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faithfull18:
Stop sleeping with people you aren't married to.

virgin Mary

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

You had better marry this woman

Nice2023:
Why not consider her for marriage?

But if u must look gor another woman pls,do not have sex with her oh.

E get why?

Truly speaking, why are men like this? Did you ever pray to give birth to girl as parts of God's gifts in life.why are you playing with somebody's life like ludo?He want to keep the girl as a side chick and then have the real chick untouched by anyone!Don't be surprised that you may end up with what will lead you all through your life if you only sleep her and go and marry another person. Life's isn't Rossy as you imagine, my dear.!

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

Op this your matter too clear the lady ur referring might be on the comment section I dey suspect @***
Do what is right no go put ursef for trouble
@sirqt5 say you don clock 38yr dey claim 30yr pls do adjustment to that

LilMissFavvy:
If she is not the type of woman you would like to marry, then why are you still wasting her time/emotions? This lady might even be above 30yrs, but still allows men waste her time? You told her you will be coming back to find a wife, yet she is still glued to you. So she cannot ask herself if she isn't good enough for a wife, then end the friendship? She has a low self-esteem. You need to help her out, by ending that closeness, why should you be calling her daily if you don't want her?

Tell her you have found a wife then end the friendship or at least reduce how you call each other. I am wondering what she really did wrong that disqualifies her to be your wife. Or If she hasn't changed for the better. You made her lose a marital opportunity in the past, allow her to be focused at this time of her life.

she cheat and a single mother..so is a no no for the guy!

"women can be very emotional" says the man who's nothing but a Simp & emotional too.
You talk everyday for the past sox years, in your own words "I love her...", already looking forward to having sex with her & she knows you're coming back home to find a wife?
Mr. Man, just admit it; you either have self-esteem issues, love this lady very dearly but in denial or you're confused & don't know what you want.
If she's not good enough for you to marry, please, keep the friendship without sex, don't toy with her emotions & henceforth, stop divulging your wife search moves to her.

oldienavie:
Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

This life is full of surprises. See the rubish you typed.
So you want to add to her problems and create an everlasting trauma for her, you are planning to screw her till when you get a woman you will be caring for, then you will discharge her.

Haba! A rattlesnake is even better than you this wicked being.

Anyway, no problem, you can continue, but I wish all your children will be females and they will receive whatever you plan for this woman including any other women.

What is wrong in you marrying her? Afterall, you confessed her extreme love for you.

If you don't want to marry her, don't turn her to sexual object.
Even if she says that she is ready to be your friend, turn her down.
Either look for your own wife or marry her, otherwise, karma is waiting for you in the later part of your life.

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

Forget her, you are already emotional yourself. Guy you are kinda hooked with her. From the look of things even if you get married this minute you'll still be itching for her.

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

Sit her down and talk to her about how you feel

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

Instead of asking us, why not discuss it with her? Tell her that you want both of you to be friends with benefits and that when you get a wife material the relationship will end, then you wait for her reply.
The person I pity, is the innocent woman, you will marry and start giving her heart attacks by your actions.

That her daughter kindly do a dna test on her and be sure if she's not your daughter first.

Galaxydon1:
virgin Mary

Na you sabi, what is wrong is wrong even if no one is saying it.

Take this advice. If you will discard later, better run for your life.

quote author=Foodqueen post=121454381]Forget the emotional part, she will play the " you took my love for granted card" and might even kill you.

U should be very discipline and strict when u are around her.

Let her know that you haven't forgotten her cheating life.

We don't want to read bad news from nairaland about you.[/quote]

Okafor's law is at work here that's why the OP want her back.

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

Marry that lady. It's best to marry your friend, and one you know her faults. If it's a boy she had, I would have asked you stay away. But a girl will find her own husband and family when she grows up, so wont be an issue. A boy would probably go to his dad and might try to reconnect her with his dad when things go south between the two of you, garrit? Marry that lady. Who is good for sex is good for marriage.

You sha want to jam badluck. You went outside the country for better and now need a wife but you want to come and sex the single mother then find the wife. Na that sex with her go be the oriburuku that you wan to jam. Why person no go get sense like this?

What Sort of Thrash!!! am I Reading like thisThe Op Just they talk like Person wey dey Shit for mouth(Eni ti on Yagbe lati enu)

Weak Simp If You are So retarded that you Can't Control ur third Leg then you deserve anything you get She is so Beautiful I will not be able to Stop Sleeping with Her my Foot!!!

See Brolosho Alfa Mail wanting to Marry a decent Woman don't you See You Two deserve each other?? Even if you marry today u will Stl go back and be Sleeping with ur Ex Or another Beautiful Lady out there

I blame the Lady In as much as She faltered in the Past although Nobody holy Pass But Offering Herself to you after having Her Baby out of Wedlock Shows Her Lack of Self Esteem See make We Women start giving Ourselves Brain O!!!

The Supposed Decent Lady You Want to find and marry when U gt to Naija You know About Her Past and Body Count too??
Hypocritical Coward She isn't good to be Wifed but Very good to be bleeped!!! Even the Lady too weak is weak Well I want to believe you are just trolling Sha!!

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

Dont be surprise if you settle down with her

Don't take her back, i am not judging you , in the first place, you committed fornication with her not that you are legally married but she went on to have child for another person. If you choose to marry it is adultery. God will have mercy on you

oldienavie

Both of you lack the understanding for the need of fidelity in a relationship or marriage.

She treats sex as something casual. At her age, she should know far better.

If you have no intent on marrying her, don't sleep with her. Rather, if you know anyone who won't mind marrying a successful single mother, why not introduce them?

Eeyah, we fired all the available girls. No wife for you here 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

If she's good for the sex, she is good for the wife. If God looks at your iniquities, would u still be breathing? Overlook her mistakes in the past and marry her. After all, precious stones are found in dirty places.

The one you think would be perfect for you as wife, do you know her history?
The devil u kno is better than the angel you don't know.

oldienavie:
I am a single man in my early 30s, I used to have a girlfriend some couple years ago .
She cheated on me, I didnt break up with her but the relationship just kinda died and she moved on .

She started dating another guy but I was also sleeping with her occasionally cos she liked me, anyway, the guy found out and he decided he was not going to marry her, but somehow she got pregnant for the guy.
I was already out of the country when she got pregnant for him.

The guy wanted her to abort but she wouldn't, she has a beautiful daughter now, she is not doing so bad as she works with one of the top banks as she is very comfortable.
Because of the trauma she suffered during pregnancy, she became close to me as the boyfriend totally abandoned her and the guy has not set eyes on the daughter till today, the daughter is now 6 years old.

I have been out of the country for 7 years and I am due to be back in Nigeria in a few weeks time, I am going back to purposely to look for a wife, we are going to be in the same city .

We currently talk everyday and it has been like that since more than 6 years ago, she is not dating anyone at the moment and she also knows I am coming to look for a wife.

Its almost certain that we are going to get back to having sex as its just obvious despite that we have never discussed that, its hard to really stay away from her but not impossible I am thinking there is nothing wrong having her as a Friend With Benefit pending when I get a wife that I want to marry and then discharge her.

Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

Best bet is to stay away from her if you know you can't marry her.

Don't put yourself at risk all because of sex, she could use trap stronger than kayanmata to make you marry her, before your eyes will clear, she would have given you 4 more children.

Fear Women Braaaaaa.

Just remember that whatever decision you take now may affect your future

oldienavie:
Thanks for taking time to respond, but sup with the bolded.
I am confused ?
Why would she kill me, we are good friends more like confidant. I don't trust her 100% but I trust her 90%.
Also, by letting her know I haven't forgotten her cheating, am I still going to be knacking her ?
She is an incredibly beautiful lady, its going to be difficult not to sleep with her atleast 2ce but its not impossible.

🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Don't tell me she knows about your savings. If so, that's totally ruined cos she'll get you hooked for sure.

Bros. Abort mission.

The finger inserted into the anus either brings forth faces or a farts.

Either way, not hygienical!!

Is it must that you beded her?

oldienavie:
Thank you for your suggestion, you understand the reality I am faced with.
At this time, she is the only person I can call friend as we have known each other for almost 10 years now and we do share intimate details, for the past 7 years we have been kinda each others emotional support, even when I was dating other ladies here in France and she too back in naija, we both knew everything about each other.

Its just a messed up situation. If I can find a lady as soon as I land in naija then maybe I could disconnect from her but its going to be difficult not to sleep with her while not having any other lady in the picture.

I’m speechless

oldienavie:
Will it be possible to be Friend With Benefit with her and easily discharge her when I find another woman I want to marry without issues ? I love her and would have considered marrying her if not for the history that we shared, we have now become the best of friends, but I am just confused if resuming sex with her will not make it difficult to keep her away from me when I find another woman.

You know women can be very emotional .

The beauty of Life is that You can't eat your cake and have it ... If you wake Wahala you go see Wahala and if you just bypass Wahala, You might not see Wahala ....

Na our hands wey dey use cause trouble for ourselves and when the Trouble gas ... we go dey call God and devil at the same time ....

The evil you are planning if e never consume you e go make you hear am ....

Don't toy with her heart if you ain't settling with her... let her know your deals .... One man don Chop am comot ... Don't be the second wicked nigga to Chop am only to discharge am... Which shoulder would she cry upon

There are Prices sha ..... !