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dacblogger:
I DNT care what they actually think or understand...
I know what I said and I know the message I was trying to pass across.
Most people here DNT really have a sense of understanding and I DNT blame them. Not everybody is wise.

Especially the guys. They do it intentionally. Hiss.

ChoCho54:
Especially the guys. They do it intentionally. Hiss.

No mind them... Most of them are woman beaters that is why they're so wishing my husband will hit me...

dacblogger:
No, by the time you eventually marry,cos I'm sure no woman in her right senses will want to marry a fool like you... Na your wife go dey beat you.
He goat

I don't even pray to marry sef

I pray you get a taste of your own "coping mechanism"
I don't blame the simp that is keeping up with your verbal abuse
If it were to be your fellow woman collecting abuse in the name of coping mechanism,you for don dey wail for here

Tuehh

Ayo2004:
I don't even pray to marry sef

I pray you get a taste of your own "coping mechanism"
I don't blame the simp that is keeping up with your verbal abuse
If it were to be your fellow woman collecting abuse in the name of coping mechanism,you for don dey wail for here

Tuehh

Mumu, simp that is 100 times the man that you're not...
Whether you marry or not, woman go still beat you... You can't run from it . Normally I know say woman no fit marry your type.

dacblogger:
Mumu, simp that is 100 times the man that you're not...
Whether you marry or not, woman go still beat you... You can't run from it . Normally I know say woman no fit marry your type.

You must live in a deluded world if you think every woman is an abuser like you

You don't even have shame.If not that this world favours women,will you stupidly support the fact that you verbally abuse your husband?
I hope your own son will get a taste of that same medicine

Even had the guts to add "may God help us"
Na your type dey give husband heart attack

If I tell you my uncle situationship for US asin ehn, thank God we didn't lose him. All of my uncles they suffer for der marriages dem come dy tell me to be prayerful be4 I choose woman I just laff






Rada die than get married

this is Porn for misandrists lol

MadamVanessa:




Inasmuch as I kick strongly against domestic violence against women. But if we want to be objective and look critically into most of domestic violence carried by men on women, we'll see that about 68% of it are caused by women.

The way and Manner wives talk at their husbands is always sad, and it's enough to make a sane man go insane immediately and unleashed his anger on the wife through beating.

Men should learn how to control their anger, because when you lay your hands on a woman, the society don't want to know the level of insult the woman gave you, all the blame will be on you.

Infact @ The way and Manner wives talk at their husbands is always sad, and it's enough to make a sane man go insane immediately and unleashed his anger on the wife through beating

Verbal abuse of any form us despicable, but does it mean a man should turn his wife to a talking drum? Hell no!

Partners must treat each other with respect for the marriage to thrive.

Double0h7:
I honestly believe verbal and emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. If you notice in society we accept it when a woman complains about being verbally and emotionally abused by her man and we rally around her.

You must be living in an alien society.
No one cares about insults and neither do people "rally round" victims
of private insults.

It is height of insensitivity to equate insults with physical violence.
Even a kid can tell the difference.

All these woe cries can be avoided.
Marriage to me is nothing but a self inflicted injury.
Be single and be Happy.

I’m solely in control of my happiness. No woman born of a woman can deprive me of my happiness in this world or in the world to come.

I cherish my peace of mind that I don't need anything to disturb it so if as a lady and you happens to interrupt that.. nne you are going to your parents house. I don't beat lady's and j don't intend to start either.

donleo92:
Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?

l never knew you are a member of this forum. I wanted to share it on this forum. Thank God you finally brought it here. The society needs to know what some men are experiencing in their relationship.

dacblogger:
I will not lie, I dey insult Sha and if not for the kind of man my hubby is, him for don.commit suicide because of the things I tell him.

A miserable man, in a miserable marriage. An emotional punching bag for a mentally unstable and abusive wife.

VictorUSA:
Women are all useless regardless of their origin.

Excluding my mother, my sister's, and my female friends some of whom are the most loyal and faithful beings anyone would be blessed to encounter. Speak about the ones in your life and don't make unhealthy generalizations. If every woman around you is bad then you must ask yourself why you feel comfortable in the midst of bad company.

Since men have decided to leave reality for illusion, they will continue to be at the receiving end. FOLLOW THE LINE OF A HAUSA MAN WHEN DEALING WITH AN ABUSIVE WOMAN and be happy with your life oh men.
Incase you don't know the way of a Hausa man, it is SEKI (Divorce) straight away.
If a woman knows you can tow that path anytime in your relationship, she will think twice.
How can you toil so hard to build a home and someone is making it a nightmare for you?!

Women are good and well behaved only when they haven't got into your home. Once you get married to them,you will begin to see their real colour. My advice to young men is that they should be very careful not to rush into a fruitless journey in the name of marriage.
Women respect you when you haven't committed that much. Once you do, forget about it.

I don't know why people see divorce as a big sin in Nigeria....
If marriage is not working again, why can't they go their separate ways? Why staying with an abusive partner and eventually having heart attack and die like that?

And women re mostly the architects of these problems....and they re the ones who play the victim cards..
Men gain absolutely nothing in marriage, Nothing!!!
Wife would make u deserted ur own siblings while hers may come around anytime...she will make the children see the family from the father side as threat cuz of properties....
I was always on momma's side concerning the dad's family issues until I came to realize what lies ahead 9f me too and how women re just being manipulative and selfish...nothing more!!

Except for the surname, men has nothing to gain in marriage....
If eventually I get married and wife tries one nonsense with me...to her papa house straight I no won hear anything from any pastor or anybody.....

Men are waking up.we are passing a whole lot from our wife from verbal abuse. How do we go about it.who will rescue us.
Most men die in the process of thinking about their wife verbal Abuse.

MadamVanessa:




Inasmuch as I kick strongly against domestic violence against women. But if we want to be objective and look critically into most of domestic violence carried by men on women, we'll see that about 68% of it are caused by women.

The way and Manner wives talk at their husbands is always sad, and it's enough to make a sane man go insane immediately and unleashed his anger on the wife through beating.

Men should learn how to control their anger, because when you lay your hands on a woman, the society don't want to know the level of insult the woman gave you, all the blame will be on you.

You started well here but failed to advise your gender appropriately.

Sometimes, the one that plays the victim card is actually the culprit. What is portrayed to the outside world may be different from reality.

dacblogger:
I will not lie, I dey insult Sha and if not for the kind of man my hubby is, him for don.commit suicide because of the things I tell him.


May God help each and everyone one of us Sha.

Even satan did not want to lose heaven intentionally. Quit this rubbish you are writing here.
That is why Our Lord said: "Whosoever is angry, shall be brought against the judgment; ... whosoever says Raca..the Council; ... and he that said: Thou fool= danger of hell." (Mtt 5)

Nobody can be annoying. It can only be you lacking righteouness and pained.

Pray the Rosary everyday. Everyday. Read lives of saints. It will slowly change you and everything about you. Dedicate yourself to Jesus through Mary. Always call upon the help and intercession of Mary.

Twelve months down the line, you will be (better) able to give your present self advice.

1 Hail Mary for you.

Reading this touch me, I bear insults daily from my wife but outside we look happy, inside me I need another woman who can give me the Peace I deserve, but my fears is that women changes their character with time whenever you allow them mix with wrong friends where they do hairs and fix nails of even workplaces.....and so I have to bear this as my cross so that my children can love me...one thing that gladdens my heart is the love that my children have for me, she tried to paint me bad but they are smart...it's a serious thing happening..

[quote author=donleo92 post=112005643]
[s]Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women. Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer in the hands of their wives. It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision. They suffer in silence. Timebomb.

Unfortunately, the Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counselling services. It's been mostly left to the church to deal with. What happens when the man doesn't go to church? What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention? These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husband. What kind of wives will they grow up to become? Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind. There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad. Grown up children.

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me. He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life: how to make their dad miserable. They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrel and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence. When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of heart-attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?[/s][/quote]They can't take what they dish out.

Do you know the verbal abuse women face from men on a daily basis?

Use nairaland as an example. Look at the insults males here hurl at females and they are not married oo. The moment they see (f) close to your moniker, your opinion no longer matters.

Go to Facebook, the same thing. One inventless bat even tried bullying me on quora. I insulted the fool and he ran to the admin. My comment was deleted.

It's what you teach that the women practice so
Oga remove your d1ck from your mouth and just shut up!!!!

The Peace that passeth all understanding will continue to guard my heart from the shackles of manipulative nigerian women.


Amen.

Blame all these on the religion that brainwashed people, telling them no divorce. I think people really don't change, they are what they are. They can't change. The moment you find yourself trapped in a vile union, it's better you start preparing your mind for separation instead of hoping your partner will change . It's better than losing yourself

placeofallure:
Family nuances.

Every marriage with its peculiarities. All kinds of abuses physical, emotional, verbal and the rest of them boils down to our inability to properly communicate in the house. Communication isn't just opening and closing your mouth.

There'll always be misgivings committed by either of the partners. Now if your spouse does something bad, address that issue, ONLY that issue, proffer solution if you can. It ends there. Don't bring the history of how his uncle was like that, or reminding her about how all her sisters are divorced ....how he did the same thing last century and blablabla... Women are more guilty here. That is what annoys the man and if he lacks self control, your guess is as good as mine.

Many men in my opinion are immature. You need to nurture them the way you would your 5-year old. If women understand this, there'll be peace.

That's not an excuse to misbehave notwithstanding. If you are not up to it as a man, don't marry. A man should be able to make informed choices that is best for his family. These failings or shortcomings are the things that infuriate a woman. And if she has an unbridled tongue, reeling begins. Plus men have this ego problem. It's not a taboo to see a wife more sensible than the husband. Men, know this and know wisdom. As a man, you could borrow sense if yours is inadequate. It doesn't make you less of a man. You're to complement each other. Marriage is not a competing ground.

God save our marriages.

Lol, a waste of time reading this.

dacblogger:
Did I tell you this is an excuse... This is an act I am trying to stop. I am not making excuses for myself.
Read to understand please and not to comment.

I believe he understood u quite well hence his comment to you. You see your husband as someone who is in your own words: "the most annoying human being on planet Earth...". Out of the 7billion people on earth, u concluded that about your husband. How exactly are u then "trying to stop it"?

dacblogger:
Did I tell you this is an excuse... This is an act I am trying to stop. I am not making excuses for myself.
Read to understand please and not to comment.

Oh of course you are making excuses please it's right there and it's surreal