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BRATISLAVA:
Your first paragraph is the true heart of your needless thread.

Did you think all 3 of them didn't notice you're a misogynist? A lot of you actually think that gender can't judge you accurately and see through you. Later on, you turn around and look for how to vilify them in long half-cocked threads.

SIRTee15:
I don't think u really have a good understanding of women. That's the main problem I see.
Except u be star like davido or your wallet is heavy like E-money. No naija girl will fall for you in an instant, u need to put an effort.
Your case may be easier if u be correct handsome bobo or if u can engage girls in conversation and make them laff efortlessly- girls like guys that put them in that laughter mood.
From your post it's obvious u don't have any of the above qualities, that automatically makes you an average Joe. In that case, hit and miss will be your relationship history. Nothing to be ashamed of, majority of men falls into same category.
Forget what so call red pillers will come here to brag and teach about. That school is different from reality on the street.
As some already said, u need patience and wisdom to navigate the complexity of a woman's heart without losing yourself.
Let women know your intention but do not ask them out immediately unless you sure she's into u.
Girls know when a guy is interested in them and will react accordingly. If they give u an outright cold shoulder, drop it and move on. If their face shout YES, then go for it if u like what u see.
However, for your likes most women will take a cool and cautious approach. It means u are one of the many men approaching her, u not top spot but maybe u got potential she's considering. That's the simple truth. The way u play your game and her circumstances will determine her reaction.

Thattallgirl:
Okay. Yea there is. Although it is obvious the ladies you mentioned aren't interested in you, not every lady "forms" when they want friendship before any relationship. I may be wrong but if some men are of the opinion that they want someone who hasn't had body counts before, then they shouldn't expect ladies to just jump into a relationship without getting to be friends first because the truth is that, unless a man is actually ready (within a year) to marry, it's hard to find men who will date a lady without having sex. I dunno if you understand Some will want to test the product before buying it. What now happens if they aren't compatible sexually? Shey that's how the lady will be jumping from one guy to another to find her match?

In conclusion lol, what I'm saying is that friendship is the basis of every relationship. When love fades, friendship still stands. It doesn't mean you'll be friends for years or something before dating. It just in a way, helps you understand the person better than when you're dating and you're both putting your best foot forward and trying to hide your flaws.

Again, I may be wrong lol.

Carot:
do you approach girls on the street?

BobbieZion:
When it comes to Women forget about basic human decency, only your guys can acknowledge that.
And stop been too kind....it makes you kind of too nice, women don't like nice guys.
Be good, but be cocky and unapologetic, that will get you far.
And never spend your energy and time on Women.
I learnt this from experience......

Kobojunkie:
1. Women also do that which you have stated in bold up there there so why do you presume you are the first to think of doing such?,

2. I don't convince myself of anything of such nor does the word "luck" and "relationship" go together in my dictionary so forgive me for really not seeing whatever moot point you are attempting to make with this response of yours.

Something about your person attracted those 4 girls to you yo begin with and even with you saying you have cut them off, it doesn't mean you will not still go out and attract others like them , maybe with better ability to hide their flaws next time. Rather than stone the gals what you ought instead do is look inside of you to change whatever is necessary so you attract better women next time. Coming here to accuse them as though they forced themselves on you somehow ain't going to help you any.

Tbaba001:
Oga shut your damn mouth... I myself have interracted with ladies and most of them have similar attitude as the OP describe, this has nothing to do with attraction and everything to do with most females not being able to communicate

JASONjnr:
I don't know how you go about it... But I've never started a conversation with a lady I like and have interest for, without asking her if she's in any relationship....

If she says yes....I stop the communication



If she says, the guy isn't serious and she's holding on to break up... I will equally stop communication.

But if she says No...I will write out my intentions, I mean, I will speak it out. She will have to accept me or reject me...

I will not give room to, "Let's be friends first"....

I just want to be serious and if you can't be serious, then we have to move on.

OP, you devout so much time and attention to get a woman.And you consider so many rules. If she asked you, if you have money to spend on her head...That wasn't supposed to be a turn off....Ask her how much and check your pockets...

If you're not financially strong, why going to look for ladies that's as pretty as Rita Dominic....Abi you no see girls weh resemble James Brown?

bestdudes:
Some weeks ago, this thread titled: "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" graced the Nairaland front page.

Here is a link to the thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7368480/not-all-30yrs-old-ladies

It is highly impossible that averagely pretty and above-average pretty ladies didn't meet serious men in their 20s. It is not possible. The problem with many ladies is that they have a very poor selection and also have a very bad attitude that chases good men away.

I am going to share my recent experience with 3 ladies and why I decided to walk away.

Lady 1: I had been chatting with this lady on Twitter without asking for her number. It has been on and off for more than one year. So about 3 months ago, I decided to ask for her number, which she delayed but later gave it on the same day.

For the records, this lady is pretty, she looks very much like Rita Dominic, very striking resemblance. Just to give you an idea that she is pretty.

We chatted a few times and then I decided to call. The first two were brief but the 3rd was much longer and somewhat boring because I was doing most of the topic or angle infusion, more like I was the one bringing up topics to sustain the interactions.

Before that 3rd call, I sent an SMS to ask if she was still at work and she replied to the SMS and said she was still at work. So I had to wait for about 1 hour before I called.

After the call, I texted her to say she has a good voice. I asked whether she sings or loves singing. It was just an innocent question borne out of curiosity because I could imagine she is a good singer with such a voice

She didn't reply to the SMS. Of course, I expected that, knowing how ladies behave over something as simple as that. While on Twitter, I asked whether she got the SMS, and she said that she saw it but didn't have airtime to reply lol...

That was a lie of course. I wonder why she would lie, perhaps she wanted to "form" or what? Ma'am, it was just a simple curious question.

I decided to take a stroll to her profile that same day and there I saw what completely turned me off. On her profile, she said people think she enjoys calls but she does not want calls and that they will think chatting her up on WhatsApp is better but she does not enjoy that either.

If that is the case, why give your number out? Why not isolate yourself from people entirely so that no one interacts with you? Are you better than those who took out time to spend it with you via calls?

I interpreted her mentality and worldview as someone who feels too important and does appreciate the effort of people who try to reach out to her or interact.

On seeing that, It was disappointing to note what she thought of others who called or chatted her up, I mean these are people's time that can't be gotten back lol.

Lady 2: This one is from Twitter as well. We started talking from a thread and I decided to DM her. I liked her energy. She was light and responsive, very open and communicative.

She started asking for my picture because I do not display my picture on Twitter. I was reluctant initially but sent it cos she persisted... after much chat, we exchanged numbers and I chatted her up on WhatsApp 2 days later. We talked about hanging out in December but she said she would be traveling to her state for the festive season.

While we were chatting, I had called before then, I simply asked whether she has entered another relationship after the last one she mentioned on Twitter.

Guess her response? she said "Do you have money to spend on my head"? For a less than 1 week interaction?

Oh, God... I knew I wouldn't want to have anything to do with this one beyond WhatsApp or Twitter. I reduced my interactions with her and it died.

For the two ladies above, I do not often remember they are on my contact anymore except when I see their status lol.

Let's move on

Lady 3: Met this one after church and we were going in the same direction. I spoke to her and we exchange numbers. We chatted, and I called. We arranged to meet up. On the day of our meeting, which was the first after that Sunday, she asked me whether I have knowledge of digital marketing or social media marketing. I said I do but it is not something that can be discussed on WhatsApp, except we meet so that I can explain it to her.

Though chatting her up was very slow as she is rarely online. She takes a few hours to reply lol.

We met and the meeting was more of a lecture with me answering all her questions. I enjoyed it anyway.

Knowing that I exchanged numbers because I was attracted to her, I had to find a way to subtly give hint. Now, here is the challenge I had. She increasingly started replying with monosyllables like "yeah", okay, no, lol, ,

On noticing that, I knew it was time to exit from her life and I did.

The above 3 ladies are pretty facially and above average... With their attitude that made me leave them alone, tomorrow, they will come online to write "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" lol and some persons will be saying it is true blah blah...

Girls are the architect of their own misfortune. You will see a man being a decent gentleman and develop a habit that chases them away. In the same vein, they will accept the guys who do not have any good intentions toward them.

Others may believe that thread but definitely not me. I do not believe that a girl, especially the pretty ones, will live from age 1 to 30 and never come across a man with good intentions. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE!

Carot:
I've always had a crush on you

Evolutionlove:
Hush Up.

Who Invited you here.

Silly Bratislava..

Tbaba001:
Lmao the moment a lady asks you "if you can take care of her needs monetarily" and you stupidly play in to that game... YOU AUTOMATICALLY BECOME AN ATM LMAO

Kobojunkie:
1. [s]You are kidding, right?

2. Some of you are truly resistant to learning. So at your age, you think the only way you can learn anything about a woman or even a man is only when you are in a relationship with her or him?

You have not realized at this age of yours that your can assess a person past the physical attributes before deciding whether to even engage such a being or not? You don't know that you can look around that person ...at relationships around them to learn some substantial information about their makeup and personality? You think it is only when you directly interact and engage the person that you learn what, truth? ...LOL..... [/s]

Amayabor1:
Foolishness resides with you!

Kobojunkie:
All this writeup here does is give us a glimpse into your ability to reason the world around you and the kind of relationships you get yourself into.

Those girls are not your problem at all. You are and you should look into yourself to realize why these are the kind of people you continue to attract even at your age.

Kobojunkie:
Look whose talking!

Amayabor1:
It is "Look who is talking", not "Look whose talking".

No wonder you can't comprehend a simple write-up.

Zonefree:
The 3rd lady discarded you after getting information about digital marketing and social media marketing free from you. That's where you loose-guard.

You don't give your intellectual property free to people, not to Nigerian girls.

Kobojunkie:
Look whose talking!

Amayabor1:
I don't know why you should be commenting on a public post when you lack the ability to read and understand.

"Look whose talking". Ode!

obailala:
Lady 1:
So because a lady says she doesnt enjoy long endless chatting or calls, it automatically makes her an unserious person unworthy of a serious relationship?

So ladies aren't allowed to like/dislike what they like/dislike? Must a lady like what you like before you tag her a serious person?

If you like long chats and calls but she doesnt, it simply means you guys arent meant for each other. That doesn't make you a serious dude and her an unserious person bro...

Lady 2:
Whilst I wouldnt be found holding brief for hungry entitled girls, the question Lady 2 asked could just be a joke (you actually sound already like an uptight person who cant tell a joke from serious words). Did you spend time with her to establish her real personality, or you just jumped into conclusions because you already had a prejudiced mindset that women are unserious? Jumping from one woman to the other over petty things could actually mean you are the unserious one you know?

Lady 3:
No matter how decent or funny or rich or handsome you are, not every woman will like you. Lady 3 just doesnt seem to be into you (for a relationship). That doesnt make her an unserious person.

DoMeGood09:
The problem here was you acted desperate. Next time, do not be desperate on women. If a woman is beautiful, tell her that she’s ugly.

I told a pretty young lady last week that I cannot date her and she asked me why, I said to her that because she’s can’t measure up. Ever since then, she’s been calling me. What works for women is the opposite.

Kobojunkie:
Look whose talking!

SPAMBOX7:
In all your experiences all I can deduce is you lack game. Women naturally take anything that has to do with their opposite gender for a game. So if you lack game you prolly gonna suffer in their hands whether you have good intentions or not.

Like where you were asking her if she is another relationship already sold you out as someone who know nothing about game. You don't ask a woman you wanna smash or get into a relationship if she's in a relationship.

A woman should be the one to ask you "what are we" "Are we in a relationship" or "what do we call this thing we are doing?"
Not the other way round. Na why guys wey still dey ask girls out always losing or being taken for granted. Learn game

Silentgroper:
I swear down, this is so true..

but i think they eventually get tired after some point and try to bounce...

Silentgroper:
I'd like to learn some. How do i get tutored?

Evolutionlove:
Initially I use to take whoever Is behind that Moniker Kobojikie or whatever serious. Not until I realize the person has Mental Issues

I started avoiding the person since that day..

bestdudes:
Some weeks ago, this thread titled: "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" graced the Nairaland front page.

Here is a link to the thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7368480/not-all-30yrs-old-ladies

It is highly impossible that averagely pretty and above-average pretty ladies didn't meet serious men in their 20s. It is not possible. The problem with many ladies is that they have a very poor selection and also have a very bad attitude that chases good men away.

I am going to share my recent experience with 3 ladies and why I decided to walk away.

Lady 1: I had been chatting with this lady on Twitter without asking for her number. It has been on and off for more than one year. So about 3 months ago, I decided to ask for her number, which she delayed but later gave it on the same day.

For the records, this lady is pretty, she looks very much like Rita Dominic, very striking resemblance. Just to give you an idea that she is pretty.

We chatted a few times and then I decided to call. The first two were brief but the 3rd was much longer and somewhat boring because I was doing most of the topic or angle infusion, more like I was the one bringing up topics to sustain the interactions.

Before that 3rd call, I sent an SMS to ask if she was still at work and she replied to the SMS and said she was still at work. So I had to wait for about 1 hour before I called.

After the call, I texted her to say she has a good voice. I asked whether she sings or loves singing. It was just an innocent question borne out of curiosity because I could imagine she is a good singer with such a voice

She didn't reply to the SMS. Of course, I expected that, knowing how ladies behave over something as simple as that. While on Twitter, I asked whether she got the SMS, and she said that she saw it but didn't have airtime to reply lol...

That was a lie of course. I wonder why she would lie, perhaps she wanted to "form" or what? Ma'am, it was just a simple curious question.

I decided to take a stroll to her profile that same day and there I saw what completely turned me off. On her profile, she said people think she enjoys calls but she does not want calls and that they will think chatting her up on WhatsApp is better but she does not enjoy that either.

If that is the case, why give your number out? Why not isolate yourself from people entirely so that no one interacts with you? Are you better than those who took out time to spend it with you via calls?

I interpreted her mentality and worldview as someone who feels too important and does appreciate the effort of people who try to reach out to her or interact.

On seeing that, It was disappointing to note what she thought of others who called or chatted her up, I mean these are people's time that can't be gotten back lol.

Lady 2: This one is from Twitter as well. We started talking from a thread and I decided to DM her. I liked her energy. She was light and responsive, very open and communicative.

She started asking for my picture because I do not display my picture on Twitter. I was reluctant initially but sent it cos she persisted... after much chat, we exchanged numbers and I chatted her up on WhatsApp 2 days later. We talked about hanging out in December but she said she would be traveling to her state for the festive season.

While we were chatting, I had called before then, I simply asked whether she has entered another relationship after the last one she mentioned on Twitter.

Guess her response? she said "Do you have money to spend on my head"? For a less than 1 week interaction?

Oh, God... I knew I wouldn't want to have anything to do with this one beyond WhatsApp or Twitter. I reduced my interactions with her and it died.

For the two ladies above, I do not often remember they are on my contact anymore except when I see their status lol.

Let's move on

Lady 3: Met this one after church and we were going in the same direction. I spoke to her and we exchange numbers. We chatted, and I called. We arranged to meet up. On the day of our meeting, which was the first after that Sunday, she asked me whether I have knowledge of digital marketing or social media marketing. I said I do but it is not something that can be discussed on WhatsApp, except we meet so that I can explain it to her.

Though chatting her up was very slow as she is rarely online. She takes a few hours to reply lol.

We met and the meeting was more of a lecture with me answering all her questions. I enjoyed it anyway.

Knowing that I exchanged numbers because I was attracted to her, I had to find a way to subtly give hint. Now, here is the challenge I had. She increasingly started replying with monosyllables like "yeah", okay, no, lol, ,

On noticing that, I knew it was time to exit from her life and I did.

The above 3 ladies are pretty facially and above average... With their attitude that made me leave them alone, tomorrow, they will come online to write "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" lol and some persons will be saying it is true blah blah...

Girls are the architect of their own misfortune. You will see a man being a decent gentleman and develop a habit that chases them away. In the same vein, they will accept the guys who do not have any good intentions toward them.

Others may believe that thread but definitely not me. I do not believe that a girl, especially the pretty ones, will live from age 1 to 30 and never come across a man with good intentions. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE!

bestdudes:
It is quite a large field bro. what area are you interested in?