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evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

My dear, marriage is to an extent a scam to men. We are shouldered with responsibilities way more than financial but we are treated with indirect abuse, mentally and psychologically to some extent.

Every contribution a woman bring into the family is discussed with either her aunt abroad, or her cousins, or even her close siblings in a bid to gain some accolades and glorifications.

I hear it from time to time in my house that how a woman spend her money is not a right for the husband to know but when they run into problems they want the same husband to stand by them..

Just do a little you can and protect your sanity with jealousy.. Most of them marry us to fulfil all righteousness, they truly are not comfortable being under anyone on account of marriage.

The saddest truth is that, majority of women, if you open up their mind, they wished they marry today and the man dies in few weeks and they have their entire freedom again without being under anyone..

If we look critically, average Nigerian women are so comfortable keeping secrets and privacy bound decisions with colleagues at work than their husbands at home.

How on earth would a 'sane woman' transact on property worth 10 to 18 million with only herself and a male colleague in the office as buyer and witness, all transaction without the knowledge of the husband.

They complicate their marriage and are so fast to jump in the street to wheep sentiments. 'I had police case with somebody and my husband couldn't even stand by me' after the issue has boomerang and she is about losing her secret investments..

My brother, just forget them and secure your sanity, concentrate more on the kids, take them out, play games and dont allow anything to cause you high BP. If the house becomes too unbearable, look for hotels around, sleep like a baby without anything to think of, I've slept in the car on few occasions when the house became so unbearable and I it was too late to drive out of the estate.

If you die today as they wish, they will take your kids to those small boys who had nothing to offer them, your kids would call another man daddy, she would cruise your car around cinemas with those 'chingum boyfriends'.

Average Nigerian women want to be in marriage and they expect the single life style they see on Zeeworld and Telemudo to continue..

Please take care of yourself.

Mickykarim:
You simply trying to BREAK your own home by bringing this to the public square that does not possess the requisite for THOUGHTFULNESS. A field occupied and filled with the BRAINLESS. Including, people without the EXPERIENCE for this. Some of them might not have either a HOME WIFE and or UNMARRIED. They do not know what a home is and its DEFINITION.

YOU ARE COURTING MORE TROUBLE MY FRIEND.

Go resolve whatever is going wrongly in your home with your wife. Desist from bringing your dirty linen into the public. According to you you have endured and managed this well all this while.

TOLERANCE WITH ENDURANCE, MY FRIEND.

Wish you well as you continue to understand your wife with RESOLUTION to keep your FAMILY.

Shut up with your NONSENSE!
He has done very well by bringing it here, what's left is for him to seive out what to use or discard

rickpat:
baba you are doing very very well...60k a month for food plus paying all the bills....most men won't even do that when their wife is working...

my brother,YOU ARE A VERY RESPONSIBLE MAN... DOING ALL THESE TO TAKE CARE IF HIS FAMILY DESPITE THE ROUGH TIMES FOR YOU....


YOUR WIFE DOESN'T KNOW SHE HAS A GOOD MAN...SHE IS NOT BEING SUPPORTIVE...


MY ADVISE IS CONTINUE DOING YOUR BEST,GOD WILL BLESS YOU MORE AND OPEN MORE DOORS FOR YOU... DON'T GET FRUSTRATED OR DISCOURAGED BY HER ATTITUDE...JUST IGNORE AND CONTINUE BEING RESPONSIBLE...LOVE AND CARE FOR YOUR FAMILY....forgive your wife,she knows not what she is doing!!...chai..

You started very well and ended terribly. That woman knows exactly what she's doing.
She's only being stupid, wicked, selfish and unreasonable.

Just discuss these things with her

GloriousGbola:
what a miserable existence you have

please keep stalking me - that is your destiny, after all

You have been demystified and decimated. FATALITY PRO MAX. The miserability runs in all the unfortunate males in your family. No wonder you are quick to insult men in other to have relevance. Your wrong choice of men must have really dealt you a heavy hand in life. Awon men are scum crew but women are b^tches too. Poor fatherhood or a lack of it thereof, poor judgment in relations to men or a lack of it thereof and you come to a faceless forum to rant. Kindly go to Shiloh and sing “carry me dey go” who knows? Your dead destiny maybe awaiting you this year. Never give up.

Deborah98:
Jesus person dey buy new clothes and new shoes every week and you tell me this life is balanced? My elder sister saw my post which day on WhatsApp and was asking if I'm still using my "old clothes and bags". Wetin man go do now? @Op your wife is insensitive aswear,why does God or whoever it is allow good people marry bad ones and vice versa. Check well she might be building a house somewhere or processing her visa to travel out with or without the kids. Na your type of person dey carry love and marriage matter for head. It's well

If no be say you get guy now i for tell u to please permit me to buy u suya and zobo. You spoke like a lady with good upbringing. Thanks for your comment.

redseason:
You have been demystified and decimated. FATALITY PRO MAX. The miserability runs in all the unfortunate males in your family. No wonder you are quick to insult men in other to have relevance. Your wrong choice of men must have really dealt you a heavy hand in life. Awon men are scum crew but women are b^tches too. Poor fatherhood or a lack of it thereof, poor judgment in relations to men or a lack of it thereof and you come to a faceless forum to rant. Kindly go to Shiloh and sing “carry me dey go” who knows? Your dead destiny maybe awaiting you this year. Never give up.

i would love to dish out the beating you so rihkly deserve, but you weaklings always show your selves

better join the op of this thread in trying to sort out your erectile dysfunction and your search for hookup on whatsapp groups

what a wasted generation of small penis lethargy excuses for men.

Op Please do all you can to the best of your ability and try working on better communication with your wife, marriage na understanding.

Both wife and husband all go through rough patches in marriage , especially when they are both working and something happens along the line, your ability to withstand such rough patches with the support of each other makes your marriage stronger.

God will keep your home

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

Are men still expected to pay all the bills? Bro, I live with my partner, and we split every house bill equally.

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

That's women for you. They work and keep their money for themselves and the children

Oga I can gladly tell you that you’re trying and if she keep bugging you that you ain’t trying kick her out of your house at least you don born no let her drama add to your problem before we hear stories that touch oo

Lawly:
omo the kind of things i hear and read about insensitive women in marriage scares me. I currently have one on my head trying her best to hide her true self and pressure me into marriage including reporting me to people she feels have influence on me. i don't keep friends at all but whenever she's around me and I talk to someone else, she complains bitterly and she honestly expect me to marry her. she wants 100% of my attention to be with her and everything she wants. she's not ready to release 1%. she's looking for someone's son she will imprison into marriage and she wants be to be her slave. me that even has anger issues. it is well. that kind one marry her tomorrow and you must drive away everyone that made you somebody from your house else you won't have peace in your house. I have met with some ladies that applied to divorce their husbands. some of those girls' characters are TERRIBLE. I can't even have them for a girlfriend

This is what am passing through too

Lotechi:
Are men still expected to pay all the bills? Bro, I live with my partner, and we split every house bill equally.

you marry a good woman

surgevessel:
My dear, marriage is to an extent a scam to men. We are shouldered with responsibilities way more than financial but we are treated with indirect abuse, mentally and psychologically to some extent.

Every contribution a woman bring into the family is discussed with either her aunt abroad, or her cousins, or even her close siblings in a bid to gain some accolades and glorifications.

I hear it from time to time in my house that how a woman spend her money is not a right for the husband to know but when they run into problems they want the same husband to stand by them..

Just do a little you can and protect your sanity with jealousy.. Most of them marry us to fulfil all righteousness, they truly are not comfortable being under anyone on account of marriage.

The saddest truth is that, majority of women, if you open up their mind, they wished they marry today and the man dies in few weeks and they have their entire freedom again without being under anyone..

If we look critically, average Nigerian women are so comfortable keeping secrets and privacy bound decisions with colleagues at work than their husbands at home.

How on earth would a 'sane woman' transact on property worth 10 to 18 million with only herself and a male colleague in the office as buyer and witness, all transaction without the knowledge of the husband.

They complicate their marriage and are so fast to jump in the street to wheep sentiments. 'I had police case with somebody and my husband couldn't even stand by me' after the issue has boomerang and she is about losing her secret investments..

My brother, just forget them and secure your sanity, concentrate more on the kids, take them out, play games and dont allow anything to cause you high BP. If the house becomes too unbearable, look for hotels around, sleep like a baby without anything to think of, I've slept in the car on few occasions when the house became so unbearable and I it was too late to drive out of the estate.

If you die today as they wish, they will take your kids to those small boys who had nothing to offer them, your kids would call another man daddy, she would cruise your car around cinemas with those 'chingum boyfriends'.

Average Nigerian women want to be in marriage and they expect the single life style they see on Zeeworld and Telemudo to continue..

Please take care of yourself.

I love this ur advice

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

15k every week means approx 2k daily for 12 meals , approx 170 per meal

ManAustin:
If no be say you get guy now i for tell u to please permit me to buy u suya and zobo. You spoke like a lady with good upbringing. Thanks for your comment.

Make I send aza which one be I get guy again oga ... See the weather is hot here I need the zobo to cool my brain.

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

That's y I no wan marry

Deborah98:
Jesus person dey buy new clothes and new shoes every week and you tell me this life is balanced? My elder sister saw my post which day on WhatsApp and was asking if I'm still using my "old clothes and bags". Wetin man go do now? @Op your wife is insensitive aswear,why does God or whoever it is allow good people marry bad ones and vice versa. Check well she might be building a house somewhere or processing her visa to travel out with or without the kids. Na your type of person dey carry love and marriage matter for head. It's well

That visa part happened to my friend

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

So what standard did you set for your marriage before getting into it?
Are you coming here to tell us this for your validation.

Marriage is set on your own terms and not on what people say on SM..You married your wife and didn't post on SM neither did the people in SM attend.

So go take care of your issues

Deborah98:
Make I send aza which one be I get guy again oga ... See the weather is hot here I need the zobo to cool my brain.

Lol but wetin i tell u be say make u permit me to buy you those things of life, so na wetin i go use my hand buy am give you, no be to send u the funds na aunty Debo.

Deborah98:
Jesus person dey buy new clothes and new shoes every week and you tell me this life is balanced? My elder sister saw my post which day on WhatsApp and was asking if I'm still using my "old clothes and bags". Wetin man go do now? @Op your wife is insensitive aswear,why does God or whoever it is allow good people marry bad ones and vice versa. Check well she might be building a house somewhere or processing her visa to travel out with or without the kids. Na your type of person dey carry love and marriage matter for head. It's well

I once had a girlfriend like that, I ended the relationship immediately. Not because it had any effect on me, but such people need to have their brains checked.

Truvelisback:
U are doing ur best. Ur wife is an Ingrate and selfish too.

Women are selfish generally,know this and know peace.What about me that is owing the bank loan of 10m and still give my wife 240k monthly for upkeep yet she keep complaining that the money is not enough having even been aware that I’m in big debts?Two weeks ago I just discovered she had a child before we met which she has kept a secret from me and my money has been going to that child,while she keep pressing me for more money.I just separated from her jeje

ManAustin:
Lol but wetin i tell u be say make u permit me to buy you those things of life, so na wetin i go use my hand buy am give you, no be to send u the funds na aunty Debo.

This man... Toor if you see me no probs. I don't think we live in same region though. Anyways thanks for having the mind to gift something.

This kind matter nor dey hard me at all. I will divorce the brainless bimbo and take custody of my kids. I hate nonsense in this life.

evangmx:
I just lost my job like 2 months ago. I use my car to do can work. My wife works as well. And we have 2 children.

I want you to tell me the truth am I doing bad or good?

I pay all the bills at home, I still give out 15k every week for food.

But my wife still complain. I don't know what she use her salary to do. All I know is that she use to wear new cloth every Sunday and new shoes. And buys cloth for the children once in a while.

Pls tell me if am doing bad.

You and a fool for allowing a woman bad mouth and give you negative vibes..
When we tell ediots like you to control and leas Women, y'all woke SIMPs say women are not objects.. now she is showing you pepper and you are Wailing..
This is the beginning.. ediot.. if your wife can not account to you how she spends her salary and you are scared to make her contribute to the family. You are doomed already..
No wonder una dey die off early after slaving for her and the kids.. while the women are alive and enjoy and flex the children and grandchildren..
Get sense... Ewu.

Spiker777:
Women are selfish generally,know this and know peace.What about me that is owing the bank loan of 10m and still give my wife 240k monthly for upkeep yet she keep complaining that the money is not enough having even been aware that I’m in big debts?Two weeks ago I just discovered she had a child before we met which she has kept a secret from me and my money has been going to that child,while she keep pressing me for more money.I just separated from her jeje

Lol.. when we tell SIMPs like you to always be firm and in charge and be the boss and make your words and decisions be final.. una talk say women no be slaves or objects to be controlled..
Lol.. she used your money to cater for her love child while you work your Ass off to provide for another man's sperm..
Marrying a single mom is the worst thing ever in life.. but SIMPs won't hear.. see who is Wailing now..
I wish I can have your type as step dad for my kids..
Use my money to invest on my self and enjoy life while you cater for my kids..
When old age reach I go tell them say na their mother no gree make I bear them or contribute.. the boys go understand.. I reunite with them after you have done your thankless job..
Ozour..

Deborah98:
Jesus person dey buy new clothes and new shoes every week and you tell me this life is balanced? My elder sister saw my post which day on WhatsApp and was asking if I'm still using my "old clothes and bags". Wetin man go do now? @Op your wife is insensitive aswear,why does God or whoever it is allow good people marry bad ones and vice versa. Check well she might be building a house somewhere or processing her visa to travel out with or without the kids. Na your type of person dey carry love and marriage matter for head. It's well

I perceive trust issues with your soul.

Free your mind from all this irrelevant thoughts and see how beautiful your soul will be.

BigYash:
So na ice cream go change that kind of wife? You are missing something huge..
Op is in trouble, he never know

brother . has we were discussin earlier, please can i yansh u on Friday after mosque?

Even if it takes me 10years to find a sensible woman, i will strive.

surgevessel:
My dear, marriage is to an extent a scam to men. We are shouldered with responsibilities way more than financial but we are treated with indirect abuse, mentally and psychologically to some extent.

Every contribution a woman bring into the family is discussed with either her aunt abroad, or her cousins, or even her close siblings in a bid to gain some accolades and glorifications.

I hear it from time to time in my house that how a woman spend her money is not a right for the husband to know but when they run into problems they want the same husband to stand by them..

Just do a little you can and protect your sanity with jealousy.. Most of them marry us to fulfil all righteousness, they truly are not comfortable being under anyone on account of marriage.

The saddest truth is that, majority of women, if you open up their mind, they wished they marry today and the man dies in few weeks and they have their entire freedom again without being under anyone..

If we look critically, average Nigerian women are so comfortable keeping secrets and privacy bound decisions with colleagues at work than their husbands at home.

How on earth would a 'sane woman' transact on property worth 10 to 18 million with only herself and a male colleague in the office as buyer and witness, all transaction without the knowledge of the husband.

They complicate their marriage and are so fast to jump in the street to wheep sentiments. 'I had police case with somebody and my husband couldn't even stand by me' after the issue has boomerang and she is about losing her secret investments..

My brother, just forget them and secure your sanity, concentrate more on the kids, take them out, play games and dont allow anything to cause you high BP. If the house becomes too unbearable, look for hotels around, sleep like a baby without anything to think of, I've slept in the car on few occasions when the house became so unbearable and I it was too late to drive out of the estate.

If you die today as they wish, they will take your kids to those small boys who had nothing to offer them, your kids would call another man daddy, she would cruise your car around cinemas with those 'chingum boyfriends'.

Average Nigerian women want to be in marriage and they expect the single life style they see on Zeeworld and Telemudo to continue..

Please take care of yourself.

Have no pity for Weaklings like you..
Got so annoyed reading how pathetic you are.. infact you are a Stoopid Vseless simp phool..
Don't quit that shame if a marriage.. stay put cos you don't want your children to be raised in a broken home..
I just pray say she kee you and start enjoying your wealth and fucvkin sma boys in your house..
Ozour.

Mickykarim:
IF HE IS MATURED ENOUGH TO FILTER ANYTHING AS AN ADULT. HIS RECENT MOVE CLEARLY PROVED YOU AND HIM OTHERWISE.

For your INFORMATION and EDUCATION. No successful union and matrimony ever had external FORCES and OPINIONS intervention in their internal affairs. Their internal matrimonial home is never for public comsumption.

A MAN CAME PUBLIC TO DISPARAGE HIS SIGNIFICANT HALF, CLAIMING SHE USE HER MONEY ON CERTAIN ITEMS THAT IS NOT NEW TO HIM SINCE THEY CAME TOGETHER AND FOR HOW LONG.

He also sings his own praise in contrast to his wife's.

SO MUCH FOR YOUR MATURED MAN!

Thunda Faya yhu and yhur Vseless MODA..
Phool..