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Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by obailala(m): 9:27am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:For your sanity, do not listen to whatever Kobojunkie tells you. Some persons just have a bizarre way of interpreting the bible to make you and everyone else feel bad about themselves, by postulating impossible/impractical things. The fact that you crave 'touch' simply means you are a human with a functional body; God created you that way and it is not a sin to be human. What the bible says about lusting in your heart is largely misconstrued and twisted by fear mongering preachers who make you feel heaven is impossible. The desire for sex is not a sin, especially if you on your own accord, restrained yourself from indulging. It can only be counted as a sin if after thinking about it, you actually intended to go ahead but probably couldn't fulfil the desires because of external factors (e.g. like lack of access to the other sexual partner etc.); in this case, it is counted against you that you've already committed the act in your mind. But if on your own accord you declined to give in to the urges/temptation, then it is no sin. I wish you the very best in your decision to be chaste. Since you do it for God, His grace would help you achieve your desires. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by SugarGirl44(f): 9:28am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Sltp: I wonder o. How can God create an act and doing the act is also a sin? Who do Nigerians this thing no try at all. The mental colonization no be here. It's so bad that most Nigerian women don't cum or squirt because they have sex like they're in bondage, no freedom whatsoever. Tueh. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Nobody: 9:29am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Why did you leave your husband? Are you creating a better future for your child? Stop complaining since you told the world that you can live without man. Man up! |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by FireUpNow(m): 9:29am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Bigredmachine:She is not divorced yet so she cannot have sex now. I will suggest she go back to her man and settle the differences to come togey again |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by godliman: 9:33am On Mar 25, 2022 |
SugarGirl44:Op pls avoid this counsel, it is satanic 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by koolib(m): 9:34am On Mar 25, 2022 |
If the differences between you and your husband are irreconcilable, try fasting (Islamic point of view) and get busy (my personal remedy) 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Ralph2211(m): 9:34am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Bro, what the lady need right now is the solution to her challenges and not your condemnation. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by LastProphet: 9:34am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: So madam OP you are already on your way to hell according to this scripture, sorry God doesn't seem to understand your pain his only preoccupation according to this shortsighted poster, is to throw you into hell for even considering sin. Hahahaha. Very dumb people everywhere nowadays. Instead of asking yourself why are the hormones raging? Who put them there, you? You want to pls the creator by abstaining from sex that you didn't force yourself to crave? The same creator put the cravings there but you want to pls that creator by suffering to subdue it? Anyway you will eventually get sense |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by titusmichael27(m): 9:35am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:I understand the angle you're coming from but it's impossible to live without impure thought. She has been in it for quite some time and her body has been conditioned to those things. She need a therapist. She's trying to be careful. Bad habits are so easy to start but later on, it becomes so difficult if not impossible to stop. At this point I'll say the situation is delicate. My advice to you is to allow yourself to be loved, get acquainted with people. Always , always pray about it. God loves you so much and He knows you personally, I'm sure a good man is on his way. Don't give up please, just hold on a little bit. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by profito: 9:37am On Mar 25, 2022 |
My dear beloved sister, you are doing well... My honest advice for you is that you should marry your GOD, simple! |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by emkz: 9:37am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Have sex. But... Stay away from work colleagues, church members and your neighbourhood. Sex is a need for a mature body. Do not suppress it. Suppressing it can disturb your psychological state. There was a time I indulged, and felt guilty. Then I stopped. In retrospect, I realize I wasn't ready. I suggest you prepare yourself psychologically for it. Go for it. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by SugarGirl44(f): 9:38am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by ejieddy: 9:39am On Mar 25, 2022 |
There's a point where the urge might come, but it won't remain to the point where it becomes a distraction. If it's becoming a distraction, then it means you are feeding it or you're being fed by something... That's called lust. See...Jas 1:14 KJV But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Jas 1:14 EasyEnglish It is our own thoughts that tempt us sometimes. And then we want to do wrong things. We want what is bad. And that causes us to do wrong things. When you feed your thoughts right, you won't bear the fruit of sin. It's called GIGO (Garbage in, garbage out). So these are my questions? Are you genuinely bornagain? Do you love Jesus? If Yes, then how is your prayer life? Not prayer time o, but prayer life? Do you study the word of God for your life? Do you seek to improve daily and have a closer walk with Jesus? Is your study genuine and meaningful that brings you to brokenness before God daily? Do you have godly friends and ministers whom you report to? Are you a disciple? Plenty questions right... . But those are the realities in the fight to stay pure. Our generation is immorality filled and you must be ready for a fight to stay pure. If you are spending too much time on social media, movies or things to pass time which doesn't enhance your walk with God, please reduce that time. Also, is there a man or guy you are lusting after by reason of you people being close? Please stay away. And please, if you need to finalize your divorce quickly, maybe you do even if i don't subscribe to divorce. I'm sure you have your reasons. 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by mogxy: 9:39am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life:am willing to solve your problem.come marry me cos am still single. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by babajeje123(m): 9:39am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Like He gave you dominion not be hungry and stay for months without food |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by kalajina(m): 9:40am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Have ever been hungry but younarebwatchimgba movie that is interesting do you realise that the movie has the capacity to ataje away your attention from the hunger. Keep your mind on other things then you would Find it difficult to think about sex. Thank you |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by jimmynauty: 9:40am On Mar 25, 2022 |
eno easi for woman..man na another thing |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Rawtruth1: 9:42am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Follow peace with all men and holiness... Heb 22:14 go and make peace with your husband. Forget ungodly advice and counselings from ungodly people. The grass always looks greener in the other side of the fence but it's all mirage Optimistic4life: |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by JoyousFurnitire(m): 9:42am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Johnboom: I don't think going back is the job (even though she should be willing to) of the woman but that of man. I'm sure Jesus mentioned that whoever divorced his wife (for reasons which the woman didn't cause) made her an adulterer. Just exactly like the case of the OP. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by timefarm(m): 9:43am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Just keep quiet and stop misquoting scriptures up and down. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by OnyeOgboni: 9:43am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Pls I have a question..why avoid sex?what is wrong with having sex? |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by profito: 9:43am On Mar 25, 2022 |
AGAIN, MY ADVICE TO YOU IS THAT YOU SHOLUD DO WELL TO MARRY YOUR GOD! |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by BigYash: 9:44am On Mar 25, 2022 |
And them go say the gender no like sex.. Abeg e. Op buy tools .. Person here say you fit use hawk beak that day,if to buy tools na sin too.. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by VEHINTOLAR: 9:45am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: To start with,I sincerely commend your efforts so far. Sincerely speaking,it's not easy to hold it down for good eighteen months ! It can only be done by a God fearing person who is very determined to come clean before her creator. Having said that,I must tell you however that the only solution there is to your situation is to remarry if there is no way of reconciling with your Ex husband. You will eventually give in to the hormonal pressure if you do not take a step to either remarry or reconcile with your Ex. I think you need to consider remarriage since you said there is no way of getting back together with your Ex husband. As you may know,you can't get sexually involved with any other man except you're married to such man;God frowns seriously against fornication and adultery. You need the holy spirit now more than ever to be able to overcome the pressure. You therefore,need constant prayer,fasting and reading of the holy scriptures to handle your situation. I wish you all the very best my sister. 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Rawtruth1: 9:45am On Mar 25, 2022 |
If you are in Deeper life church, you wouldn't have these unholy feelings because you would be taught on how to mortify the flesh through sanctification and holiness. By the way, you wouldn't have contemplated separation or divorce in the first place. 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Oyelekevictor(m): 9:46am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Definitely but divorce isn't finalized. Divorce isn't a plan. If God is truly who you want to please. Have you forgotten where it reads in your Bible that God is against divorce? Don't commit a bigger sin cause you are running away from a small one. Here is my advice, It's either you remain as you are( which is difficult for a natural human) Or you see how to return to your husband. |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Nauttyprof(m): 9:47am On Mar 25, 2022 |
What will young widow say? Who have spent 20 years without sex. I think this sex thing have affected many younger generations now and has led to many homes destroyed because they engaged in it at a very young age and with several people. Back to the issue, if widows can abstain completely from sex, you can do this too. 1 Like |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Akinpresident: 9:47am On Mar 25, 2022 |
Optimistic4life: Why don't you meet him and ask him to do you without any strings attached since you guys aren't divorced totally? |
Re: Surviving Without Sex As A Single Mum... It's So Difficult by Oyelekevictor(m): 9:49am On Mar 25, 2022 |
quote author=VEHINTOLAR post=111349315] To start with,I sincerely commend your efforts so far. Sincerely speaking,it's not easy to hold it down for good eighteen months ! It can only be done by a God fearing person who is very determined to come clean before her creator. Having said that,I must tell you however that the only solution there is to your situation is to remarry if there is no way of reconciling with your Ex husband. You will eventually give in to the hormonal pressure if you do not take a step to either remarry or reconcile with your Ex. I think you need to consider remarriage since you said there is no way of getting back together with your Ex husband. As you may know,you can't get sexually involved with any other man except you're married to such man;God frowns seriously against fornication and adultery. You need the holy spirit now more than ever to be able to overcome the pressure. You therefore,need constant prayer,fasting and reading of the holy scriptures to handle your situation. I wish you all the very best my sister. What does your Bible say about divorce,and remarriage] |
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