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Optimistic4life:
Definitely but divorce isn't finalized.

Go back and date ur husband again, then.

Una get wahala

Kobojunkie:
If God is really who you claim to want to please by your choice, then you want to make sure you have the right information to help you on your path. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's New Covenant and Law in the Kingdom of God, what is sin is not what you refer to as sexual immorality- fornication, masturbation, homosexuality etc. - instead sin is the lust in your heart towards another - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 - those fantasies and longings for sex are what constitute sin in the Kingdom of God.

So while you claim you have not physically engaged in what is sexually immoral activities in the 18 months period, that all means nothing when you consider that the sin is that committed in your mind/heart and not the physical activity itself.

Kobojunkie:
If God is really who you claim to want to please by your choice, then you want to make sure you have the right information to help you on your path. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's New Covenant and Law in the Kingdom of God, what is sin is not what you refer to as sexual immorality- fornication, masturbation, homosexuality etc. - instead sin is the lust in your heart towards another - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 - those fantasies and longings for sex are what constitute sin in the Kingdom of God.

So while you claim you have not physically engaged in what is sexually immoral activities in the 18 months period, that all means nothing when you consider that the sin is that committed in your mind/heart and not the physical activity itself.

Not entirely true.

Birds flying over your head and birds perching and building nests on it are two different things. The mind is a battlefield. Thoughts can fly into your mind because of your past exposures and state of spirituality at the moment. Entertaining and dwelling on those thoughts is what constitutes sin not those thoughts themselves.

OP keep fighting those undesirable thoughts. Ask God for grace, let your mind dwell on God's word more and expose yourself more to the things of God. Unfortunately, some places of worship AKA churches may worsen your case. So chose your company wisely.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Lol, kabu kabu Christian. Read your bible you say no. Finally, when you start to fxck, you go fxck to make up for the 18 months lost. Mark my words.

Kill pride....call ur husband....tell him u wanna see him urgently.... he comes , u collect ....thats all....and trust me , he will not reject u , even if he's seeing someone now ....make the move...men love it when women make the first move for sex

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Use Love Machine

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

You can't cheat nature! You must eat the fruit of life to remain sane.

It is not easy my sister. But pray and fast and let God direct you. You have to get male friends and remarry . Let God direct you steps on what to do.

Your feelings are in order and appropriate. Not having the urge could even be a sign of an underlying medical condition. I don't know what to tell you but if you ever get to the point of choosing either masturbation or s.ex with a random or useless person, please choose the former. Your life will be less complicated with the former.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

How old are you?
Open your heart to love again. You might just find a man that will love you again. Get married and get back your life.

Try to stop thinking about sex and get busy.

Optimistic4life:
So the thought of sex coming through my mind has already made me a sinner?

No. Never

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Discover a responsible man and enjoy sex please. You will soon be misbehaving if care is not taken.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Please buy a Love Machine for sustainance okay, since you don't want to do the real one. Conji causes waist pain and mental instability, everything go just dey vex you. Please stop suffering yourself ooo.

Kobojunkie:
According to Jesus Christ Himself, those who continue to accept and obey His very teachings are His followers, and they will know His Truth and it will set them free from bondage to sin - John 8 vs 31 - 32

Hope you are abiding with these scriptures ?

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Though we don't know the full info.
Separation is just to allow both parties calm down and see if there is going to be a reconciliation.

You have done well for 18 months. It's not easy but you could do more until everything is settled.

Keep punishing yourself because you don't want to sin. One day, you will go crazy from deliberately withholding your body from what it needs to function properly.

There is no such word as sin. It's a word created by humans to mentally enslave other humans.

Try dating again, or even getting married.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

If I were in your shoes, I will lure my ex husband and use him just to satisfy my urge. When you are done tell him you need to get up early for work he should excuse you. I am old fashioned, I might not want him and his wahala, but once I have married someone is that person I want to bump uglies with for life.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Any kind of abstinence is not easy, especially sex. I really hate people that say just get busy (as if you’re just lying in bed 24/7) or the ones that tell you to bath cold water. Those hypocrites are some of the biggest wankers.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Just get yourself a seven speed di1do!

demoBaba:
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Who tell you guys say heaven or hell dey self?

Heaven go dey
I'm not sure at all if hell dey
Nigeria I'd already hell fire

Na Mumu go believe Say Full grown woman go go without Sex for A long Period of Time . If you believe her then you know yourself

Bigredmachine:
OP get married again... As e dey hot... If you marry again God no go vex...

Na so finding husband dey easy? Nawa for una o

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

my advice, ....increase your level of activity on all fronts. Idleness can aggravate your mood and and steer you towards sex. Also, engage more in soul winning, praise worship at home. At least, do one hour praise worship daily, increase gradually to two hours. Once your available free time shrinks and your daily achievable targets increases, you can be sure that your heart will focus on these more. Meanwhile, restrict yourself from movies that are of romance and sexual notes. Look for professional courses online to start, so that you can have less time for aimless movies.

ajailer:
Dey put mentholated Robb for there. D urge go reduce….. Na woman tell me dis o

haa! you no try at all... bad advice

Story for the gods..Konji never hook you,that is why you are doing all these quotations.Konji na bastard!!
So,when konji naturally holds person, you don't expect the person to think about someone in peace, abi?? Clap for your self...Konji is a natural phenomenon that cannot be biblically scripted,cos konji does not know the Bible or hear the word of God.when it comes.Even that your so called Daddy Pastor used to lust when they see fine babe siting infront of the pupilt while her legs wide open..You cannot tell nature not to act.Even inanimate objects like negative poles always attract like poles,talk more of humanbeings that have feelings.Except that person is medically impotent,or the feelings have died. As for me, feeling is not bad cos I didn't see any wrong doing on it,but when you choose to go after that your heart,it becomes sin..Konji na bastard.My own wouldn't even allow me to sleep when it comes,at that time I will not struggling with the scriptures.

Kobojunkie:
Again, what is specified as sin by Jesus Christ is the lust in one's heart after a woman. And no, that is not natural given than you are not born lusting in your hearts after women, instead you learn that in time, and so are able to unlearn that too if you chose to discipline yourself in obedience to God.

kepstone:
Lol.. some of us have stayed 3+ decades without sex... U won't die... Self control puts you in control

3 decades, u don't mean it, something I cannot stay without for 1 week.

Watch Divorce by Mount Zion Ministry
Gloria Bamiloye

kepstone:
Lol.. some of us have stayed 3+ decades without sex... U won't die... Self-control puts you in control

How!! 30years!! How! Just almost 1year and I cant even think straight

Optimistic4life:
So the thought of sex coming through my mind has already made me a sinner?

Capital YES