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Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by maasoap(m): 2:39pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
JackDaAlienz: Stop commenting because you sound really dumb and embarrassing. What a waste of education? 2 Likes |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Parrot69: 2:40pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
JackDaAlienz:Your papa na adopted Pikin from your grand mother. Werey, bastărd. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by BalogunIdowu(m): 2:41pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Divay22: Well said |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by PoliteActivist: 2:42pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Germi9: I think you are confusing strict with bad. Bad is letting the child do and have whatever they want, and servants at their beck and call |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Johnn78: 2:46pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Dybala11:That example of 2years ago too far sef just Tuesday August 30th 2022 inthe headlines., Mr. Peter Orji, a native of Uruagu in Nnewi North Anambra State shot dead his own biological elder brother, Mr. Godwin Orji for disconnecting his light over non-payment of his electricity tariff/NEPA Bill. Ordinary argument over Nepa bill one biological brother ended the life of another. If na adopted siblings now, we for not hear word again. Sept 3rd 2022 Ahmadu Munkaila and a father of five children in Gagarawa local government of Jigawa State made the headlines for killing his parents and was not in any way regretting killing them!!! September 22nd 2022 an undergraduate boy from Anambra Also made headlines for murdering his own biological parents !!!. He was smoked out when the offensive odour of the decomposing corpses made the neighbors curious to check the house thoroughly! Sadly, social vices, yahoo, armed robbery, are not exclusive to non bilological adopted children and their surrogate families alone!! A biological child can kill his or her parents too and siblings sharing the same blood can kill each other is vice versa It’s the sad reality of today’s decadent society!!. .Even some pastor children turn out wayward!!!. One of President Shehu Shahari's biological sons was caught as a drug dealer and a user and also imprisoned.Even some kids of pastors, imams, professors etc have been known to turn into hoodlums. We pray for grace, patience , long life and strength to train our children the right way in todays secular world! 2 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by JackDaAlienz(m): 2:46pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Parrot69:That's what I expected an adopted child to say |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by maasoap(m): 2:47pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
ObalendeCMS: Lol. You knew that your aunty is bad at parenting but you still went ahead to blame his biological parents you didn't know for what he's turning out to be. Are you blaming his dad or mum or both of them have the same characteristics? You see, that's why we say that many of you are dumb. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by eminentoo1: 2:47pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
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Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by PoliteActivist: 2:47pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
SyrusdeHansome: Yes. In many cases.. I thought everybody knows this |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by wiseone28: 2:48pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Dybala11:I have seen such before.. Went to abroad came back with nothing. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Dybala11(m): 2:49pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Johnn78:Amen to this prayer o. Lot of things are happening in this life. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Dybala11(m): 2:50pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
wiseone28:You're in support of the OP right? Well, I have a different opinion to OP' o. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by maasoap(m): 2:52pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Epositive: I'm having the same thought but I prefer female kids. Boys can be a pain in the ass. 3 Likes |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by wiseone28: 2:54pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Dybala11:Till you witness one then you will |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by PoliteActivist: 2:54pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
sweetgala: I thought everyone knows this. That's one of the reasons inquiries are made b4 marriage. See below 1 Like
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Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by PoliteActivist: 2:59pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Onyiiobi7735: What survey did he carry out? Ojukwu was an illegitimate child |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Acidosis(m): 3:00pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Should we allow this kind of thread on the front page? What message are we sending to people? You're indirectly instructing adopted folks to revolt against their parents. You cannot use your experience to draw a conclusion. Some bandits today know their biological parents... So? Some kids kill their biological parents. Should we then terminate reproduction?? Adoption should be fully encouraged in Nigeria, please. The kids we fail to train and nurture may grow to haunt others. It doesn't matter whether they're your seed or not. I'm completely and totally for adoption; kids, teens, I don't mind. 2 Likes |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by richie240: 3:01pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
There's a lot of sense in your disposition o, but there's also no guarantee that a legitimate child won't go astray into cultism, yahoo and other vices. Moreover, another thing that causes waywardness of adopted children (especially to their 'parents') is when they get to know that they were adopted and dt the ppl they hitherto call 'daddy and mummy ' are nothing but 'strangers'. That family bond is subconsciously broken as a result bcus d adopted children, being kids and not bring able to fully process such information, begin to rebel. JackDaAlienz: |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Caseywilliams(m): 3:02pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
op you no get talk... Adopting a kid from an orphanage doesn't spell doom if you do ur parental work well |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by etrange: 3:02pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
So because those kids turned out to be bad adults, adoption is not longer worth it? The way you guys reason things in Africa is just mind blowing. And the FTC guy is calling others emotional. The person that used an instance of an unwanted outcome to judge the entire situation is not emotional, it is the person telling him that's not how it should be that is emotional. So because Evan's parents gave birth to a child who turned out to be a deadly kidnapper, giving birth is no longer worth it, right? This is exactly why there's so much hate in Nigeria. One Yoruba person does something you don't like and to you "Yoruba people are not worth it". A lady commits a crime and to you "Nigerian women are wicked". The herd mentality is strong. It is only when it comes to your own herd that you begin to apply individualism. Epigenetical research has made us understand that the environment has an overwhelming effect on gene expression. There's an insanely high probability those children that turned out to be yahoo boys and whatever were influenced by thier environment and/or lack of proper parental guidance. Without the intention of going into the popular nature vs nurture debate, it worth mentioning that regardless of whatever behaviors your genes are predisposed to, if you're not exposed to the triggers or external factors that would ignite them at the formative stage of your brain, they wouldn't automatically manifest when you become an adult. Even the good guys you see today have some genetical predispositions that they don't even know about because they grew up in environments that don't support them. Doing yahoo is not an emotion like anger, happiness, etc. It is a well thought out process that demands acquired skills. For one to go into it, you'll have to have the need, know about it, know about the possible outcomes, have the desire, acquire the skills, have the necessary platform, etc. These are mostly environmental factors. I'm not downplaying the influence of genes on the way we reason, I'm saying environment plays more roles. And it makes zero sense for you to decry abortion because of the few bad outcomes while ignoring all the good ones. There are many couples that can't give birth. There are many children in orphanages that don't get the proper care they need either due to the lack of one-on-one attention or the lack of funds . Decrying adoption is the most unreasonable thing to do at this point, especially when it comes from someone that doesn't have reproductive issues. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by PoliteActivist: 3:04pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
zubito: A woman in Festac town, his two adopted sons are football stars 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by SeriouslySense(m): 3:09pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Exactly, its not the Adoption that is the issue, may be partly due to how they were raised or environment and other influences. Divay22: 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by SeriouslySense(m): 3:10pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
good for her. Her adopted children are football stars. PoliteActivist: 1 Like |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by EngGandalf: 3:12pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
I had to sign up because of you. You’re not making sense. People are correcting you. And you’re doing agidi. How can you just say adoption is not good because of one case. And you’re just talking down on everybody. Bloody narcissist. I hope your girlfriend leaves you. Anybody that seeks to win an argument is a baby. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Dybala11(m): 3:13pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
wiseone28:Oh, so you believe in that statement that only adopted kids end up becoming hired killers, Yahoo Yahoo boys/girls, ritualists, kidnappers, terrorists etc, abi? And that all and many more of those vices are inheritable via genes? So according to you and the OP, there's genetic Yahoo Yahoo and so on? Have a lovely day sir, whatever works for you. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by EngGandalf: 3:13pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Who are you campaigning for? |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by PoliteActivist: 3:14pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
kazyhm: How about siblings who turn out polar opposites? The Ransome Kutis? Google Whitey Bolger and his brother. One a ruthless gangster, the other mild mannered scholar 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by SeriouslySense(m): 3:15pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Please correct your statements, like other children adopted children can turn positive or negative. Your statement is like that of a child without much thoughts, just hurried conclusion. I trust my Nigerian people, haha, with their rushed conclusion, now all adopted children are bad from your statement. Its due to your fears and disappointment, it does not have anything to do with reality. Adopted children can be just as wonderful as other children. If you are afraid or scared of Adopting, and will not love those children or do not have parenting skills, then adoption is not for you. If you also keep all this stories about bad adopted children and do not understand why they may turn out bad, then adoption is not for you. Its one thing to know stories of Adopted children that turned negative, its another thing, to understand why they turned negative, so you can be aware of negative parental influences. |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by wiseone28: 3:16pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
Dybala11:He didn't say all but majority |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by drakeli: 3:19pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
JackDaAlienz:Stupid excuse and lame story. How about blaming that man for raising them to be yahoo. Your uncle is part of the blame here for how he raised them. Adoption is as good as having your own biological kid. Your biological kid would turn yahoo if raised the same way your that man raised those kids . |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by Dybala11(m): 3:22pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
wiseone28:So you and the OP believe that majority of the bad people we have on Earth are adopted right? Where and how did you collate this data sir? You seemed to be privy to an info others don't know about, enlighten us and table your argument please. For the record, I'm only teasing you o. What you're basically doing is called fallacy and it's against science o. You don't state something that only occurs in few cases out of many as a law/principle. 1 Like |
Re: Adoption Is Not Worth It At All by nnamdiosu(m): 4:17pm On Oct 01, 2022 |
AfroKnight: That argument has had an answer since. Nature is more potent. No matter how u nurture a python, it's nature is still resident. |
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