Banilla:


No one is perfect. You've subtly threatened someone. I just needed to emphasize the need to settle down.

You're too emotional. People like you can never be trusted

bassdow:
■There's nothing bad in One trying to help make another person better. myself have personally gone the extra mile to help better people so much you would think I have anything else to benefit.
■Make una no dey think bad every time. My comment is neutral. She might Mean well or she might not. Na she know.
■Moreover, if you dating a lady that You intends settling down with, and you keep seeing things that could affect your relationship with her, wouldn't you make attempts at changing them ?
■Abeg make we no dey quick jump to conclusions. yea I now say funny things dey happen

1. Another person, one who is not your child, isn't a dog that you are meant to train to suit you.

2. Your OP suggests otherwise as instead her intention is to further the idea of a future she intends for herself using his resources.

3. Again, you are not meant to change the person you are dating. Dating is meant to give you an opportunity to grow to know and possibly learn how to accommodate that person as is. The moment you begin to believe it is your place to change the person you are dating, you go from dating to being a lover to being a master over such a person and the outcome isn't always as pleasing as many like to pretend it can be.
4. No jumping to conclusions here. Just expressing how appalled I am by the fact that in the year 2023, we still have women who can't seem to define their future independent of that of a boyfriend.

Konjiboii:


Na retiree runs girl, she wan cash out big but God no go let her.
Toto go just dey make women talk as if them be Aphrodite

yeah bro, very disgusting bitches everywhere with their smelling pussys. Nor be say na Spanish, U.S, carribean pussy or u.K pussy when dey always red and pink and fit make man spend alot, these useless Nigeria bitches with their smelling sun heated pussies when dem dey always wear dirty pants nor go let us hear word.

I'm sure u mean well but why ur bank acc
U get mind to even ask

bassdow:


Chances are, he wouldn't agree to Save in your Bank account and that's very understandable.

if you want to help him SAVE since he seems not good at SAVING, tell him you both should open a Joint Account with both Signatory required before any MONEY could be taken out of the account.

that way, You require His consent and he requires your Consent before any debit transaction could be made on the account.

Then to further lock the money away, Fix the money in FIXed Deposit account and you both should be aware and the duration should be atleast 1-year. hopefully if after 1-year he sees the total figure, that might make him want to save more.

Things such as this have to be introduced very gradually especially since You are not just a LADY but a girlFriend.

He needs understand it's not rainy always and he ought not go broke easily just because His salary was delayed or worse still, lost his means of livelihood.

if you really mean well for Him, take these steps and be patient. Don't try to achieve them all at once and gradually, He should change and if he doesn't, You would at least know You have tried.

<sub>Another tactics you could use is regularly bill him money for Hair, upkeep, cooking for you guys, etc and try to keep the amounts as low as possible so he doesn't see it as extraVagant. then help him save such MONEYs in your bank account and after 1-year, show it to him, or even take him to where they sell land (one in the range of how much you were able to save) and tell Him you want you guys to buy land so you could sack your landlord and should he complain of no Money, tell Him you have already helped him to save some and that the land papers could be in both of YOUs names.

That also could make him suddenly want to add more money so You people could buy a better land.</sub>

if truly you mean well, the above should be more than a good starting point

it is easire for a polar bear to start twerking than a Nigerian girl to do this

rickpat:
Lol..you thoughts are not far from it but it's good to give people the benefit of the doubt...but I still stand that pressuring Someone to save in your account even in marriage is wrong... financial issue Should be what the couple willingly again to do

This kind of benefit of the doubt is how yahoo boys scam white men and women

Banilla:
I'm not spending his money! Read the post. One of us has to hold it. We can't open a joint account, too far away to do so.

So what matters is who. And I'm better suited

Who told you you are better suit, you better take the advise given to you before it's too later. He is the one making the money and he alone has the right and the best wisdom to decide who keeps the money. When you start making yours you can decide who's hand the money will be secured. You are already tagging the money as our money, Women self.

Mhikasa0007:
You should obviously leave him. It is clear that he's not ready to have a future with you. Any man that has a girl and is ready to get married to her would start saving up as soon as possible. There are men out there ready to give you the world. Don't settle for less

Simple question, can you save YOUR money in your partner's account?

Ole somebody

Banilla:
Hm. So I'm wrong? Should I apologize to him? I just want to be certain he's serious. I guess I can't pressure him, right?
What's your advice?

He is serious about what? You probably need to maybe take a break from the relationship so you can refocus your mind. Seems, you are too focused on his money and a future and may have gone blind to other possible flags as a result. For one, it seems you are trying to train a boy who is possibly not ready for a future of any kind by attempting to force him to save. Why?

Moh247:




Pigyvest nko?!

Corporative Society nko?!


Women!!! Too much wayo..


But why ain't Nigerian girls into Yahoo... They have nice formats



.

omo na them do yahoo pass now oo

Ask this man below.
He would help you

jheaboiy:


Babe, u have a good point..don't mind all dis redpilllers
It's a good advice but if he's hesitating..just act asif u don't care..
Maybe he thinks enjoyment will last forever..d money wey he supposed use plan his career, he go don use m shayo..base on say na big boy abi..
Try praying for him n encouraging him

Lol. And you think you sound intelligent? What happened to encouraging him to open a fixed deposit account. In all honesty, can you even keep your money in your siblings' accounts?

Banilla:
You don't know me! I love him. Why would I betray him? I'll take a bullet for him if I have to. He wants to marry me! The joint account is to save for us both. That's why Nigerians are where they are, we are planning long term. You can't build a future on love alone. I'm being reasonable.

people are different wen I was dating I save in my girl friend account, though I open a new account with her name she did nt know the signature the account no, and some other details I keep those things away from her, wen the account mature we both went to the bank together I give her the account details right there in the banking hall we cash out used the money for something reasonable. am nt gud in saving money

otuword:
people are different wen I was dating I save in my girl friend account, though I open a new account with her name she did nt know the signature the account no, and some other details I keep those things away from her, wen the account mature we both went to the bank together I give her the account details right there in the banking hall we cash out used the money for something reasonable. am nt gud in saving money

Are you and the girl still saving for your future together then?

Banilla abi na vanilla,comot your eye for another man money o...

Thief
How you take know how much he earns now you want your share in the name of helping him save

Banilla
Looks you have made no point.

God punish you for this fake story

chigoizie7:


You are a very big thief. Who is even giving you all these nasty ideas?

na for all these female saloon where dem dey plait hair

May your son save money in his girlfriend's account�

Ise!!!!!

It's sealed, you can't escape this.


Mtcheeew madam good intentions ��

texannaija:

You say??…..Wonderful

Ordinary banga, madam go discharge

omonnakoda:
When we were kids many uncles used to dash us money

By some unwritten law in our family constitution it fell to my mother to "save" such money, never father
needless to say I am now an adult and have never seen any o f those savings

My dear if wishes were horses all the beggers would ride on it. All you wanted was mob to push your thread to the front page just to get the attention and you've achieved it. Good night!!!

Hahaha this girl is just a clown

You telling a guy to save in your bank account ....bear bear bank ...bank account wey money enter e no de comeout

The one he don save for ur smelling obo ...never do now u wan finish am kpata kpata by using juju for am to save in your bank account and later you change am for am jakpa abroad to achieve ur dreams

This gal you are a buuaastard and need to be arrested

You tell me dis if i were the guy , that day will be the final day between us

@womenareapezz come see dis werey o

Banilla:
Mods, take this to the front page. Thank you.

Hi everyone! I have a boyfriend, we've been together for a year. I absolutely love him, he's my whole world! And that's the reason I'm pressuring him to save, if we're going to have a future together. And he's down for it, he makes nothing less than 200k monthly. I'm still a student, searching for a decent job. I can't invest sh** presently but I hope to start soon. Yesterday, I brought it up. I want him to send money monthly to my bank account, no matter how little. I'll save it for him. He's hesitating. He said I should be patient, he'll give me everything I need but he wants more time. I don't want to ruin our relationship but I need his co-operation. I'm scared he might leave me, after I've given him the best years of my life. I subtly threatened him that my family would force me to marry a Nigerian but he made a joke out of it, saying I would never, that I'm his...

What should I do?

NB: I've never taken a dime from him. He drinks often and I don't want him spending 'our future' on alcohol! I'm way better at saving.

I'm worried if I press the subject, he'll get mad at me.

I also told him I want to leave Nigeria, he thinks it's a good idea and I also told him I can't afford it alone. He said he needs time.

Doesn't he love me? Should I let it go? Or insist we resolve this?

Leave him , forget those physical looks in marriage they will disappear

Banilla:
You don't know me! I love him. Why would I betray him? I'll take a bullet for him if I have to. He wants to marry me! The joint account is to save for us both. That's why Nigerians are where they are, we are planning long term. You can't build a future on love alone. I'm being reasonable.

You still don't understand. It's simple logic now, telling him to save money in your account is all shades of wrong and ditto for if he's the one that told you that. Irrespective of how much you love anybody, they can misbehave, and that so called love will dissipate and turn to perfect hatred. Don't pressure him unnecessarily. If truly have his interest at heart like you said, why not suggest a savings plan for him. I saw one part of your statement where you said that you're scared if giving him the best part of your years and later get disappointed, this statement actually meant that your plan is to use the money he saves into your account as consolation if your relationship fails. Some girls and wayo brain sha.

Jerewise332:

My dear if wishes were horses all the beggers would ride on it. All you wanted was mob to push your thread to the front page just to get the attention and you've achieved it. Good night!!!

My thread?

FalseProphet1:
He should save in your bank, I don't understand did he tell you his bank has problem or he doesn't know how to save money. Madam keep your eyes out of his money and focus on your education if not, no guy would take you serious.

This I have seen.

Every woman has an entitlement mentality. Y white women don't have as such is because of feminism n equality in western world

Banilla:
Mods, take this to the front page. Thank you.

Hi everyone! I have a boyfriend, we've been together for a year. I absolutely love him, he's my whole world! And that's the reason I'm pressuring him to save, if we're going to have a future together. And he's down for it, he makes nothing less than 200k monthly. I'm still a student, searching for a decent job. I can't invest sh** presently but I hope to start soon. Yesterday, I brought it up. I want him to send money monthly to my bank account, no matter how little. I'll save it for him. He's hesitating. He said I should be patient, he'll give me everything I need but he wants more time. I don't want to ruin our relationship but I need his co-operation. I'm scared he might leave me, after I've given him the best years of my life. I subtly threatened him that my family would force me to marry a Nigerian but he made a joke out of it, saying I would never, that I'm his...

What should I do?

NB: I've never taken a dime from him. He drinks often and I don't want him spending 'our future' on alcohol! I'm way better at saving.

I'm worried if I press the subject, he'll get mad at me.

I also told him I want to leave Nigeria, he thinks it's a good idea and I also told him I can't afford it alone. He said he needs time.

Doesn't he love me? Should I let it go? Or insist we resolve this?

You are nothing but a gold digger!! You want to ruin him and run away. Bloody criminal!

Banilla:
Mods, take this to the front page. Thank you.

Hi everyone! I have a boyfriend, we've been together for a year. I absolutely love him, he's my whole world! And that's the reason I'm pressuring him to save, if we're going to have a future together. And he's down for it, he makes nothing less than 200k monthly. I'm still a student, searching for a decent job. I can't invest sh** presently but I hope to start soon. Yesterday, I brought it up. I want him to send money monthly to my bank account, no matter how little. I'll save it for him. He's hesitating. He said I should be patient, he'll give me everything I need but he wants more time. I don't want to ruin our relationship but I need his co-operation. I'm scared he might leave me, after I've given him the best years of my life. I subtly threatened him that my family would force me to marry a Nigerian but he made a joke out of it, saying I would never, that I'm his...

What should I do?

NB: I've never taken a dime from him. He drinks often and I don't want him spending 'our future' on alcohol! I'm way better at saving.

I'm worried if I press the subject, he'll get mad at me.

I also told him I want to leave Nigeria, he thinks it's a good idea and I also told him I can't afford it alone. He said he needs time.

Doesn't he love me? Should I let it go? Or insist we resolve this?

Why would you tell him to save in your bank?
No guy in his right senses would do that.
Do you know what it feels like saving money in someone else's account. Something married people barely do.
Do you know this might end up bringing lots of issues between you guys. Is like you don't know what money can cause.
The truth is this:
Your man is not interested in that idea but he doesn't want to tell you NO.
Please save him the stress by dropping that idea.