Bigredmachine:
OP get married again... As e dey hot... If you marry again God no go vex...

Is she supposed to go and beg for marriage?

Of course she will marry wen d right suitor comes

AutoChick4U:
Lol, stayed with sex throughout my pregnancy and until my baby clocked a year and 5 months. Practically seduced this son of man but unfortunately d sex aint nothing to write home about. I intend starving my flesh and feeding the spirit from now sha

Dat my friend is gonna backfire on you sooner or later......

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

How old are you?

If you are still in 20 s then it will be difficult for you.

Get a man to start lubricating the hole before algae/Rhizopus will start growing there

jackcanfield:
If your divorce is not finalized go and date your husband again. If it happens fine, you wouldn't feel guilty.

This advice though

godliman:

As good as you admonition might seem, Satan can use it to cause havoc in the OPs life. Yes lust in the heart constitute sin, it is worthy of note however that she is keeping herself from the physical act of immorality (sex, masturbation and porn). It is the step in the right direction. Now she should be encouraged to press further to seeking a pure heart. This will require fasting, prayer, study of God's word and separation from things that ignite sexual lustt, then she should pursue reconciliation with her husband and if her marriage is effectively dead, then she can pray and ask God for another partner.

Bro, the guy is intelligently scriptural but he's a Pharisee

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

get intimacy gadgets , get your old boyfriend and see if things can pick up again, you need to remarry , your hormones need love

udoji2021:


Chai!
who and who will make heaven liedis?

Only those who put their faith in Christ Jesus and His finished works will make heaven.
You won't make heaven because you are a good boy!
You will make it because you believe in Christ Jesus as your Saviour.
For by Grace are ye saved and not by works, lest any man should boast.
It is faith in Christ that makes us righteous according to God's standard and qualifies us for a place in heaven.

Talk to the holyspirit.
Genuinely ask him to help you.
The spirit makes the difference...remember Peter, the same one that denied Jesus and stayed indoor with the rest, afraid to be seen outside after Jesus died. But when the holyspirit came upon him, the same Peter carried the gospel all round till he died preaching the same christ he denounced.

There is a special grace to live holy and it's not gotten by self decision or I must do it by my strength, it is given by the holyspirit. He is waiting for you to reach out for consistent filling of this grace, it is very important that your river never runs dry, you must consistently top up your oil via devotion. You will never think of sex again.

Those of us whose spouses live across continents and never come home so often, we are still alive and living right. Yes it's not easy but with the spirit, it's a different ball game. You won't even remember

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

but why exactly is a reconciliation with your husband not an option?
I think you should swallow your pride and do the right thing. drop all the feminism wokeness and not deprive your kid a happy home! ... Because whether you like it or yes, na your kid go feel am pass.

If your husband is still alive,I will suggest you give him a second chance other given yourself cheaply to a man,who may not appreciate you and might still end the same way the other end....No matter what, you can still forgive and let go of the matter.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

What I intend saying now may sound not so good but its the reality.......You most likely will fall for the first man who seduces you and he'll probably not want to even start a relationship with you, since he's already had sex with you.

My advice is: Remake yourself.....wear clothes, makeup etc, that enhance your physical appearance and that can make men turn heads. (2) Be careful of getting too close with those in your immediate locality. (3) If it gets too tough to handle, masturbate though without any external tools.....your hands alone are fine, but try not to make it a habit. (4) Don't be afraid to send signals to those who you are interested in.....since d priority is sex, try checking his phone somehow......If he has a high number of female contacts and is not a Pastor, CEO or someone who has people below him at work, school etc, he's probably got moves in the bedroom. Check his body type as well....

But I was told that women can stay up to 10yrs without sex. The made us to believe that men love sex more than women. So anytime sex occurs between opposite sex, it's the women that favour the men by allowing men to bleep.

So I am confused that the poster is really on heat. With all these raging hormones of hers,she will still ask for money from the guy who will eventually cure her konji.

Kobojunkie:
If God is really who you claim to want to please by your choice, then you want to make sure you have the right information to help you on your path. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's New Covenant and Law in the Kingdom of God, what is sin is not what you refer to as sexual immorality- fornication, masturbation, homosexuality etc. - instead sin is the lust in your heart towards another - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 - those fantasies and longings for sex are what constitute sin in the Kingdom of God.

So while you claim you have not physically engaged in what is sexually immoral activities in the 18 months period, that all means nothing when you consider that the sin is that committed in your mind/heart and not the physical activity itself.

Cheer nonsense

ChristineC:

but why exactly is a reconciliation with your husband not an option?
I think you should swallow your pride and do the right thing. drop all the feminism wokeness and not deprive your kid a happy home!

Only someone who has gone through divorce will truly understand the reasons for it. Swallowing pride should be done only when you know you did something wrong in the first place

udoji2021:


Na waoh!
so just thinking about a lady is a sin. you can't decieve nature my brother, forget about all those scripturess you are quoting

The time those Bible was written women are still wearing clothes that cover themselves, now just go church on Sunday and see half naked girls everywhere exposing cleavage, see me I don remove hand for that heavenly race I can’t deceive nature my eyes must Dey If I see big breast… mind you anyone reading this is not like I am trying to say you should join me o. I just air my view I nor fit Dey deceive myself again I too spoil for woman matter lol

Engage yourself with things you enjoy doing. Try not to think about sex. Sexual starts from the mind before it materialize in the physical.
Surely there are things you enjoy doing. It will help you to avoid thinking more about sex.
Pray and as well read the Bible more.

Yes it is difficult to kill the urge to have sex if you have been engaging in it before but it is not impossible to do.

Bigredmachine:
OP get married again... As e dey hot... If you marry again God no go vex...

Single women never marry you dey talk gi and marry, Na so dem dey find husband….who wan marry single mother?

Chat me up let’s rub mind together I can be of help

erimmy:
But I was told that women can stay up to 10yrs without sex. The made us to believe that men love sex more than women. So anytime sex occurs between opposite sex, it's the women that favour the men by allowing men to bleep.

So I am confused that the poster is really on heat. With all these raging hormones of hers,she will still ask for money from the guy who will eventually cure her konji.

10yrs without sex? Who d hell said THAT? Women are just as Hot as men, if not more than......... Especially if she's had great sex at a certain point in their lives

Optimistic4life:


This option is definitely not in the picture at all.

He said I am free to remarry if I want but we aren't divorced and also remarrying isn't a day's affair nor a joke.

He must be joking. How can he say you are free to remarry and you haven't officially separated. He must know your faith and is setting you up.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Go back to your husband and beg him to take you back since you are a Godly person. U guys are still married. Except he has remarried.

But seriously if not that u are a Godly person sex should be your least problem with young men all over the place who will even pay to knack you

goodjack:
Engage yourself with things you enjoy doing. Try not to think about sex. Sexual starts from the mind before it materialize in the physical.
Surely there are things you enjoy doing. It will help you to avoid thinking more about sex.
Pray and as well read the Bible more.

Says the guy who's most likely no longer a virgin

From the look of things , you need your husband.. why not return to him for reconciliation.. if you didn't know what you will miss before now you have known. No conflict is beyond reconciliation.. Even men outside now aren't ready for marriage , they only want to satisfy their carnal lust .. Sex is an emotional food once sexual life is activated that is why you are hungry for it.. it is the way God designed it and truly he will make a way for you

Optimistic4life:


This option is definitely not in the picture at all.

He said I am free to remarry if I want but we aren't divorced and also remarrying isn't a day's affair nor a joke.

Why did you both separate?

tivhador:


Only someone who has gone through divorce will truly understand the reasons for it. Swallowing pride should be done only when you know you did something wrong in the first place

for a marriage that's so young, what can cause an irreconcilable difference in their home? I can't think of non.
did the man kill somebody?
everybody cannot be right at the same time, and from her write up the couple is in talking terms which signifies that it's not a violent separation.
it's her prerogative though, but what I'm saying is that her kid will bear the most burn of this ego show.
where's the guarantee that whoever she's going to hitch for copulations is better than the husband? remember that kid is even female, there are monsters out there no matter how nice they appear.
make she carry am for mind.

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

You're a strong woman. God will help you!
I don't know the cause of your separation from your marriage but my prayer for you is that God (with whom all things are possible) will restore that broken marriage and make it whole again in Jesus Name.

Kobojunkie:
If God is really who you claim to want to please by your choice, then you want to make sure you have the right information to help you on your path. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's New Covenant and Law in the Kingdom of God, what is sin is not what you refer to as sexual immorality- fornication, masturbation, homosexuality etc. - instead sin is the lust in your heart towards another - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 - those fantasies and longings for sex are what constitute sin in the Kingdom of God.

So while you claim you have not physically engaged in what is sexually immoral activities in the 18 months period, that all means nothing when you consider that the sin is that committed in your mind/heart and not the physical activity itself.

It's how one reacts to the thought when it come to your mind that matters.

My dear sister thank you for your sincerely and your desire to be faithful to God. Keep it up and God will settle you soon, I cope with staying focus on what I am doing, sometimes I occupy my self with studying the word of God and reading spiritual books.

The feeling will keep on coming from time to time but all you need do is to keep on working on your goals to make Heaven and also asking to God to help you.

Please feeling sexy is not a sin, it is what you do when the feeling comes that matter. Every human being feel it from time to time, it is just like hunger, thirst etc, God gave each of us self control to be able to handle it but some of us are not just discipline to make use of the grace of God upon us.

Keep trying, keep focus, you are not alone. May the Holy Spirit continue to help you. I am proud of you.

ajailer:
Dey put mentholated Robb for there. D urge go reduce….. Na woman tell me dis o

You're a comic

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

First of all, do not mind those asking you to marry. Do not marry JUST because you want to meet your sexual needs. There is more to marriage than sex. There is compromise (loads of it), slavery (even if you don't agree), and all. And there is no guarantee that your sexual needs will even be met.

Second, decide the source of these sudden sexual desire. I mean you have abstained for 18 months (almost 2 years), and suddenly the desires have come and are strong. There must be a SOURCE.

Perhaps, you have recently read or seen an arousing post/image on social media or television. Perhaps, a sexually attractive man just moved in next door to you. Perhaps, you feel something is missing in your life, and you believe it is sex.

Look for the source, and address it.

We are in a sex-driven world and we are constantly bombarded (without consent) with images of shapely women and handsome men, so this is a popular source. Use social media responsibly. Avoid pornography, avoid sexuality posts, change environment if you must.

Since you are doing this morally, due to your fear of God, it is going to take a lot of effort. There is no shortcut if you must please God.

I have been celibate for over 5 years, no masturbation, no kissing, nothing. And I have found it extremely easy. There was a period when I evangelized in the Sexuality subsection of Nairaland, and was constantly met with images of naked women, but I stood firm, and did the work of my Lord with fear, and no compromises.

So ultimately, a true fear of God is a shield against sexual temptations.

But before I post this, I should also let you know that our minds are a manifestation of God, especially when we think good thoughts. So, this sexual urges may be God's plan to mend your former relationship. So, explore that angle, as well.

But don't ever make the mistake of showing your desperation. There are men out who can spot a desperate woman, and who would gladly mess you up, and leave you in a worse state than they met you.

PARTING SHOT: It is natural to feel sexual urges even as a celibate. We are after all, humans, not God. But we must always know what we want. What do you want? Sex? Orgasm? When you decide, you will know how to deal with it.

It’s your natural body urges and needs as an adult female. Get yourself a vibrator dear.

nike4love:
Madam go back n build ur home with your husband....
God hates divorce.....

You are a darling