₦airaland Forum

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

EriMma1:
Do you know my age? No. So don't conclude yet.

I still maintain my stance. Don't ever be with a man that cannot meet your needs.

Kobojunkie:
1. How many of their siblings ended up as rich as themselves, living the same way they do today?

2. Poverty is not just poverty. It is a shackle that is easily passed from parent to child, generation to generation. The vast majority of Nigerians today, both polygamous and monogamous, exist today in poverty and many of them will die in poverty. Even their children will, on the most part, also die in poverty as a result of being born in poverty. Only a handful will escape that life and be able to pass on a better life to their own offspring after them.

3. This is simple, over the last 20 years, Nigerians have been breeding like rats without putting the same effort into first lifting themselves out of poverty before doing so. Also, while you claim that fewer people were practicing polygamy in the last 20 years, the truth is instead that while shying away from the traditional polygamous setup, many more have taken to having sidechicks/concubines — children from many of those sidechicks —instead of having them all under one roof as wives.

Kobojunkie:
1. Look around you to see what typically ends up happening when the sole bread winner of the home is no longer able to provide for the family he took on as his burden to get the most likely answer to your question.

2. Theory? What she expressed is what is culture and tradition in much of Nigeria today and the reason why the vast majority of your brothers and sons embrace hypogamy as their lot in life, a life sentence in poverty for the majority of them.

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

DaddyFreeze2020:
Lazy women are the ones who marry lazy men .
No woman with vision will wait for a man who can't meet her needs to settle down with. Only lazy women wait for a man to meet their needs.

A hardworking woman working can never wait for a man to give her something. Only Shawarma, iphone and icecream girls

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

EriMma1:
Because it is written that cursed is he that hangeth on a tree, your curse is hereby nullified and cancelled in my life. I can not be cursed because Jesus has nailed every curse against me on the cross of Calvary.

Now,Because it is written that they shall be taken in, in their own device, I decree, may your curse return back to you and work against you by the authority in Jesus name.

Amen.

noonejustme:
Guys, from an Evolutionary and scientific standpoint, this lady is right.

But EriMma, these men responding to you are simply justifying feminism.

Now this... You sound like someone who upholds the traditional ways... Who wants a traditional man.
A traditional man is someone who will provide for you most ( if not all) of your needs, protect you from the elements and danger, while in return you give him your youth, femininity, fertility, respect, and most important of all, LOYALTY.

Another thing you need to give is your virginity to him( kind of goes together with Loyalty). Where that is not possible, AT least come into the union with a body count of not more than 3.

The thing is... Do you qualify as a traditional woman ?


This is why I always say that the bible ehn, na over complete dey worry am. The same bible that talk about a man being an infidel who cannot provide for his family is the one who said that a woman who is not married as a virgin( and the husband gets to find out and reports this) should be stoned to death

EriMma1:
Do you know my age? No. So don't conclude yet.

I still maintain my stance. Don't ever be with a man that cannot meet your needs.

abbey621:
1. Their siblings do not need to be as rich as them, as long as they are not poor, they're still better than 90% of the Nigerian population.
2. No poverty is not poverty, what you call poverty in USA is different from poverty in Nigeria. Believe it or not, what you call poverty in Nigeria is drastically different from the poverty in Haiti or Zimbabwe. Being born in poverty is not the same as staying in poverty, vast majority of us that grew up in Mushin in the 80s and 90s were born in poverty, vast majority of those families are no longer in Mushin because one or two kids out of 6, 8 or more made it and elevated the family.
3. Sidechick is a choice with no lasting consequences unless she gets pregnant or spread disease. We are talking about a man actively marrying more than one wife and how you seem to think that translates into generational poverty. Furthermore, I disagree with your analysis, Nigerians are actually breeding less now than 20 or 30 years ago according to statistics. My grandfather had 8 children, my other grandfather had 9, dem no born most men nowadays to have more than 4 children.

EriMma1:
Why should a woman be the one to meet your needs? Are women meant to til the ground? That's the man's duty from creation and even though women are now doing it. It still doesn't give a man the right to her money.

Kujo:
■ This does not answer my question.. what a pity Sadly op concluded she can take care of her needs currently and it's better she stays on her own without a man, which is good for now.
■ Have you thought of how your old age will be like? You may end up lonely or sad!!

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

Qatar2022:
That's what you people say when you're young, in no time you will want pastor or herbalist to do miracle

EriMma1:
Do you know my age? No. So don't conclude yet.

I still maintain my stance. Don't ever be with a man that cannot meet your needs.

EriMma1:
Stop mentioning me. Argue with them on their take. You think say you get bad mouth, if I start with you, you go run.

EriMma1:
Do you know my age? No. So don't conclude yet.

I still maintain my stance. Don't ever be with a man that cannot meet your needs.

Kobojunkie:
1. It more than answers the question because the divorce rate/marriage abandonment rate among even the poor is high for that very reason.

2. Do you that life is better when you breed like rats all while stuck in poverty instead?

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

EriMma1:
Love and commitment that has destroyed many homes and lives due to lack of the basic needs of life,? Na love go pay your medical bills. Just tell her I love you and she'll be well.

Na love and commitment to poverty go feed your wife and children. Sorry onyen love. Don't work hard to become a man. Be looking for excuses where there's none.

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

Kujo:
■ Ok i get the idea! Get a man who is rich legit or not, then if anything goes wrong divorce and move to the next.. Only people without vision are scared of poverty. I'm sorry if s&x is the only thing a woman brings to the table, s&x is something you can anywhere even without a woman.
■ Women cheat in marriage just because their husband is having financial setback, someone that was supposed to be life support. This is why young boys keep using them for rituals just so they could meet up needs of girls like op.. God help us

Brandiebird:
All I took from this is that you are broke, hungry, homeless (always in one man’s house or the other), and your family are broke. so, it is a must that you find a man to save you from this poverty. I pray with you 🙏

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

Datedoboy:
Of course everyone knows it's not love that will feed the home. Love and commitment didn't destroy many homes. If you check well, it is attachment to exes and wayward lifestyles b4 marriages that have done that.

Everyone knows love won't pay medical bills but ladies who says these things are not virgins. Virgins know that money is needed but won't say it to the man they love that they can't marry a broke man. To them it's love first while both of them work hard to support each other financially.
Most cases, it is non virgins that don't want to contribute anything to their husbands and expect only him to be bringing.

I am not looking for excuses where there is non. You ladies are quick to state that you can't marry men who can't take care of your needs but don't want a man to say that he wants a woman who is chaste. Is it money that will restore your virginity? Be looking for excuses on why virginity is not value.

zoghys:
I have a teenage daughter and giving her quality education is for her to believe in herself and knows that she is created to be as good as any man. She must be submissive to her husband and be a good mum to her children and as well contribute to her home as well as her husband. I blame your parent for this nonsense you typed. Help your future by letting go of this stereotypical idea, it will hurt you in the future. My 2cent by the way

Spanki:
Avoid these kind of women!!!! Life is up and down!!! This is not the kind of women you should say Hi to how much more date! This is a gold digger! This kinda lady will sleep with your friends and neighbours when the breeze of tough times blows you, this kinda lady clame to be classy but trust me, she has no pedigree!!!

EriMma1:
Story. It's your type that will chase your daughter away if she brings a man who can not pay her dowry home.

Y'all know what I'm on about but you just keep shying away from the truth. Going about in circles.