choose who marries you then how can you dictate or give conditions ?

If our holy Bible says; "A woman may take any man as a husband but a man must choose his wife carefully "
Then why do these so called "modern" or woke specie set of women think it's their call to make? Men aren't wired to be chosen, we do the choosing. Many women of today are highly flawed morally, mentally, domestically. They went to school but aren't educated. Only for clout(Especially African Americans, Nigerians), they can't be womanly and be meek at heart. They feel that only rich or wealthy men deserve subservience or Submissiveness. If they can't get a rich guy, they'd rather settle for lapdogs or "simps" for a man as they're called here.

They flirt with reckless abandon leaving every womanly grace,decency and sacredness expected of them as virtuous women.

I'm unapologetically stamping my "manly" submissions on this matter because the truth lies in there. If you like call me a chauvinist or sexist or whatever, the truth remains that, women have bitten more than they can chew. We gave them undeserved power and now they use such against humanity by refusing to wear their garment nature tailored for them as women and desirable by men. They want the freedom to 'whõre' around and not be called 'whores', they think financial freedom equates 'independence' and hence feel they're worth having by 'real' men. They challenge the headship of financially incapable men, they think their little change in their purse grants escapable functions in the homes.

My dear, I'm also tired. Men of course aren't perfect either, we have the foolish ones who also don't appreciate good women due to immaturity on their part, and we have the wise ones who feminists dont like because they'd not bend the knee in homes when the resonance of financial power leaves them.

In relationships, it's the same thing, how can a man be exclusive with you when you damn his emotions and go on multiple dates with other men? A girl i know too well, believes, even while numerically old,that relationship isn't her primary focus because she thinks guys would want her for having meagre change in her purse. Whilst not putting to consideration the fact that, men will only want you when you know how to appeal to his ego, not your ability to close legs, or your money, or even your beauty.

What girls don't understand when they optionise men is that, they get distracted and even if not, how do you know whom you like will like you back? If a woman thinks she can eat her cake and have it, well, look at the world today. Broken marriages, failed relationships, women stylishly crying,regretting to wear the garb of "misguided feminism" ,ruining their chances at getting loved up by reasonable men.

GUNITGuy:

I had said this before the way it would hit most black women of this generation with time would be a crisis.....Very soon they would call for marital emergency and moral catastrophe that have pervaded the women of this generation would be worst that world war 2

DoctorOlasDesk:




You uplifted my spirits brov. Thanks and Cheers. Cheers to true love in the midst of love famine

Mrlouis:
YOU ATTRACT WHAT YOU ARE, NOT WHAT YOU WANT.

omooluorun:


Relationship built with all sincerity on God's foundation cannot be moved. Of course there will be tribulations but God will come through.

Tajbol4splend:



These holy holy people actually think they know who God is, they know absolutely nothing about him

debbydams:
God will not come down to help, even God will partners still divorce..pastors are not left out

Legendoo:
Nice write up. ..



The last few years of wokeness stripped a lot of good values away and y'all encouraged and continue to encourage it.

You called good bad and vice versa.


You haven't seen anything yet. A time will come when 100 percent of naija girls will become untouchable runs girls unsuitable for marriage . The guys will turn to gang bangers.

A lot more will turn homosexual.

The whole society is going to completely collapse morally and the next generation will be handed the most degenerate culture, so dark, it will blow the mind's of the oyinbo people wey you dey copy come turn useless.

As usual dismiss this as rubbish.

musicwriter:


Don't let anyone misdirect you.

You're perfectly right choosing what works for you and leaving what doesn't. What works for me may not work for you. And what works for you may not work for me.

Your approach is actually one of the best philosophy of life anyone should adopt if they want to find peace of mind in this chaotic world.

pansophist:
Two words here, hypergamy and polygamy, the two vices of that have captivate most people, and they don't want to heal themselves from of it. Our selfishness and "whats in for me?", instead of "what can I give?", is what has brough us to this mess.

For women, it's hypergamy on steriods. They may have boyfriend, even a husband, but his validity ends when a better (understand it as richer) dude shows up, she will dump the boyfriend, or cheat if she is married. Her loyalty, commitment is conditional, for better for stay, for worse for astray. It's exactly what Naira Marley meant when he said "she is not your girlfriend, it's just your turn".

For men, its destructive polygamy. For example, traditional polygamy holds such polygamous men to husbandry responsibilities and by law, he has to fulfil legal, parental, and paternal duties to the children/wives. But now, a man may even be married to one, but have unlimited mistress and no responsibility towards them either, basically ejaculate and evacuate, the women are merely a tool.

Although no matter how we mourn about the cesspit romantic marketplace, its as a result of our own doing, and this has been well explained in the doctrines of "the deregulation of the sexual marketplace". Quote me if you want me to write about it, to explain why its a mess. The bad news is that it will only get worse, not better, worse. Its common sense. When you throw away old cultures that works (your parent's relationship is an evidence), then you'll arrive at one that doesn't work.

Relationships by its very definition should be regulated in a societal level, then the individuals participating in it will abide by ordained protocols and traditions that are passed down from past generations who have tested all models and arrived at one that works. Not now where a kid of 13 that is not just naive and naturally inexperienced, is expected to make decisions as lifelong as Relationship, navigating the sea of toxic people all in the name of freedom and liberalism. It has a price, and its called decadence.

pansophist:


In the 21st century, lots of women sees marriage as a permanent vacation to Miami, a place where they go and enjoy themselves till thy kingdom comes. To brag to their single friends, and a place where the merriment of life rains abundantly. Infact the wedding is more important than the marriage, its all glamorous and nice. But marriage is actually not like that.

Marriage is a place where all the self-development you've been building as a single person is put to test. It will test your virtues such as patience, contentment, tolerance, sacrificial abilities, courage, maturity, inner strength, teamwork, hardwork, self-leadership, and compassion, to name a few.

If any of the partners lacks the above, then the one that doesn't lack it will suffer, because when one is dead, they don't know they are a burden to the living. When one lack this immaterial virtues, then they will be a burden to those who have it. For example lots of people become poor because they married a materialistic partner who knows how to spend not make money.

franchasng:
And this relationship and dating problem will only get worst lol



Everyone should just find a way to live happily, be smart.


Before you approach a girl, know your target or mission and stick to it, and strive to achieve your mission.



As a girl, before you accept a guy, know your goal or target and find ways to maneuver to achieve your targer lol.




As a guy, have it in mind that your girlfriend or fiance or wife could cheat or she is cheating or planning to so when it happens you wont be too shocked lol.


As a lady, know that that your financially loaded boyfriend or fiancee or husband is also being admired by other ladies far better than you and anything can happen...but so long as he still treats you like the number one lady in his life, try and ignore some flaws and be happy with life.



Above all, always protect yourself sexually, use a condom or if you are a loaded guy, always take your girls to a reliable lab for test before you chop and even at that, use a condom, always

djon78:



Ah panso panso my wise sage guy. What you just wrote is a summary of this whole topic

The one that doesn't lack these virtues is the one that will suffer, truly

But the question is how will those that have been exposed to this debacle, redeem themselves?

Very many are on these Lane

The5DME:
Write about the topic please.

pansophist:


Can you paraphrase the question? I don't get it clearly. What do you mean by ''debacle''? break it down.

debbydams:
hmmmm... Wish some men can be straight with their intentions,like ' babe let's be hitting ourselves' but instead some men will promise you marriage and waste your time at the end of the day, they will leave, same applies to some ladies

victons:

Okay, come let's be hitting.

Arrowss:
The following are the problems:

1. Most people don't know what love is, thats why you see them use these words; "love is not enough"
2. Most people put out everything for sale or believe everything can be bought with money.
3. Impatience
4. Pride
5. Unsatiability
6. Expects perfectness.
7. Most doesn't believe true love exists, where as, it does.

If you think I don't know what am saying, continue running In a circle.

PreciousBro:
If our holy Bible says; "A woman may take any man as a husband but a man must choose his wife carefully "
Then why do these so called "modern" or woke specie set of women think it's their call to make? Men aren't wired to be chosen, we do the choosing. Many women of today are highly flawed morally, mentally, domestically. They went to school but aren't educated. Only for clout(Especially African Americans, Nigerians), they can't be womanly and be meek at heart. They feel that only rich or wealthy men deserve subservience or Submissiveness. If they can't get a rich guy, they'd rather settle for lapdogs or "simps" for a man as they're called here.

zed7:
Wahala for those wey never marry. Many people are damaged to be honest.

You need to search with a microscope to find a decent partner these days. We still have them but you need to be able to identify them. They may not come in your favourite package.

debbydams:
depending on the level of the lady maturity, a guy once told me 'lets be friends with benefits, I'm not ready for anything serious' I told him I can't do that, if we accidentally meet on the road we talk and go our separate ways, I personally so much appreciate sincereity, if a guy doesn't like to me it won't take up to a month before I find out and the kind of hatred I'll have for him ehn..I don't insult people because they express their feelings but I insult people when I already said I'm not interested and they still disturb me over it again, the kind insult I'll drop ehn.. we all have different personalities.

Kobojunkie:
The Bible said no such!

Pulling God's name of the Bible down in to the muck that is you does not legitimize the hogwash that is the claims you make. Learn to leave God out of it all abeg!

PreciousBro:
Dear OP,

Another thing you have to consider is that, most women don't know the exact way to appeal to the emotions/feelings of men.

They do so in the wrongful way. Despite their so called cerebral achievements in degrees or qualifications they lack the basic knowledge of human interpersonal relationship. Reasonable men get irritated by their showoff of absolute anemia.

Imagine being aloof and expecting some attention at the same time. Good men value their time, yours however, will be wasted with unserious acquaintance.