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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by StreetFight: 8:03pm On Apr 27, 2023
Fineman2:
Why are some women like this?

Not some, all of them are like that.

Don't you wonder why even Satan never married despite his long secret discussion with Eve behind Adam's back?

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Maysdevices(f): 8:05pm On Apr 27, 2023
richie240:
No overthinkam, na female nature be dt.
Your dota too will most likely hate any child of his man (husband/bf) so long as d pikin didnt enter ds world thru her vagina.

Na their way be dt!
cool
No talk this thing again Abeg

Not every woman is like that. Only the ones that ate winch

Modified: Never mind. I’m seeing some comments from other women here.

Omo. It seems like it’s 99percent! My gender is evil!

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Maysdevices(f): 8:07pm On Apr 27, 2023
Samantha124:
This is the reason why I made a decision not to date baby daddies and I never wish for my kids to be left in the hands of a step mother if one day I leave this Earth earlier than expected.

I wouldn't want to end up hating someone else's child in the name of being a step mother and I also wouldn't want my kids to also suffer in the hands of a step mother.

Why couldn't you wait for at least 5 years before getting married again? Because most women don't like raising kids that they're not biologically related to and I'm sure you know about this as it's very common here in Africa.
Why would you hate the innocent child of a man you claim to love?
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Abiajiga(m): 8:14pm On Apr 27, 2023
Diligent1:

Don't you have a mother?
No offence mearnt but are u ok? I should send my child away just coz of a stranger i brought to my house as a wife? I wonda how some of una females the reason. Its eda u accept and care for d kid or u go ur papa house, u neva ready 4 mariage

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Emdebby2: 8:24pm On Apr 27, 2023
I can't believe your own wife opened her mouth and told you to get rid of your daughter. I'm not sure you understood the meaning and weight of that statement.

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Bromax: 8:41pm On Apr 27, 2023
Signs of a bad wife. Oboy send that woman away for your own good

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Nobody: 8:45pm On Apr 27, 2023
See useless father. Your daughter's being abused and hated under your roof and not only do you not stand up for her or protect her from the wicked individual, you want to send her away, as if that's what needs to be done. You might as well render the child an orphan then. She's actually no different from an orphan if all of these is happening under your roof and you've been allowing it and still opened thread to talk more rubbish. I hope your wife is not crying in her grave. Shame, shame on you.

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Chidi2022: 8:47pm On Apr 27, 2023
DonaldGenes:


I am really enjoying your comment I must commend
Thank you sir.. How is Ibadan people sir?
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by occfx: 8:52pm On Apr 27, 2023
Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?


Na kanyamata hold you nothing else... E go soon clear for your eyes but I pray it clears when you still dey normal
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Charly68: 8:56pm On Apr 27, 2023
Better shine your eyes so she does not destroy your daughter. You ought to have married someone who loved your daughter in the first instance ...some women are very wicked

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by TheGreatIYANU: 8:57pm On Apr 27, 2023
Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?



Please sir, in the name of God! Divorce the Jezebel you got now... you think she's mean now? Wait till she bears offspring of her own.

It will be hard but cut her off now while you have little to know entanglements. Once her own kids come, you and your daughter will be done for.

I weep for the innocent girl.
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Advocate1810(m): 8:58pm On Apr 27, 2023
Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

If you have a brother or sister she can stay there because your wife might do something harmful to her

Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by BigIyanga: 9:00pm On Apr 27, 2023
Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

Simp asking for advice .. if we tell you u go tell ur wife and she go begin beef us.. You dont have balls to stand for your daughter.. If she were the one with a child before coming into this marriage, you would never mistreat her child or she would leave.
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Galaxydon1(m): 9:02pm On Apr 27, 2023
You are not a Man

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Odebayo4010(m): 9:07pm On Apr 27, 2023
What kind of Man are you?,you fall to realize that only your wife is not your relative,if you go blind that's when you will understand my point, your daughter is your defender, if you like let unknown love to your wife distance your daughter to you,you will regret it later
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Fuckyoumod: 9:08pm On Apr 27, 2023
Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

"I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter" see your dirty mouth.

Can you hear your self? A woman that refused to accept your very flesh and blood. A wicked woman. A woman that rejected your biological daughter.

Are you aware that your daughter should be growing with her mom? Are you not pitting that little innocent child already? So, your daughter will grow up without a mother and a father this same time? And you are alive?

You are just a useless man.
 you want to send your daughter aware because of yansh....

You are just a stupid man. I have no advise for a mumu man like you.

Blood is blood, Blood is thicker than water!
Go and learn the meaning of my proverbs.

Mumu man!
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by gabicon: 9:08pm On Apr 27, 2023
Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?


You created this problem, there is what you needed and there is what you wanted.
What you wanted was a love of your life, to take away your sorrow. What you needed was first of all a mother to your daughter and then a wife/ companion. Now you have a woman who doesn't understand her purpose and power. I wish you godspeed in turning this mess around.

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by richie240: 9:16pm On Apr 27, 2023
Maysdevices:
No talk this thing again Abeg

Not every woman is like that. Only the ones that ate winch

Modified: Never mind. I’m seeing some comments from other women here.

Omo. It seems like it’s 99percent! My gender is evil!



Most definitely there are exceptions to this 'rule' but those exceptions are outliers. Just as u ursef have fathomed, over 80% of the female folks (to be modest) reason that way.

Females generally are territorial by nature. The average woman (majority but not all ) wont mind having all her nine siblings plus cousins plus nieces and nephews staying permanently with her in her matrimonial home, but once a relative of the husband (just one o) cones to spend just the weekend with his brother, u go begin see drama.
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Sixfeetbelle: 9:20pm On Apr 27, 2023
Viltron:
Personally, I believe people should be nice. It shouldn't be debatable. If as a woman, you can't be nice to my little girl, you have no reason being around me.

I personally don't understand why you would rush into marriage so that you wouldn't have to look after your own daughter.

Op couldn't look after the kid so he rushed into marriage barely a year after his wife died so that he can turn the new wife into nanny. And when she didn't want to be a nanny, he's trying to pawn off the child to his in-laws.


Can never be me sha. Thumbs up to women who can
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Nobody: 9:26pm On Apr 27, 2023
Sixfeetbelle:


I personally don't understand why you would rush into marriage so that you wouldn't have to look after your own daughter.

Op couldn't look after the kid so he rushed into marriage barely a year after his wife died so that he can turn the new wife into nanny. And when she didn't want to be a nanny, he's trying to pawn off the child to his in-laws.


Can never be me sha. Thumbs up to women who can

Some women are inherently wicked. What would it take you to look after that little girl?

Didn't she know he has a child before she accepted to marry him?

Did he say she shouldn't have her own children?

There are women who take in other children and bring them up. But you can't look after only one that belongs to the man you claim you love

Men like myself will have nothing to do with women like you.
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by sharone21(f): 9:26pm On Apr 27, 2023
She saw widower and pretended to love both of you.... How was she to your daughter when dating or na family arrange the marriage for una two?

I have seen a man whose wife died and he went for a much younger lady in her 20s, virgin. However, just after the wedding, she started her wahala with his 3 young sons.... She was having daughters and later a son...
Later, she say d boys possessed.... Dad had to put the sons in another house with time.

If not for the wrong perception we have traditionally, sometimes a single mum who LOVES your child/children who will not even want to give birth again is better, so both of you dedicate your time to loving the children at home instead of a seemingly good, single woman coming in and then scatters one's home while one is still alive ooo.

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Nobody: 9:27pm On Apr 27, 2023
I don't know, but that's just me... I don't see myself raising someone else's child unless it's my niece or nephew because I'm biologically related to them.

When it comes to love, I can be selfish... I wouldn't want to share my love for my husband with another woman's baby.

And I don't expect some random woman to also raise my kids, unless she's biologically related to them because me and my family have got this close bond... I'm very close to my nephews, nieces, and sisters, and I love them so much.

That's why I've made a decision not to date baby daddies, I've even told my fiance that if he dares to have a baby outside of the relationship, I'm gone... I wouldn't care if we have 10 kids or been married for 20 years, it's over.

Once I find out that a guy has a baby, I run and never look back.. grin grin grin grin
Maysdevices:
Why would you hate the innocent child of a man you claim to love?

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Sixfeetbelle: 9:31pm On Apr 27, 2023
Juliearth:



See how quickly you remarried without even getting to understand this woman's character.

You better stand up and put your home in order. The excesses you cannot curb now would soon become a monster that would hunt you for life.

Your new bride should be made to understand thst your daughter's welfare and stay in her father's house is non-transactional and that if anybody is to leave, it'd be her. This new bride should be made to understand that your daughter is top priority (or isn't she?). New bride should also be made to understand that the next act of unwanton and unwarranted wickedness towards your daughter would matched with unequal and greater level of consequence. Nobody can make her understand these things, but you.


Good luck!

Sit who down? And leave the man who is clearly the one with the problem?

Please, sis, open your eyes to see the real truth here.

Op has never imagined he'd be the one raising his daughter. It's quite clear from all decisions he has taken till this point that he doesn't know how to take care of his daughter and has no plans to learn either. He:

*Remarried a year after wifey died so he won't be alone with the kid.
*Saw his kid being maltreated and offered to send her to her grandparents instead of sending the woman packing.
*When that failed, he came here asking nairalanders what to do as if anyone of us would ever advise him to stay married to a lady who does not love his child.
*On top of that, when he responded to a comment, he asked, why are women like that? Obviously hammering on the fact that Op wanted a "nanny for his daughter".

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by okoloto: 9:35pm On Apr 27, 2023
Fire that idiot you call your wife. Don't simp, your first wife will be crying in her grave. She doesn't love you and not a good woman because if she does, she will take that little girl as her own daughter.
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by DearGorgeous(f): 9:38pm On Apr 27, 2023
Fineman2 or whatever you call yourself, make sure nothing happens to your daughter out of your carelessness.

Love ko, lust ni! Not only was she there for you, she might even be the reason you were windowed in the first place!

It'll soon dawn on you that that Jezebel has no iota of love for you. What could a child have probably done that a woman, who ought to be happy that God has already blessed her with a daughter even before her arrival in that home, should now be the one maltreating her? And to think she's expecting to be a mother someday? Forget it, God cannot be deceived!

You better put her permanently in her place. Remember your daughter was there before she came, so it's not even a matter of who will leave for who.

Use everything you have to protect your daughter from harms way, at least to make up for cheating on her mother with your present wife. Because your marriage with her happened so fast that it's so suspicious. Moreover, how did your first wife die? You've to find out to be sure Jezebel has no hand in her death!
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Sixfeetbelle: 9:44pm On Apr 27, 2023
Viltron:


1) Some women are inherently wicked. What would it take you to look after that little girl?

2) Didn't she know he has a child before she accepted to marry him?

3) Did he say she shouldn't have her own children?

4) There are women who take in other children and bring them up. But you can't look after only one that belongs to the man you claim you love

5) Men like myself will have nothing to do with women like you.

1) Actually, it would take me a lot to love and look after that child. Not all women are "Mother Theresa" or have such a large heart to accommodate every and all God's children. Same way, you don't wake up one morning and start loving your wife is the same way she can't wake up one morning and start loving your kids, especially if she didn't conceive them herself.

2) Depends on how their romance flourished. He may have said something, she thought she could then found out she couldn't. He may also not have said anything to her and now she's frustrated, believing he tricked her into a marriage where she has to play stepmother.

3) No, he didn't. But you and I know she can never love his child the way she'll love hers. Same way your neighbour can never love you the way she loves her biological children no matter how nice she is to you.

4) He should have found such women and married them instead. Not all women have the capacity to love every child.

5) Good. I like that the feeling is mutual 😏

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Nobody: 9:44pm On Apr 27, 2023
BRATISLAVA:


And he's playing it out as if he's the victim of an evil woman when he is a man that's ready to throw out his daughter to please said evil woman. He is even more evil as that's his daughter.

His morality is crooked.
Surprising how the nairaland boys that have ran campaigns and degraded single mothers and women with children ( evidenced with the fictitious tales aimed to degrade and warn men about dating women with children) are suddenly blaming a woman for not loving a child that isn't hers.

As though African women have not been told to drop their children from previous union with their relatives before marrying a new man.

Men refusing to settle for less by marrying women with kids/ asking such women to drop the kids with her relative's=normal

Women wanting men to drop their kids from previous marriage with his relatives= evil women/Cinderella-evil step mother syndrome

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by grandstar(m): 9:45pm On Apr 27, 2023
Fineman2

The solution is very simple: get rid of your wife! She hasn't even conceived for you and she's behaving like this?

You said she came into your life when life was distressing for you. Do you not know you came into her life when she needed a man most? You think it's easy to find a serious man these days?

Get rid of this woman asap. Oyinbo say "Love me, l9ve my dog". If she doesn't love your daughter, then she has to go.

Make sure she doesn't conceive. Get rid of her now. The day she conceives, it will be hell for your daughter.

For her relatives to send your daughter back to you is rich in meaning. They are asking you to choose between your wife and their daughter.

How can you standby and watch a brute maltreatment your daughter and saying you don't know who to choose? Will you side with wickedness or with good?

Choose wisely. You have a useless woman in the house I have 2 stepmoms and none were nasty to me.
Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by Sixfeetbelle: 9:46pm On Apr 27, 2023
Okealaaye:


Blame this particular Simp! What man prefers a woman to his motherless child?

A man who never planned to be a father, and thus, is actively seeking ways to wriggle out of the curveball life threw at him by means of widowhood.

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by DrFunmisticGlow: 9:47pm On Apr 27, 2023
Zonefree:

To be frank, such a man is highly disgusting.

The essence of your remarry is not working, what are you still doing in the marriage?
Op is an unreasonable fellow.

He didn't remarry because his daughter needs a mother.

If anyone believes that, then they should believe that tinubu is nigeria's messiah

The real reason he remarried is
¹
1. KONJI
2. He finally realized that single parenthood is not beans and he can't cope like a single mother. So he is looking for a live in nanny and bedmate for free.

Most women won't love children that aren't theirs,but that doesn't mean they should maltreat the innocent child. On that note, send her packing


On to advice, he better boot the new wife out lest she visit a dibia to plan evil against the innocent girl. That's what a real man will do

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Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by sandra50(f): 9:50pm On Apr 27, 2023
You are just a silly man..from what you have written I already know you are a vegetable in that house..you didn't make it known to her that she must not play with your daughter before you married..someone that treats your daughter badly in your presence has no respect for you and I can't imagine what she does to her when you are out..what kind of love is that that you can't protect your child from her..your type can't even send a woman out of his house..this is exactly what my uncle's wife did to him until he died.keep being a pussy there
Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

Re: My Wife Hates My Daughter From My First Wife by BRATISLAVA: 9:57pm On Apr 27, 2023
CuriousStudent:

Surprising how the nairaland boys that have ran campaigns and degraded single mothers and women with children ( evidenced with the fictitious tales aimed to degrade and warn men about dating women with children) are suddenly blaming a woman for not loving a child that isn't hers.

As though African women have not been told to drop their children from previous union with their relatives before marrying a new man.

Men refusing to settle for less by marrying women with kids/ asking such women to drop the kids with her relative's=normal

Women wanting men to drop their kids from previous marriage with his relatives= evil women/Cinderella-evil step mother syndrome

It's a curious case and surprising, indeed. The reality is quite different for them.

Anything women do will be seen as manipulative and evil. Watch the campaign to make the new wife out as evils incarnate, meanwhile this is a man who wanted to toss his child on relatives so he could have at this woman. This is a man who would reject another man's child as a matter of fact.

These boys are on a social experiment designed to make men hate and distrust women, due to some teachings they've undergone in their camps. Their aim is to generate topics to sway the thinking of a couple of sheep and make the sheep become part of their twisted world.

The truth is that they can't do without women, even old women with 7 children from 7 different men. They would be honored to be that 8th man. For most, they are still young and in denial. They will fall in line later on.

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