Shikena:

He is but his own madness level is very low.

Or maybe he has periods of lucidity

wirinet:


Not exactly accurate. Yes traditional medicine has not been able to link our lifestyles, behaviours and habits to genetics, Spiritual science has. Please read "The Dancing Wu Li Masters" by Gary Zukav. It explains that each of our actions is imprinted on our DNA on the quantum level, and so such behaviours and habits are inheritable. Ever wonder how birds are able to build nests without studying architecture. The behaviour is imprinted in its DNA. There have been instances of twins separated from birth having the same habits and behaviours. These things operate on the quantum level.

Have you ever asked yourself one simple question: HOW DOES Gary Zukav KNOW??
Just because something sounds logical doesn't mean it's true.

wirinet:


Sorry to say, but speaking from personal experience, my great aunt was schizophrenic. Her first daughter died of madness and her first son died of madness. I was very close to both of them. I know 2 more of her children that suffer various degrees of mental illness. All of them were never able to keep a family. Only a daughter that I know that is stable and doing very well.

I remember the mental health section of family home Medical emergency self help book “YOUR HEALTH & YOU” volume 1 says most mental health patients on having brain examined, have all parts identical with healthy non mentally Ill people. Children with one mad parent are 13% susceptible/risk vulnerability which is on the low side . No single gene causes madness. And several Unfavorable environmental conditions need to be fulfilled to trigger the susceptibility


Sorry to say, but speaking from personal experience l know a church member who ran mad prior to the early 2000s. Over 30years ago . No great Aunt or grandparent or lst cousin or 2nd cousin or anybody in her family had ever had any incident of madness. She ran mad immediately after struggling to have a particular extremely difficult traumatic childbirth experience. It is a rare medical condition . What l learnt from the incident.

(1). Psychosis aka MADNESS is medically curable. She was immediately rushed to Nearest National Lunatic hospital , specifically Federal Neuro-Psychiatric Hospital, Enugu. Admitted for months and doctor placed her on antipsychotic drugs. She recovered completely from MADNESS and was discharged home!! And has lived 100% normal ever after !

(2) Some mad patients are lucky, they have only one mad psychosis episode. Such do not need much medication!
But For full blown madness/psychosis/schizophrenia, they are placed on drugs for life & can live normally & healthily like others without anyone having hint of their problem. They are classified as terminally Ill patients just like patients with diabetes, Cancer, HIVAIDS, who are placed on drugs for life until further advancement/discovery in science that will lead to the once swallow forever cure drug model like malaria, etc

(3) As soon as my church member recovered from Madness, after almost 3months of admission at the lunatic federal Neuro psychiatric hospital Enugu, she gave testimony that she thanks God for healing her and responding to treatment !!!.
According to her, some patients she met at the lunatic hospital , she was discharged and certified normal before them and a rare handful few never responded to treatment. Such cases are very very rare. And the person’s hands may not be clean
And Connected to spiritual sacrifices or broken evil covenants/taboos/curse
. Eg https://www.nairaland.com/5366346/man-runs-mad-after-refusing


(4) Sorry to say, l can imagine how many years ago that must be. Great grandparents time and grandmothers time and great aunt time! I can guess your grandparent sibling(sister) aka mother/father’s aunt; was born before 1950. your great aunt, her daughter (Mom/dad lst cousins) and son did not die of madness but died of ignorance. Madness is medically curable at the hospital but a lot of Africans are ignorant. This is not 1907 when madness was not medically curable and antipsychotics drugs were not much invented!!!and Yaba left was just a lunatic asylum. Well, in the 1950s, first modern antipsychotics were developed!

A lot of Nigerians &Africa even in 2020 computer age are superstitious and prefer to rush mad people quickly to herbal solutions and unethical medical unnecessary spiritual houses to seek spiritual ❌❌❌ & traditional help as a first resort . Thereby aggravating worsening the condition and rendering the patient medically inassistable. They forget that it is who is sick that needs a doctor.
But lunatic hospital rarely crosses the mind of an Average Nigerian first, when dealing with Mad neighboour or Church member even in this computer age 2020; talk less of our grandfathers and great grand parents time. I repeat Do not DENY A MAD PERSON RIGHT TO A PSYCHIATRIC DOCTOR . A mentally Ill patient can be useful to society if they get proper medical assistance . It is a medical problem. If it is spiritual, (rare cases), the psychotic lunatic Schizophrenia ill patient won’t respond to psychosis madness drug.


(5) Environment matters a lot when raising children. Drunkenness is not hereditary. Wife beater is not hereditary. There is also no single gene causing madness. But someone with a mad parent or mad identical twin has a greater measurable and quantified genetic predisposition! . Negative environmental factors trigger it. Externally, A child raised by an alcoholic parent or wife beater/abuser, is more susceptible to become alcoholic or wife beater in future!. It is not compulsory that they must , a lot can grow up normally, but Unlike children who grow up in healthy environments,, children raised in toxic negative environment are more susceptible & at greater risk of developing negative abusive tendencies they were exposed to! Especially if they were already genetically susceptible & negative environmental factors are aggravated.
I know a high school friend whose divorced father asked him to jump off his car to the school gate without stopping the vehicle. Unfortunately, he landed with his skull on the ground in front of the school gate . He suffered really traumatic head injuries & brain trauma & was admitted for almost a full term at the hospital! His head was stitched in several places!. And he had a slight memory loss.
A child with a genetical predisposition to schizophrenia say 5% predisposition, having such brain injuries might have such a negative physically stressful head accident trigger madness .

(6) When my church member was schizophrenic, the young father as a safety precaution quickly exited all her other children who were minors away from her within a day interval and took them to pastors house. Only the lactating breast sucking almost did not make it to earth new born (who miraculously suffered traumatic birth that triggered her mom’s madness) was left with her supervised.
Growing up with an uncured mad person is too physically draining & mentally stressful and traumatically toxic environment for healthy people . Not to mention rearing children in such toxic stressful environment instead of taking them away to safer environment. It is not medically advisable to leave kids of a mad parent with the unwell parent . Unwell Schizophrenic patients are better locked away at lunatic Neuro psychiatric hospital with fellow mad mentally unstable psychosis patients chained to their hospital beds until doctor certified them medically fit for discharging! . A schizophrenic psychotic patient can harm the child, even the constant yelling carrying of instruments is too toxic & mentally stressful to expose a child to. It can impact negatively on an adult’s mental health & mental well-being talkless of a child.Only a medically certified healed parent should be allowed to be in same environment to nurture kids for obvious reasons.

https://docayomide.com/psychiatric-hospitals-nigeria/

https://www.bbc.com/news/stories-48259367

JackDaAlienz:
Adoption is like suicide.
You don't know what you are putting your hand in
Because 90% of kids in orphanage homes
Have no history or records of their father and mother
Do you know if the mother was a Mad woman?
Now you adopt a child who has genetics of a Mad woman.
When the boy grows up and start acting like his mother what are you gonna do??

Basically, you dont know anything about the history of the child you are adopting .
While there are some who turn out great.
Majority of adopted kids turn out to be a huge mistake

Edit:
A lot of emotional children will attack me
Without seeing the hard bitter truth
This reminds me of when in 2014 i advise lots of youths not to vote Buhari
But they were so emotional and attacked me
Now it's 2022 and they are crying and wailing

When you tell people hard truth they will attack and call you names.
The did it to Jesus
So if you emotional kids can't handle this bitter truth then that's your business.
If you like go and adopt unknown gunman pikin then when he start exhibiting the genes and behaviour of his bandit father.
You will start crying and wailing as usual.

A russian man love a child unconditionally
Adopted him and took great care of him
But the boy still later killed the man.
Stole his properties and flees to Turkey

So will you blame the Man that adopted him for not showing the boy love

Nuture a kid when he is small
His true nature will come out once he grows up.

The point I don't recognize in your statement is that
Nuture a kid when he is small
His true nature will come out once he grows,so you're telling us that we should not train our children abi,you mean train children is meaningless abi?

Shikena:

He is but his own madness level is very low.

Yeah. Like schizophrenic.

JackDaAlienz:
I remember early 2000, my dad was planning to adopt a kid Into our family.
Later I found out that my father's friend adopted 2 boys.
My uncle warned my dad not yo try it.
I even remember going to orphanage with him to see how it goes.
For some reason he didn't adopt again.

Fast foward to 20 years later
That my father's friend is living in hell,
He says those 2 boys he adopted turned out to be into yahoo, drugs, cultisim.
They even beat him up and steal his money.

Till today im forever grateful to my uncle for preventing my dad from adoption.
Because all the families I know that adopted kids back in the 2000. None of them have peace, they always fighting, quarreling
It's a huge mess.
This is why i think Adoption is not worth it at all

Thanks

Sorry for speaking the truth but your father's friend did not train his adopted sons very well.
Even untrained children that live with their parents also engage in criminal activities.
So it's no news that the boys turned out that way!

Divay22:
Adoption is not the cause but how they were raised..
A baby you adopted or a toddler you adopted doesn't know anything.. Blame it on your father's friend..

May your days be long

Dybala11:

How does genetics affect character formation?

I means it's a well established theory in genetics that character traits can be inherited by offsprings from the parents.

zubito:


I means it's a well established theory in genetics that character traits can be inherited by offsprings from the parents.

Oh boy, the mendelian laws (i.e the law segregation of genes and the law of independent assortment) has nothing to do with social vices bro, the word "character/traits" has nothing to do with the type of behaviour you'll turn out to have in your adulthood. Yahoo Yahoo, armed robbery, becoming a ritualist etc, are not the inheritable characters/traits the mendelian laws was referring to.

PoliteActivist:


I thought everyone knows this. That's one of the reasons inquiries are made b4 marriage.
See below

Mental illness and madness are not interchangable.

What we call madness in Nigeria is more often undiagnosed multiple personality disorders which can be triggered by PTSD, acuure depression etc

To suggest that madness is genetic is to suggest character is genetic, or that there is a gay gene.

JackDaAlienz:

My dear,
I'M NOT GAY AND NEVER WILL BE GAY

people called Jesus worse names and they even mocked him as "King OF jews"
Because Jesus said the Truth

We all know that people don't like to hear the bitter truth, they begin to call you names,insult you and ridicule you for saying the Truth.

You can call me gay
You can call me a bastard
It won't change the hard bitter truth.

Nobody in history of mankind has spoken the Truth and people applaud him.

Moses in the bible was adopted by Egyptians
They raise him like Prince.
Feed him daily, cloth him, care for him

Only for Moses to grow up and join the isrealites and destroy the same Egypt that raised him.
Blood is thicker than water
If you like go and adopt anoda person blood
Anything wey you see, take am like that

I hate to meddle in your arguments but I need to let you know that your analogy does not hold water. You talked about Moses being raised in Egypt yet destroyed Egypt that raised him. No Egypt was destroyed by any Moses. Meanwhile, if you are Igbo that does business in Kano and prospers, then ethnic crisis started and the Hausas in Kano started killing the Igbos at sight in Kano, you as an Igbo man in Kano, will you join the Hausas to kill your fellow tribesmen because you are doing well in the Hausa's land or will you rise up and defend yourself and your tribesmen against their killers? Let the answer keep pounding in your mind.

I'm even surprised that adoption exists in this ignorant, closed-minded, backward society. Big kudos to those who went through with it. The whole object of this thread is the very fact of how the society brings everything to bear to demonize something too advanced for their level of development

JackDaAlienz:
I remember early 2000, my dad was planning to adopt a kid Into our family.
Later I found out that my father's friend adopted 2 boys.
My uncle warned my dad not yo try it.
I even remember going to orphanage with him to see how it goes.
For some reason he didn't adopt again.

Fast foward to 20 years later
That my father's friend is living in hell,
He says those 2 boys he adopted turned out to be into yahoo, drugs, cultisim.
They even beat him up and steal his money.

Till today im forever grateful to my uncle for preventing my dad from adoption.
Because all the families I know that adopted kids back in the 2000. None of them have peace, they always fighting, quarreling
It's a huge mess.
This is why i think Adoption is not worth it at all

Are you a kid? Your level of reasoning baffles me a lot.

JackDaAlienz:

My dear,
I'M NOT GAY AND NEVER WILL BE GAY

people called Jesus worse names and they even mocked him as "King OF jews"
Because Jesus said the Truth

We all know that people don't like to hear the bitter truth, they begin to call you names,insult you and ridicule you for saying the Truth.

You can call me gay
You can call me a bastard
It won't change the hard bitter truth.

Nobody in history of mankind has spoken the Truth and people applaud him.

Moses in the bible was adopted by Egyptians
They raise him like Prince.
Feed him daily, cloth him, care for him

Only for Moses to grow up and join the isrealites and destroy the same Egypt that raised him.
Blood is thicker than water
If you like go and adopt anoda person blood
Anything wey you see, take am like that

This example is intangible&ineligible...It is not viable, let alone reliable...What did you know about Isrealites&Egyptians? Moses mistakenly killed when trying 2sepera

JackDaAlienz:

My father's friend loved those 2 boys with all his heart.
Because his wife couldn't birth a boy for him.
He cherished them and pampered them
Bit look at how they treat him 20 years later.

Man had partial stroke after one of them beat him up for asking him where he is coming back from late at night.

Its not by raising them with perfect love
They will exhibit their ORIGINAL parents behavior
What if their father was a Hardcore killer who raped and pregnanted a Mad woman
Mad woman give birth and they put the baby in orphanage.

That baby has the genetics of his ruthless killer father. No matter how much love you show him that baby will still exhibit his original parents behaviour because he has his genes

Genes matter but not to the extent you say. A persons environment and how they're treated matters more than anything else.
You really need to lighten up.

Sheistoopretty:



Atleast they are not into Gayism like u

And before I forget, your points are not valid,, it's like U talk too much,, U wrote alot of things but ended up saying nothing

Are you adoptee?

1000 unsuccessful? Haba , where did you get your statistics from dear sir, or u sha just dey talk
How can you say that.


Normally I no dey like comment for all this kind of talk but I'll drop my 2cent on this one.
Say your father's friend was unlucky with his own adopted kids does not mean everyone that has adopted kids have bad results, any kid especially in 9ja can turn to a pain in the ass weather they are adopted or not, due to how 9ja don be now sef, it's hard to raise kids without them getting involved in one illegality or bad character (some don't sha)

Yes you made some points too about the lack of family background for the orphanage kids here in 9ja, lol, 9ja no dey ever get record for anything, nothing can be traced and yh most kids might be having some mental issues from parents, like mad people kids, some demented parents abandoned baby and all that kind of things, we get it, but no matter what bro, saying openly and generalizing all of them to be bad and not worth it is plain ignorance, it's not enough to raise kids with love, like u said ur father's friend did, maybe he raised them with so much love that he didn't think to discipline the from small, that too can be a problem.

There is no rule book on how to raise kids, everyone is only doing thier best, because Las Las pikin way go spoil go spoil, no matter how well u raise them.

Instead of just painting only the bad picture of adopting a child and trying to discourage families who might be interested in this process, it's better you should advise them to do proper research first about the kids parents and birth condition, and also use good reputable orphanage homes that still have records,
Because what you're doing is closing doors to some kids which their future may depend on that family that want to adopt them (which is evil)

There's always alot of bad eggs in everything
Doesn't mean everyone is a bad egg.

Just like the guy calling u gay, maybe he also has seen someone talk the way u talk and that person is a gay person, so when he see u talking this way he then assume you are also gay. Just the same way u assume all adopted kids are bad because ur father's frnd had bad experience.

OK bye

JackDaAlienz:

Majority of the names you listed where kids raised without their fathers but by their mothers or aunt. Or extended family
which means they were raised by their blood relatives
Compared to those who are raised by totally different familes
For 1 successful adopted kid
There are 1000 more that are not successful

You just dey talk out of point now , what concerns Moses in the Bible to kids at the orphanage. U dey use Moses story give example? Didn't u notice it is that same Moses that might have also saved humanity n made you it possible for u to be here to be typing this nonsense (according to the Bible)

And what is it with you and always refering to Jesus any time person bash u because of your insensitive post? Lol, so u be Jesus na.
Did you know that Jesus did more than just adopting kids from unknown parants?
U even using Jesus to validate ur nonsense is even so contradictive, because you're doing everything that Jesus preached against.
You're basically tell people that loving any kids with is not thier own very kid is a waste of time.
Nigga please go rest

JackDaAlienz:

My dear,
I'M NOT GAY AND NEVER WILL BE GAY

people called Jesus worse names and they even mocked him as "King OF jews"
Because Jesus said the Truth

We all know that people don't like to hear the bitter truth, they begin to call you names,insult you and ridicule you for saying the Truth.

You can call me gay
You can call me a bastard
It won't change the hard bitter truth.

Nobody in history of mankind has spoken the Truth and people applaud him.

Moses in the bible was adopted by Egyptians
They raise him like Prince.
Feed him daily, cloth him, care for him

Only for Moses to grow up and join the isrealites and destroy the same Egypt that raised him.
Blood is thicker than water
If you like go and adopt anoda person blood
Anything wey you see, take am like that

You'll not use your father's friend unlucky experience to condemn every orphanage sir, he is unlucky and he might even be the cause of the kids turn out,

Yes sometimes genetics might play out if the kids parents were some bad eggs, but nevertheless sir, that doesn't mean kids from a perfect good parents can't turn bad too.

JackDaAlienz:

My father's friend loved those 2 boys with all his heart.
Because his wife couldn't birth a boy for him.
He cherished them and pampered them
Bit look at how they treat him 20 years later.

Man had partial stroke after one of them beat him up for asking him where he is coming back from late at night.

Its not by raising them with perfect love
They will exhibit their ORIGINAL parents behavior
What if their father was a Hardcore killer who raped and pregnanted a Mad woman
Mad woman give birth and they put the baby in orphanage.

That baby has the genetics of his ruthless killer father. No matter how much love you show him that baby will still exhibit his original parents behaviour because he has his genes

I'll like us to debate on this,
Which of them do u think is more potent n explain y, I'll do same

AfroKnight:
nature vs nurture

Which is more potent?

The eternal argument

Like you said, all you did was saw. You saw but you were not living with them to know how they were truly raised, what you are seeing outside is always different from what might be happening in the home, you know nothing about what happened in the home during that 20years, just because u feel he raised them with love doesn't mean shit, you think all u need to raise a child in nigeria is just love? Lol
Come on man, I'll say it again, just because ur father's friend is unlucky doesn't mean adopted kids are waste.

Seriously this is not even right to say.
So all orphanage homes are a waste?
All those innocent kids are waste? And don't deserve love from people that isn't their parents?
Come on man, some things are not worth even saying, this like this Topic

JackDaAlienz:

The man that I know and saw for 20 years caring and loving his 2 adopted boys unconditionally.
Bought and spent a lot on them
Yet they decided to torment him and leave him with partial stroke.

Now go and tell that man that the reason why the 2 boys are rascals is because he didn't show them love.
You see how stupid you will look saying that?

If you like pet a snake from now till tomorrow
It will still bite you.

Oh I didn't even know u are talking about all orphanage on the world lol, so funny how u are trying to defend ur silly post. So the number estimate u said 1 out of 1000 is only successful, did u calculate all the successful adopted kids in the world? And also calculated all the successful kids that are not known yet?

Tell us please

JackDaAlienz:

And you counted all the serial killers in the world to conclude none of them were adopted?
You also counted all the serial killers in Nigeria abi
What of the serial killers that nobody knows about. The serial killers that have not been caught. Did you count them too

JackDaAlienz:

You are still a kid, until you have your own kids you will understand that it takes.
If you take an orphan, feed them, cloth them and care for them for life.
Which type of love is bigger than that
They are not your biological kids but you sacrifice and hurstle everyday to provide for them.
I ask again, which kind love is bigger than that??
This is what that man did for his 2 adopted boys yet they still torment him.

Do you know if the original parents of those those boys are rascal?
A lion doesn't gove birth to an elephant
A lion gives birth to A LION

So if you like treat the lion like a human
If you like dont spoil the lion
If you like discipline the lion
give it cloth. Give it shoes give it car
That lion will always be a wild animal

I know a nurse who her adopted son is in Malaysia doing yahoo. He fights and beats her before he travelled.
He didn't even tell his mother he was travelling

Judging from ur comment, I'll assume u are not a kid, and you probably have kids of ur own, and I'm sure they probably turned out to be rascals just like ur father's friend kids, hence the reason you're like this.
And it seems to me that u know alot of people with failed parenting, you seem to know everyone that has bad history with kids, what are the odds that your kids won't be like them haha (probably 1 out of 1000 chances)

Make una leave this guy abeg, someone that's only surrounded with all the bad experiences and family disfunction, how else do u want him to see through other good perspective? He can't, he is only give u the only thing he has grown to see around him, all that is all the failures.

If I were you, I would fast and pray to that Jesus that u refer to always because, soon u might drop another topic saying having kids is not worth it

OK bye

JackDaAlienz:

That is what my girl says whenever she start losing argument..
When you have nothing intelligent to say
You begin to call people childish
I have dealt with many girls like you
Once they start losing argument they start calling you childish lmao
Una format don cast since

Says someone who started name calling

Kobojunkie:
If we are to follow your line of reasoning , shouldn't we also conclude that since there are those whose sons also end up yahoo boys and drugs dealers/addicts later on in life, it also isn't worth it having children at all?

The way some of you still dey reason right in this information age wey we don day at least 20 years dey make person wonder if hope dey at all.

My brother me sef dey surprised ah swear,
He dey baffle to see someone who is claiming to be mature and educated talk like a total lunatic

OsuIgboIpob:

Your last paragraph is impossible.
How can people not know you adopted?

Please explain how that is impossible?
For both parents to keep it secret, how exactly is it impossible

Your dad's friend failed at parenting.... nothing to do with those kids

Nazgul:
For your information, kids who were raised in strict Christian homes still end up as Yahoo boys, drug abusers, cultists, prostitutes...etc. It's all about your parenting skills.

One of the major reason why most adopted kids turn out bad is due to segregation.

They're always constantly being reminded that they're adopted, extended family uncles and aunts wouldn't fully accept them, cousins of their age bracket would be cold towards them (no thanks to their parents who told them that they are adopted and they have no root cos they can't trace them to any family), so in a bid to prove a point most of them seek solace in the wrong company...hence they end up becoming a nuisance themselves, their surrogate family, their environment and the country.

The rule of the thumb is if you must adopt, you and your wife must keep it as a secret...anyone outside both of you mustn't be aware, cos if that child grows up knowing
he's adopted, it might affect his mental health because he won't feel secure around you and would constantly be longing for his biological parents.

The only reason I still have fate in Nigeria is because of people like you, who are just less than 1% of the total population. You see the rest? Education as failed them. Imagine blaming an innocent child on adoption, when we have majority of our youths who are into prostitution, crime and drugs.
Every topic you come across, you will hardly find one out of 100 intelligent person. Everyone will just abandon critical reasoning and jump on bandwagon. You see whites adopting black children without finding faults but a Nigerian can not adopt a Nigerian homeless child. They will rather give birth to 12 useless children than adopt one.

Nazgul:
For your information, kids who were raised in strict Christian homes still end up as Yahoo boys, drug abusers, cultists, prostitutes...etc. It's all about your parenting skills.

One of the major reason why most adopted kids turn out bad is due to segregation.

They're always constantly being reminded that they're adopted, extended family uncles and aunts wouldn't fully accept them, cousins of their age bracket would be cold towards them (no thanks to their parents who told them that they are adopted and they have no root cos they can't trace them to any family), so in a bid to prove a point most of them seek solace in the wrong company...hence they end up becoming a nuisance themselves, their surrogate family, their environment and the country.

The rule of the thumb is if you must adopt, you and your wife must keep it as a secret...anyone outside both of you mustn't be aware, cos if that child grows up knowing he's adopted, it might affect his mental health because he won't feel secure around you and would constantly be longing for his biological parents.

I think you are wrong. Adopted kids are not usually segregated. I think the reason why some adopted kids turn out bad can be traced to the condition surrounding their adoption. Most pple adopt a child as a last resort........when they could not give birth biologically.....and age is beginning to tell on them. This implies that the adopted kids are usually dotted upon and over pampered. Furthermore, the adopter parent is usually not so young anymore and hence cannot effect discipline as strictly as a younger parent would.

Also, he is kind of mindful of what the society would say if he hits his adopted child. Due to all of this, there is the tendency to be lax in upbringing which makes them turn out bad

joungblood:


Please explain how that is impossible?
For both parents to keep it secret, how exactly is it impossible

Is it possible to keep it a secret from your 4 parents, at least?

Preciousgift90:
You're some how correct, but not all of the adopted kids turn out bad, but 2009 in onitsha, I witnessed a tragic incident where an adopted man collided with his wife and butchered the mother that adopted him to death, the woman was a qualified nurse and own a private hospital with her husband, when neighbors caught he confessed that he did it because the woman did not tell him that he was adopted, that people use to tease him for being adopted. Imagine such wickedness.

The other one I know in a town next to my village poisoned the only child of the woman that adopted him to death and was chased out of the village for so many years.

Since after this two incident, my prayer for every married person is for God to bless them with a child of their own. Adoption should be a sacrifice to help the less privileged kids have a home of their own and not as your future generation. E get why

Adopting girls seems much better though.