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Truvelisback:
Mehn! What a life! And to even find a financially supportive lady is damn hard. The other day, a guy said in his thread here that, the moment he told a lady he was wooing online that he was a School teacher, the lady blocked him immediately.

It's normal thing. Ever since I traveled abroad ladies having chasing me up n down despite my wugly look. Lol. That's to tell you ladies are the main Yahoo yahoo looking for maga that will pay In exchange of pussy

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Why are guys losing interest in settling down?

Guys are not really losing interest in getting married, but the dead Nigerian economy caused by these APC President and co from hell fire have made it scary for guys to desire to settle down for fear of financial obligations.




Nigeria's dying economy is the number one factor discouraging and stopping guys from settling down as at when due.



How do you expect an unemployed youth or underemployed young man struggling to pay his house rent, transport himself to work, feed healthily desire to now carry extra load in the name of marriage, how will he even pay the wife's dowry?

vickydevoka:
I think there are scared of ladies n their wahala. Same lady who told you we will manage, dat you two will bring in something will frustrate u till de point of divorcing her

Frustrate you in what way?? They say they wil bring and then when you marry them they won't bring??

DryMouth:
But na the truth na.

Plus those smallies dey even sweet pass those "our fiancees"

bad guy

Truvelisback:
Do u want to hear the truth? Take it or Leave it, Money makes u a big catch to ladies. Gone are the days ladies go after who they love. In most cases, Once a lady says she loves a particular guy or She has feelings for a particular guy, it's likely that the guy's is loaded or she has discovered that the guy is loaded. A lady may ignore, tolerate or endure the red flags in a guy as long as the guy is loaded.

What most ladies do is that the will marry who has money n de will get pregnant for whom de want( mostly tall handsome guy). No DNA don cast their matter. Example is de case of Edu wazobia

phemmyfour:
That's where planning comes in. Let her know that she LL be supporting financially before you take her to altar. 60-40/70-30/50-50

Depending on what you guys earn and agreement.

True but Most of these ladies are avoiding this. Most of these ladies aim is to marry a man who would carry almost all the family's responsibilities on his head while they sit at home and watch African magic and zeeworld, eat, grow fat, and produce children.

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Why are guys losing interest in settling down?

Probably, because today's women have turned themselves to liabilities instead of assets.

MadamVanessa:



There's nothing in marriage. Lately, our women have been doing as if their survival is tied down to marriage or if you don't marry, you're a failure. Stupid mindset. Have your baby or babies with a man then live your life independently. It's foolishness to live under a detect of a man.

If you can't deal with sexual urge, there's no harm in having sex gadgets of all type and satisfy yourself if need arises or you look for one hot hansom guy that is matured and use as sex slave.

Bleep marriage

I checked your profile picture.And I started to pity you based on the numerous DMs you'd have received from hungry men.
I won't be surprised if the DMs keep coming everyday.

Uncle96:
To be honest , marriage is so overrated

I dey with you bro

Because what they suppose to enjoy when they settle down is being enjoyed when they have not settled down. It isn't new to them anymore. So there is nothing special in marriage. Baby mamas are plenty in towns...

SenatePresdo:
So you mean taking care of another grown ass adult is a responsibility?

Some disvirgined girl that has been fuked by numerous guys (virginity used to be an incentive for guys to be sole providers).....and fully grown girls were no wan work..... the age of men carrying all financial responsibilities is over...

Why should I be responsible for a lazy used up woman??

Rubyjade:
They don't want to be responsible.

Lol... When guys don't want to settle down, they're said to be losing interest. When a ladies don't want to settle down, they're simply olosho. In both cases, only one gender takes the blame as usual. Many will say they're fleeing from liabilities (a convenient term for 'responsibilities') but our fathers still got married even when women weren't even expected to do anything other than take care of the home. So what excuse does this generation have?

The truth is, regardless of the term we use to refer to it, people are beginning to realize that marriage, as beautiful as it is, is not necessarily a do-or-die affair like society paints it. It could be argued to be some sort of irresponsibility but even that would be debatable. This change isn't gender specific. It might be more apparent with men cause they seem to have the financial power and the ability to easily pull that off without judgement. But some women would rather be baby mamas too

How is being married "responsible"?

Simply because the mission for marriage has already been accomplished.
Thy olredy have a child or children, sex is always available.

Because guys can now get everything without getting married and even more . Its also easier if you are rich .

1. The economy is biting hard on men who bear the greater financial burden in marriage.

2. Most ladies out there are not different from commercial prostitutes.

3. Most ladies lacks understanding of marriage. they see it as where only the man spends while the woman who doesn't support in any way financially, rather makes outrageous demands that is unhealthy to the man's investment. No wonder most partnership businesses go into liquidation once the owners marry.

4. Why marry when alternatively a side chick can easily and affordably provide you what a wife can give and even have a child for you without much emotional stress.

franchasng:
Guys are not really losing interest in getting married, but the dead Nigerian economy caused by these APC President and co from hell fire have made it scary for guys to desire to settle down for fear of financial obligations.




Nigeria's dying economy is the number one factor discouraging and stopping guys from settling down as at when due.



How do you expect an unemployed youth or underemployed young man struggling to pay his house rent, transport himself to work, feed healthily desire to now carry extra load in the name of marriage, how will he even pay the wife's dowry?

Ur points are valid. Two heads are better than one. Meaning that, marriage can still work out if u find a lady who is willing to be an helpmate. Unfortunately, nowadays ladies don't want to be an helpmate to a struggling man or an under employed man but wants to be a Chopmate to an already made man. In the past, it wasn't this way.

holicupp:
The best age for a man to marry is 50+, when you are done enjoying yourself

Lol.. Your own no good o

MadamVanessa:



There's nothing in marriage. Lately, our women have been doing as if their survival is tied down to marriage or if you don't marry, you're a failure. Stupid mindset. Have your baby or babies with a man then live your life independently. It's foolishness to live under a detect of a man.

If you can't deal with sexual urge, there's no harm in having sex gadgets of all type and satisfy yourself if need arises or you look for one hot hansom guy that is matured and use as sex slave.

Bleep marriage

I don't agree with you. I feel there is more to marriage than sex. We all need companionship, no man or woman can survive in isolation. That one or two or large number of people attempted marriage and failed does not mean, it is the marriage that is that bad, but the persons involved. If two people involved in marriage are really determined to make it work it can work. Even children need their father and mother inputs, staying together in peace to have balanced growth

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Why are guys losing interest in settling down?

Nigeria girls are becoming more liability day by day

vickydevoka:
It's normal thing. Ever since I traveled abroad ladies having chasing me up n down despite my wugly look. Lol. That's to tell you ladies are the main Yahoo yahoo looking for maga that will pay In exchange of pussy

Lol.

There is one beautiful demsel I love so much.. my plan was to marry this girl. This girl reject my proposal. I now ask myself? Apart from sex what will she bring to the table.. alot of things start revealing to me. I have to go church and give thanks giving

I have met a girl and ask her what can u bring to the table. She told me spirituality and prayer.. liabilities are too much now

Most don’t like stress!!!

phemmyfour:
That's where planning comes in. Let her know that she LL be supporting financially before you take her to altar. 60-40/70-30/50-50

Depending on what you guys earn and agreement.

U are still assuming that such agreement holds any water. And what will you do when she starts slipping on the "agreed percentages"

Ask your married buddies how it's going.

@Animegirl, that's an easy equation. It's easy enough to back that kind of horse. But I think it has more to do with a kaleidoscope of issues: economic downturn,long years of education,and perhaps,the irresponsible sense of entitlement women hold on to. If you stack all these things together,you'll see that it's not because they are lazy or irresponsible.

knowhowk:
. Not Poverty ...Men are Wiser ,There are several Well to do guy that Prefers to be Single Father ..Davido ,Whizkid are Wiser ..Moreso Women should go and work for their Money and stop Looking unto men as ATM

# Na still poverty my brother . See as you d Compare yourself with dem Davido and co. una no dey d same level na neither are they single fathers as long as other women birthed children for them. Wedding is only a formality if only you guys will understand that you can't cowardly run away for ever from your responsibility.

Bro na too much of broke guys wey dey country no make una settle down.

WoundedLamb:
Lol... When guys don't want to settle down, they're said to be losing interest. When a ladies don't want to settle down, they're simply olosho. In both cases, only one gender takes the blame as usual. Many will say they're fleeing from liabilities (a convenient term for 'responsibilities') but our fathers still got married even when women weren't even expected to do anything other than take care of the home. So what excuse does this generation have?

The truth is, regardless of the term we use to refer to it, people are beginning to realize that marriage, as beautiful as it is, is not necessarily a do-or-die affair like society paints it. It could be argued to be some sort of irresponsibility but even that would be debatable. This change isn't gender specific. It might be more apparent with men cause we seem to have the financial power and the ability to easily pull that off without judgement. But some women would rather be baby mamas too.

1. Why should I be responsible for a used up old hag who does not want to work

zanshi:
A lot of men grew up not having female attention, so even as they grow older the knack to be succesfull and make something for themsleves financially is almost more rewarding than a relationship

Most relationship are too transactonal (ie. What are you going to give me so as to get my attention)

It's too expensive, every girl out there wants something shoe, phone, impromtu favours and all these are financied by $$$, as a man you are put in a demasculating position if you don't grant these favours to these women are the snap of a finger, and when you decide to weigh the options, such financial resources channelled into such wasteful expeditions.

Most women are boring, if you pay attention to men or you are fortunate to be in men's spaces, we like to talk about different things that affect us an society, a Nigerian woman on the other hand would only engage you only if she likes you, and only if she likes the topic being discussed. if you observe with keen intrest at how much relationships takes shape, it starts with a simple "Hi and Hello" but most modern day women want to fall in love with you at once and don't want to invest in a relationship.

A lot of women lack the ability to be able to pair bond with a man becuase they have an abundance mindset that the men would chase them forever and even when they have a stable relationshp, they would still have one eye and one eye out as if there is always something better out there. Truth is that there is always someone who would be richer, better and prettier than our current partner, but commitment is key.

Men too have standards: A lot of women growing up told us we were broke and worthless as to why we can't talk to them. Few years later the men have built themsleves and now have standard on not wanting to be with poor women. Today's high value men dont want women who just only bring beauty to the table, men now want women who can work pay their own bill and be financially stable. On clubhouse i have heard a situation where a Nigerian bloke in the diaspora said he can't be with a woman in the diaspora who made $50k not because of the money but the mindset.


Pornography: More and more men are watching porn and masturbating more and men who do that don't have this urge to flirt with women like that....

LGBT has also take it's fair share from both sexes on men who should in a stable romantic relationship.


A lot us men grew up with faulty idelogies that just told us make the money and the girls would flock around you, while i very much fault this mentality, it make it looks as if you are buying someone for the sake of the money which kills the purpose of romance.

A lot of us don't know how to date, we were never just thought how to.

Mainstream media is not real life, the Meida would try to project this happily ever after always happy no fault type of relationship which means anything outside the confines of that is bad and toxic. People are almost not allowed to bicker over things in their relationship with the hope to iron it out, your female friends would glee and cheer you up to jilt and kill your realtionship But the truth is real relationship requires lots of forgivness.

The economy: Having a two parent hosuehold in todays world cost a lot of $$$ and the women want to rescind to the old world order where they sat home looking pretty while the men went out and brought home the bacon.

NICE TALK SPOKEN EXTREMELY WELL

Animegirl:
Because they're lazy, don't want more responsibilities.

You're not that important to begin with.

laxetude:
U are still assuming that such agreement holds any water. And what will you do when she starts slipping on the "agreed percentages"

Ask your married buddies how it's going.

When she starts slipping on the agreed percentages then send her packing....

zanshi:
A lot of men grew up not having female attention, so even as they grow older the knack to be succesfull and make something for themsleves financially is almost more rewarding than a relationship

Most relationship are too transactonal (ie. What are you going to give me so as to get my attention)

It's too expensive, every girl out there wants something shoe, phone, impromtu favours and all these are financied by $$$, as a man you are put in a demasculating position if you don't grant these favours to these women are the snap of a finger, and when you decide to weigh the options, such financial resources channelled into such wasteful expeditions.

Most women are boring, if you pay attention to men or you are fortunate to be in men's spaces, we like to talk about different things that affect us an society, a Nigerian woman on the other hand would only engage you only if she likes you, and only if she likes the topic being discussed. if you observe with keen intrest at how much relationships takes shape, it starts with a simple "Hi and Hello" but most modern day women want to fall in love with you at once and don't want to invest in a relationship.

A lot of women lack the ability to be able to pair bond with a man becuase they have an abundance mindset that the men would chase them forever and even when they have a stable relationshp, they would still have one eye and one eye out as if there is always something better out there. Truth is that there is always someone who would be richer, better and prettier than our current partner, but commitment is key.

Men too have standards: A lot of women growing up told us we were broke and worthless as to why we can't talk to them. Few years later the men have built themsleves and now have standard on not wanting to be with poor women. Today's high value men dont want women who just only bring beauty to the table, men now want women who can work pay their own bill and be financially stable. On clubhouse i have heard a situation where a Nigerian bloke in the diaspora said he can't be with a woman in the diaspora who made $50k not because of the money but the mindset.


Pornography: More and more men are watching porn and masturbating more and men who do that don't have this urge to flirt with women like that....

LGBT has also take it's fair share from both sexes on men who should in a stable romantic relationship.


A lot us men grew up with faulty idelogies that just told us make the money and the girls would flock around you, while i very much fault this mentality, it make it looks as if you are buying someone for the sake of the money which kills the purpose of romance.

A lot of us don't know how to date, we were never just thought how to.

Mainstream media is not real life, the Meida would try to project this happily ever after always happy no fault type of relationship which means anything outside the confines of that is bad and toxic. People are almost not allowed to bicker over things in their relationship with the hope to iron it out, your female friends would glee and cheer you up to jilt and kill your realtionship But the truth is real relationship requires lots of forgivness.

The economy: Having a two parent hosuehold in todays world cost a lot of $$$ and the women want to rescind to the old world order where they sat home looking pretty while the men went out and brought home the bacon.

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MadamVanessa:



There's nothing in marriage. Lately, our women have been doing as if their survival is tied down to marriage or if you don't marry, you're a failure. Stupid mindset. Have your baby or babies with a man then live your life independently. It's foolishness to live under a detect of a man.

If you can't deal with sexual urge, there's no harm in having sex gadgets of all type and satisfy yourself if need arises or you look for one hot hansom guy that is matured and use as sex slave.

Bleep marriage

Gi na chi gi !!!!