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I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

Even your English shows you're not educated. My advice is, 'go back to school'.���

If she's a good girl and not dependent on your money...Have a secured job and speaks good English.....Have the zeal to learn and wants to upgrade her status...You can work things out...

But if she's adamant and feels entitled and wants to drag you down to her level of childishness..Take a stroll...

Wealthyonos:
Even your English shows you're not educated. My advice is, 'go back to school'.���

Firstly, I typed with a tiny phone.
Secondly, I typed the content very late.
Thirdly, I never claimed to be a native speaker, so English is not my first language.

I don't mind if you can sponsor me to Oxford University, where you learn English as a native language.

Wealthyonos:
Even your English shows you're not educated. My advice is, 'go back to school'.���

From your write up,you said she's from a poor family Abi??...Oga high standard did it occur to you that she too would have wanted to enter the university but opted for third choice cos of funds??..You said yourself that she's hardworking..Have you asked her how she was able to finish her NCE degree of 4 yrs?? I'm sure if you do you'll discover she alone footed the bills with her teaching job by going for part time studies.....Guy forget that shit of "she's from a poor family" talk. You're an adult so if you're scared of her family demanding from you,clear her now that your cash is yours alone and you can give or choose not to give....

She even be virgin..guy no let me swear for you ooo....marry that girl or you'll share my kinda story of how I lost a good girl

At this era once a man comment she is a virgin you are big simp for God sake ( can’t you Mumu men wake up ) if you like meet your babe virgin that one no mean say she no go cheat or beep another nigga . Just pray for a good woman

Virgin as nothing to do in Nigeria constitution anymore

boss,call her and tell her now that she has not invest much feelings and let her know that you don't accept, relationship no be force, that's what my ex told me and I had to accept the fact and move on.life is choice and I believe you made your own choice

Hmm

U never even tell us if una Genotype match or Not!!!!


All the standard you mentioned above, without a Matched Up Genotype, its a waste of standard.

Ebenman:
I meant a lady, and we got talking. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standard is:
1. At least a graduate
2. Self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference
4. Cool and understandable
5. Not short

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, almost 8 years age different from me. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and felt very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

Don't lower your standards for any woman.
Woman will never lower their standards for you.

Chief keep holding yourself. You will find a woman that matches your standards.


DON'T EVER SETTLE FOR LESS. WOMEN WILL NOT SETTLE FOR LESS.
WHY SHOULD YOU?

GOFRONT:
U never even tell us if una Genotype match or Not!!!!


All the standard you mentioned above, without a Matched Up Genotype, its a waste of standard.

We are both AA


Updated: I have received a lot of bashing.

I guess I didn't really explain the situation well, so a lot of people didn't really get my points.

This lady in particular mum is late. Her dad is battling with stroke.

I stay in a 3-bedroom flat as a bachelor in a high-income area while she, her dad, and 3 other siblings stay in a room and parlor in a low-income area. I fear that one day her family will tell her sis and bro to come and start staying with us if we end up together since they will feel we live in a 3-bedroom flat.

More so, her yearly income is always not up to my monthly income.

She is not the First Lady to show interest in me. I asked her why is she interested in me, and she said that I don't drink, smoke, gamble, or womanize. I am always focused.

In essence, I am also a standard.

satandeterrible:
Don't lower your standards for any woman.
Woman will never lower their standards for you.

Chief keep holding yourself. You will find a woman that matches your standards.


DON'T EVER SETTLE FOR LESS. WOMEN WILL NOT SETTLE FOR LESS.
WHY SHOULD YOU?

Exactly my thoughts

Selfish, self-centered, unkind, evil, assuming, confused. These are some of the words synonymous with this op

Ebenman:
I meant a lady, and we got talking. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standard is:
1. At least a graduate
2. Self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference
4. Cool and understandable
5. Not short

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, almost 8 years age different from me. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and felt very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

I will bet my fresh pot of egusi soup that the lady is not a virgin,believe that you can believe anything,after secondary school 70% of girls are no longer virgins,after higher institution the figure is 95.5%,infact any girl that still remains a virgin after 5-6 years in Nigeria university has factory fault in her pussy.

Chris2863:
Selfish, self-centered, unkind, evil, assuming, confused. These are some of the words synonymous with this op

Thank you! As time goes on you will understand that being a kind and benevolent person in Nigeria doesn't really pay. You will be treated like a fool and totally ignored.

If you know how many ladies had mistreated me in the past due to standards, before I upgraded myself, you couldn't have mentioned this.

all her character na format ,. they usually reveal their true colors in marriage,study her well ,bring in a hous help (young female to be precise) ,to test her true character ,how she reacts to the house help will determine everything.

okoroemeka:
I will bet my fresh pot of egusi soup that the lady is not a virgin,believe that you can believe anything,after secondary school 70% of girls are no longer virgins,after higher institution the figure is 95.5%,infact any girl that still remains a virgin after 5-6 years in Nigeria university has factory fault in her pussy.

She is a virgin, I confirmed.

Ebenman:
Thank you! As time goes on you will understand that being a kind and benevolent person in Nigeria doesn't really pay. You will be treated like a fool and totally ignored.

If you know how many ladies have mistreated me in the past due to standards, you couldn't have mentioned this.

ignore that fool,everyday women set standard, nobody bats an eyelid. ,when a man does it, everybody brings out their fangs , don't compromise.

Ebenman:
I meant a lady, and we got talking. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standard is:
1. At least a graduate
2. Self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference
4. Cool and understandable
5. Not short

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, almost 8 years age different from me. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and felt very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

You ever heard of friendzone?

If you are rich , then you are wicked .
I see nothing wrong in helping people, you mustn’t date her but help the girl or her family . Nobody knows tomorrow .
Your standard will be lowered by forces of life.

Weirdcamila:
If you are rich , then you are wicked .
I see nothing wrong in helping people, you mustn’t date her but help the girl or her family . Nobody knows tomorrow .
Your standard will be lowered by forces of life.

he should help the girl , cause na woman ,start from your fellow man before you open your dirty mouth

Calm down, you never reach your final bus stop.

Smiles, life have a way of playing with our lives. Standard or no standard, OP, you will still marry the one that life has bestow on you.

Weirdcamila:
If you are rich , then you are wicked .
I see nothing wrong in helping people, you mustn’t date her but help the girl or her family . Nobody knows tomorrow .
Your standard will be lowered by forces of life.

You must be dumb for this gibberish u type.

Sammy101111:
At this ere once a man comment she is a virgin you are big simp for God sake ( can’t you Mumu men wake up ) if you like meet your babe virgin that one no mean say she no go cheat or beep another nigga . Just pray for a good woman

Virgin as nothing to do in Nigeria constitution anymore

What is a good girl to you ?

I guess you can marry a retired whoore that has fvcked your friends and cousins before all because she has changed and become a good girl lool

Ebenman:
I meant a lady, and we got talking. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standard is:
1. At least a graduate
2. Self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference
4. Cool and understandable
5. Not short

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, almost 8 years age different from me. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and felt very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

they won’t lower their standard for you. Do lower yours

Men are quick to lower their standards because of loneliness and fear of being alone.

Chris2863:
Selfish, self-centered, unkind, evil, assuming, confused. These are some of the words synonymous with this op

Coming from someone that's yet to experience life.
My guy is biting his lip now after coming back from his just concluded relationship...
Man fed the girl and her family join...
You have no idea what it takes to date a girl with poor background... not to talk of family that request money from the little the girl make, God!!! . The boyfriend go suffer....

Ehmmah588:
From your write up,you said she's from a poor family Abi??...Oga high standard did it occur to you that she too would have wanted to enter the university but opted for third choice cos of funds??..You said yourself that she's hardworking..Have you asked her how she was able to finish her NCE degree of 4 yrs?? I'm sure if you do you'll discover she alone footed the bills with her teaching job by going for part time studies.....Guy forget that shit of "she's from a poor family" talk. You're an adult so if you're scared of her family demanding from you,clear her now that your cash is yours alone and you can give or choose not to give....

She even be virgin..guy no let me swear for you ooo....marry that girl or you'll share my kinda story of how I lost a good girl

You dey push am make he marry like say you go follow dey when he begin sup for the marriage, werey

In all your doings, don't lower your standards to accommodate any woman. It never ends well

I love your standard @Op, but according to the girl's standard; though she comes from a poor background, observe if she's hardworking or the type that relies on men for support. These are the things you should look for before taking her.
You can still support her and brought her up to your standard if she worth it