Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

My gal friend has been disturbing me to marry her. Buh I’m afraid. I TOld her I need baby mama not marriage. Women naturally have attitude problem which I can deal with. And I’m not ready to be a gay. Just see watin person wife do. Chai. If any of my sis do this I will dis-sibling her

Humble yourself, submit and show him respect and get the love you deserve. Find ways of apologising and reconciling with him. I wish you luck

women like u are self centered...
u had a fight with ur husband. ended the call, and stayed for 9 or abi 6 weeks...
ego na ur problem...
ur are toxic...


i pray God gives him the strength to show u that ego destroys relationship in seconds...

VTJN:
Lol

You should know that most of them are childish with no family value orientation

Don't you see how some of them are singing the man should cut her off, divorce her, bla bla bla

Even though we all know that the woman is completely wrong

If you as a man believe in Tit for Tat then you should remain single

Most of our parents made sacrifices to get this far in their various marriages

Some even still consider their marriage in the face of cheating

Marriage is not for kids truly

Most of our parents also divorce for less excuses. Don't make it look like divorce only became a thing today.

Fahvvy:
You had an argument with your hubby over the phone...
You hung up on him before he could say his peace...
Avoided his calls consecutively for 4days...
Cut him off completely for 9weeks...

And then out of the blues, you send a completely unrelated message without first trying to resolve the old issue and you expect him to be cool with that?
You expect to just come through for you because you finally reached out to him?
LMAO ...

My dear...
The same way you took the initiative to start this matter is the same way you should take the initiative to end it...

The fact that you felt comfortable cutting your hubby off for 9 full weeks is proof that this is not the first time you have given him the cold shoulder over minor issues such as this and so Oga is fed up ...

it's funny when I realized madam use weeks(9) =2months plus to narrate her own part and using months to narrate her hubby part of the story.Pride no good at all.
Make madam jus beg the man and the thing should be settled amicably.

2elliot:
Stay one place, guy. Are Nigerian men patriarchy or they are femininised be submissive. They can't be both na, haba.

They enjoy being submissive but usually hide it behind online dictatorship posts.

MrBrownJay1:


yes he tried, and that childish woman still gave him the cold shoulder... fair enough, but let us think for a minute: you havent seen/contacted your kids for 9 weeks, and you finally get a response from that childish wife of yours, and instead of focussing on your children (and deal with that childish woman later), you would add another 3 months of silent treatment and/or NOT SEEING/CONTACTING your children, really?!?!?

It was even the children she was using as the missile in this war. She knew he would be frustrated if the children were cut off from him. And indeed, he showed that with how consistent he tried to reach her. She is now mad that he doesn't care about the children. Her frustration is not that he is not making attempts to reconcile with her, but the only weapon she had yo hold him down is neutralised.

Use the children:
Tell am say pikin get diarrhea (abi how dem dey spell am) and u nor know wetin to do ,na once him go begin call

MrBrownJay1:


well as you stated, people in your world always forgive you when you start quarrels, and therefore maybe men who dont "always forgive" (like the OP's husband) must be people who are:

Exactly that.

I do not care what adults do to each other but the children. The true victim is the children. What sort of children would this couple raise what message are they sending to the kids. I would strongly advise both of them to go for marriage counselling/get family on both sides involved before it is too late.

Your husband is still angry with you, you can try to send him a text and apologise for hanging up on him, and if he refuse to respond, then let him be, time heals all wound.

No 2, let your sibling and fiance let him be, no amount of quarrel from you two should be transferred to your families, I feel its because of the respect they have for him they've bn calling, but since he doesn't seem to care, they should let him enjoy his freedom.

Fahvvy:
You had an argument with your hubby over the phone...
You hung up on him before he could say his peace...
Avoided his calls consecutively for 4days...
Cut him off completely for 9weeks...

And then out of the blues, you send a completely unrelated message without first trying to resolve the old issue and you expect him to be cool with that?
You expect to just come through for you because you finally reached out to him?
LMAO ...

My dear...
The same way you took the initiative to start this matter is the same way you should take the initiative to end it...

The fact that you felt comfortable cutting your hubby off for 9 full weeks is proof that this is not the first time you have given him the cold shoulder over minor issues such as this and so Oga is fed up ...

Nine full weeks are more than 2 months Nine full months! Some people get mind ooo.

Josephkabila12:
You can see the life some of this women are living. In relationship/marriage they think about themselves and their family alone

True. As a man, you have to put your foot down on certain issues. Be unapologetic about your belief systems and stand by them.

For a woman to treat her man that way, he must have tolerated a lot of bullsh*ts.

obiekunie01:
see how insulting and disrespectful you are to your husband.

anyways, prepare for your divorce ASAP cause your hubby is fed up of your shits!

he's got his life to live.

you women think without you guys we cannot breath!

Yes, you can't breath, I can't imagine a world without women

ozo13:
it's funny when I realized madam use weeks(9) =2months plus to narrate her own part and using months to narrate her hubby part of the story.Pride no good at all.
Make madam jus beg the man and the thing should be settled amicably.

I thought I was the only one that noticed it..lol. women can manipulate anything. She snubbed the man for more than two months..but she had to put it in weeks to make it seem small. But told us the hubby ignored her in months. Smh

She also said he sent some msgs...but never told us the content..which I believe are undeserved apology she got from the man, but she was feeling like a God.

While they are both trying to sort out their ego problems, they should also both attend parenting classes. Irresponsible knob heads

BRATISLAVA:
Exactly that.

thus my below reply:

MrBrownJay1:
to each their own misery... funny how you are quick to dismiss the OP who bore a grudge and was indeed pigheaded/uninvested, but yet would be quick to blame the husband for what is happening. if this aint the definition of double standard, i dont know what is.

You have got a man that Bleep you better than your husband, so there is no respect again, Idiioot it will soon clear your eye.

MALIGNANTGuest:

It may not be so.
So many abroad based men now hate the sight of women. I spend time with Guys both white and black. Some go months without inviting a single woman home.
Hence, the reason most abroad ladies purchase dildos. Most abroad based ladies are either single ladies or single mothers.

@Most abroad based ladies are now single mothers.....like your wife, right?

Ignore him. VVomen that make their own money don't need man, so divorce him. You are a strong woman

LilMissFavvy:
You need to start aplogising through calls, messages, voice notes.....yes you wronged your husband. Unfortunately he is not mature enough to forgive you and let go easily.

Satan is fighting marriages these days seriously , such that you will see so much ego, anger, unforgiveness over minor issues, how much more serious offense.

Your husband seems all out to embarrass you among your family members and let them know there is a problem in the marriage.

This is the disadvantage of long distance marriage.
Appologise with speed.

Not mature enough to forgive disrespect?

omokab:
most of them believe men can't live without then . They are too proud especially the one God give money or beauty. I just decided to cut off with my wife just because I saw a message on her from another man. The message was all about love ,ife mi, eniokan mi, I love you I love you I love. When I challenge her ,instead of explanation or apologising ,she got angry .I wanted to go out and meet somebody on a business matter but she blocked my way . I now asked ,who suppose to be angry ,you or me? In fact ,she fell on my mother of 75 years when she was holding her . this got me angry and beat her for the first time after a marriage of 12years . she has been doing this for a long time but I don't like noise in my life. She treating to kill and raining a lot of curse . So am meeting he parent and I have concluded to divorce her asap .

bro! dont ever take a woman's treat for granted. when they say it, they meant to do it.

if you are in doubt, pls find out from relatives of those guys killed by their wives or girl friends and you will hear same thing from them.

If you still need your marriage, arrange to go and meet him wherever he is to apologize to him. This is not a phone matter. Go and meet him , apologize to him and give his best food and give a good sex, his heart will calm down and never in your life ignore him again like that. When there is real love between husband and wife, you overlook little, little offenses. And then no offense should be big that you cannot settle and move on.

Hanging up is a slap on a man's face. Find a way to apologize. Men love respect.

Fahvvy:
You had an argument with your hubby over the phone...
You hung up on him before he could say his peace...
Avoided his calls consecutively for 4days...
Cut him off completely for 9weeks...

And then out of the blues, you send a completely unrelated message without first trying to resolve the old issue and you expect him to be cool with that?
You expect to just come through for you because you finally reached out to him?
LMAO ...

My dear...
The same way you took the initiative to start this matter is the same way you should take the initiative to end it...

The fact that you felt comfortable cutting your hubby off for 9 full weeks is proof that this is not the first time you have given him the cold shoulder over minor issues such as this and so Oga is fed up ...

That’s 2 months and 1 week on top
Without talking to husband.
Hmmm,,, some people get mind ooo.

Not only hanging off, but cut him off for 9 good weeks.
This marriage has suffered.

Exceed15:
Hanging up is a slap on a man's face. Find a way to apologize. Men love respect.

She is a very strong woman.
Nine weeks without talking to hubby, she is strong indeed.

emmyN:
Ignore him. VVomen that make their own money don't need man, so divorce him. You are a strong woman

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

Ori e ti daaaru, iwo alaini eko yi!

Oniranu jatijati iyawo ten kobo!

There's no perfect marriage anywhere but there comes a time a man or woman takes drastic steps for the sake of their sanity. I can personally relate.

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

You started it, so why are you complaining? You hung up on your husband, then ignored him for weeks and you expect him not to be angry?

Some of you women like to overstretch the limits of mens tolerance and then you complain afterwards, it's wrong my sister. Kindly apologize to him and move on.

I wish you a good and loving home. Ciao.

{in mohbad voice} ...Which kin pesin be dis ..


Look my dear,,go get down on your bl000dy knees!!!! and apologize straight up!!!,,,make him feel like a king if you still want him in ya life..

Cos,,if that guy ever calls or texts you first,,then just forget about your marriage,, it's over.. he'll only call or text to know about the welfare of his kids and not about ya ass

lilyheaven:
She is a very strong woman.
Nine weeks without talking to hubby, she is strong indeed.