josephm456:
Good morning nairalanders,I hope your night was good and great.please I need your help and advice at this stage I am.
There’s this girl I’ve being dating close to 4years now.,I travelled down here to Netherlands to seek for greener pasture so to have a good life for me and her even my family as a whole.,because I have much plans for i and her.,she’s in her 400lv and about to graduate.I even paid for her cake business and other training she’s doing.,rented her a new apartment and give her most of my things.because i already have it in mind that once I’m back we can get a flat in Lagos and atleast I’ll still have most my things back in our house,so she can be doing her business in Lagos pending the time we will both move to canada,but I haven’t tell her we will be going to canada but I preamble it sometimes,so last week my mind have being disturbing me to try to check her Instagram.,so I checked her Instagram and I noticed this girl is cheating on me.,it was so painful that I cried my ass out..i cried so hard that I can’t even work for 2days because I trusted this girl with everything.,her mom intervened and keep begging me,even her brother,because both parents already know each other,and she’s trying not to make that relationship of parents break,she also pleaded and I forgive her.,she said she did it out of emotions I don’t know what that means though,which she said it will never happen again,accusing me for the fact that I don’t make calls or something.I work alot of hours and still I still try to give this girl that much attention.,I was actually planning to come home again by august.,I’m satisfying this girl with all her needs both financially and all.,but what baffles me most was that whenever I ask if she blocked this guy.,she will say they are no more talking that atleast I’m seeing it all because she thinks I scanned her WhatsApp which is not true.,I only have her Instagram login and that’s all.,and I angrily logged out the Instagram because i was really broken that day.
So yesterday we have a little issue,because I noticed she was kind of replying me with attitudes and I asked what’s the attitude all about.,so I just leave her alone on her own,she then sent me a message last night that she knows I’m purposely giving her attitude because I’m seeing her chats and I don’t know how to say it out.,that I’m free to feed my eyes and read her chats very well,i actually don’t know what she mean by that statement plus I didn’t even scan her WhatsApp,I only logged in her IG.,I’m just pained have being doing things for this girl for the past 3years and it’s even 4yrs already.,I don’t just know what to do.,her mom suffers HBP and she likes me so much,because she doesn’t ever want me to leave her daughter,when this event happened she would keep disturbing me with calls and and begging almost everyday panicking that I should forgive her and it won’t happen again.,I really do love this girl soo much to the extent that whenever we have an issue I’m always very down.,but now I’m just confused on what to do,but nairalanders I really need your help on what to do.,this thing is giving me a serious problem her birthday is coming soon which I’m planning not to gift her anything,I’m not even okay at this point.
I will be dropping the chat below.👇no insult please.,all I need is your observation and advice,thanks,and sorry if my grammar isn’t good enough.thanks in advance.

idu1:
Leave the girl and focus on your hustle to better your life 100%. Infact, all girls. Long distance relationship is bullshiit. When will you modafuvka have sense? Who said you should be sponsoring her? You don sponsor all your families finish? What about guys that grows up with you in the street. You don help dem finish?

See, you fucking too young for this please.

Raalsalghul:
Simp³

Raalsalghul:
Simp³

josephm456:
Good morning nairalanders,I hope your night was good and great.please I need your help and advice at this stage I am.
There’s this girl I’ve being dating close to 4years now.,I travelled down here to Netherlands to seek for greener pasture so to have a good life for me and her even my family as a whole.,because I have much plans for i and her.,she’s in her 400lv and about to graduate.I even paid for her cake business and other training she’s doing.,rented her a new apartment and give her most of my things.because i already have it in mind that once I’m back we can get a flat in Lagos and atleast I’ll still have most my things back in our house,so she can be doing her business in Lagos pending the time we will both move to canada,but I haven’t tell her we will be going to canada but I preamble it sometimes,so last week my mind have being disturbing me to try to check her Instagram.,so I checked her Instagram and I noticed this girl is cheating on me.,it was so painful that I cried my ass out..i cried so hard that I can’t even work for 2days because I trusted this girl with everything.,her mom intervened and keep begging me,even her brother,because both parents already know each other,and she’s trying not to make that relationship of parents break,she also pleaded and I forgive her.,she said she did it out of emotions I don’t know what that means though,which she said it will never happen again,accusing me for the fact that I don’t make calls or something.I work alot of hours and still I still try to give this girl that much attention.,I was actually planning to come home again by august.,I’m satisfying this girl with all her needs both financially and all.,but what baffles me most was that whenever I ask if she blocked this guy.,she will say they are no more talking that atleast I’m seeing it all because she thinks I scanned her WhatsApp which is not true.,I only have her Instagram login and that’s all.,and I angrily logged out the Instagram because i was really broken that day.
So yesterday we have a little issue,because I noticed she was kind of replying me with attitudes and I asked what’s the attitude all about.,so I just leave her alone on her own,she then sent me a message last night that she knows I’m purposely giving her attitude because I’m seeing her chats and I don’t know how to say it out.,that I’m free to feed my eyes and read her chats very well,i actually don’t know what she mean by that statement plus I didn’t even scan her WhatsApp,I only logged in her IG.,I’m just pained have being doing things for this girl for the past 3years and it’s even 4yrs already.,I don’t just know what to do.,her mom suffers HBP and she likes me so much,because she doesn’t ever want me to leave her daughter,when this event happened she would keep disturbing me with calls and and begging almost everyday panicking that I should forgive her and it won’t happen again.,I really do love this girl soo much to the extent that whenever we have an issue I’m always very down.,but now I’m just confused on what to do,but nairalanders I really need your help on what to do.,this thing is giving me a serious problem her birthday is coming soon which I’m planning not to gift her anything,I’m not even okay at this point. I think you're very stupid, you're seeing danger and you're still going towards danger
I will be dropping the chat below.👇no insult please.,all I need is your observation and advice,thanks,and sorry if my grammar isn’t good enough.thanks in advance.

Reminderz:
redpill, redpill, redpill!! how many times did I call you Oh redpill.. how come you always prove yourself to be the truth every now and then? how come you're always so on point? how come those that refuse to swallow your nuggets end up suffering? you've proven yourself to be worthy at all times... You're simply the truth, and those who refuse to accept you will suffer!

OP, first let me introduce this thread to you... https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know

read it up and save yourself because no one is coming to save you..

secondly, a girl is never a trophy to be won... if you put your girl before your goals, she will make you suffer for your foolishness... if you give a girl your heart to save her life, she will mock you over someone who refuses to give her nothing... the guy or guys that she's cheating on you with are doing nothing to get her and you are letting yourself to be easily used over and over again... and her mother is part of those easily manipulating you... don't think she's doing it because she loves you... no she doesn't, she only cares about herself and her daughter, and because they see that you're loaded, they will drain you until they've wrecked you... they are both predatory females...

third, leave love for women, leave emotions for women.. you're not a pú$$y... only pu$sies find love.. women find love, men find purpose... If you let them ruin your life, you'll only have yourself to blame...

fourth, a girl you're not married to is never your responsibility.. if you've done all that for your family, friends and orphanage homes, you'll be happy and more fulfilled and even God will reward you abundantly... I'm sure you'll never even do half of that for the people you call friends or family.. smh.. that girl will leave you and only your family will be left for you...

fifth, dump that olosho you call girlfriend.. dump that bitch you call girlfriend.. she's not your girlfriend, she belongs to the street, her reply has even showed that she doesn't even care if you break up with her.. don't let her mother manipulate your further...

sixth, never make a girl or any woman except your family your sole focus in life... women will never forgive you for being weak.

seven, all the money you're spending on your so called hoe or girlfriend, she's using that money to build herself up, and when you've finally upgraded her pass her normal level, she will begin to disrespect you and she will end up telling you that “what did you even do for me sef?”

eight, when a woman has nothing to lose in a relationship she will start misbehaving, why? because you're the only one investing in it and doing everything... so she won't care even if you enter the fire to save her. this is why you're the one who's hurt because you're the one who's invested the most...

nine, marrying a girl in Nigeria and taking her over there most times end in pains and regrets when the girl starts misbehaving... this is why men are avoiding marriage especially in the west... rethink this decision carefully... don't sign any marriage contract that will leave you wrecked and handicapped...

@josephm456

tensazangetsu20:


There's one runs babe I know. Her husband was in the Netherlands like the op. Dude was even sending her 200k a month. Omho the girl has literally serviced like half of Lagos. The husband came to marry her and took her to Netherlands. I have skin crawls anytime I remember the husband o . Such is ops fate

josephm456:

Thanks.

TayusKilzEasyjay:
You've been saying thank you to everyone advising you but are you sure you're going to take heed 💭

yrhuhfy113:


I AM NO PROPHET BUT IF YOU FOLLOW WHAT I AM ABOUT TO SAY TO LETTER, 10 YRS FROM NOW, YOU WILL STILL BE THANKING ME

1) END THE RELATIONSHIP NOW

2) DON'T COME BACK TO NIGERIA, GET A GOOD GIRL OVER THERE AND START YOUR LIFE AFRESH

3) CUT OFF ALL COMMUNICATIONS FROM HER

4) FORGIVE HER FOR BEING A HOE AND FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR BEING A SIMPLETON

5) DISAPPEAR FOR 1-2 YEARS AND RESURFACE AFTER YOUR NEW WIFE HAS A CHILD.

6) NEVER BEFRIEND HER OR ANYONE IN HER FAMILY AGAIN

7) FOLLOW THE 6 TASKS I SAID WITHOUT EMOTIONAL WEAKNESS AND IN LESS THAN 3 YEARS, YOUR WHOLE LIFE WILL BE TOTALLY BETTER.



It is these WEAK ladies that bring strong men down and expect to be treated so special based on HISTORY or some fake ideologies movies and social media sold to them.

YOUR FUTURE is in your hands, anyone who proves not to be ready for it, should be excused.
She did what was BEST FOR HER at the time without considering you, NOW ITS YOUR TURN TO DO YOU.....

josephm456:
of course.

Lawl:


You speak out yourself
No one is looking at your chat


Don't you see he's the one that first bring the matter up after it has been solved before she's reply the best replys for him why would he be blindly suspecting her always let just trust her everything would be okay as she said read the chat well.....

josephm456:
Thanks so much!

Intoboy:


If no be say nairaland fit block me I for swear for you, simptuous mugu

Lawl:
Read the chat well
Feel free to feed your eyes
We will be both be fine at end

Bro first of all why would login to her insta I'm sure If her too have your login would definitely see the cheat relate issues your saying

From my mind she is pure, she said read the chat well and you we will be both be fine at end she's is aware or not your still checking chats she is now honestly with her self

Bro tell her your not reading anything stop suspecting her and continue to build your love bro

I wish you well bro

josephm456:

Thanks.

Lawl:


You speak out yourself
No one is looking at your chat


Don't you see he's the one that first bring the matter up after it has been solved before she's reply the best replys for him why would he be blindly suspecting her always let just trust her everything would be okay as she said read the chat well.....

Prettygirl200:
M sorry about all of that? But aside her cheating have u been cheating on her too? Cux there's no way u won't tell me that u haven't been sleeping outside, if yes den both of u are guilty
bc the truth still remains that if u marry her u will become worst in the cheating aspect, e dey una blood. either ways if u can't continue with her just let go of her.

yrhuhfy113:



YOUR FUTURE is in your hands, anyone who proves not to be ready for it, should be excused.
She did what was BEST FOR HER at the time without considering you, NOW ITS YOUR TURN TO DO YOU.....

OSDD:
Op won't break up with her, she'll manipulate him again. Her mum will call the op and start crying, emotionally blackmailing him.

Op will then think of the sweet three years and all the lovey Dover. He'll try to give it another shot after the girl swear by any god she believes in.


Op decides to bring her over and travel to Canada, then she will show her true color, at that point it will be too late. Her mum will probably be dead by that time, so there will be no one to emotionally manipulate the Op again. The deed has been done.

Op will live the rest of his short life, regretting why he took her back. But he'll bounce back and meet a better woman while his ex is busy enjoying her life hoeing around..

Decacrown:


Good afternoon, I like the advise you gave to him and I ll like to have your view on this issue of mine.
I recently broke up with my boyfriend after years together because I saw his chats by accident that he was professing love and marriage to two other ladies for months ( I should say I didn't suspect that he was pursuing other ladies but I knew he changed cos he was angry over every little things and I kept asking what was wrong and that we should talk if something was bothering him. I asked him if something was wrong three times in the space of three months but anytime I asked he would be angry and abusive). Although, those ladies turned him down several times to the extent that one of the ladies fiance had to warn my boyfriend to stay clear of his fiancee.

After seeing those chats during his visit to me, I didn't ask him because I was angry and I just didn't want to create a scene. I was nice to him till he left that day, I even saw him off to the park and I then told him what I found on his phone when he got home and I broke up with him.

Instead of him to apologise, he kept saying I was wrong to break up and that I should have asked him.

The relationship meant a lot to me but I didn't feel I want to be a placeholder while he shop for a replacement and now he kept blaming me for breaking up with him since he has not physically met those ladies and that his loyalty shouldn't mean anything since he has was committed to me. He knows I like peace but he kept initiating chats to guilty me for breaking up over his chats with those girls.

The painful part is that he said he did nothing wrong even when there is evidence of him chatting, professing love and marriage.

Was I wrong to break up with him after my trust has been broken even though I love him?

josephm456:
Thanks so much!