IyaebeTheGreat:
Is crypto and forex enough to start planning marriage? What other investments do you have? Don’t be deceived sir, love is not enough in a marriage, a woman will always think ahead, the future of her unborn kids, the kind of environment she’ll want her kids to grow up and the rest. Women are love mathematician, you must calculate and get it right to some extent . So it means in her calculations she didn’t get you as the answer. It’s not that deep, these are some of the reasons why women shouldn’t date men in their age range, it mostly doesn’t t work out.

Even though what you have said is absolutely right, they (women) a lot of times don't get it right as well.
I remember a time I wanted to date my colleague at work for marriage targets but she gave me conditions. The woman I finally married at the same time didn't care and today, I can say we have been blessed. Even though we still pray and work for more while she is still unmarried about 9year now

Let the bitch go, she is not ready to manage and suffer with you.

JovialJune:


You will sit down in your 2 by 2 and type the figment of your imagination, where is the correlation between the bolded and this thread?

What is there if op yield to her feelings? People like you always think expressing ones heart desire is a bad thing, what is wrong in upgrading from selfcon? All these poverty mentality people sef, if Op doesn't like what she said, he should break up with her and move on, very simple.

una go dey just dey type rubbish, is she ready to support him paradventure he moves to another apartment? una no dey think before una type... 😔

IyaebeTheGreat:
Is crypto and forex enough to start planning marriage? What other investments do you have? Don’t be deceived sir, love is not enough in a marriage, a woman will always think ahead, the future of her unborn kids, the kind of environment she’ll want her kids to grow up and the rest. Women are love mathematician, you must calculate and get it right to some extent . So it means in her calculations she didn’t get you as the answer. It’s not that deep, these are some of the reasons why women shouldn’t date men in their age range, it mostly doesn’t t work out.

Mathematicians from a man's pocket and prospect. What about theirs?

Yamiriflathead:
She's a good woman, Hussle hard and build a duplex so she can Marry you

Make hin hustle hard for her so he go build duplex omo that moment she made that statement I go just come mouth for her matter

IyaebeTheGreat:
Is crypto and forex enough to start planning marriage? What other investments do you have? Don’t be deceived sir, love is not enough in a marriage, a woman will always think ahead, the future of her unborn kids, the kind of environment she’ll want her kids to grow up and the rest. Women are love mathematician, you must calculate and get it right to some extent . So it means in her calculations she didn’t get you as the answer. It’s not that deep, these are some of the reasons why women shouldn’t date men in their age range, it mostly doesn’t t work out.

Are you this Ignorant? You don't know how much crypto traders / forex traders make? They earn more than the best paid lecturers in Nigeria. In a month he can earn 1-4m if things go right.

I trade forex (mostly just gold) and crypto and i can tell you that the OP doesn't make anything less than $500 weekly.

If he actually does trade crypto and doing well in forex, Then he doesn't need anything else in life to worry about, maybe take some profits and invest in a steady business that will also guarantee him fixed figures monthly.

But pls looking down on crypto/ forex traders is the greatest mistake you can make

I agree with her.

scholarshipbaze:
I work and trade crypto and forex, my girlfriend knows how much i earn, but because i have plans, i still live in a modern selfcon in an estate.

So tonight i asked my girlfriend whom i wish to marry, if she would be willing to marry me as i stay in this selfcon, even if i don't have money to rent 1bed room.

She said she can't, please what does this mean? Possibly not my class? Possibly might leave when things go bad?

Focus on your work and Forex trading. He doesn't know what he is going to miss in the future. Hope you're doing well with your Forex trading skill already.

If not find way to brush up. Don't give up on Forex o. I know what I am saying.

scholarshipbaze:
I work and trade crypto and forex, my girlfriend knows how much i earn, but because i have plans, i still live in a modern selfcon in an estate.

So tonight i asked my girlfriend whom i wish to marry, if she would be willing to marry me as i stay in this selfcon, even if i don't have money to rent 1bed room.

She said she can't, please what does this mean? Possibly not my class? Possibly might leave when things go bad?

Oga if you're a crypto trader / forex trader then Oga you're doing ok and i don't think she meant she can't marry you because of your financial status. Hmm maybe she thinks you're a player and not faithful? or you hide your actually income from her.

I know lots of crypto traders and none of them are suffering or even anything near poor.

But take it as a blessing and just move on and find someone else. Girls are worthless in our society today, they don't offer solutions, they offer problems.

Enjoy your life bro, if possible japa and marry an Asian wife.

She doesn't see the bigger picture . Use your head and not your heart.

I wonder too oh. 30m in cash and still living in self-con. If it's true then the guy is stingy to himself

flexyrule:
That nigga isn't worth even 5m.

This is just another nairaland bed time story.

If na dat b d only reason, then step up and get another accommodation. She has the right to her privacy, you can imagine living in a place where you enjoy privacy. You go fit knack anywhere without any concern of a neighbour knowing what is happening or a better one, una dey do una midnight prayers without any neighbour complaining say una no allow dem sleep, even playing music sef nobody go come dey complain say e too loud, etc. She get point ma broda. Just ask her to give you time to sort things out. When a woman really loves you, she will tell you her mind and she will wait.

Small yahoo boy expecting to marry a bleep and posting it on nl. wonders of the world today.

You get any junior sister?

Dazave:
Please leave that girl immediately..she is not yet ready for marriage.a lady who is ready will plan with you on how you should get better.
My elder sis got married to her husband while living in self contain. before she got married she never wash her clothes with her hands while at home cos two washing machine dey house.but when she goes visiting her man, she wash with her bare hands and her hands will become red and scaly.but she saw future in the man and they re living happily..today her husband is building his third house...please marry a girl wey get SENSE

scholarshipbaze:
I work and trade crypto and forex, my girlfriend knows how much i earn, but because i have plans, i still live in a modern selfcon in an estate.

So tonight i asked my girlfriend whom i wish to marry, if she would be willing to marry me as i stay in this selfcon, even if i don't have money to rent 1bed room.

She said she can't, please what does this mean? Possibly not my class? Possibly might leave when things go bad?

Run.

There is nothing wrong in staying in self contain and worth 30million.. also he said cash and assets not raw cash.. life is about planning and if he doesn’t need that space yet.. there is no point spending wasting that kind of money .. i stayed in selfcontain for 2 years.. bought a land worth over 35million in the same estate .. life is all about planning that how the rich get richer.. you can call it stingy.. the cost of my yearly rent now is less than 1% of my networth.. I don’t drive any big car cause I don’t need it for now

crossbreedwears:
I wonder too oh. 30m in cash and still living in self-con. If it's true then the guy is stingy to himself

Don't marry in a selfcon, not like she is pressuring you to marry her. Besides you said you still have plans; marrying her in a selfcon shouldn't be one 'em.

johnfem321:
There is nothing wrong in staying in self contain and worth 30million.. also he said cash and assets not raw cash.. life is about planning and if he doesn’t need that space yet.. there is no point spending wasting that kind of money .. i stayed in selfcontain for 2 years.. bought a land worth over 35million in the same estate .. life is all about planning that how the rich get richer.. you can call it stingy.. the cost of my yearly rent now is less than 1% of my networth.. I don’t drive any big car cause I don’t need it for now

Continue to Dey cap

I have never seen a Nigerian man that has 30m in his account and still living in self con

Her demand is ok.

Jsucre:
I married inside selfcon here in Abuja. From there I moved to my beautiful house.

Your story is maybe 1 out of 300 as far as Nigeria meaning there are many more who married in selfcon and died in selfcon. So, please stop encouraging what is obviously not common occurrence in Nigeria, unless ofcourse you bear nothing but ill will to your neighbors and fellow Nigerians.

Truthshscrazy:
Studio apartment not bad. I have seen husband wife and children inside one room face me l face you.
Studio apartment not bad.if thats all you can afford. Even if ur profession is hawking gala. There is wife out there for you who doesnt mind.(purewater seller maybe😜).
Studio apartment not bad. But You are gambler.

Na like this e dey take start. The gal is sensible to turn his offer down.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Is crypto and forex enough to start planning marriage? What other investments do you have? Don’t be deceived sir, love is not enough in a marriage, a woman will always think ahead, the future of her unborn kids, the kind of environment she’ll want her kids to grow up and the rest. Women are love mathematician, you must calculate and get it right to some extent . So it means in her calculations she didn’t get you as the answer. It’s not that deep, these are some of the reasons why women shouldn’t date men in their age range, it mostly doesn’t t work out.

Spoilt advise at d end... Who/whom shud u date...? Who is ur agemate&soulmate...? By d way, only a fool of a man; wud marry an incapacitated woman-who wud b latter called a "dependant&liability"... Some wud call her:"alaboodo"... So, she wasn't wrong 4 disagreeing 2 marry... She was/is/wud be totally wrong&bad, if sleeping with&giving hope 2d person u haven't married... If u really wants 2 marry, why?...

A man living in selfcon as you call it should not be talking marriage.

The said girl is a realist and I commend her for being blunt and sensible.

She knows very well you are not ready yet but you think you are which is rather unfortunate.

OP try change location. I know a lot of cool areas that the price of a room and parlor is same with a self-contained in an estate. So better move to those areas for now and hustle hard to return to those estates in a bigger way. I have seen ladies marrying guys who lived in self-contained building and when kids start coming they move to a bigger house. Please leave that lady alone and find someone that understand your situation. Abi you won live all your life under pressure? That kind of lady will make you to indulge in all kind things to make ends meet which majority of them will be bad. The choice is yours if you like love without sense. Nobody send anybody in this world.

scholarshipbaze:
I work and trade crypto and forex, my girlfriend knows how much i earn, but because i have plans, i still live in a modern selfcon in an estate.

So tonight i asked my girlfriend whom i wish to marry, if she would be willing to marry me as i stay in this selfcon, even if i don't have money to rent 1bed room.

She said she can't, please what does this mean? Possibly not my class? Possibly might leave when things go bad?

To me, she is not entirely wrong for many reasons. Unless she is a materialistic lady before now, only you can tell cos you are the one that knows her better than we do.


Over time, I have come to realize that women of our time are more focused on their life goals than men.


Most women don't marry anyhow again unless they are getting aged and just need a sperm donor for procreation purposes, that is when they can settle for just any man willing to marry them.


But on a normal situation today, most modern ladies don't want to marry just anybody in the name of marriage, and I personally applaud them for that. Women are calculative when making marriage decision unlike men who make marriage decision based on how their dick rises and how their dick makes them feel for a girl.


Love is not enough reason to marry anybody in our current world and time. Love cannot pay bills. Love cannot pay rent. Love cannot feed a family. Neither can love pay school fees.


Don't be deceived by makebelieve movies you watch on Nollywood, Hollywood, Bollywood, etc films, their storylines don't always reflect the reality of life.


Many Nigerians foolishly believe that you can marry as a broke person and after marriage, whatever luck will shine on you and boom you blow and become rich and your wife that married you as a poor or broke guy starts to enjoy wealth, just as they portray in Nollywood films, but little did they know that all those things are lies, just mere imagination of the movie script writer which hardly happens in real life. I don't think there are up to 5% of married people that married broke and later became rich or comfortable in Nigeria. The number is very small and negligible to make any reasonable person to take such risk today.

And if you go close to those that married broke and later became rich or comfortable in life, you will discover that they were prepared for success, how? Most had a job and just starting a career, so it is normal for them to grow in their career with time. Some of them had business they were doing and it is also normal for a small business to grow bigger if managed properly. Some had saleable skills they were honing or grooming, some studied lucrative courses or were studying and in the process got good jobs and grew from there, so luck didn't just shine on them from nowhere without preparations.



If its true that after a broke guy marries, marital luck will open doors for him and he will start to succeed financially and become financially buoyant or rich, then we wouldn't have more than 100 million married poor Nigerians today. If life happens that way, your parents ought to be rich, your poor friend's parents too ought to be rich since they also married poor.



To succeed financially in life, you must be smart in your thinking, you must be calculative in all your dealings in life, and you must be very wise and realistic in all your critical life decisions like marriage.



Please dear Nigerian guys, don't marry anyhow again oh, life has changed. Opportunities of survival are reducing daily due to oversaturation in almost all human endeavors due to global overpopulation oh.


Don't marry a jobless girl in the name of you love her, she loves you....don't marry any girl in the name of she is beautiful, she is young, she is fertile, she has sexy shape, because by the time poverty and financial pressure hit you in marriage, you will hate her without even remembering how beautiful or sexy she is.


Don't even marry any girl just because she knows how to cook or clean the house or greet people, those are outdated qualities to use as sole reason to marry any girl.


Marry wisely for your own future and for the better future of your unborn kids.


Marry ladies with saleable skills.

Marry ladies that have good career.

Marry ladies that are financially productive.

Marry only ladies that are pursuing a career or a sustainable business or trade.

Stop marrying broke, jobless, lazy girls no matter how rich you think you are.


How many rich guys do you see marrying broke, jobless girls?


Son of former IG of Police married Aliko Dangote's daughter.


Son of Oil Billionaire Indimi married President Buhari's daughter.


Tinubu's son married the daughter of a global shipping line MD.


British Royal Prince Harry married Meghan Merkle who is an American A-list Actress.


Former US President Donald Trump's daughter married the son of a business tycoon. Where do I start or stop?


Only boys from poor families rush to marry broke, jobless girls without tangible career or saleable skill once they mistakenly hit money via Yahoo or one off business deal that makes them feel arrived, and few years down the line they go back to their poverty and financial struggle trenches just because of their mistake in marrying foolishly in the name of romantic love and showoff.


Nigerian guys stop marrying anyhow. Put on your thinking cap, stop encouraging Nigerian girls to be lazy and unproductive. That small millions you think you have is nothing when economic difficulty hits you.


Stop looking at flimsy things when picking a wife, we are no longer in the 1970s or 1980s, so you cannot marry for the same reasons your father married your mom, time have changed, global economy have changed, life is becoming more and more difficult all over the world, so you need a lady that is ready to work and partner with you in building a prosperous family, not just popping out kids every 9 months.


Marry a lady that can sustain the family financially if anything happens to you and renders you financially or physically incapacitated for months or even years.


And if you must marry a jobless lady, make sure you have the financial means to set her up with a profitable business or career or skill, and make sure she is ready for this and not just being ready with mouth, be sure she is truly prepared and ambitious to chart her own financial course with little assistance at the beginning. Don't think opening a supermarket or clothing or hair salon for your wife means she now has a job, most of the time, they end up squandering the business capital without anything to show for it. Consider all these things before you marry any lady today.



It is better they call you gold digger than for you to end up marrying a financial liability that will destroy your future.


Back to your topic, the lady is not confident in what you are doing now. She doesn't see a future in those things you are doing and she is scared marrying you may land her into another poverty she has been into under her parents. Its either you sit her down and explain to her why you don't want to rent a bigger apartment and also tell her your future plans, what you want in life, your goals, your financial plans, and while doing this, also ask her her own financial goals and plans in marriage. How does she intend to contribute in building her marriage, supporting her husband in achieving a successful family? Hear her out and also consider what she is currently doing, the course she studied also matters, the skills she has and what she has been using them for currently and her utterances. Her friends; what are they doing, how far have they gone in life?



Consider her family background too, can you cope with their own financial baggage, if any? Is she from a family that can support you or her in growing financially? Will they mar your own growth with their numerous financial problems and requests?



Marry wisely oh if not, you and your unborn kids go hear am oh.

Force or cajole her into marrying you at your own detriment. leave her jor and thank her later.

scholarshipbaze:
I work and trade crypto and forex, my girlfriend knows how much i earn, but because i have plans, i still live in a modern selfcon in an estate.

So tonight i asked my girlfriend whom i wish to marry, if she would be willing to marry me as i stay in this selfcon, even if i don't have money to rent 1bed room.

She said she can't, please what does this mean? Possibly not my class? Possibly might leave when things go bad?

Why are you asking us... Ask her why na, From her answer you will know her point of view. Normally, a female needs to breed in a habitable environment for the sake of her kids. It's natural that kids should be born in a home. If your apartment is not as good as a home, sorry she can't breed kids there.