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ednut1:
Reduce hookup The people in the industry dey complain ni😅. Imagine the average lady in Nigeria earning 20k to 35k salary a month wey oga will even owe them join. But hookup over night 7k to 30k, same sex she gave all her boyfriends who later dumped her. If to say we be woman too we for dey do hookup o

Yusufisraelj:
It doesn't solve the problem my dear. Long time, how have you been?

A guy with high libido meets a lady with low or vice versa, then for some it's just pure mischievousness; more like greed but this time around with women or men as the case may be, when it's uncontrollable a seductive spirit is behind the scene.

Gerrard59:
An example of the men abi boys I described few days ago. Poor, malnourished, uneducated, bloody riff-riffas, modafvckers, wretched, unexposed, unemployed, frustrated, terribly ugly, disgusted, doomed for life, unintelligent, uncharismatic and half-baked educated morons whose greatest achievement is dangling their smelly, flaccid and stench-filled preek along the road shouting alfa meil, alfa meil, alfa meil.

GUNITGuy:
Then stop advertising yourself for sex and displaying your wares to be bought no one would bid for you....Your mind manipulation of blaming men for offering yourself for transactional sex is plain stupid ...... Present yourself as a woman of dignity and honor see if any man would come and demand sex from you for money.....
Go and find how your gender also use the same mode to get jobs, favors, promotion and even contract to outbid men in the same competition for the same jobs, promotion in cooperate bodies ....Please don't start the men this that you know it's your fault ....Your gender don't want to be accountable but want to gain gain gain

Gerrard59:
An example of the men abi boys I described few days ago. Poor, malnourished, uneducated, bloody riff-riffas, modafvckers, wretched, unexposed, unemployed, frustrated, terribly ugly, disgusted, doomed for life, unintelligent, uncharismatic and half-baked educated morons whose greatest achievement is dangling their smelly, flaccid and stench-filled preek along the road shouting alfa meil, alfa meil, alfa meil.

cocolacec:
The way to reduce hook up is for the government to arrest the men patronising prostitutes on the streets and the web.

The Government should also fine the men heavily like N500,000 or jail term term of 2 years.
Most men will prefer to pay a fine ,the govt generates good money from these money wasting men and it is utilised back into the society.

Sweetvie:
He got a point. They should be arrested for patronising prostitutes... That's the only way to reduce hookup. And, there are other ways to satisfy ur needs as a guy.
If no one is ready to buy what they sell they'll find other things to do.

Persephone1:
I really do not want to engage you of all people with irrelevant analogies. You twist logic in the head to sound intelligent to gullible followers.

First you mentioned baning of okadas, do you realize not only riders are persecuted in lagos? If you are patronizing or on bike as a passenger, you will be arrested and charged to court. You can update yourself by asking those who live in lagos. Why did the government had to go both ways and not ban the supplier (okada owners) alone?

In Nigeria, some drugs are banned. I once worked in a pharmaceutical store where we have these drugs in our "poison box" with prescriptions and legal document as back up we sell out these drugs while people are arrested on the streets for possessing them without permission. Why didn't the government arrest we the suppliers only? Why do they have to give us rules to follow while they arrest the users in reckless abound. Are you wiser than government and bodies who hold both parties accountable?

Now let's comeback to your outburst. It is manipulative to you when a female moniker points out the impact of your cluelessness on Women and the society at large. It is manipulative when I decide to point out something you all are missing or trying hard to hide which is CONTAINING YOUR LIBIDO. So it is dishonest of me to state the reason I may not suggest eradication of hookup in a country like Nigeria where MEN can not and do not want to control their SEXUAL URGES.
Oh spare me your tantrums Pansophist! If you feel offended, work on your ability to reason on all sides before issuing an epistle to your followers. !

Maybe we women do not want to be accountable, what about women of older generations were they not accountable? Where they not virgins and chaste did that stop prostitution? Did it end molestation? Were men satisfied sexually without having six to seven wives, concubines, side chicks, one night stands? Were women not still forced to have sex and raped?

You want women to be accountable and close legs, will that help curb men's need for sex. ? No! That's where rape comes in.
Do men respect and accept "No" from women? It took false rape allegation to make Nigerian men to recognize and acknowledge the word "CONSENT" when it comes to SEX.
So don't try to gaslight me into thinking I'm making things up.

In a society where the first and only solution to marital issues for men is "get a second wife" "get a side chick" "satisfy yourself outside " . You want women to lock up. Would will help you lots to save your marriages then?

The problem with you is you twist reality to appeal your gullible followers and when someone calls bullshit on your logic you get offended.

I don't even want to engage in this topic further. The way you lot reason on some topics on this forum irks me

Sweetvie:
Long time.
Where have you been?

Gerrard59:
Sequel to these threads (https://www.nairaland.com/7678352/hookup-culture-nigeria-bad-even/1#122971617; https://www.nairaland.com/7680544/what-caused-hookup-culture/5#123045490) where Nairalanders, mostly males, keep complaining about the rise of hookup in Nigeria. I thought it pertinent to outline solutions that will REDUCE, not stop the trend.

The demand for sex by men is rising and consistent. As long as men crave sex and women are the only suppliers, nothing can be done. For hookups to reduce, Nigerian men should reduce their insatiable quest to have sex with random women. It is like having a department where male lecturers don’t do engage in sex for grades, ladies who are open to such will be forced to read their books whether they like it or not. Men create the system and women integrate into it. To buttress this, when women who have been doing hook-up attain 30+ years, there is a declining demand for their services because sexual service is tied to age and how young a woman is. As a result, she is either forced to retire or accept lower fees. This is because her customers – all men – have either stopped patronising her or are offering less cash. The men control the system.

It is a biological fact (https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22552705/#:~:text=Sexual) for men to yearn for sex more than women. Women are literally the only people who can quench this thirst. Some will say it is because of greed, but c’mon! If you own something which is in high demand that is not regulated nor banned by the government, are you saying you won’t charge prices for it? Remember, this demand is consistent and persistent.

But errm, hook-up is the same with yahoo yahoo or drugs trading.

That is not true. Cybercrime, like the name implies, is a crime in almost every part of the world. Some governments legalise sex work and even offer health care services and tax them. But no government has legalised defrauding people online. This is because policymakers realise that sex is a natural phenomenon in which humans and animals indulge. You cannot outlaw people having sex. It is not possible. Even in conservative Dubai (https://www.economist.com/middle-east-and-africa/2023/01/05/women-in-the-middle-east-are-leading-a-revolt-against-prudish-men), women are going behind the corners to import intimacy gadgets. The government by law bans it, but does not arrest those who import it. But try importing guns into the country and see the government’s reaction. Dealing with hard drugs is not a natural concept for humans. It is acquired, so governments ban it or regulate it tightly compared to sex work.

For instance, in Geylang, Singapore, young women mostly from China engage in hookups under regulation from the Singaporean government. But if you transport drugs to Singapore, you get the death penalty, no ifs or buts. Japan has the second biggest porn industry globally, but you will be arrested, denied a lawyer for 21 days and detained or deported if you transport drugs into the country. The UAE restricted Nigerians’ entry, mostly men. The UAE would rather have Nigerian girls doing hookups in Dubai than her men committing cybercrime. There has not been a break-in by the Emirati police to arrest hookers compared to bursting cyber criminals.

Gerrard59:
Why is that you people have this predeliction for ban, regulation, block etc? Huh? On TwitterNG, some say government should regulate house rents or food prices even when those policies have never worked elsewhere. So, I ask, where in the world do you know that the government arrested men for having sex? Desiring to have sex? Why should the government arrest a man because he has sexual urges (which is natural)?

linearity:
@Gerrard.59, my guy you sure you get work so?

I think the best way to reduce hookups in Nigeria is the same solution that would cure your idleness and prevent write ups like these and that is being gainfully employed.

There are laws against stealing, murder, kidnapping, etc have that reduced those crimes?

In the face of unprecedented unemployment, no regulation or fine will reduce prostitution, Johns and Janes would find a cleaver way around the restrictions.

Gerrard5.9:
Sequel to these threads (https://www.nairaland.com/7678352/hookup-culture-nigeria-bad-even/1#122971617; https://www.nairaland.com/7680544/what-caused-hookup-culture/5#123045490) where Nairalanders, mostly males, keep complaining about the rise of hookup in Nigeria. I thought it pertinent to outline solutions that will REDUCE, not stop the trend.

Astra101:
You were sounding intelligently until you spew out this rubbish. This shows you lack emotional intelligence. Maybe you're one of those feminist under a male moniker

histemple:
Which north?

Sabongari in Kano is the headquarters of Prostitution. Ask anybody living in Kano.

Sweetvie:
True tho'
Guys can't control their urges for sex.
Yeah, I'm good and you?

seguno2:
How much work have you done on your own representative and senator, to make laws to achieve your above goals

kkins25:
We get beef? I think it should be treated as a profession, like any other.

Persephone1:
After reading posts from all parties I have concluded that We all are not ready for this conversation let alone take action on the topic.

It's still the usual blame shift, twist of economic rules (demand and supply), and unwillingness to take responsibility.

Nigerian men are not ready to learn to control their urges, to them it is impossible. Lol someone said women should be the ones to lock up. Lol when in reality we have seen cases of married men with more than one wife rapping and molesting their teenage daughters, yet women should lock up. An NGO I volunteer for has three cases of child molestation we are still STRUGGLING with. Among the rapists two are married, One engaged but somehow these men find forced sex with teens more pleasurable. And someone still wants women to take the fall for men's lack of control and lock up. Okay... But this thing una use teach yourself no good o Women never lock up, girl child no save. If them come lock up nko?

Op, you tried your best but the truth is Nigerians are not ready yet. Even the demand and supply rule, they bend am to suit their irresponsible selves. For the sake of defenseless female kids, permit our men to satisfy their urges with them sex workers.😂😂 We will get there someday

Gerrard59:
Sequel to these threads (https://www.nairaland.com/7678352/hookup-culture-nigeria-bad-even/1#122971617; https://www.nairaland.com/7680544/what-caused-hookup-culture/5#123045490) where Nairalanders, mostly males, keep complaining about the rise of hookup in Nigeria. I thought it pertinent to outline solutions that will REDUCE, not stop the trend.

The demand for sex by men is rising and consistent. As long as men crave sex and women are the only suppliers, nothing can be done. For hookups to reduce, Nigerian men should reduce their insatiable quest to have sex with random women. It is like having a department where male lecturers don’t do engage in sex for grades, ladies who are open to such will be forced to read their books whether they like it or not. Men create the system and women integrate into it. To buttress this, when women who have been doing hook-up attain 30+ years, there is a declining demand for their services because sexual service is tied to age and how young a woman is. As a result, she is either forced to retire or accept lower fees. This is because her customers – all men – have either stopped patronising her or are offering less cash. The men control the system.

Kelechi009:
You're not a straight forward person, very cunning. The entire post was about hookup and you turned it into a rape post. None of your posts ever make sense, you are either trying to gaslight people or saying something totally off the purpose of the thread. Get a life.

michael1508:
What's this one saying?
They should get married to an average Nigerian woman who ask for money before sex,who sees sex as a tool to exploit or you have a set of girls you are importing into Naija different from the girls we see around here?

TheCongo2:
You have been missing

Yusufisraelj:
Doing great, nice to hear from you.

seguno2:
Because Nigerian men have failed to reduce poverty and inequality in our society? Or because of what please

kuneryxy:
Abeg any hook up site working in nigeria