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Oyindamolah:
MARTIAL BED.

My wife says no sex until her mother leaves our house.
FROM A MY COUSIN:

I'm happily married with two young kids ages 2 and 4. We stay in a 2-bedroom apartment and usually leave the connecting door ajar so that if the kids wake up during the night they may have access to our room to seek comfort, which is very frequent especially during these noisy thunder storms.

My problem started with the arrival of my mother-in-law, less than a week ago to spend 2 months. Of course, she sleeps with her grand kids in their room.

This doesn’t stop them from frequenting our room during the night, so the door is still left ajar. Much to my amazement, my wife has now told me that she will no longer allow us to copulate during the time her mother is with us. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.

My wife has always feared her mum so it is impossible for me to convince her that this is her house, not her mum’s. I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?

I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all.

What should I do?

Dearlord:
Your common sense should tell you that having sex in presence of your mother is not gentle.

You can have sex with her while she is on errand or you take your wife out to do so as a gentle man so that you can have some respect from your wife mother

gadgethead:
for 2 months!?

Stanfeelings:
SO WHAT ARE YOU SUGGESTING? HE SHOULDNT MAKE LOVE TO HIS OWN WIFE? FOR 2 MONTHS? AND HE SAID HE CANT GO A WEEK WITHOUT MAKING LOVE TO HIS WIFE. IF SHE WAS PREG OR HAD A BABY, UNDERSTANDABLE. HOW CAN ANOTHER WOMAN COME AND INCONVENIENCE A YOUNG COUPLE LIKE THAT? IF THIS MAN CHEATS, Y'ALL WILL BLAME HIM.
THIS ISNT FAIR. YES, DEPENDING ON THE TYPE OF BED, SOME BEDS CREAK AND MAKE NOISE... SOME PEOPLE MOAN....ITS THEIR HOUSE FOR GOODNESS SAKE AND THEY ARE COUPLES!!!!

WoundedLamb:
I understand the awkwardness of having sex knowing your mum can hear everything. Eww...!

It's easy for you to say "this is my home! Let your mother go if she doesn't like it". But if you think of it deeply, you'd realize it's not really a solution but a recipe for disaster. The only message you'd be sending is "it's all about what I want and not what we want. I'm not empathetic to your situation". You might have your way after that but such subtle messages stick forever.

Sex is beautiful when the two parties want it. It's not something you command. You'll have to convince your wife or find a way around the situation. It's easy for us to tell you "go and be a man!" But the truth is, we don't really care if the roof falls on your head afterwards. We'd forget about you once we leave this thread. So do what is best for your family, rub minds with your wife to get a solution.

MrBrownJay1:
is that martial (aka kung fu) bed...or MARITAL bed?!?!!? as much as you do a lot of bedmatic fighting in the bedroom, i doubt it is a MARTIAL bed!

btw your wife is right... i wouldnt want to copulate with the door wide open while my MIL sleeps in the next room, with the door wide open too.

Oyindamolah:
MARTIAL BED.

My wife says no sex until her mother leaves our house.
FROM A MY COUSIN:

I'm happily married with two young kids ages 2 and 4. We stay in a 2-bedroom apartment and usually leave the connecting door ajar so that if the kids wake up during the night they may have access to our room to seek comfort, which is very frequent especially during these noisy thunder storms.

My problem started with the arrival of my mother-in-law, less than a week ago to spend 2 months. Of course, she sleeps with her grand kids in their room.

This doesn’t stop them from frequenting our room during the night, so the door is still left ajar. Much to my amazement, my wife has now told me that she will no longer allow us to copulate during the time her mother is with us. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.

My wife has always feared her mum so it is impossible for me to convince her that this is her house, not her mum’s. I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?

I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all.

What should I do?

MrBrownJay1:
is that martial (aka kung fu) bed...or MARITAL bed?!?!!? as much as you do a lot of bedmatic fighting in the bedroom, i doubt it is a MARTIAL bed!

btw your wife is right... i wouldnt want to copulate with the door wide open while my MIL sleeps in the next room, with the door wide open too.

WoundedLamb:
I understand the awkwardness of having sex knowing your mum can hear everything. Eww...!

It's easy for you to say "this is my home! Let your mother go if she doesn't like it". But if you think of it deeply, you'd realize it's not really a solution but a recipe for disaster. The only message you'd be sending is "it's all about what I want and not what we want. I'm not empathetic to your situation". You might have your way after that but such subtle messages stick forever.

Sex is beautiful when the two parties want it. It's not something you command. You'll have to convince your wife or find a way around the situation. It's easy for us to tell you "go and be a man!" But the truth is, we don't really care if the roof falls on your head afterwards. We'd forget about you once we leave this thread. So do what is best for your family, rub minds with your wife to get a solution.

Patrickyugo:
Better...it's time to make it more romantic...

Plan DATE NIGHTS, let her watch over the kids.
Book a good hotel room, take your wife out, have a wonderful evening and then take her to the hotel room.
She will thank you for it.

And before you know it your mother in law will be on her way out.

mozes01:
nonsense how is having sex in your room with your wife the same as having it in her presence. e gbami ke. una oversabi too much here o, wetin wrong gan sef una no go talk am.

Oyindamolah:
MARTIAL BED.

My wife says no sex until her mother leaves our house.
FROM A MY COUSIN:

I'm happily married with two young kids ages 2 and 4. We stay in a 2-bedroom apartment and usually leave the connecting door ajar so that if the kids wake up during the night they may have access to our room to seek comfort, which is very frequent especially during these noisy thunder storms.

My problem started with the arrival of my mother-in-law, less than a week ago to spend 2 months. Of course, she sleeps with her grand kids in their room.

This doesn’t stop them from frequenting our room during the night, so the door is still left ajar. Much to my amazement, my wife has now told me that she will no longer allow us to copulate during the time her mother is with us. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.

My wife has always feared her mum so it is impossible for me to convince her that this is her house, not her mum’s. I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?

I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all.

What should I do?

EvangelistIsaac:
Lol..... The story is funny though

I have question �

If it were to be the husband mother that is around, would the story still be same with the woman?

Useless mother in law

Munzy14:
This is where weekend getaway comes in.

Will your preek rise if your biological mom is sleeping next to you with and open door? I don't know for you, but for me the last on my mind in that house will be sex...I will fix weekend getaways two nights in a nearby hotel..As long as your wife isn't comfortable, you won't enjoy sex with her in that house..

There are other ways to have sex as well, at least to satisfy the kainji dam inside you..She can do you a lot without her getting pounded..In the end everyone is satisfied..And since your MIL is around, Oga keep your doors locked till further notice.

As from now on, see your wife as your girl friend..You do things when parents are not around...If she go market to buy stuffs..1hr is ok to enjoy yourselves..It will be like adventure, fear of not getting caught makes it more fun and exciting.

Just find way to adjust..Mothers will always be mothers..But if she keeps hunting your wife the more with the new ways you both will adjust to, then she is obviously entitled and must respect the fact your wife owns the home and not her.

Just find a way to keep the whole thing spiced up.

WoundedLamb:
Lol... I don't even know where to start. Sorry bro, I'm not a lady. Hopefully, you get to find a female programmer some day.

_{Hehe... this was so funny.}

Oyindamolah:
MARTIAL BED.

My wife says no sex until her mother leaves our house.
FROM A MY COUSIN:

I'm happily married with two young kids ages 2 and 4. We stay in a 2-bedroom apartment and usually leave the connecting door ajar so that if the kids wake up during the night they may have access to our room to seek comfort, which is very frequent especially during these noisy thunder storms.

My problem started with the arrival of my mother-in-law, less than a week ago to spend 2 months. Of course, she sleeps with her grand kids in their room.

This doesn’t stop them from frequenting our room during the night, so the door is still left ajar. Much to my amazement, my wife has now told me that she will no longer allow us to copulate during the time her mother is with us. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.

My wife has always feared her mum so it is impossible for me to convince her that this is her house, not her mum’s. I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?

I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all.

What should I do?

Oyindamolah:
MARTIAL BED.

My wife says no sex until her mother leaves our house.
FROM A MY COUSIN:

I'm happily married with two young kids ages 2 and 4. We stay in a 2-bedroom apartment and usually leave the connecting door ajar so that if the kids wake up during the night they may have access to our room to seek comfort, which is very frequent especially during these noisy thunder storms.

My problem started with the arrival of my mother-in-law, less than a week ago to spend 2 months. Of course, she sleeps with her grand kids in their room.

This doesn’t stop them from frequenting our room during the night, so the door is still left ajar. Much to my amazement, my wife has now told me that she will no longer allow us to copulate during the time her mother is with us. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.

My wife has always feared her mum so it is impossible for me to convince her that this is her house, not her mum’s. I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?

I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all.

What should I do?

Zonefree:
Her mother shouldn't dictate when or how you make love to your wife. If she's not comfortable with that, let her go to her husband's house and allow young couple do what they're suppose to do.

Your wife and her mum are terrorising you in your home and it's not right. Put an end to this asap before see finish go enter.

WoundedLamb:
I understand the awkwardness of having sex knowing your mum can hear everything. Eww...!

It's easy for you to say "this is my home! Let your mother go if she doesn't like it". But if you think of it deeply, you'd realize it's not really a solution but a recipe for disaster. The only message you'd be sending is "it's all about what I want and not what we want. I'm not empathetic to your situation". You might have your way after that but such subtle messages stick forever.

Sex is beautiful when the two parties want it. It's not something you command. You'll have to convince your wife or find a way around the situation. It's easy for us to tell you "go and be a man!" But the truth is, we don't really care if the roof falls on your head afterwards. We'd forget about you once we leave this thread. So do what is best for your family, rub minds with your wife to get a solution.