Is this a trap or it's true?

Don't take advice from simps.
Nigerian girls are liabilities, except you want to remain at the level of "from hand to mouth" avoid any serious relationship talk more of marriage until food, clothing and shelter are not issues that worry you.

Put body first.
Also, why would I want to be with someone who can't feed herself without my help. I wouldn't want to set myself up with that.

Cinema4d:
Is this a trap or it's true?

It is true for some, trap for others.

NO TWO MARRIAGES ARE THE SAME OR FUNCTION BY THE SAME RULES..... everyone is different.

This economy states otherwise ooo.. marry early suffer plenty. That's not nice mehn!!! In this current Nigeria, if u can feed ur self, ur wife u must have extra cos anything can happen.

yrhuhfy113:


It is true for some, trap for others.

NO TWO MARRIAGES ARE THE SAME OR FUNCTION BY THE SAME RULES..... everyone is different.

So it's both ways.

habsydiamond:
This economy states otherwise ooo.. marry early suffer plenty. That's not nice mehn!!! In this current Nigeria, if u can feed ur self, ur wife u must have extra cos anything can happen.

Whatever the case may be. Don't you think it is wise to marry early?

DispatcherLagos:

Don't take advice from simps.
Nigerian girls are liabilities, except you want to remain at the level of "from hand to mouth" avoid any serious relationship talk more of marriage until food, clothing and shelter are not issues that worry you.

All of them?

Olasyke:
Put body first.
Also, why would I want to be with someone who can't feed herself without my help.

The man is talking from experience.

It might be true for some marriages

but there are othere scares concerning marriage today

Cinema4d:

Whatever the case may be. Don't you think it is wise to marry early?

it is good to marry early cos u will reap early too.. but if u are not capable don't try it cos u will suffer early and u may reap late.

Cinema4d:

The man is talking from experience.

Understanding is basic in everything we want to do. If I see a girl and we love each other and we are young, before we proceed to agree to marriage, there would be arrangements. Maybe only one kid for now till we both hit a certain level of income and also, what are our plans before we even give birth to the first one? Because a child shouldn't come to this life to to suffer because we couldn't use family planning.

It's subjective

1. Does the guy have plans to grow thier finances?

2. Is the lady industrious to earn for herself as well.

3. Can the two synergize to make sure abundance is in the home?

On this three anything is really possible, I'll support the man's notion.

It's not a trap in my opinion, the thing is finding two selfless people in a love relationship.

Cinema4d:

All of them?

Yes...all of them

It's a scam.. the wife must have some source of income too because things are very expressive nowadays.

Olasyke:

Understanding is basic in everything we want to do. If I see a girl and we love each other and we are young, before we proceed to agree to marriage, there would be arrangements. Maybe only one kid for now till we both hit a certain level of income and also, what are our plans before we even give birth to the first one? Because a child shouldn't come to this life to to suffer because we couldn't use family planning.

I agree with you. But you don't have to be all wealthy before going into marriage aye?

habsydiamond:
it is good to marry early cos u will reap early too.. but if u are not capable don't try I cos u will suffer early and u may reap late.

Define being capable.

Yusufisraelj:
It's subjective

1. Does the guy have plans to grow thier finances?

2. Is the lady industrious to earn for herself as well.

3. Can the two synergize to make sure abundance is in the home?

On this three anything is really possible, I'll support the man's notion.

It's not a trap in my opinion, the thing is finding two selfless people in a love relationship.

1. The guy must definitely have a definite plan to increase their finances.

2. Depends on the lady.

3. This is where compatibility comes in.

Seems like a trap, if the individual (lady) is the opposite of the three points you stated above.

Samantha123:
It's a scam.. the wife must have some source of income too because things are very expressive nowadays.

Many ladies are not thinking this way. I think that's the problem.

Cinema4d:

So it's both ways.

you can say its... two sides of a coin.

Some followed this man's advice and now are too broke to even come online to complain... they married so early in the name of things will be better... then BOOOOMMMM wife delivers twins or triplets... or something else happens... and the meager 150k salary became minus 200k debt.... and over the years... the man has become bitter and sad that HE WAS LIED TO and those who lied to him that made him rush into marriage on a low salary, have all abandoned him.... Now they vehemently advice anyone against making their own mistake. THAT'S ONE SIDE OF THE COIN...

THE NEXT SIDE.... they married early, favor, luck or whatever good spirit, shined on them and things began to boom so well and now they are doing well and they think it is because they married early so they advice everyone else to marry early thinking everyone else has the same luck they had. THAT IS THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN.


So you see, no two marriages will have the same story... everyone can actually know which side of the coin they belong to. Sadly we lie to ourselves alot in Nigeria... meanwhile abroad, a 40 years old getting married is still very much celebrated like a 20 years old... age is just a number. Getting your life working wella before marriage is what counts.

Cinema4d:

I agree with you. But you don't have to be all wealthy before going into marriage aye?

aye aye captain.

Well, I believe in financially helping out my man with household necessities because the last thing I want is to see him stressing and aging quickly because of all the financial burden that comes with marriage.

If he puts the bread on the table, I'll then put the butter.

Cinema4d:

Many ladies are not thinking this way. I think that's the problem.

It’s a trap because most people can feed themselves; we’re just looking for that xtra.

If a man finishes five cups of rice cooked in the nigerian concoction method within three meals (breakfast, lunch, and dinner)
and a lady finishes four cups in the same circumstances
a child of 3 or 4 years old also finishes 2 cups in the same circumstances
YOU ARE NOW ASKING IF IT'S A TRAP OR NOT?
NO BE TRAP NAH TRAP LANJE

DON'T BE A SUCKER!!

Cinema4d:

Define being capable.

having the required resources such as money, wisdom, leadership qualities and Tolerance

I agree, but it all depends on the people involved. If the girl is productive and didn't enter the marriage with the mindset of consuming, receiving, and feeling good only, then it will work.

Marriage should make the life of two people easier if it's done rightly. For example, it's cheaper for two people to rent together, eat/cook together, and do basically everything, since there is, for lack of a better analogy, ''economy of scale'' involved.

Unless modern women are like our mothers who don't see marriage as a permanent vacation to Miami, men should be financially stable before going into one.

habsydiamond:
having the required resources such as money, wisdom, leadership qualities and Tolerance

Good. I thought you were going to state only money.

Samantha123:
Well, I believe in financially helping out my man with household necessities because the last thing I want is to see him stressing and aging quickly because of all the financial burden that comes with marriage.

If he puts the bread on the table, I'll then put the butter.

Well, I've seen another rare one.

Cinema4d:

Good. I thought you were going to state only money.

those that went into marriage yesterday with only money, where are they today?? They re divorced or in the process.

Cinema4d:

Well, I've seen another rare one.

yrhuhfy113:


you can say its... two sides of a coin.

Some followed this man's advice and now are too broke to even come online to complain... they married so early in the name of things will be better... then BOOOOMMMM wife delivers twins or triplets... or something else happens... and the meager 150k salary became minus 200k debt.... and over the years... the man has become bitter and sad that HE WAS LIED TO and those who lied to him that made him rush into marriage on a low salary, have all abandoned him.... Now they vehemently advice anyone against making their own mistake. THAT'S ONE SIDE OF THE COIN...

THE NEXT SIDE.... they married early, favor, luck or whatever good spirit, shined on them and things began to boom so well and now they are doing well and they think it is because they married early so they advice everyone else to marry early thinking everyone else has the same luck they had. THAT IS THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN.


So you see, no two marriages will have the same story... everyone can actually know which side of the coin they belong to. Sadly we lie to ourselves alot in Nigeria... meanwhile abroad, a 40 years old getting married is still very much celebrated like a 20 years old... age is just a number. Getting your life working wella before marriage is what counts.

Two sides bloody heh! What's the probability of falling in the good side? Or it's not just predictable?

pansophist:
I agree, but it all depends on the people involved. If the girl is productive and didn't enter the marriage with the mindset of consuming, receiving, and feeling good only, then it will work.

Marriage should make the life of two people easier if it's done rightly. For example, it's cheaper for two people to rent together, eat/cook together, and do basically everything, since there is, for lack of a better analogy, ''economy of scale'' involved.

Unless modern women are like our mothers who don't see marriage as a permanent vacation to Miami, men should be financially stable before going into one.

The definition of financial stability is quite confusing these days, and subjective.