This kind of narrative makes me wonder where people see these type of wives.

Women are the same everywhere, (Manipulative, stubborn and ingrate). It depends on how you relate with them. They are like devil, and if you must eat with them, you need to get a long spoon.

A woman will love and respect you if she know she can get punish by you if she mess up. She will love and respect you the more if she know you can replace her should she mess up with you. And most importantly, she will adore you if she know you love yourself more than her.

You married a lazy woman. If you are tired of helping her, then you should pay for the services of a cleaner. She can contribute financially for the services of a maid if she wishes. You cannot force a full grown woman to start doing the chores she hates. There are women who are served by cleaners, Stewards, nannies, etc. So get a maid. Thank God she is even working. If every couple should divorce for minor issues like this, then I wonder what the world would turn to.

Lucrativress:

If this is your personal story
I hope you know you're only doing yourself..
And this one life you came to can't be repeated?
Even before you swim into nothingness (death) don't plunge yourself into it just yet cause that's what you're doing.
You're not being useful to yourself or anyone by being grossly exploited,neither are you being happy living this way
So I ask, what's your purpose for living?
If you're not in Nigeria, better start gathering evidences, cause you were not smart enough to choose rightly.
Marriage isn't the problem,your choice and the woman you married are the problem.
A CCTV camera will be useful.
Your option is either to keep being a toothless Dog or start acting as a Wild Cat.

All these aunty wey no go allow us see road.

ibechris:



U cant buy property in your baby mama's name now...but I have purchased property on two occasions with my wife's name without any need to regret it. But u dare not with your baby mama or girl friend
I have kept all my life savings in my wife's personal accounts which many of u dare not do with your baby mama's out there.

On the day of my wedding I got a jeep from my brother but u can't get it from impregnating a baby mama.

Guy,I still maintain my stand,that marriage is good. I and my wife have made 6.6million naira in three months just for working together as partners in our side hustle. But u can never achieve that with your baby mama's.

Was your wife, a virgin?

LilMissFavvy:
You married a lazy woman. If you are tired of helping her, then you should pay for the services of a cleaner. She can contribute financially for the services of a maid if she wishes. You cannot force a full grown woman to start doing the chores she hates. There are women who are served by cleaners, Stewards, nannies, etc. So get a maid. Thank God she is even working. If every couple should divorce for minor issues like this, then I wonder what the world would turn to.

What purpose is a wife if she can't make a home or contribute financially towards it?

Victerica:


Was your wife, a virgin?

See question.

thiagoteres:

What purpose is a wife if she can't make a home or contribute financially towards it?

That question is best asked the man who chooses for himself a woman who can't contribute financially towards his home.

There are men out there who seek out such women for marriage, so when they come whining afterwards, you ought to know then the women is not entirely to blame.

Kwinesther:
I have been reading your write ups from the start, you obviously married the wrong woman sir. From my observation, most people that married wrongly were not directed by God but did it in their own terms. If they prayed about it and be patient, HE would surely guide them.

Marriage is not what one can just dive into without involving the institutor of same institution but we tend to ignore this fact. No matter how wise and careful we might seem to be, we are bound to make mistakes.

That God directs you to marry someone won't make marriage work automatically. The parties involved must work together to make it work.

babajeje123:

That God directs you to marry someone won't make marriage work automatically. The parties involved must work together to make it work.

My point is God will help you to choose the right spouse if you seek his help. When you are now married, you join hands with your partner and make things go well but with the right spouse it is usually easy...

ibechris:



U cant buy property in your baby mama's name now...but I have purchased property on two occasions with my wife's name without any need to regret it. But u dare not with your baby mama or girl friend
I have kept all my life savings in my wife's personal accounts which many of u dare not do with your baby mama's out there.

On the day of my wedding I got a jeep from my brother but u can't get it from impregnating a baby mama.

Guy,I still maintain my stand,that marriage is good. I and my wife have made 6.6million naira in three months just for working together as partners in our side hustle. But u can never achieve that with your baby mama's.

Don't waste the pearls of your wisdom on people who have chosen to be ignorant.

Hathor5:
Edited

Now that I have read the entire story, I have this to say. You blame that other people tricked you into marriage by saying that marriage life was sweet. Your experience was bitter though.

Did you ask those people how they made their marriages sweet? Or did you believe it takes a wedding ceremony for a marriage to be sweet?

You say that your single life was awesome. Did the things you were enjoying before you got married fall from heaven? Or had you worked for them?

Why do you people put so much effort into their careers but believe that a good relationship/marriage must fall from heaven? Why are people willing and ready to go the extra mile for their career goals but not for their marriages/relationships/families?

The truth is: if you want your marriage/relationship to be sweet, be ready to work for it.

I wish those other people would have told you that too.

@bold: absolutely on point

Acidosis:
95% of small businesses globally fail in the first 5 years but we haven't seen any "business is a scam" thread.

By the way, there's no such thing as a "modern" marriage. You're either married traditionally as ordained or you're married by your own logical ideas. Marriages don't evolve. Love, trust, respect, and other ingredients that make marriages to work do not evolve. The only thing that evolved is your wedding dress and maybe the HD photoshoots. If you took that as having a modern marriage, then you simply played yourself and shot yourself on the foot.

That being said, I sympathize with you and I particularly love your courage to share your experiences. Now own up to your mistakes and leave the institution out of it. Like small businesses, marriage is not a scam. You were simply scammed because of your negligence or lack of foresight.

@bold:

True.

Cars hit people fatally every hour yet people are in Church & Mosques praying to buy theirs every day.

bukatyne:


@bold:

True.

Cars hit people fatally every hour yet people are in Church & Mosques praying to buy theirs every day.

Car is a scam

DontBullshitMe:
Enough of the wailing.

You want marriage, marry.

You don't want marriage, don't marry.

Simple. It is the unmarried ones that are screaming 'marriage na scam' upandan. If you want to remain single all your life, by all means, go ahead, no one is stopping you. Stop trying to force your philosophies on others.

LilMissFavvy:
You married a lazy woman. If you are tired of helping her, then you should pay for the services of a cleaner. She can contribute financially for the services of a maid if she wishes. You cannot force a full grown woman to start doing the chores she hates. There are women who are served by cleaners, Stewards, nannies, etc. So get a maid. Thank God she is even working. If every couple should divorce for minor issues like this, then I wonder what the world would turn to.

""If" she wishes she can ay for the service of the maid" but I presumed is not optional for the man , he must pay!

All of you lots are d same, manulpative and self-centered beings.
Cos is a man, make he die
U didn't read where d op said he does the chores even after coming bbk from a long work day.. and the woman faff about and does nothing just coz she is pregnant.....

Kwinesther:
My point is God will help you to choose the right spouse if you seek his help. When you are now married, you join hands with your partner and make things go well but with the right spouse it is usually easy...

There is no "right" spouse. God never said marrying a "right" spouse will remove God's curse - Genesis 3 vs 16 - on marriage from off of your union.

the rule is simple. never give a woman the impression that she is irreplaceable.
you must give her the constant realization that she is in a competition with others, that way, shell have a reason to be sensible

ibechris:



U cant buy property in your baby mama's name now...but I have purchased property on two occasions with my wife's name without any need to regret it. But u dare not with your baby mama or girl friend
I have kept all my life savings in my wife's personal accounts which many of u dare not do with your baby mama's out there.

On the day of my wedding I got a jeep from my brother but u can't get it from impregnating a baby mama.

Guy,I still maintain my stand,that marriage is good. I and my wife have made 6.6million naira in three months just for working together as partners in our side hustle. But u can never achieve that with your baby mama's.

If this is how you argue, I am sorry you are daft.

JUMO95:
the rule is simple. never give a woman that she is irreplaceable
you must give her the constant realization that she is in a competition with others, that way, shell have a reason to be sensible

And when you get the same treatment from the woman in question, do not come complaining even then, ok?

JUMO95:
the rule is simple. never give a woman that she is irreplaceable.
you must give her the constant realization that she is in a competition with others, that way, shell have a reason to be sensible

You lots are the ones giving yourselves issues in your home. How would you feel if she also makes you feel you are in a competition with others? See
when you give a woman wind, she will give you whirlwind. I am coming to the realisation that we boys/ guys/men need several talks on what it means to be a man. That you are a man doesn't mean your head should not be correct.

Kobojunkie:
There is no "right" spouse. God never said marrying a "right" spouse will remove God's curse - Genesis 3 vs 16 - on marriage from off of your union.

God did not curse their union. This is misinterpretation of the verse.

babajeje123:

God did not curse their union. This is misinterpretation of the verse.

leave Kobojunkie, she is always on her own page.
Maybe she wrote her own bible. The woman is always quoting the bible upside down

JUMO95:
leave Kobojunkie, she is always on her own page.
Maybe she wrote her own bible. The woman is always quoting the bible upside down

Is the moniker a he or a she? I do think it's a he.

LagosInter:


If this is how you argue, I am sorry you are daft.

U are mad and heartless.

I think the only thing I noticed about u is that,u are pained and I am sure marriage has dealt with and ur household.

May marriage kill u there.
U think marriage is about being street wise or intelligent,u are just jealous because I mentioned my wife being my business partner.

Say ur opinion and stop being cruel and nasty just because u hate marriage...I shall continue to stand for what is good and honourable.

LagosInter:


If this is how you argue, I am sorry you are daft.

How can a man who is tired of Nigerian girls talk good about marriage.

May thunder fire everything about u there.
Anytime u see my post just pass by idiots.

No be me make u miserable where Nigerian girls dey. Work and make money u say na yahoo u wan do. OK continue ode.

ibechris:





How cam a man who is tired of Nigerian girls talk good about marriage.

May thunder fire everything about u there.
Anytime u see my post just pass by idiots.

No be make u miserable where Nigerian girls dey. Work and make money u say na yahoo u wan do. OK continue ode.

You are a pussywhipped dimwit.

Instead of arguing logically you ended up exposing how slow you are on the uptake.
Damn!

babajeje123:

You lots are the ones giving yourselves issues in your home. How would you feel if she also makes you feel you are in a competition with others? See
when you give a woman wind, she will give you whirlwind. I am coming to the realisation that we boys/ guys/men need several talks on what it means to be a man. That you are a man doesn't mean your head should not be correct.

So refreshing to read this espe ially the bolded part.

babajeje123:

God did not curse their union. This is misinterpretation of the verse.

So you are saying here that God lied in Genesis 3 vs 16?

JUMO95:
leave Kobojunkie, she is always on her own page.
Maybe she wrote her own bible. The woman is always quoting the bible upside down

Here's a simple question for you. How did I turn the Bible upside down as far as Genesis 3 vs 16 is concerned?

Or is it that rather than turn scripture upside down, it is instead your supposed understanding of what is written that is turned upside down by Truth of what is revealed?

Kobojunkie:
So you are saying here that God lied in Genesis 3 vs 16?

You have a strong penchant for misinterpreting the Bible. Go and read the verse in different versions.

babajeje123:

You have a strong penchant for misinterpreting the Bible. Go and read the verse in different versions.

Different versions? Why don't you tell me what version you have that tells you God didn't curse marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16 and maybe we can go from there.