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CheapHomes1:
How did you arrive at your conclusions? Can you share with us your research and how you carried it out?

If the nigerian men and women are sex starved, why don't they just simply marry each other?

SpyChild:
I don’t know why people keep saying that people staying abroad are sex starved.
There are stages to the game and hustle if you live abroad. If you are still tryna figure out your papers and work to get money to make it happen, where will you even see the time or energy to pursue sex.
Now, if you have figured yourself out and you are in a place like the US, cities like Houston, Dallas, Atlanta, New Orleans and the like for instance where there are also a good percentage of blacks, who told you you won’t have sex?

Omoh akata love sex plus they are good and sexy too.

The only difference is that unlike Nigeria where most people have a lot of free time to be pursuing sex, people actually work here for at least 8hrs to get your bills paid. So after work, if you have strength go and pursue sex cos there are people out there to that have the time and wanna seek the pleasure too.

It’s pathetic that home based folks actually believe this.
Lol I don’t wanna delve into details when it comes to that kind of lifestyle but most people don’t actually have game and because of the economic hardships in nigeria and they pick low hanging fruit thinking they have game.

It’s game time abroad, if you don’t have the it…sorry Konji will be your first name cos you no fit do anyhow,
Popo go carry you shaperly

Kaycee54321:
Bobrisky & James are not investigated because they now roll with a certain class of people.

CR7 made headlines on how it's ok for him to live with his girlfriend in an Arab conservative society because he's in a particular class of humans.

A random gay guy in Ikorodu will be severely beaten in the hood and if he reports to the police station, he will collect round two from the officers of the law... because random gay guy is in a particular class of people. N.B. I've once seen Bobrisky in Lekki and guess who were providing escort services?; two fully armed MOPOL officers...

It's always about class.

ednut1:
there is no hell. Stop deceiving yaself

SpyChild:
I don’t know why people keep saying that people staying abroad are sex starved.
There are stages to the game and hustle if you live abroad. If you are still tryna figure out your papers and work to get money to make it happen, where will you even see the time or energy to pursue sex.
Now, if you have figured yourself out and you are in a place like the US, cities like Houston, Dallas, Atlanta, New Orleans and the like for instance where there are also a good percentage of blacks, who told you you won’t have sex?

Omoh akata love sex plus they are good and sexy too.

The only difference is that unlike Nigeria where most people have a lot of free time to be pursuing sex, people actually work here for at least 8hrs to get your bills paid. So after work, if you have strength go and pursue sex cos there are people out there to that have the time and wanna seek the pleasure too.

It’s pathetic that home based folks actually believe this.
Lol I don’t wanna delve into details when it comes to that kind of lifestyle but most people don’t actually have game and because of the economic hardships in nigeria and they pick low hanging fruit thinking they have game.

It’s game time abroad, if you don’t have the it…sorry Konji will be your first name cos you no fit do anyhow,
Popo go carry you shaperly

ibkayee:
It’s not tall o, for a man

EDGEof2MORO:
he is telling us what he is going through but does have the balls to say it directly.

The guy is broke and ugly, gets zero pussy and think everyone is like him.

BRATISLAVA:
Black women aren't normally ugly. But if you insist, they are just like black men, meaning that Nigerian men are all ugly too.

Ednut03:
Yeah. There are Nigerian Men in America who has not had a decent chance at sex for years. The only chance at sex they get is when they visit Naija once in a while. You ain't even getting a white chick to talk to you or give you her number if you ain't ridiculously good looking, dress well and speak really high.

Same apply to a woman and it's even worse. Men are thirsty, unlike Women, and she might get sexed and few attentions until the sex lasts. But she's not going to get any commitment if she doesn't match the beauty standard. So, she will be lonely too. Nigerian Men are still better positioned than her. And her woes even worsen if she's above 30. They rarely get white men. No they don't, because Nigerian women also fall short of the look And beauty standard

And if you're in dating app as an average black man (you're bleeped if you're ugly), you'll, 90% of the time be swept left over.

Hence, many Nigerian guys are frustrated and won't talk about it

Don't believe the stupid lies we peddle on here about white woman loving black for our dick game. It's a lie. If you ain't 100% attractive to her, your dick game doesn't matter. You need to be tall too, because their men are really tall. You can't be 5"9 and be expecting any reasonable result scoring a white chic, it ain't happening

Cousin9999:
Racism is a profound mental illness.

Imagine a man (if such a person can be called that) investing time, energy, and even money into pushing this lie about desirability. The reality is that the only foreigners that consistently have trouble getting partners in different countries are east and south Asian males. Almost everyone else does just fine.

flystrategist:
While I agree there’s some element of truth in what you wrote, I would like to disagree with some of the points.

It’s not so hard for any Nigerian/African to date a white/classy black American( there are more decent and classy African American women than the opposite.

If you are educated and you hang out with like minded individuals, you will never consider it a struggle or “a thing” to date whoever you want.

The only reasons “some” Nigerians struggle is 1) They lack exposure (2) No class

So even if you are educated and classless( this is the case of many Nigerians claiming to have class) you will only end up dating people like yourself.

I’ve lived in 19 countries as an aviator and I’m just 5.5 ft tall. Dating any race has never been a thing I had to worry or talk about until this post.

Gerrard59:
This is true, and it is worse in East Asia. When I met a Gambian who said she dates a Japanese, I was stunned. Even white women have it worse in East and South East Asia as their white brothers are swooned over by Asian females. So you can imagine it for black females. It is why anytime I recall the female Nairalander who chose Hong Kong instead of Canada because Canada is boring, I dey burst laugh.

https://vagabondish.com/female-foreign-japan/ A tale of a white woman who lived in Japan.

White men are really privileged. Their grandparents tried for them.

Mille:
Let me share my own experience in Europe. Before leaving for Europe, I cohabited for the last two years in school. We continued our cohabitation when I finished school and returned to Lagos until the day I left for Europe. So I had no problem getting sex since I left for Europe.

I enrolled in a Masters program where I get to spend at least 6 months each in different countries. Then, I was a skinny average dude.

1. First Stop: Cluj, ROMANIA;
-Beautiful women all through. Student city. I think this is the country with the most beautiful women in the world. Matched with plenty people on Tinder. Went for some dates mostly with fellow students but I think they were more curious than interested due to the scarcity of black people. One even mentioned if Nigerians don't eat vegetable oil because I'm not as bulky as those black Americans. I think the fact that I wasn't staying long in Romania didn't help either.

Loved a Portuguese exchange student who stayed on the same floor with me and was taking her time returning the favor after dates and group clubbing (I was only clubbing because I liked her). Finally scored a Romanian/Hungarian girl after two months and mehn, she was a screamer. The whole floor knew what was going on throughout the night. Word got to the Portuguese girl and she became distant. The Romanian girl essentially became my girlfriend till I left Romania. Homely and submissive. Honestly, the best relationship I ever had. Took me to her parents, bleeped her there. When it was time to leave, she didn't want distant relationship and asked that I leave school and we can relocate to the UK as a couple. I rejected it (sometimes I regret rejecting that offer)

2. Next Stop; Kassel, GERMANY.

I think Germans are the worst women a man will ever date. Ugly, assertive, domineering and always frowning.

This was where I finally understand how hard it is in Europe. For the first months, I didn't even score female friendship with Germans (I think the fact that I don't speak German is a big determinant). I was always able to do so with Nigerian and African women but not with the Germans or other Europeans. On my multiple trips to Frankfurt, I thought about branching many of the multiple sex houses, but man, I'll never enjoy paid sex.

I was finally able to score a 40+ divorced German mom of 3 who stayed in a small City close to Frankfurt. This was the hardest I have done to convince a woman. Her daughter was 18+ and it usually felt somehow when I go there on weekends. But mehn, I was grateful for the avenue to cum.

I think if you're interested in African women, you won't have problems in Germany as long as you're above the same African woman in a social standing. If not, OYO. African Men have been here without having sex for years. African women have been lonely here for years because they want commitment. Both African Men and women are not having sex together because their needs are different.

3. LYON, FRANCE:

I want to forget my experience in France. It was so dry. I wasn't even scoring matches online. And the ones you meet face to face will give you their number and leave you in read. I was left with the opportunity of returning to Germany and continuing the final semester in Lyon, mehn, I ran back to Germany.

4. HAMBURG, GERMANY.

I finally stayed in a big English speaking city. Met many Nigerians here as I also rented a flat with other Nigerians. To get women here, you have to be ready to club. If you can deceive African and Nigerian women about your finances and your commitment to marriage, you'll get a lot of black pussies. Many Africans here have finished their studies and are finally in the big city to earn cash. They have also come to the realization that they are getting older without a partner and that the white men only used them to satisfy a fetish.

My Opinion of German women remain the same. Unless you like the challenge of masculine women. People don't even know Angela Merkel has an Husband. Fortunately, there are plenty of fishes in this city that are not Germans. So if you dress well, have your finance in order and outgoing, you shouldn't have a problem getting laid. To do less work chasing women, just target the plus-sized ones.

Unfortunately, I caught a bacterial infection which was causing a lump under my armpit. Before, during and after the surgery, I was all alone in the hospital. My roommates wey busy racking up shifts, my lays were not there during the time of need, I finally appreciated the communalism of Nigeria and the need for a partner and not random sex objects. I returned home to Nigeria, started working remotely, got married and had a daughter.

I expect to go back to the abroad this year or the next. I'm not in a hurry though as I earn USD from here.

kollinzgee:
There is no where in the world you cant get a chick if you know how to approach and woo women,white girls are not like naija girls they are more attracted to your looks and personality than mobey.

wolverine78:
What's this guy talking about. I was hanging them legs in the air in about 2 months of arriving in the US. You got to get with the African-American women, forget the Nigeria women (with their fakeness). African American women are ready to give it to you at the drop of a hat especially if you got mad swag. In 3 months, I already had 2-3 in different area codes. The rest is history. My first girlfriend Tiffany aka BIG A$$ lived down my street and rescheduled her time so we can be on the same schedule at work. She used to come pick me up, drop me off and we were off on same days. Not gone lie, my single days out here was special. These women used to buy me stuff, give me $$$$, pay for hotel upfront to meet up at. Man, life was really special then. I love me my African-American women, Latinas and my white chicks that love BBC. And God help you if you can put it down. As for the Nigeria women they are in a very lonely world because it is ONLY Naija men that look their way (Naija men that can put up with their fakeness and BS). Another reason I never got with Nigerian women out here. So, I guess this guy must be trying to get with his "Sisters" that's why he is jonesing and crying out. You need to get with the "SISTAS". I know a friend of mine who was on the same predicament when he just got here, I told him to not mess with Nigerians because of their fakeness, he didn't listen, 6 months in my nigga was all backed up, called my girl to get her friend to help my nigga out. That same night he got laid after 6-7 months out here.

ibkayee:
Loool

Welp, what I will say is Nigerian women don’t tend to expand their dating pool beyond Nigerian men and aren’t generally interested in oyinbos so it’s strange that white men are the demographic that the OP is focused on for his ‘case study’. They don’t really bother looking ‘outside’ because of compatibility reasons. Also white people aren’t the only race abroad.

As for the men, I am of the opinion that they tend to expand more than the women, but let’s not lie to ourselves, a lot of the time it’s for papers so they end up settling for the less than desirable ‘oyinbo’ women.

The ones with citizenship and a stable lifestyle that don’t need to ‘hustle’ may venture out too but most also end up with Nigerian women, for compatibility reasons too. Again, let’s be honest, Naija men expect/demand very specific things from their women that they know won’t be tolerated outside so this is also a factor in addition to cultural compatibility. Hence why there’s a trend of some running home to get someone from their village when even the Naija babes have has become too ‘westernised’ for them.

As for hooking up, the dating culture is different abroad. You can get sex but I don’t think it’s in the transactional way that Naija men back home are used to, people have casual sex because they want to or they’re just fond of the person. It’s not something viewed as ‘cheap labour’ like back home so you’ll have to actually work for it to an extent outside of enticing them with money. Your ‘investment’ is more social than monetary and that may not be a dynamic the average Naija man is used to/has the patience for. Plus, Naija men aren’t really on anyone’s radar except Naija women and maybe some Black Americans so you actually have to be somewhat of a decently impressive (in whichever way) individual. Of course alternatively there are actual paid sex workers.

I’m talking about Naija men and women who were home based and then japad. Things are a bit different for 1st/2nd gen Nigerians

siofra:
But I thought Nigerian men are the "price"

Why is the tone changing?

Lade18:
Coming from a girl who is 4feet 2in at best. Provided you're the one on your profile. Women and their delusional standard

Ednut03:
Have you been to the US or Canada before? Why does Nigerians who don't even have visa always have the most updated info about what they do abroad

GlobTrotter:
I dont think this is true. Maybe for the UK. But for US I doubt. I have not been there, I live in Brazil, what I know is that it's quite difficult for African ladies to get a guy here.

But I can tell you the women here are on fire and they love black guys.

In Brazil if you don't have sense, the small one you get, sex go comot am. You literally have to hold yourself and be focused. Girls too much and too fine and na them go come meet you self lol

Papilagreen:
Don't believe the stupid lies we peddle on here about white woman loving black for our dick game. It's a lie. If you ain't 100% attractive to her, your dick game doesn't matter. You need to be tall too, because their men are really tall. You can't be 5"9 and be expecting any reasonable result scoring a white chic, it ain't happening

Bro if u say na UK I fit agree with u. But not here in America.
Because I am a living testimony to what I am saying.

Now about the hight aspect I will boldly say this than 89% of American both men and women are short not tall so hight is not a requirement for relationship here cause na them short pass.

Second women plenty pass men here to score a lady here in America is very very easy it's not basically about the dick game.. it's about ur composure also we Africans our blood dey hot the way we dey toast babes for 9ja different from how they do it here. I had to learn the hard way here B4 I get the hands of it.. u fit text woman u dey chike here and e go take her hours to reply u not because she dey form she dey busy dey work to pay bills.. if u dey go run after all those 19 to 26 years babes na waste of time go after older ladies from 28 upwards and u won't waste time..
Babes plenty here and men too even divorced people some dey 5 years dem nova see person wain toast them so if u get talking with them they feel like they flying.

I don't know about the men but one thing I can Say for sure oyinbo dem dey shy and fear blacks na few dey bold to walk up to u start Convo but if u walk up to them straight up let them know howfar and dem open up to u trust me na u go tire cause dem dey do weird things na their way of life be that.

Also them like black people not African Americans ooo the one wain come from Africa. Once dem know say u come from the motherland e don finish.
But one thing I will tell u is this if dem no like u dem dey tell u straight up dem no dey play games and if dem Say no just waka ur own.. u no need impress them in anyway cause if they down they down with u..
Na sharp guys and babes know what's up the only way u fit see oyinbo babes na for target shoping mall or big hospital or foodmall aside that e dey hard if na for school environment just forget am..
If u wan get them fast just register for Facebook dating and it's done.. and finally, no be by good dressing dem dey take catch them. If u say dressing is a requirement then I no agree with u on that one if u like wear the best cloths look smart it hardly counts. For here onyinbo dem dey wear nightwear go class even go work self dem no send na simple life. Unless una wan go on date u gats need dress smart.
Forget tinder or blk bumble etc Facebook dating dose the job just right

pocohantas:
The fact that he included himself in the ugly men. To be sincere, the faces of the recent immigrants are so strong. All of them o. Don’t you see their YouTube videos? Always complaining about snow and whatnot.

Someone I know traveled to the UK. She is in her mid 30s and it is the same complain. Mind you, my male friends complain too. Only that the guys are more realistic and open to dating back home. The ladies (including this one I know) are seriously cherrypicking. Nigerians hate themselves too much.

Hypnotise:
No be lie. Looks is extremely paramount. You gats get plenty swags, plait hair, do dreads, wear earring. Infact dress like a hiphop star. Ehnn… na when dem go dey use their leg waka come meet you.

GloriousGbola:
Reading this makes me realise that I prolly look to, oyibos the way artisans, mechanics, bus drivers etal look to me. As they have a rough look, so I will also have a rough look to Westerners.

Lade18:
Coming from a girl who is 4feet 2in at best. Provided you're the one on your profile. Women and their delusional standard

LastProphet:
Which beauty standard? 9 out of 10 white girls are ugly, I said 9/10, so where's the standard? Actually the White girls are delusional which is a known fact. A fat average white girl still believes she can have Michael Jackson so tell me where the imaginary beauty is? I live here and I'm telling you that Nigerian girls are farrrrrr more beautiful than American girls both white and black. This nonsense has to stop

ednut1:
there is no hell. Stop deceiving yaself

TK9680:
This is not accurate. I live in one of these countries, so I know. Im over 40. I think for most people, we simply are occupied with work.
But if you know, you know.

I fear for the younger generation. Ordinary to toast, you can't??