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slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar
Isoright

My brothers and sisters see

Mmm

Then leave

You are an ingrate

Nuelzi:
What exactly does this gender want?

Sorry to say this but if what you wrote up there is true then permit me to say that you don't really know what you want

- you pointed out these qualities that most men lack yet you don't want to hold onto him.

E be like say e get niqqa wey you dey eye somewhere na why you wan dropout

Nobody should quote me....na my mind I talk,I no stone person

She married too early. That's the problem here. This is often a thing with those who get married early. She is bored, wants independence and suddenly wants to be alone to explore. I'd say it's pretty normal.

I know someone who got married at 21, has three kids and now wants to leave just because she wants to live life and never had the chance to while she was younger.

Some reasons some women bring up can be so funny but anyway that's what she feels and I can't throw that away, but madam this is something u can still work on , just talk to him about it.. you've got a good man

Marriage Institution is just another life itself

No marriage is perfect, madam carry your cross.

Singlehood is bea take it or leave it, Marriage is boundage.
Just born pikin train am na him sure pass

janejjjjj5000:
I am tired. I have a better view of marriage. He is not meeting up. My children are saying that the way he talks when upsets affects them. The children cry and he apologizes to all of us. I know I sound confused but I am just tired. I feel that my children will not be seeing this when we divorce. That is why I don't want the marriage anymore. I just want all round peace. I am tired.

You're also toxic. You just want to be single and free Welcome to marriage. You just started

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

Abi other mata dey wey u no wan share. Hope no be Edo Airways staff wan purse you from your domot.

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

Kuku tell us that you have gotten a síde-cóck

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

You Dey anger person purposely because he hardly get angry, just to spite him up, when you know his weakness and flaw. Never use those flaws against your partner. He even apologizes, EXCEPT HE HIT YOU, or emotionally abuse you.

From your message, OUTSIDE DEY YOUR EYE, cocumber don sour (expression) You wan experience outside, freedom, and we know, it happens, Common. Divorce make you done. Go out on dates, Bleep as you like, no one to question your flaws, enjoy young lady. It’s been 14 and he married you way too early Na why, at 19-20, you are 33, We are in the same age group, You didn’t really enjoy your 20s alone. I can understand.

But remember these words “OUTSIDE ROUGH” Very very rough, outside no friendly, outside na bastard. But sometimes INSIDE dey dey boring, if you no run back inside, change your attitude.

Call me bastard.

At 30s we still finding good partner. Me as a guy dey tell you.

Take time make a choice. Think am well, you have enough to sustain yourself as an independent person?? Also assist with the kids bills?

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

Na only you?

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

These are issues you cN easily thrash out without separation, unless there is something you are not telling us.
It doesn't warrant a divorce. Don't let petty things make you end your marriage.

janejjjjj5000:
No. I grew up in Winners Chapel and Papa and Mama always say they have never argued in their marriage. Even last year, Papa still said that he and mama have not had their first argument almost 40 years later. That is the kind of marriage I always wanted but now, I feel bad because I cannot boast of the same thing. Shouting at your wife is abuse. And worse is that our children see it. I have read that it can affect children psychologically. I feel that I have failed.

@bold:

Permit me to laugh

E be like say na outside de ur eye...

Marriage is tough and I don't believe that we're all supposed to be married.

If you're tired, leave and be aware that, you'll face the consequences of any decision you take.

honey calm down you actually don't know what you want in your marriage seriously. you look like someone that nags a lot and simply require attention all the time, probably your hubby is tired of your constant nags that is why he flares up whenever you guys have an argument. you maybe wondering how i came about this conclusion, well for the fact you said that he hardly gets angry shows that he is easy going and probably you are the one bugging him with your complaints here. As for your kids is it not better to end what you started than start what you can't finish. when you know he flares up in an argument why not try not to bring it up at all. it is wise not to start up what will end up in tears for you. you guys have 4 kids now, have you thought about them before trying to end your marriage. i suggest you stop nagging too much, focus more on what makes you happy, i guess you have a job but if you don't try get one or create one for yourself. avoid friends that would encourage you to leave your marriage because they will be the first to laugh at you when the chips are down, socialize more and put God first in your marriage. Remember you have a good man out there, and many ladies are ready to fill your position . i wish you a happy married life

from Swerrychick.

Nuelzi:
What exactly does this gender want?

Sorry to say this but if what you wrote up there is true then permit me to say that you don't really know what you want

- you pointed out these qualities that most men lack yet you don't want to hold onto him.

E be like say e get niqqa wey you dey eye somewhere na why you wan dropout

Nobody should quote me....na my mind I talk,I no stone person

Nobody go stone you. Na better yarn you yarn.

That man no even get problem. Shey na just 2 complain of how he has done this and that for you whenever his angry, and that he gets angry twice or thrice a year at you in front of the children?? My sister, find someone he respects so much to talk sense into him.

I want to believe something never dey totori you outside sha. Cos this thing wey you dey talk so, no be am at all.

But note; Only you no go fit take care of 4 pikin alone oo. Here no be UK wey them go dey help you follow up with your divorce agreements o. You better calm down.

.

you are being influenced by something you didnt mention.

or something is manipulating and trying to destroy this sweet union you just narrated to us.

pray for your marriage, dont give the devil a chance, dont loose your guard.

janejjjjj5000:
I am tired. I have a better view of marriage. He is not meeting up. My children are saying that the way he talks when upsets affects them. The children cry and he apologizes to all of us. I know I sound confused but I am just tired. I feel that my children will not be seeing this when we divorce. That is why I don't want the marriage anymore. I just want all round peace. I am tired.

Ori e o pe
Iwo ati awon Omo e

At OP, them village people don get you OK, I won't say more than this,
Please do share his contact so that people who need husband can apply.

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

Just say you want to remain single since you already have 4 kids, and your objective of getting married just like other mothers has been achieved since you are also financially bouyant. For me there is no case here! No perfect man or marriage. You are free to opt out, but make sure you dont hinder his progress by refusing to divorce officially.

Sue for divorce, forfeit your kids (no court will ever give you custody on such flimsy grounds), and go live the Perfect single life free of drama!

Normally, I would break down the way to work around your husband's weakness, but why should I?!!! Your eyes are clearly outside your home!

So, quit the pretence and go enjoy yourself out there!

Marriage is not for everyone! Don't die a prisoner or slave in a loveless marriage!

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

I think your issue arises from the fact that you are dependent on him, and it affects ur sense of dignity as a person..
When he confirms this at his moment of anger, it destroys you further, I believe you planed to be an independent woman, so the fact that you settled for less made you lose sense of self.

At this point, you need to find something doing, and start contributing to the house, you will feel more at ease and comfortable