Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.

She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.

I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby. Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.

I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

You are a useless father,by the way where is the mother of these your children? . It is bad you disown her ,if you have taken good care of her she will not be impregnated that way ,now that it has happen you ought to take good care of her,call the parents of the boy to take of the baby and your daughter with you. Only God knows tomorrow but thank God you did not send her for abortion that can lead to her death and that of the unborn child. Go back and take good care of her and the baby beg for forgiveness.

2 wrong don’t make a right. Take your daughter and the baby back for immediate medical attention bros.

Let the boyfriend take care of the baby.

While you take your daughter and treat her.

When she recovers, let her go back to that boy for him to continue taking care of her and his child.

He must also send her to University too while feeding and training his baby.

They must get sense by force if not your daughter will come back home in two years time with baby number 2 from that same boy while the boy walks about freely without taking up his responsibilities and your daughter will still not get sense.

Girls no dey get sense

Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.

She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.

I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby. Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.

I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

Like daughter like mother, where's your husband, probably you divorced or you baby mama hoiin around, like all Dem bitches here in L A

Survivor2020:
He is 21

Still a young jobless boy I see.

Happy to hear you have forgiven your child, but please do not take her back without her baby. That baby is your grandchild and your chance to show that you are a father not only to your kids but to your grandkids as well. I can't tell you your daughter has changed or that she will never run to another boy, but what I know is a parent's responsibility to love their kids even through their "damage" and do so patiently.

Guy go and help your daughter.

You fit dun even chase your baby mother or wife comot, now you cun chase your daughter.

You be masquerade wey dey chase everybody?

Go and help your daughter and your grandchild. At least make she grow small, until maybe her 20s. The baby father sounds like a real bum. No nothing from his path.

Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.

She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.

I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby. Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.

I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

Firstly am sorry for such experience, I know how painful it is. Their is an adage, you don't trow away the baby and the dirty water away, u bring out the child and trow away the dirty water.

Pls everyone makes mistake, no matter what don't disown her. Bring her in and take care of her and the child.
make rules.

Survivor2020:


His mother is alive he also has three elder sisters living at home who are in the best position to take care of their grand daughter/ niece

Take care of their niece with what? People that find it hard to feed is it who you want to take care of a baby

Baby food is costly.

THAT BABY IS YOUR GRANDCHILD AND THE MOTHER IS YOUR CHILD SO STOP MESSING ABOUT.

TAKE THEM INTO YOUR HOUSE AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF THEM.

Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.

She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.

I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby. Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.

I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

Got a student some few years back ... She was and is still very sound ... She finished secondary school when she was 15 got pregnant some months later ... I was so dissappointed ... We were not related ... Was just her teacher ... But I cried when the news got to me... I was very close to her... She couldn't visit me ... But I registered her for jamb already ... The mum called and asked if she could still write the exam... I encouraged them and her to go write it since we have registered ... She wrote the exam close to 8months plus gone I just told the mum to follow her and not send her sister with to go write the exam incase you goes into labor... Sir... She wrote the exam... She gave birth some weeks later ... She got her admission ... She just finished writing her project at 21. Imagine if she was neglected sir... She still looks very young and pretty... Please take of them both ... My own student was not left alone ooo... The parent just have to forgive her and took her in... Please go take your child and grandchild ... I know its not easy ... But to avert more problems

Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.

She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.

I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby. Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.

I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

Your decision IMHO is bad because it is self-centred, just like your initial decision to disown a mistaken, confused and troubled 17-year old daughter in the first place. Yall's number one concern right now should be protecting the baby and the nursing mother, not your badly bruised ego and reputation. I understand it is not an easy situation for you or anyone else involved and guess what? even the best solution in this case would still be a difficult one - so there's no easy way out.

Like someone pointed out in the comment, you did not state the age of the father of your daughter's baby. As responsible adults, both families, headed by you and the other grandparent (if available) should sit down with the kids and have a heart-to-heart to work something out that would be favourable to the most vulnerable persons (the baby and the mother) in the short, medium and long term. PLEASE!

Most times the strenght of character of our offsprings are a reflection of our failure/acomplishment as parents. You sir, are the architect of your girl's predicament (that alright, we find ourselves deep in life ish/consequences). Your saving grace is showing more love to your girl, you see...the 2 of you need to work routines so the 7yr old uncle and the baby can have attention and care. Try and show just a little tolerance if the shows more interest in the welfare your grand child than your daughter. Y'all try to get along.

The way some people act..I wonder if they are human...And you will claim you love your daughter..You did all that to her because she brought you shame..and that shame is because of what people will say oo and all that..see people will still say something and if she dies Godforbid people will still say you are a wicked man..I am not justifying her actions...She suffered alot...If this is how God treat all of us who will stand..you self..have you not brought God shame countless times..did he let go of you...Be the father you are and protect your child no matter what..this is the time she needs intensive care from you more than ever..protect her, shield her...she is your daughter for a purpose...

Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.

She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.

I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby. Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.

I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

When the purpose of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable, this one is a case of a man that gave birth without knowing the role to play in the lives of his kids.
Oga you failed in your duty as a father.

Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.

She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.

I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby. Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.

I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

You sef, how old were you when you had your daughter ?

Why are you so intent on repeating generational trauma.

Please, move as fast as u can. Go get her and d baby. We all make mistake, swear u have done something wrong before?

OP simply put, you dont give a f^ck about whatever we dish to you in terms wisdom counsel, big question is why did you bring it here? Most likely your mind is made up on what you want to do

Oh your 17 years old daughter got pregnant and next thing is to disown her.... Firstly,her pregnancy showed that you failed as a parent and only way out is to accept her back with love and take care of the new born baby.

If you don't know we have many successful ladies who have passed through what your daughter is passing through,for instance Ireti Doyle had similar experienced with your daughter and she is successful today

Pls show her love and see God wonder.

Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.

She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.

I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby. Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.

I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

According to the law a 17 yr old girl is still a child, and I believe she started having sex when she was 15 or 16 ,. My friend you failed as a father , you left your little girl to raise herself while you are always out from morning till evening chasing money , what happened to the girls mother? Look your son will do worst than what your daughter did. Cause he himself is too young to raise himself while you are out making money

Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.

She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.

I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby. Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.

I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

You want the father to take care of a year old child?

I don't understand.

As a parent, you didn't try enough to look after your daughter, and now she got into trouble you now want to abandon her, haba it's unfair sir/ma, please accept her and the baby back, so that u can see the mercy of God.

Wotoporiously speaking

Ogbeni go collect your daughter and the baby back cuz if you don't years from now you'll regret this decision you took..Shit happens in life we are not monsters but human.

You only care Abt the comfort of you and your daughter bt you didn't care Abt the baby...It's a shame

Kobojunkie:
Still a young jobless boy I see.

Happy to hear you have forgiven your child, but please do not take her back without her baby. That baby is your grandchild and your chance to show that you are a father not only to your kids but to your grandkids as well. I can't tell you your daughter has changed or that she will never run to another boy, but what I know is a parent's responsibility to love their kids even through their "damage" and do so patiently.

Nice one Kobo. I hope the op will listen.

Your first fk nah to chase your daughter out of your house, second fk nah to allow that girl born for that boy family house, now them Don feed her with malnourished food now sickness Don hold her ransom and you're about to make the 3rd mistake by taking only your daughter and leaving the son behind, pikin wey still dey suck breast oo, abeg where una dey get all these dangerous mind nah.

Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.

She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.

I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby. Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.

I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

Only you understand the kind of pain you go through because your daughter got pregnant, but you have to forgive her and take her back please.

Take her back with the baby.

Please do this and you won't regret doing it.

But I fear you o, how have you been sleeping comfortably knowing the kind of ordeal your daughter is going through?

I know is easier said than done, but as e don happen, e don happen be that. As time goes, you will fully heal and you will be glad you take her with the baby back.

Survivor2020:
My 17 years old brought shame to me last year she got pregnant, I have disowned her and sent her packing. She is staying with her boyfriend in his family home.

She gave birth 5 months ago she has been sick ever since she had the baby and the boyfriend doesn't have any money to take care of her. Plus the living condition is not suitable for her in her condition.

I have forgiven her and I want to take her back home so I can take her to the hospital for treatment but I don't want her to come with her baby. Please note there is only me and my 7 years old son at home. I work and my son goes to school till 5pm.

I don't have time to babysit the baby.
I want the father to take care of his child while I take care of mine.
I hope my decision is not bad?

I understand the anger, frustration and dissapointment. But she still remains your daughter and you are still a grand dad to her child, please accept her and the baby and take care of both, don't let her dumb mistake take her life. I believe she has gone through enough pain.

Oga calm down. ...take them both

Really

Where is the father of your 7yrs old daughter??

At 17, a girl is already secretly riding on a phallus to the point of getting pregnant.......

Well, Jeromestark and Co is a strong advocate of geetin married to a virgin.

Foodqueen:
Since there is no woman that can take care of the baby in your house, your decision isn't bad.

I hope the guy's mother is there.

Pls make haste before it's too late.

We've seen situations like this multiple times, both in movies and real life, it usually doesn't end well.

Best wishes

5month pikin wey still dey suck breast
Weldone maa