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Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by shalomm: 9:51am On Mar 25, 2022 |
agabaI23:Agreed. But I read the post and she never mentioned marital infedilty as a cause of the divorce. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by AABBIIMM(m): 9:53am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Someone needs an encouragement and you're here proving a point. How does this encourages her, have you now offered a solution to her or you have raise the dust the more? Well, woman they that wait on the Lord shall renew their strength. And I pray that God's grace will be your strength in this time. 2 Likes |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by shaibu123: 9:53am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Call your husband and settle your issues with him, if you claim that you are a child of God. Divorce is not an option. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by kemma002(f): 9:54am On Mar 25, 2022 |
From experience honestly it's not easy,but keep pushing and get yourself busy with work and all.you'll be fine by God's grace. 2 Likes |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by josephft2000: 9:54am On Mar 25, 2022 |
YOU'RE JUST PUNISHING YOURSELF FOR NOTHING SAKE. WHEN YOU'RE HOT, LET A SELECTED GUY BLAST THE HELL OUT OF YOUR PUSSY - NOT A SIN |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by VEHINTOLAR: 9:56am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Oyelekevictor: I'm not even a christian ! How about that ? |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by AABBIIMM(m): 9:56am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:Don't mind him jare. The devil can give a thought through a person's mind, does that means the person has sinned? Especially, when the thought is rebuked by God's Word. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Hungerbadoo: 9:58am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:Read your signature out loud then thank me later |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by ajayiopy: 9:58am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:MADAM, WE ALL FACE CHALLENGES IN OUR MARRIAGES DAILY. LET ME SHARE WITH YOU MY OWN EXPERIENCE: I GOT MARRIED IN 2010 AND MY WIFE WAS A BEST WOMAN FOR ME THEN BUT IMMEDIATELY WE GOT MARRIED I NOTICED SO MANY NEGATIVE CHANGES WHICH I TRIED TO CORRECT BUT NO WAY. I MANAGED THE SITUATION FOR TWO YEARS AND WHEN I COULD NOT,I CALLED HER MOTHER AND NARRATED THE WHOLE STUFF.I ACTUALLY WANTED HER TO PUT HER IN ORDER BUT WHAT I GOT WAS CONTRARY AND I HAD TO APOLOGIZED TO MY MOTHER IN LAW FOR PEACE TO REIGN AND FOR THE SAKE OF MY LITTLE DAUGHTER. I WAS SO SURE THAT I CAN NEVER DIVORCE AND THE MATTER ON GROUND HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH INFIDELITY BUT INSOBURDINATION AND ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY. THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS THAT AM A FIGHTER BY DEFAULT BUT NOT PHYSICAL, SO I DECIDED TO ACTIVATE SILENT MODE JUST LOOKING AT EVERYONE AND COMMITTED TO MY LIFE,ENGAGE 24 HOURS,EXPLORE SO MANY BUSINESS OPPORTUNITIES WHICH ARE HELPING ME TODAY. I REALISED THAT MY WIFE WAS COMMUNICATING WITH HER PARENTS AND THAT GAVE HER ANOTHER BOOSTER TO BE MORE DISRESPECTFUL UNTIL ONE DAY HER MOTHER ASKED HER IF AM STILL HAVING SEX WITH HER AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF THE FAMILY AND SHE SAID YES,AT THAT POINTS THEY WERE ALL DISAPPONTED BECAUSE THEY WERE EXPECTING TO COME BACK AND BEG. WHEN THE ISSUE WAS TOO MUCH TO BEAR I REQUESTED FOR TRANSFER IN MY PLACE OF WORK TO THE NORTH EAST AND I WAS GRANTED WITH HUGE TRANSFER AND HAZARD ALLOWANCES. SAME WEEK I LEFT MY WIFE EVERYBODY FELL SICK IN MY HOUSE INCLUDING CHILDREN,COOK AND GATEMAN . I WAS CALLED AND I TOLD THEM THAT THE BEST I CAN DO IS TO SEND A DOCTOR TO ATTEND TO THE SITUATION,LONG STORY SHORT MY WIFE SPENT 3-WEEKS IN HOSPITAL AND AFTER SHE WAS DISCHARGED,SHE CONFESSED TO ME THAT IT IS OBVIOUS THAT THEY CANT LIVE WITHOUT ME,I JUST LAUGHED. MADAM, LET ME TELL YOU THE HONEST TRUTH, YOUR HUSBAND IS FEELING THE THING YOU ARE FELLING . FIND A WAY TO RECONNECT BACK TO HIM THROUGH YOUR CHILDREN. DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION IN YOUR CASE. NO MATTER HOW DIFFICULT A MAN IS,THERE IS STILL SOMEONE IN THAT FAMILY THAT HE LISTENS TO. SWALLOW YOUR PRIDE,RE-WRITE YOUR STORY,DISSOCIATE YOURSELF FROM ALL THESE FEMINISTS AND YOU WILL SEE POSITIVE CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE. THE TRUTH IS THAT BOTH OF YOU NEED EACH OTHER. BY THE TIME YOU GET BACK TO YOUR HUSBAND YOU WILL HEAR HIS OWN SIDE OF STORY TO VALIDATE MY POINT. IN CONCLUSION,YOUR CASE IS REDEEMABLE IF AND ONLY IF YOU CAN FORGIVE . 3 Likes |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by akanke79: 10:00am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:Dont mind them,it is natural to feel like having sx when you are young,only fornication is a no no,Try to heal before you date again so you dont make the same mistake you made with your husband. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by dba18: 10:00am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: Let me help you out here the best way I can & out of experience & also counselling to others, but before then I have seen people reply you with all sorts, one even said “oh since you have sexual thoughts you have sinned, please don’t pay attention to all that. It’s a good thing that you have chosen to accept Christ as your lord & saviour so allow me to congratulate you into the new life, the Bible tells us that he who is born again is now a new person & all old things of sinned in them is passed away (meaning you are free from sin because you have accepted Jesus as your lord & saviour & accepted the price he paid to save you). The issue you are dealing with is a normal everyday issue christain unmarried deal with & you are dealing with it because the enemy knows it’s the only door he can access now to hold you back from fully being the new person that you are, his strategy is to get you to sin sexually & use the guilt to torment you, so how do you fight it? By Simply understanding that sex first of all is not a bad thing, it’s a gift from God designed for man & woman to enjoy in the Union of marriage & it has a lot of benefits. Now to fight this urge or the hormones, you need both logic & the Holy Spirit. LOGIC: Get your self away from anything (activity such as movies, other forms of visuals, music etc that can arouse your body) & try as much as possible to stay away from people who you can easily give into to & try also as much as you can to get engaged with something constructive that you can mentally fully commit to e.g start a a course online, study for something that will develop you to make money legally, read books on self development & enterprise). Don’t forget the saying that an idle mind… THE HOLY SPIRIT strategy: Meditate & ask the holy spiritual to help you, while at it use the Bible & messages online to gain as much knowledge as possible on what the Bible says about your body being the temple of God & the habitation of the Holy Spirit, then begin to think of the capacity of God & how special your body is that he choose it (you will see the importance of sanctifying your body & keeping it holy) & unconsciously the holy spiritual will begin to dominate your thoughts, secondly pray to God to help you find the right man to settle with because the Bible says He or She who can not hold themselves back sexually should marry. I hope this helps. Please free to further engage me. I am here to support. God bless you & know that you have the power to win always. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Nobody: 10:02am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Konji na bastard! |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Skyehigher1: 10:03am On Mar 25, 2022 |
You divorce your husband and is not a sins from God,, my friend divorce is a sin go and reconcile with your husband and bow and respect your husband and have happy home |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by HardMirror(m): 10:03am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:religion religion religion. There is nothing like sin, god or hell. Billions of people are having sex daily, it is natural. You only need to live life responsibly not cos of sin but to get the best out of choices you make |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by sgtponzihater1(m): 10:04am On Mar 25, 2022 |
It's not easy at all. Mine is nearly 3months and it's pretty tough, especially if you are still young or middle aged. Probably occupy your mind with other things, this will be difficult, but this is my current strategy. or find relationship again. There are other separated men too who would need company, No harm finding love again. PonziHater |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Nobody: 10:04am On Mar 25, 2022 |
You have to lower your standards and expectations dear, the dating pool is in a mess right now and it's harder for single mum's or women above 30 to get hitched, FACT. my advice to you is to be welcoming to any man that comes and try to make those friendships and live your life and hopefully something meaningful could blossom from it, no right thinking man with high standard will knowingly want to date a single mum and a woman above 30. The choice to your happiness is in your hands right now before depression sets in. 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Justice4Toto: 10:04am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: My dear pls send Ur address to me We are in the same situation. Let's talk |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by cejaypriesty(m): 10:05am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Buskynwa:Chai! Who did this to you ?? |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by GARBOFRANK: 10:05am On Mar 25, 2022 |
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Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by cejaypriesty(m): 10:07am On Mar 25, 2022 |
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Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by uchmannn(m): 10:08am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Engaged urself and free ur mind from any sex related contents. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by mokt(m): 10:08am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: Inbox me your number, lemme tell you something |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by jamesversion: 10:08am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:This is a non issue. I'm available to help you free of charge. Just feed me eba and good soup after expending my energy to satisfy you. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by yeshuasfootstep(m): 10:08am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Knowledge is what you need, accurate knowledge and not just any knowledge to help you deal with any situation, praying for God's lead also works. Don't commit suicide because of advices you are getting here on what is sin and what is not. Just immerse yourself in seeking for accurate knowledge and you won't even wander off to such thoughts. Your situation is even better, mine is separation for close to six years now and I don't even have time to think of immorality because I immersed myself in studies and researches and the result is that no man on earth can fool me especially as it concerns religion, socioeconomic life and so on. Most importantly, I have the opportunity to upgrade my self and line up many skills as side hustles. So don't give up. Do meaningful things and focus on then and you'll not even notice that time is passing. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Killermamba: 10:09am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:righteousness over to you bros |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Nobody: 10:10am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: what stops u from getting a toy? hope not fear of GOD... shalom!! dont stress urself, its easier for ladies now especially single mums, distract yourselves with your kids during d day and finish d day with a toy. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Rotji(m): 10:11am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: Please do not let anyone confuse you, God created all the desires we have. But the desires are meant to be fulfilled the right way, Jesus was discouraging us not to be into lust that is why He gave that admonition because when you get addicted to something it becomes bad even if ti was meant to be good before. How can someone say that physically committing fornication is not a sin but lusting in ones heart is sin what kind of twisted gospel is that huh It's natural to have feelings, but when not married the Holy Spirit is there to convict and guide you when you are getting out of hand. When you begin to fester too much on your affections, it will lead you to commit what you are not supposed to. You are crying out because it's beginning to disturb you which is born out the Holy Spirit reminding you to re-channel your energy to other profitable ventures. 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by phemmyflexxy(m): 10:12am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Get married again if you can, I won't advice you to engage in random sex but know this today " Fibroid visits between 3 to 5 years of sexual starvation" Optimistic4life: 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by ChristineC: 10:13am On Mar 25, 2022 |
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Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Lepon02: 10:13am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: Eeeyah! |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Lepon02: 10:14am On Mar 25, 2022 |
mokt: Olofo ni e! |
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