Kobojunkie:
If we are to follow your line of reasoning , shouldn't we also conclude that since there are those whose sons also end up yahoo boys and drugs dealers/addicts layer on in life, it isn't worth it having children at all?

The way some of you still dey reason right in this information age wey we don day at least 20 years dey make person wonder if hope dey at all.

Honestly, the way they reason is worrisome.

JackDaAlienz:
I remember early 2000, my dad was planning to adopt a kid Into our family.
Later I found out that my father's friend adopted 2 boys.
My uncle warned my dad not yo try it.
I even remember going to orphanage with him to see how it goes.
For some reason he didn't adopt again.

Fast foward to 20 years later
That my father's friend is living in hell,
He says those 2 boys he adopted turned out to be into yahoo, drugs, cultisim.
They even beat him up and steal his money.

Till today im forever grateful to my uncle for preventing my dad from adoption.
Because all the families I know that adopted kids back in the 2000. None of them have peace, they always fighting, quarreling
It's a huge mess.
This is why i think Adoption is not worth it at all

Not all adopted kids grow to turn to razz man or bad people... your uncle friend was just unlucky or probably they grew up in a bad environment

you not about to going lots of adopted kids here on nairaland very angry with this your post

Yeah you're right,a woman adopt a son and when the boy later discover that he was adopted he plan kill her and take the property, but she sold the land to salvation ministries, in the condition that when she die the church will buried her. Don't adopt male children, adopt female.

Nazgul:
The rule of the thumb is if you must adopt, you and your wife must keep it as a secret...anyone outside both of you mustn't be aware, cos if that child grows up knowing he's adopted, it might affect his mental health because he won't feel secure around you and will be constantly longing for his biological parents.

'Bi a ba ka eru, inu eru a b'aje'.

Keeping adoption a secret will only work with family who lives in diaspora and these kids must be very young when adopted, say 2 years at most. That way they are fully integrated into the family before they become of age. No one will know about it including the kids themselves provided one has an understanding partner. That's a big factor too.

However, if you live closer to home (relatives), forget it.

Baronthecelebri:
Yeah you're right,a woman adopt a son and when the boy later discover that he was adopted he plan kill her and take the property, but she sold the land to salvation ministries, in the condition that when she die the church will buried her. Don't adopt male children, adopt female.

Many biological children have murdered their parents as well, for inheritance, rituals and whatnot. I don't understand the unwarranted castigation of adopted children.

Quite a lot of them according to there biography still displays some character flaws.

JackDaAlienz:

Majority of the names you listed where kids raised without their fathers but by their mothers or aunt. Or extended family
which means they were raised by their blood relatives
Compared to those who are raised by totally different familes
For 1 successful adopted kid
There are 1000 more that are not successful

This is an eye opener

Adoption or no adoption! hear me, even the children you give birth to by blood connection can turn on you, it takes proper upbringing and God's grace.

TWO THINGS:
First...
Most parents treat adopted children like eggs and not really being firm in treating their 4ck up from childhood, they think that being too strict on them will look as if they are being too sensitive and hard on them.
If you can carry you two legs to go adopting any child, then be ready to be their parent in every area, infact train them more than even the child you give birth to and you will most certainly get a positive feedback.

Secondly...
Some people treat adopted children like; "woris it self, he or she is not truly my child so why should I waste my time, money, and energy on them"
Some become cynical and wicked because Dem nor fit kokoma born hence, begin to transfer frustration on the child; beating the child and maltreatment like animals.
Some will just neglect the child after adoption, as if they are having a second thought like, "Why I even go carry this witch pikin self", especially when they later have children.

NOR BE BY FORCE TO ADOPT
AND WEN YOU DON ADOPT, O BOY BE READY FOR PROPER TRAINING
ME I GO ADOPT JOIN MY CHILDREN BY THE GRACE OF GOD.

JackDaAlienz:
Adoption is like suicide.
You don't know what you are putting your hand in
Because 90% of kids in orphanage homes
Have no history or records of their father and mother
Do you know if the mother was a Mad woman?
Now you adopt a child who has genetics of a Mad woman.
When the boy grows up and start acting like his mother what are you gonna do??

Basically, you dont know anything about the history of the child you are adopting .
While there are some who turn out great.
Majority of adopted kids turn out to be a huge mistake

I think it boils down to how you train the child. Even the child of a holy person can turn out to be a miscreant if not brought up well

Hmmm

JackDaAlienz:
I remember early 2000, my dad was planning to adopt a kid Into our family.
Later I found out that my father's friend adopted 2 boys.
My uncle warned my dad not yo try it.
I even remember going to orphanage with him to see how it goes.
For some reason he didn't adopt again.

Fast foward to 20 years later
That my father's friend is living in hell,
He says those 2 boys he adopted turned out to be into yahoo, drugs, cultisim.
They even beat him up and steal his money.

Till today im forever grateful to my uncle for preventing my dad from adoption.
Because all the families I know that adopted kids back in the 2000. None of them have peace, they always fighting, quarreling
It's a huge mess.
This is why i think Adoption is not worth it at all

This is the most wicked and insensitive post to make. It is apparent that your fathers friend did not train those children in the way they should have grown. The fault is on him for 2 kids of different parents to turn out the same way under his responsibility. Get out from here please.

JackDaAlienz:
I remember early 2000, my dad was planning to adopt a kid Into our family.
Later I found out that my father's friend adopted 2 boys.
My uncle warned my dad not yo try it.
I even remember going to orphanage with him to see how it goes.
For some reason he didn't adopt again.

Fast foward to 20 years later
That my father's friend is living in hell,
He says those 2 boys he adopted turned out to be into yahoo, drugs, cultisim.
They even beat him up and steal his money.

Till today im forever grateful to my uncle for preventing my dad from adoption.
Because all the families I know that adopted kids back in the 2000. None of them have peace, they always fighting, quarreling
It's a huge mess.
This is why i think Adoption is not worth it at all

Your uncle or father's friend is a failure.
Children are like clay and parents are like potters.
He failed in bringing them up well and now, he's ripping what he sow.

JackDaAlienz:
I remember early 2000, my dad was planning to adopt a kid Into our family.
Later I found out that my father's friend adopted 2 boys.
My uncle warned my dad not yo try it.
I even remember going to orphanage with him to see how it goes.
For some reason he didn't adopt again.

Fast foward to 20 years later
That my father's friend is living in hell,
He says those 2 boys he adopted turned out to be into yahoo, drugs, cultisim.
They even beat him up and steal his money.

Till today im forever grateful to my uncle for preventing my dad from adoption.
Because all the families I know that adopted kids back in the 2000. None of them have peace, they always fighting, quarreling
It's a huge mess.
This is why i think Adoption is not worth it at all

Nonsense

You use your father's friend case to make a general statement.

Some adopted children grow up to be great people in life e g Joke Silva

I guess the only consolation for your dad’s friend is that he was not the sperrrm-donatus.

It makes no difference. A child destined to go sour, will do just that.

I bet you never watched ID channel stories that touch.

Just pray you do not encounter BIOLOGICAL DEMONS!!!!

op is just talking utter nonsense.
Talking about madness, talking about how the children are evil and such bs.

Your father's friend is to blame for the way the children turned out.YES! he did not raise them right.

you say he loved and pampered them,I say he spoiled them. You don't know what was going on in that family while you were in yours so shut up.

So legitimate children that stays with their parents and has these aforementioned issues as you have stated nko? Maybe the nurses changed the babies in the hospital abi!!! Una go just sleep n wake , come de cap shiiii because of una 1centimeter experience!!!

Train a child in the way he should grow, and when he is old, he shall not depart from it.

You uncle's friend failed as a father to train him correctly.

One thing i have discovered about most humans is that they will never take responsibility for their short falls.

JackDaAlienz:

A snake will always be a snake
If you like feed it everyday and buy gifts for the snake for 40 years non stop
The snake will still bite you because
Blood is thicker than water
Genetics is stronger than everything..

If you adopt a child born by a Mad woman and dumped in orphanage.
If you like raise them in U.K or U.S.A
Take them to Harvard or Cambridge
He still has the genes of his mad mother
Madness is hereditary and transferred from mother to child
And when the madness start affect him
There is nothing u can do

You realize Steve Jobs was adopted?

So was Joke Silva
The Shamrock brothers and many more like that.

No dey cap rubbish abeg!

Nazgul:
For your information, kids who were raised in strict Christian homes still end up as Yahoo boys, drug abusers, cultists, prostitutes...etc. It's all about your parenting skills.

One of the major reason why most adopted kids turn out bad is due to segregation.

They're always constantly being reminded that they're adopted, extended family uncles and aunts wouldn't fully accept them, cousins of their age bracket would be cold towards them (no thanks to their parents who told them that they are adopted and they have no root cos they can't trace them to any family), so in a bid to prove a point most of them seek solace in the wrong company...hence they end up becoming a nuisance themselves, their surrogate family, their environment and the country.

The rule of the thumb is if you must adopt, you and your wife must keep it as a secret...anyone outside both of you mustn't be aware, cos if that child grows up knowing he's adopted, it might affect his mental health because he won't feel secure around you and would constantly be longing for his biological parents.

Your last paragraph is impossible.
How can people not know you adopted?

so pastors children are not into armed robbery

Sheistoopretty:



Atleast they are not into Gayism like u

And before I forget, your points are not valid,, it's like U talk too much,, U wrote alot of things but ended up saying nothing

Kai.. Wetin i fit give this person ooo

You said it all. So many gibberish and baseless talks without making a single point.

Something oyinbo dey do daily with no stress. D u have to tell them they were adopted mitcew

JackDaAlienz:
I remember early 2000, my dad was planning to adopt a kid Into our family.
Later I found out that my father's friend adopted 2 boys.
My uncle warned my dad not yo try it.
I even remember going to orphanage with him to see how it goes.
For some reason he didn't adopt again.

Fast foward to 20 years later
That my father's friend is living in hell,
He says those 2 boys he adopted turned out to be into yahoo, drugs, cultisim.
They even beat him up and steal his money.

Till today im forever grateful to my uncle for preventing my dad from adoption.
Because all the families I know that adopted kids back in the 2000. None of them have peace, they always fighting, quarreling
It's a huge mess.
This is why i think Adoption is not worth it at all

We have a lot of Yahoo’s boys , drugs and cultist in Nigeria does it mean all of them are adopted child
Please take your independence dose you will be fine. Imagine generalizing it because your uncle failed to give the kids good parenting.

JackDaAlienz:

A snake will always be a snake
If you like feed it everyday and buy gifts for the snake for 40 years non stop
The snake will still bite you because
Blood is thicker than water
Genetics is stronger than everything..

If you adopt a child born by a Mad woman and dumped in orphanage.
If you like raise them in U.K or U.S.A
Take them to Harvard or Cambridge
He still has the genes of his mad mother
Madness is hereditary and transferred from mother to child
And when the madness start affect him
There is nothing u can do

How will you just say that madness is hereditary??

JackDaAlienz:

A snake will always be a snake
If you like feed it everyday and buy gifts for the snake for 40 years non stop
The snake will still bite you because
Blood is thicker than water
Genetics is stronger than everything..

If you adopt a child born by a Mad woman and dumped in orphanage.
If you like raise them in U.K or U.S.A
Take them to Harvard or Cambridge
He still has the genes of his mad mother
Madness is hereditary and transferred from mother to child
And when the madness start affect him
There is nothing u can do

jux shut up already... Raise a child right. Your kids or adopted kids or someone else kids. They will turn out good. That is the rule

JackDaAlienz:

Majority of the names you listed where kids raised without their fathers but by their mothers or aunt. Or extended family
which means they were raised by their blood relatives
Compared to those who are raised by totally different familes
For 1 successful adopted kid
There are 1000 more that are not successful

your reasoning is. Very frail. I have a childhood friend who I later got to find out was actually adopted as a baby by his family. He should be around 31/32 now and he is the coolest person I know. Still very much with his adopted family and you wouldn’t even know they aren’t actually blood related except for difference in looks. Pampering and spoiling kids with gifts is not a guarantee they will grow up to be sensible. Nurturing and parenting are totally different things. You think it is blood that makes kids to not misbehave? Lmao.

Dat write up is crap, u adopted kids and could not train them up properly n u r expecting magic to happen

What's even the essence of adoption?

Adoption isn't a bad thing....

You are showing love to the less privileged in the society.

However, adopting a child isn't a guarantee that the child will be a Saint when grown up.

We all got out choices in life, we aren't robots. You even choose to adopt a boy or girl against the odds_they too when grown up have their choices to make whether good or bad.

No one can change an adult, we may pretend to change but really it's impossible to change a human being except by force or violence.

JackDaAlienz:
I remember early 2000, my dad was planning to adopt a kid Into our family.
Later I found out that my father's friend adopted 2 boys.
My uncle warned my dad not yo try it.
I even remember going to orphanage with him to see how it goes.
For some reason he didn't adopt again.

Fast foward to 20 years later
That my father's friend is living in hell,
He says those 2 boys he adopted turned out to be into yahoo, drugs, cultisim.
They even beat him up and steal his money.

Till today im forever grateful to my uncle for preventing my dad from adoption.
Because all the families I know that adopted kids back in the 2000. None of them have peace, they always fighting, quarreling
It's a huge mess.
This is why i think Adoption is not worth it at all

Lame reasoning.

I can relate to this