This same stuff happened to me. When you see such things unfolding next time . Just walk her out. And next time she chats you up, be blunt with words and do not sugar coat words

Can you listen to yaself again...... you only fingered her against her wish and you want to hit her with your Gbooola before you accept it as rape bah?........

Better tame that ya Gbooola before it gets you into a bigger trouble

Yhungsarm:

you didn't read where i said we where talking about sex related issues. She all the pre intimacy stuff, i did not plan to have any sex with her, i just couldn't control all d seduction again...she was placing my hand on her boobs, trying to hold my dick and all that, i mean it was a clear signal that she wants to have sex but then she just refused and i will let go. the bastard will start again

See this mumu.

You're even calling her a bastard you rapist

VOsimhen144:
Madam lawyer go sue the nigga nw.

Don't let me descend on you like fire and brimstone this morning.

Rape apologist!!!

She trapped you sexually and you fell yakata...

VOsimhen144:
Why she go dey seduce the nigga??


Madam lawyer go sue the nigga nw.

She can't sue me cus there is no evidence, our chats are not even an options cus there was no advance from my part, dis is also a faceless forum but to be clear am looking for a way to solve it.
I was typing very fast and please there are punctuation marks there and i believe you understand what i wrote there plus it is a narrative of what transpired btw me and someone it isn't sometin official.

Yhungsarm:
It seems you did not read through what i wrote and please i didnt smash any Puna. she also didn't just showed me breast she did way more than than, am not trying to justify any decision i made, i know that is not how a gentleman does but i also beleive it a solveable matter that is why am asking adults that might have been in similar occurence of what to do.
she is pained bcus i did not chat her up after that so i need to solve the issue quietly without noise

You're a 300level student and I expected a good level of understanding from you...

I never said you smashed her... I said, if you claimed that she's not in your level, why then will you want to smash someone below your level? You forcefully fingered her against her consent....

Also, I've given you the right solution to your problem.. if you'd read through.. I'm sure you'd seen the solution...

Olayetan:
She trapped you sexually and you fell yakata...

Such thing hasn't happened to me before and i just stupidly fell for it like now i feel like an idiot.

Yhungsarm:

She can't sue me cus there is no evidence, our chats are not even an options cus there was no advance from my part, dis is also a faceless forum but to be clear am looking for a way to solve it.
I was typing very fast and please there are punctuation marks there and i believe you understand what i wrote there plus it is a narrative of what transpired btw me and someone it isn't sometin official.

You might just be smart by half....

Let me tell you two things that can possibly nail you down without your knowledge..

1. Perhaps she had your semens on her pants without you knowing... And can run a test on that to victimize you...


2. She will sleep with a DPO and he will ensure that you are arrested and locked behind bars and allegations will just fly in and you might even have other girls testify against you and that will be a better evidence to nail you.

Don't ever think that you can get out of a rape case with a woman that's ready to nail you down ..

Try and plead and end the case.... Else, you're in for it.

yanabasee:


You're a 300level student and I expected a good level of understanding from you...

I never said you smashed her... I said, if you claimed that she's not in your level, why then will you want to smash someone below your level? You forcefully fingered her against her consent....

Also, I've given you the right solution to your problem.. if you'd read through.. I'm sure you'd seen the solution...

Yes i understand you and i feel that it because you are a lady that is why you are angry towards me.
i just allowed myself to be used and i didn't want to smash she isn't ugly actually she is a beautiful girl we are not just in the same space in University.
I only chatted her up bcus i wanted us to keep each other company nothing like i wanted to smash her if not for the seduction i wouldn't even have hugged her self. Am not justifying anything, it was wrong from my part but portraying her as a saint is not fair

Yhungsarm:
This incident happened last week Thursday. Am a 300L student of Unijos and the girl happens to be my coursemate. Normally, me and these girl no dey the same level, she can't even talk to me in school but ASUU break happened and i didn't want to go back to Lagos so i stayed back in Jos.
One day i was chatting with her friend who happens to know her and he told me she is still in Jos, so i chatted her up since i was bored and i didn't lie to her, i told her i was bored and i needed someone to talk to for the main time. she accepted quickly and even told me why i didn't chat her up sooner than this. she promised to come to my place and on Thursday she finally came through.
This is the most astonishing part, she knew i had sex with her best friend so she asked me about it and i did not lie about it cus i know she knew and we talked about some nasty stuff related to sex. i was seated on a mini-cushion chair and she sat on my laps literally dropping her boobs in the middle of my face.
As a guy i thought that was the signal, so i carried her straight to the bed and i wanted to gain access and she denied it so i just stood up and left. After a short while she came back again now saying if she handles me and all those stuff, i tried again and she denied i was angry and i wanted to tell her to start gping but i calmed down. she started seducing me badly and i was confused so this time i dropped and dragged her jean with her, we started dragging but she was just saying am trying to rape her and it is unfair, if it is what i do to girls all d time.
i was fingering her at the time but i did not penetrate and i felt it was tense and if i penetrated then what she is saying is true so i stopped and controlled my urge.
she zipped up and started crying, i was like but i didn't do anything and she was like i did everything i want to do with her and it is fault bcus she came to my house.
After a shortwhile, she stopped crying and asked me if it was sex i want or friends with benefit...i was very confused at that point like wetin bring all does one enter so i didn't reply then she said she knows am a rapist and i just want to sex and all dat shit.
i kept my cool after some time she started saying am not normal at all and she jst can't believe what happened, she also said she will tell me something when we she is out of my house.
so i paid her Tp and she went home, i did not chat her up at all. fastforward to Saturday i saw her message saying her forcefully had my ways wit her and jst ignored her so she will deal with me and i will pay for it.
i won't lie to you am very scared, i don't even know what she wants, i started asking her what she wants from me exactly but she is not replying at all. I seriously don't know what to do am very confuse, I don't even understand why i fell for this plot of hers.
What do you think i shud do
Note: I did not have sex with her at all and i never wanted it, she was jst all over me and doing all those stuff. Sex isn't my problem on a normal day bcus am a handsome guy and i get it most time.

Omo this 21st century always ask questions. “Can I kiss you now?” “May I take you to my room?” If you wan finger, once you don commot her pant and your hand dey near her Toto, ask her “Can I go in?”

You gas ask for permission oh my guy. No be like before again.

Bros na rape oh, you did not even start with kiss or caressing your own na bed straight and forcefully pull Jean, better start begging oh, she now has evidence, if I were you when she chatted you up, you would have replied with what are you talking about.

Yhungsarm:

She can't sue me cus there is no evidence, our chats are not even an options cus there was no advance from my part, dis is also a faceless forum but to be clear am looking for a way to solve it.
I was typing very fast and please there are punctuation marks there and i believe you understand what i wrote there plus it is a narrative of what transpired btw me and someone it isn't sometin official.

Bro, I understand you jare, you don't need to explain yourself to them, forget those werey Jennyclay, Iyaebe, siofra and Fernandezisback.
Bro, you did no crime, if to say na me, I for even fvck the girl sef. She dey craze. Damnn her, to hell with her feelings.

yanabasee:


You might just be smart by half....

Let me tell you two things that can possibly nail you down without your knowledge..

1. Perhaps she had your semens on her pants without you knowing... And can run a test on that to victimize you...


2. She will sleep with a DPO and he will ensure that you are arrested and locked behind bars and allegations will just fly in and you might even have other girls testify against you and that will be a better evidence to nail you.

Don't ever think that you can get out of a rape case with a woman that's ready to nail you down ..

Try and plead and end the case.... Else, you're in for it.

This is actually true, Thanks i will solve the issue as quietly as possible. i feel like she wants a relationship and i don't want that. Now if she wants a relationship which will cast me in school how will i go about it?? cus all d rape blackmail is just bcus she wants a relationship and am sure abt that

Jennyclay:
Don't let me descend on you like fire and brimstone this morning.
Rape apologist!!!

Ur papa.

SenecaTheYonger:



Omo this 21st century always ask questions. “Can I kiss you now?” “May I take you to my room?” If you wan finger, once you don commot her pant and your hand dey near her Toto, ask her “Can I go in?”

You gas ask for permission oh my guy. No be like before again.

I haven't had any situations that led to me asking questions before most girl i had sex with are ones that wants to have sex with me, we would have discussed how to eat each other on bed, so i didn't know how to react to her own but i know i have learnt one thing today and this type of blackmail won't work again.

Yhungsarm:
I haven't had any situations that led to me asking questions before most girl i had sex with are ones that wants to have sex with me, we would have discussed how to eat each other on bed, so i didn't know how to react to her own but i know i have learnt one thing today and this type of blackmail won't work again.

It’s not blackmail if she decides to take it serious, you will honestly regret. You did not say you discussed with her before coming so there was no agreement between you too. Everything nowadays is consensual oh. No go use force even if she seduce you, it’s still not a yes.

Yhungsarm:
Yes i understand you and i feel that it because you are a lady that is why you are angry towards me.
i just allowed myself to be used and i didn't want to smash she isn't ugly actually she is a beautiful girl we are not just in the same space in University.
I only chatted her up bcus i wanted us to keep each other company nothing like i wanted to smash her if not for the seduction i wouldn't even have hugged her self. Am not justifying anything, it was wrong from my part but portraying her as a saint is not fair

I am a man with beards and muscles .. tall and cute ..


Also, you are not intelligent... Sorry to say this...

If you wanted a company, the first thing that should come to your mind is to look for a girlfriend and not any random girl that you know...

You were bored and that's a different meaning to wanting sex....

Stop lying to yourself and trying to pull everyone to listen to your self-destructive mindset....

If you feel that you needed someone to gist with.. you'd taken her out to parks or sit out in gardens or recreational centres and not your room....

I won't reply you again... You're filled up with excuses and still bluffing about your mistakes...

Trying to paint yourself above her and yet you chose her to sex...

Telling me that you wouldn't have tried hugging her in the first place is coming after you must have realised your mistakes...

You're one of those guys that will sleep with imbecilic girl in your compound and impregnates her and will deny.. Because you don't have a brain to control your p3nis...

What i will advise you to do, be blunt with her and let her know she came visiting and started seducing you knowing fully well what will happen with the seduction and now she's playing the victim game, tell her to do whatever and you're ready to defend yourself and if she try to blackmail you, you will be the one to take it up with her...

Yhungsarm:
This is actually true, Thanks i will solve the issue as quietly as possible. i feel like she wants a relationship and i don't want that. Now if she wants a relationship which will cast me in school how will i go about it?? cus all d rape blackmail is just bcus she wants a relationship and am sure abt that

Read this carefully.
This girl can't do you nothing.
She has obviously sexually harassed you by touching you inappropriately. So if she report rape, you too should report sexual harassment. It's cheap blackmail and don't succumb to that. Next time she calls you, you too should shed crocodile cry, that you are emotionally troubled since you last met her as you were seriously molested and sexually harassed in your house by her. Simple, and hear her response.
Once you agree to rape, you are doomed for life. It's better if it's deadlock.
She's claiming attempted rape, you should be claiming aggravated sexual harassment.

Yhungsarm:
Thanks i will do that, i think she is trying to make me date her or something and i can't bcus we are not in the same lane that is the plain truth, is not me been proud but you know how university life is now, i can be her friend, i don't mind but dating her can't work no matter the blackmail

Ogbenni this your class talk is bullshit, you fvcked up big time. Nonetheless look for the lady and talk things out. She can mess you up right now.

At the point she came to your house she wasn't sure what she wanted with you hence her indecision. You don't build a relationship on indecision.

At this point humble yourself and go and apologize bkos there's a case here of intent, even though it's ego stinging, do it and make sure she on the same page with you. And close that chapter. If she insist on damaging your name let her be, but be clear you have shown the high ground of making things right then it will be obvious she's being unreasonable, bkos if she wants justice there's a way to go about it and not through threats.

And after this focus on your book Oga? Let me ask you a question, why do you think you need a woman in your life at this point?

Yhungsarm:
This is actually true, Thanks i will solve the issue as quietly as possible. i feel like she wants a relationship and i don't want that. Now if she wants a relationship which will cast me in school how will i go about it?? cus all d rape blackmail is just bcus she wants a relationship and am sure abt that

You don't have any option...

You have to friend her.... Date her and you might just see her as a better wife material... You wouldn't know ..


Secondly, if after dating for a month and you don't see it heading anywhere, you can end the relationship peacefully... You just have to let her do small thing that you don't like and that will be the end of it ..

yanabasee:


I am a man with beards and muscles .. tall and cute ..


Also, you are not intelligent... Sorry to say this...

If you wanted a company, the first thing that should come to your mind is to look for a girlfriend and not any random girl that you know...

You were bored and that's a different meaning to wanting sex....

Stop lying to yourself and trying to pull everyone to listen to your self-destructive mindset....

If you feel that you needed someone to gist with.. you'd taken her out to parks or sit out in gardens or recreational centres and not your room....

I won't reply you again... You're filled up with excuses and still bluffing about your mistakes...

Trying to paint yourself above her and yet you chose her to sex...

Telling me that you wouldn't have tried hugging her in the first place is coming after you must have realised your mistakes...

You're one of those guys that will sleep with imbecilic girl in your compound and impregnates her and will deny.. Because you don't have a brain to control your p3nis...

Please Bros no reply again abeg it seems you have a problem with people seeking advice. Read through all my replies there is no place i tried to justify myself bcus i know dat am human and sometimes we make mistakes but the most important thing is solving it and learning from them.
furthermore, i did not force her she agreed to keep me company bcus she was bored too and i guess she knows people like me are not the serious type. it is hard for girls to believe what i say, so relationship is not an option for me. i just opted for friendship and i don't think that is entirely wrong.

You are actually a rapist,a lady tried similar thing with me even worst because she pull her top n remove her bra still insisting no sex as my dick won day control my brain I sharply show her my angry side n walk her out..There's no insult she didn't insult me but at least she didn't tag me a rapist,bro no matter what even if woman naked n she says no just let her be to avoid unnecessary talk later,now that you have box yourself in a corner try n settle things with her now tell her you guys should hangout in a place of her chosing just to test the level of damage u have done to her,if she agree then you are safe take her out spend joke laugh n beg her with God but if she refuse out of fear bro u are fuckkked

motymop:
You didn't even try to seduce her or do pre-intimacy to create a mutual feeling.

You just carried her to the bed because you saw boobs.

The dragging her trouser part is considered rape, if she had shouted, you will be accused of rape.

Next time, if a girl sits on your lap even after she becomes flirty. Give her a kiss to test the waters, then her reaction will tell you if to escalate the situation or not.

Or De-escalate. Baba I don laugh tire for this your analysis but it's the fact.

Adolfhitler001:
You are actually a rapist,a lady tried similar thing with me even worst because she pull her top n remove her bra still insisting no sex as my dick won day control my brain I sharply show her my angry side n walk her out..There's no insult she didn't insult me but at least she didn't tag me a rapist,bro no matter what even if woman naked n she says no just let her be to avoid unnecessary talk later,now that you have box yourself in a corner try n settle things with her now tell her you guys should hangout in a place of her chosing just to test the level of damage u have done to her,if she agree then you are safe take her out spend joke laugh n beg her with God but if she refuse out of fear bro u are bleeped

Thanks i understand

FERNANDEZISBACK:
He's probably hurt..

How can a rapist be hurt?

9japride:
OP you are serious, you had sex with her friend. And common sense didn't tell you that she will be jealous? Even when she was acting funny, you still went ahead to initiate sexual act. Na you sabi.

Sincerely the guy wasn't seeing the parallels, most likely e fit be planned stuff.

Yhungsarm:
Thanks i understand

All the best

MightyHand:


Swallow your pride and play this last card to your advantage... Date her for maybe 4-5 months, to clear her mind off the current issue, bang her wella, spend on her to reset her brain, plus spent quality time with her (so that she wouldn't feel used), then find a FAULT to discharge her...

Thanks, i just called her now she promised to come over so we can talk abt the relationship stuff but i just have to be careful with her bcus it seems she is playing a dangerous game wit me and i don't have mind for all those kind of stuff

Yhungsarm:
This incident happened last week Thursday. Am a 300L student of Unijos and the girl happens to be my coursemate. Normally, me and these girl no dey the same level, she can't even talk to me in school but ASUU break happened and i didn't want to go back to Lagos so i stayed back in Jos.
One day i was chatting with her friend who happens to know her and he told me she is still in Jos, so i chatted her up since i was bored and i didn't lie to her, i told her i was bored and i needed someone to talk to for the main time. she accepted quickly and even told me why i didn't chat her up sooner than this. she promised to come to my place and on Thursday she finally came through.
This is the most astonishing part, she knew i had sex with her best friend so she asked me about it and i did not lie about it cus i know she knew and we talked about some nasty stuff related to sex. i was seated on a mini-cushion chair and she sat on my laps literally dropping her boobs in the middle of my face.
As a guy i thought that was the signal, so i carried her straight to the bed and i wanted to gain access and she denied it so i just stood up and left. After a short while she came back again now saying if she handles me and all those stuff, i tried again and she denied i was angry and i wanted to tell her to start gping but i calmed down. she started seducing me badly and i was confused so this time i dropped and dragged her jean with her, we started dragging but she was just saying am trying to rape her and it is unfair, if it is what i do to girls all d time.
i was fingering her at the time but i did not penetrate and i felt it was tense and if i penetrated then what she is saying is true so i stopped and controlled my urge.
she zipped up and started crying, i was like but i didn't do anything and she was like i did everything i want to do with her and it is fault bcus she came to my house.
After a shortwhile, she stopped crying and asked me if it was sex i want or friends with benefit...i was very confused at that point like wetin bring all does one enter so i didn't reply then she said she knows am a rapist and i just want to sex and all dat shit.
i kept my cool after some time she started saying am not normal at all and she jst can't believe what happened, she also said she will tell me something when we she is out of my house.
so i paid her Tp and she went home, i did not chat her up at all. fastforward to Saturday i saw her message saying her forcefully had my ways wit her and jst ignored her so she will deal with me and i will pay for it.
i won't lie to you am very scared, i don't even know what she wants, i started asking her what she wants from me exactly but she is not replying at all. I seriously don't know what to do am very confuse, I don't even understand why i fell for this plot of hers.
What do you think i shud do
Note: I did not have sex with her at all and i never wanted it, she was jst all over me and doing all those stuff. Sex isn't my problem on a normal day bcus am a handsome guy and i get it most time.

Well,she actually wanted sex but she wanted to play hard. But now,don't agree to the rspe allegation on WhatsApp o,that one fit be problem. But are you sure she didn't record everything when she was at your place?