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jeromestarks:
God forbid!
An idiot like you can never be my brother.
My mama no born mumu.
Marry a virgin, you no hear. Now see your life.
Mumu still dey wait make she fvck the guy again before hin divorce the ashawo. Chayiii.
Person wey curse you don die. No redemption for you.

why calling me an idiot on issue I can't control?That she cheat with me her ex is my fault.I am not saying I will not disolve the marriage anytime soon but I need time and money before doing that
People like you make matters worst.Any way thanks for your input

Soulflai:
why calling me an idiot on issue I can't control?That she cheat with me her ex is my fault.I am not saying I will not disolve the marriage anytime soon but I need time and money before doing that
People like you make matters worst.Any way thanks for your input

Why didn't you marry a virgin?
Why didn't you divorce her immediately you saw evidence of cheating?
Why did you have to call the ex? (As in for what exactly?)
These are the things that made me call you an idiot. But it's not too late though. I take back the insult because you have promised to disolve the marriage.
Please if you can, take the baby after she delivers it anywhere. Make sure you always tell the child what the mother did so that s/he would know that whoring is not good.
Good luck my friend.

Soulflai:
why calling me an idiot on issue I can't control?That she cheat with me her ex is my fault.I am not saying I will not disolve the marriage anytime soon but I need time and money before doing that
People like you make matters worst.Any way thanks for your input

Where I am from. When a woman is cheating, difficulties are bound to happen to the husband. And when he finds out without approaching her for cleansing which is beyond confession. Worst calamity may likely happen to him, he begins to die slowly.

I will advice you separate from her for now, she should take the kids along. Keep your evidence, and as soon as your financials are fair enough. File for custody of the kids and they should be of age by then. If at all, the first child is truly yours. I can spare anything, but not a cheating wife. In all you do, prioritize your wellbeing, safety and thoughts.

I wish you all the healing you need.

Hmmmm guy, sorry ooo. Just give her emotional space, don't sleep with her until she pays for the DNA test of all the children and STI tests on both of you,

After this you may consider taking her back. When next she thinks of adultry, she will remember the cost and advice her self.

This is really worth intruding in

My guy pls get her family aware of this before making your final decision else she’ll paint you black to her family

The moment you noticed her unfaithfulness, you would’ve related the issue with her parents once and for all

Then when you notice another flimsy move, you just kick her outta your life and let her keep the kids while you just send her money for upkeep
That way no one will have your name in the mud for separating with your wife who’s got lil kids on her

jeromestarks:
Why didn't you marry a virgin?
Why didn't you divorce her immediately you saw evidence of cheating?
Why did you have to call the ex? (As in for what exactly?)
These are the things that made me call you an idiot. But it's not too late though. I take back the insult because you have promised to disolve the marriage.
Please if you can, take the baby after she delivers it anywhere. Make sure you always tell the child what the mother did so that s/he would know that whoring is not good.
Good luck my friend.

You don't get the story,she has given birth already.The baby is almost 2 years now .All her sex excapade with her ex happen 2 years ago when we just newly married.I just got to know through WhatsApp back up chat with her ex.She didn't do it now.

Soulflai:
You don't get the story,she has given birth already.The baby is almost 2 years now .All her sex excapade with her ex happen 2 years ago when we just newly married.I just got to know through WhatsApp back up chat with her ex.She didn't do it now.

It doesn't matter bro.
If it happened 'then' , it can happen now. You promised to send her away right? That's a great step. So, do it already.

Adevector:
Fool

Thanks for that.

The kids are 2 years old now,all her sex excapade with her ex happened 2 years ago.

Jesuisbelle:
Separate from her RIGHT NOW . Expect that the unborn isn't your baby until you have proof (DNA Test) that the child is yours.


Talk to friends and family about what she did and don't bottle your emotions up, let them out. Cry when you are sad and punch a pillow when you get angry.

You are worth so much more than to be treated this way.

Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

I have never insulted anybody on Nairaland before. But for this nonsense
You're such a big f**l. The biggest f**l I've ever seen on earth.

The lamentations of a weak man!

See, I normally don't like to be this harsh, but this post is beyond irritating!

This might not be real anyway, but this is the state of a lot of marriages and relationships today... Bitch ass men ready to endure cheating and being used just to have a marriage and relationship instead of calling it quits and moving on!

The other day I saw several social media posts of grown ass men weeping disconsolately just because they were dumped or caught their partners cheating... I was shocked to my marrow!!!

This generation is a DISGRACE!!! Tufia!

Righteousness2:
Sorry bro. Really a painful and unfortunate discovery.

You both should Seek Godly counseling from one who is Spiritually matured. Someone you both can Confindently pour out the truth of your home to.

I Pray for you! GOD Almighty Heal you, Heal your Home and Restore your Home in JESUS Name..

Which restoration, what he need is divorce not restoration

Who told you that the child is yours?

Sorry, but have you done DNA test for your child? I don't want to be negative but there's high chances that that child is not yours.

Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

You're an idiot

All is well....


Leaving in he'll on earth



You know what to do.

Go do DNA test fast fast

Forgetting your ex is really not that easy ,cos everybody's got an ex,

Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

Bro, this is the saddest thing I've read in a while. You need to let her go for your long term sanity. The kids will be fine. You need to let her go. Some sins are not for man to forgive.

Stop saying you need money and time to divorce her. Maybe now she's smarter at covering her cheating tracks that's why you think it stopped 2 years ago.

Sounds like your marriage is already over but you are yet to accept the fact.

Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

Ahhhh Nawa Oh. If say you come from my Village, your wife sleeping with another man would have killed you. Adultery Kills and believe me she will never stop. You should let her go.

End the matriage

only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early.

Man...u have said it all

Baby wey no be your own.
Ode man.

Soulflai:
I shouldn't have brought this here but the emotional bargage is too heavy for me to move on in. My marriage of 2 years is about to crumble.

I met my wife in Kaduna Southern part in 2017. Our relationship had been a long distance one as I base in Lagos while she also work in Kaduna, but we eventually married in 2020. The bone of contention is the issue of her ex. That point we are dating, I always caution her to cut communication with the guy, she will do it by deleting the number, but later I will find out they're still relating.

Last month, I purchased a new phone and I had to give her my own. So on the process of reinstalling Whatsapp on her phone, I retrieved all the backup Whatsapp messages 7 which left me devastated. The chat history with her ex really left me broken.

On multiple occasions after I paid her dowry, she met with the guy and they had sex. Multiple times pals! Even after marriage, when she is 5 months pregnant, the guy still had her with my baby inside her!

I am really broken pals, I confronted her on this, she started crying that she will cut communication with him. The guy even send some money to her account on difference time this year.

This is the height of emotional damage. I am just leaving each day just to find my leg financially. I am trying my best, but it is not enough.

Lastly, I called the so-called ex on phone to cut communication with her, the guy is in Kaduna I think while we are in Lagos. She also blocked him all avenues likewise. My decision now is that any time I discovered any form of communication between her and the guy, it is over with the marriage. I think she is not really in to me like that, which beg the question while she married me in first instance.

If am your brother, what advice would you recommend? I only choose to be lenient because the kids are just too small to have their parents separated early. If not, I would have sent her parking!.

Right now I am just not happy with life afterall.

Southern kaduna girls are confirmed olosho na. The Ex sabi Bleep pass u be that maybe with a bigger gbola. Sorry guy.

This is terrible Bro, just run as fast as u can..wetin I dey read baayi. Get yourself together and leave in Peace

Bro no be you get the pikin ooo

Here is my theory , when you sleep with a pregnant woman who is carrying another persons child you go broke...as in sapa go dey wooze you till the child is old enough to call money.

Now while this your wife was pregnant only you and the other guy were giving it to her, right now you are broke while the other guy can still finance your wife which means he is buoyant.

Go and do DNA test and confirm.

Take your life seriously so that you won't suffer. That is my 2 rand.

You know what to do.

DO IT.

She will have a special simcard and hide it to be calling him codedly, she will never stop, imagine 5 month and still having sex with ex. You will live with the imaginary forever, just go buy your coffin if she is still staying with you

Vikkoh:
What other advice do you want Bros?


Dump her sorry a$$ and take care of your children the best way you can.
Forget what the society would say. Your life and sanity matters and you shouldn't joke with that.

Meanwhile, don't listen to the Righteousness guy.
Him go start to dey explain how your story is a sign of end time .

What children?!! His or the Ex?!!

You actually believe those kids or kid will be his! Lol!

She doesn't deserve you bro.