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Albertone:
You might be an ambivert.But introvert?Nah!

jkuvira:
Because I'm an introvert I have to keep mute in class? Keep silent even though I have the answer? If that is one of the major criterion for introversion I'd have to do some extra reading. Introversion isn't inhibition, mine doesn't inhibit me. If you do not want to talk in class you won't, be it you're an introvert, extrovert or ambivert. Besides we humans in general have the reasons why we talk or don't talk in class.

Albertone:
You might be an ambivert.But introvert?Nah!

Albertone:
Introverts don't like to be in the spotlight.
Introverts are ALWAYS quiet except when with the few they are close to.

Everyone know introverts to be quiet almost always.

Albertone:
Introverts don't like to be in the spotlight.
Introverts are ALWAYS quiet except when with the few they are close to.

Everyone know introverts to be quiet almost always.

toujurs:
A thread for boring psycho's. Some even talk to themselves. . Wierdo's

litigator:
Has it ever accrued to you that there are different kinds of introvert and a varying degree of introvertedness?

Some are able to over come their fears and stand tall in public. You won’t even know they are introverts until you watch them closely.

Ever wonder why working class introverts are called double or two face?

oyetpel:
Arbitrage

Albertone:
Those who overcame their fears and can now stand tall in public were once overshadowed by their fears.

The guy I was quoting was never at any point in time quiet and never feared the spotlight.
What type of introversion is that?

toujurs:
A thread for boring psycho's. Some even talk to themselves. . Wierdo's

babyfaceafrica:
These things happen

1. He could be an ambivert

2. Not every one has extreme introvert features. This is common with people with Melancholy and Choleric personalities

ebenezer880:
I'm now really finding it hard to Express myself most time, when I'm supposed to react to thing, fight back or say NO to some request I will just answer affirmative.. which later I will feel pained and will have to go back to say NO after some days, I find it hard to keep up a conversation and most time I avoid having convo with people, my phone and mum are my best friend, am alittle shy, I hate phone calls nd prefer text messages

Most people will always say very cool�, I DNT talk and lot more..
I just love my space...

But most time I wish to fight back

Rubbiish:
How old are u?

ebenezer880:
23

Rubbiish:
You are still young
By the time u start approaching 30 a lot of things will naturally change. I will also encourage u to join any group in your church where u can start contributing on issues. It will go a long way to improve your outspoken ability.

ebenezer880:
I'm now really finding it hard to Express myself most time, when I'm supposed to react to thing, fight back or say NO to some request I will just answer affirmative.. which later I will feel pained and will have to go back to say NO after some days, I find it hard to keep up a conversation and most time I avoid having convo with people, my phone and mum are my best friend, am alittle shy, I hate phone calls nd prefer text messages

Most people will always say am very cool�, I DNT talk and lot more..
I just love my space...

But most time I wish to fight back

Albertone:
Introversion accompanies a lot of anti-social tendencies.

Sometimes,you may find yourself creating valid points after an argument is over.
You may tend to avoid confrontations with people.

Sadly they don't go away on their own.We have to work hard to overcome them.

Rubbiish:
You are still young
By the time u start approaching 30 a lot of things will naturally change. I will also encourage u to join any group in your church where u can start contributing on issues. It will go a long way to improve your outspoken ability.

toujurs:
A thread for boring psycho's. Some even talk to themselves. . Wierdo's

Ayomi90:
You are not making sense, I don't think you are even educated. You know nothing.

toujurs:
See this wierdo , Taa! get out.

ebenezer880:
I'm now really finding it hard to Express myself most time, when I'm supposed to react to thing, fight back or say NO to some request I will just answer affirmative.. which later I will feel pained and will have to go back to say NO after some days, I find it hard to keep up a conversation and most time I avoid having convo with people, my phone and mum are my best friend, am alittle shy, I hate phone calls nd prefer text messages

Most people will always say am very cool�, I DNT talk and lot more..
I just love my space...

But most time I wish to fight back

abdsamad:
If you're also competitive, then you may try this little exercise: say NO to basically every request you get, for one week. Don't think about how bad the person will feel or whatever else, just say NO.
It's extreme and quite irrational but it may allow your brain to get its feet a little wet in that department.

Report back after a week to tell us how horribly it went.

ebenezer880:
I'm now really finding it hard to Express myself most time, when I'm supposed to react to thing, fight back or say NO to some request I will just answer affirmative.. which later I will feel pained and will have to go back to say NO after some days, I find it hard to keep up a conversation and most time I avoid having convo with people, my phone and mum are my best friend, am alittle shy, I hate phone calls nd prefer text messages

Most people will always say am very cool�, I DNT talk and lot more..
I just love my space...

But most time I wish to fight back

Paayne:
Being an introvert sucks.
Being a broke one is worse.
Welcome to my world.

litigator:
Simple solution. Take the personality test and join your type of introvert group on facebook. Actually join multiple groups, so you can compare your behaviour with other introverts like yourself.

The truth is, once you join these groups, you will start contributing. You are sure to find out that introverts have this weird sense of humor , double or multiple faced and are actually talkative among their kinds.

Soon you will feel comfortable in your disabilities and gradually turn it to strength. But this was what I did when I was your age. I was a bridge burner and also learnt to give them a taste of their own medicine by becoming a better person of value.

Add value to your self and monetize it. Reduce talking to people orally and have them put their request down in writing.

This way, you will be able to say no without looking them in the eye. If you keep up with your likes on closed social media space, you should be able to look them in the eye and say Capital ‘NO’ in a matter of months or a year.

Start exercising. It’s the best way to burn negative energy. Filter people that are using or manipulating you and move away from them without saying a word. It’s the best punishment you can give them.

Then learn from the assistance you render for free.

Let me break this down by giving you a real example. In my second job as a lawyer, I worked in a firm of litigators. We had so much work load and immediately my colleagues knew I don’t say no, they started loading me with their own cases.

I was practically doing the job of 3 people for half the pay of one. Cos I was earning the least pay. But I knew what I was doing. I was simply trying to learn as much as possible and accumulate knowledge within the shortest possible time.

How did this pay me?

I never knew my boss was taking notice of everything. Suddenly, he recommended me to his friend who desperately needed a vast litigator. This friends had juicy bank and multi national briefs but had little or no litigation experience.

That’s how I became head of litigation and managing associate in a tier 2 law firm. Had my own team and gain vast exposure by going against the best of the best and SAN in court. It was scary but I was also learning from them without their knowledge. Atleast you must respond to processes filed by a SAN one way or another.

Soon I became managing associate and was earning both salaries and commission.

When Covid 19 happened, I left the firm and started mine. Guess what?

The first major brief I got was from Nairaland and it paid my entire annual salary in a matter of months. Most of my ex-boss’s client followed me to my new firm and the few that didn’t, still send referrals till date.

Suddenly, God made us a lawyer’s lawyer ( hard core litigators and masters of legal technicalities).

Other lawyers take briefs and we help them do their paperwork for a fee while the go to court and argue their cases.


Hope this helped?

Sure, thank you

Shalom.