[quote author=BirtherOfKings post=115619106]U don't need a second wife but God's help I. Turning the heart of your wife to say the truth so u both can find a solution together..that's what makes a man great and not going against God's will...I can even adopt in the meantime [/quoteln] See them BAD advisers....

udede:
if you read my responses you will notice that i have had a heart tp heart talk with her many times , that was when she permitted me to marry a second wife

Is she the head of the house, that she will grant you permission to take a second wife...considering her sole decision to not want kids? Why would you seek her permission when she did not seek your input or understanding when she was taking such a foundational decision...

If she had informed you of her intent to not have kids, I bet you will not have either continue with the courtship, talkless of marriage..this a deal breaker...look, its not only infidelity that can invalidate marriage oh, your situation is a classic example of irreconcilable differences.

When you marry a second wife and your undivided attention shift to your new tear leather wife who is dropping lovely bouncing baby kids back to back for you, she will get jealous and start making trouble...you will no longer have peace, a man needs his peace!

If I were in your shoes, she will sign the divorce paper, then I will proceed to marrying a new wife...if the church says peem, I divorce the church too!.

descartes400:


Is she the head of the house, that she will grant you permission to take a second wife...considering her sole decision to not want kids? Why would you seek her permission when she did not seek your input or understanding when she was taking such a foundational decision...

If she had informed you of her intent to not have kids, I bet you will not have either continue with the courtship, talkless of marriage..this a deal breaker...look, its not only infidelity that can invalidate marriage oh, your situation is a classic example of irreconcilable differences.

When you marry a second wife and your undivided attention shift to your new tear leather wife who is dropping lovely bouncing baby kids back to back for you, she will get jealous and start making trouble...you will no longer have peace, a man needs his peace!

If I were in your shoes, she will sign the divorce paper, then I will proceed to marrying a new wife...if the church says peem, I divorce the church too!.

thank you very much for your very mature advice

What is ur family and hers saying? How come u waited this long bfr crying out. Discuss with her and tell her it’s time for d both of u to go ur seperate ways because u both dont hv same vision. How can u b stagnated for ten yrs because of a woman who probably does not hv a womb or something bad has happened to her reproductive organ and she has refuse to tell u. Nothing like polygamous in this matter it’s overdue for u to escalate it to both families and even ur church. Then d truth will b exposed

micflo28:
If your sperm is healthy and you have tried to impregnate and failed. Breaking news, your wife is wombless. Take her to see your pastor.

Pastors now do womb transplant,?.. Nigeria and Africa are becoming more Christian than the people that started the journey with Christ.

We will know where the problem is ,instead of taking action putting legal backing in view then sit back for God to bless our effort we will allow evil to prevail and be running to God,.Even faith without Good work is dead.

Once you obtain marriage under false pretense (church or court) divorce is allowed straight

UyaiIncomparabl:


You are very ignorant. Not every woman wants kids. Not every woman has motherly instincts.

You are right. I once dated one Anambra girl,.when we got serious she came plane that she doesn't want to have kids and have dreams traveling all over the world and nothing to hold her back..

We went our ways peacefully..last we chatted she was in SA and still no plans of settling down.

But my worry is why it took this long and why she doesn't want to go away lolz,maybe op sabi do the do or she is enjoying comfort and riches..If na Yankee na capital cashout for her church and family permission won't save op from that one

Spherica177:
having kids is not the aim of marriage. You can have kids with or without marriage either biological or adoption

He wants it and she doesn't, then the marriage is of no purpose to him. Let her simply vacate the space for serious woman to fill.

DeHorus:
He wants it and she doesn't, then the marriage is of no purpose to him. Let her simply vacate the space for serious woman to fill.

wait to hear from the other side story before jumping into conclusion

udede:
if you read my responses you will notice that i have had a heart tp heart talk with her many times , that was when she permitted me to marry a second wife

So why are you here? What else do you want us to tell you?

udede:
there was no agreement with her not to have kids, i also noticed that she is hiding things from me especially reasons why she couldn't have kids.

Your wife Is Barren

udede:
in the christian religious denomination i belong, polygamy (polygny) is normal and we know how to practice it peacefuly, she can't harm anyone because everyone has their own spaces.


As for divorce, she simply refused to go (actually I'm a husband material with good looks , without being a simp,) in our church you can't divorce any woman without an evidence of adultry or witchcraft. More over she is very harmless and likable, i even have her permission to marry a second wife

You see, she gave u permission cos she knows she's barren..

Are you sure that woman have womb?

Spherica177:
wait to hear from the other side story before jumping into conclusion

She's not on NL

Really

Things are often not as they seem -oir as they are presented.

Do you have clear evidence that she is unwilling to or she is unable to have children?

During our pre-wedding days, went to meet an older family friend of my fiance's family. In my response to his first question of 'why do you want to marry?' I was eager to start by saying 'I love children bla bla...'

He responded by saying there is a serious problem, because what I am saying is if my wife is unable to have kids, then the marriage would become threatened. He advised we go back and review our priorities.

There is a lot of safety in pre-marital counseling, which we are too arrogant to undergo these days.

I am ill-equiped to advise the op, but those coming behind should note that there are no limits to the conversations you should have before you commit your lives into each other's hands.

Your wife is hidden something from sit her and ask her problem maybe she have remove her womb

Your wife is hidden something from You sit her, and ask her, her problem maybe she have remove her womb

Edoziesmart:

Is it today you noticed suck big time in composing good English
The dude is succeeding in blogging with the help of article spinner and grammerly premium

Cha E!

Is Just Speechless

Mr Man.

Stop fooling yourself with your senseless excuses. My church said this, my church said that, my church will not allow this. Na church dey fork your wife for you.

Your wife has no womb.

udede:
our church don't grant divorce unless you have evidence of adultry. The church granted me permission to marry a second wife, and she is very ok with it

Nonam:
Mr Man.

Stop fooling yourself with your senseless excuses. My church said this, my church said that, my church will not allow this. Na church dey fork your wife for you.

Your wife has no womb.

must you insult to advise

udede:
must you insult to advise

Actually he is kinda right apart from the insult part... Stop letting someone decide ur life for u... Your pastor is not you neither is he living with u... This is your own life and marriage ok
Be a man... For 10yrs
They don't accept divorce but accept second marriage reason it yourself. Silly

Because you are sounding like a ternager. Your church said this. Your church said that.

At your age, na your church go make decision for you.

udede:
must you insult to advise

Na wa oooo God help us

Sweetvie:
Actually he is kinda right apart from the insult part... Stop letting someone decide ur life for u... Your pastor is not you neither is he living with u... This is your own life and marriage ok
Be a man... For 10yrs
They don't accept divorce but accept second marriage reason it yourself. Silly

Hmmm it is well

[quote author=Sweetvie post=115910345] Actually he is kinda right apart from the insult part... Stop letting someone decide ur life for u... Your pastor is not you neither is he living with u... This is your own life and marriage ok
Be a man... For 10yrs
They don't accept divorce but accept second marriage reason it yourself. Silly[/qu

Tinoakpabio444:

Hmmm it is well

Yes oh

udede:
there was no agreement with her not to have kids, i also noticed that she is hiding things from me especially reasons why she couldn't have kids.

Pls explain this point to me, do u mean she doesn't want kids or she couldn't have kids?

Upworkwriter007:
She can't give birth. Forget story. Motherly instinct makes every woman want kids.

are u sure of what u r saying?

JustforMen:
19 years old side chick to the rescue.

Step out and help yourself. If a man dies without children he's lineage is gone.

No one bears your genes and this is not the natural evolutionary order of things.

At old age, nothing else matters apart from good health and the joy of your kids doing well and naughty grandkids pulling your grey hair, and listening to your old man tales.

I REPEAT, NOTHING ELSE MATTERS!!!!


Help yourself.

i disagree!

Templee333:

i disagree!

You are very free to!

VenumX:


So why are you here? What else do you want us to tell you?

i am here to find a young lady that want to settle down. You may not know how hard it is for a Christian in modern society of today to find a second wife

udede:
in the christian religious denomination i belong, polygamy (polygny) is normal and we know how to practice it peacefuly, she can't harm anyone because everyone has their own spaces.


As for divorce, she simply refused to go (actually I'm a husband material with good looks , without being a simp,) in our church you can't divorce any woman without an evidence of adultry or witchcraft. More over she is very harmless and likable, i even have her permission to marry a second wife

OYA YOU ARE A SIMP!!!