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BloomingDale:
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iammo:
Divorce is never the solution, marriage is not meant to be perfect

nlfpmod:
As shared by Vashti Vash Offo:



https://twitter.com/Vash_Offo/status/1660702453648465927?t=iG_-zSFySZJMgg1RI7BOoA&s=08[/quote]How do you guys sit and write articles from hell so comfortably?

felong:
Sometimes if you don't treat women this way, they won't be submissive and take you for granted. Once you install fear in her, she won't behave anyhow.

bukatyne:
Isn't it easier to marry a woman whose career doesn't involve night duty than marry one and start giving her hassles?

Are you allergic to soft loving with peace everywhere?

Why do you lots thrive on struggle love like this? Why do you like to marry people not your spec then break their spirit to suit your interests?

'I can't cope with night shift work'; marry a career that doesn't require such. It is a different thing if ten years down the line, night duty enters the convo.

But to start with a career that requires heavy duty night shift when you don’t want it?

I can't comprehend.

isabi2lof:
No matter the matter , I will marry right and enjoy my marriage 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Some men are just selfish and wicked , just last week , they wanted to skin saint obi ex wife alive ., Saying all kinds of gibberish.

Here's something similar, you won't see them just because it's a woman that's suffering in this particular marriage.

kazyhm:
Good observation....we don't know this particular Doctor.......hence the story can't be verified.

1) Saint obi is popular....the the stories as narrated by the friends are true.
2) We know Anie Idibia story aswell
3) Pero Adeniyi case
4) Emeka Ike story is there
5) Mercy Aigbe story
6) Nedu case is there7
7) The MD of I can't remember the name of the bank now is verifiable
Wizkid baby mama....we all read the WhatsApp conversation
9) Davido baby mama drama


We all watch Johnny Depp case both in the UK and USA..........

Enough verifiable evidents for men to learn......

Newnas:
Wasn't she aware of the nature of her job before choosing to get married? Please rest.

babzlim:
come to my area and see how married women are f...king around like dogs without shame.

you only know what you know wait till you hear story of others.

armadeo:
I just tire . Why even bother to start

Kobojunkie:
So, a doctor in training agreed to hampering her own training schedule, right? You are trying to argue that it was not really the husband who made it difficult for the lady but the lady who wanted it difficult for herself but refused the work hard and all? She also locked herself out of her own married home after it all, right?

kazyhm:
■ Lol..... you're very talkative.....about things you know nothing about.... Were you there with them at the beginning.....what is so special about being a medical doctors ?...and even with carrying the profession on her head, she won't still be responsible for any bill in the relationship....untill when the carpenter of her husband is dead broke....... When you're responding...... consider that you're not talking to kindergarten.

armadeo:
It's a proven fact that married men have shorter life spans.

Emaprince:
I stopped reading when it said men live longer. And benegit more from marriage..Like ..for real?

Upon all the physically demanding hustle men goes through everyday to create a better life for women, hence shortening their(men) life span.

Babe, you really believe that? Jokes apart.

Kobojunkie:
Arrghhh!! So after I shot down the lame reason you gave earlier, you decided to go another lame way. Everyone who dates a medical student knows these things. It is not rocket science. You claim I was not there with them in the beginning but here you pretend you have them all figured out ba!

pocohantas:
Women and men are going through shege in Nigerian marriages, but the difference is, men are brazen about the shege they dish out. Women are hardly ever that brazen because they know the odds are not in their favour. I can't say the same for the sons of Nebuchadnezzar.

When a man sees shege, he is encouraged to get a divorce or side-chick for balance and he would most likely do that. With or without shege.

When a woman sees shege, she is encouraged to wear red pant and pray. This has never been a proven way to let out steam, so they become toxic and depressed with receding hairlines. Waiting for their kids to grow, then they go there to disturb the future daughter inlaw and the son who has failed to ask his mother why she is running from her own husband, would indulge her. Or maybe he knows why she is running. After all he saw it happen.

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I am not moved by all the divorce topics in the UK or wherever. The problem is not the UK. The problem is the foundation of Nigerian marriages. We are a dangerous people. Home and abroad we are the same. Any country we enter en masse must start looking for how to close her borders. That is how dangerous we are. But we would hardly ever reflect and change. Instead we blame feminism, blame NATO, blame a Youtuber and blame Tinubu. Very anyhow people...

kazyhm:
■ I never claimed to have any fact whatsoever pertaining to this story.....but many theory, motives and ideas about what transpired in this story have been coming from you......

My take is.....if you so much love your single, unrestricted life.....stay clear from any kind of committed affairs...........life itself is a crazy ride......so is marriage.
Nothing is special about being a medical doctor........and I believe the husband is not a vulcanizer.

Kobojunkie:
Whatever grudge you may have against doctors na your own. All I know is that for a doctor, night shifts are pretty much a career requirement.

kazyhm:
■ It is clear you know nothing about this practice.....career requirements set by who and to attain what ?

Biglittlelois:
I'm curious pls, what was their reason for ending their marriage of one day?

bukatyne:
Pele, you should have collected your transport fare from him.

😃 😀 😄 😁 🤣 😂 😃 😀 😄 😁 🤣

Kobojunkie:
Make Google your friend abeg!

foleskay:

Divorce is not an African culture.

All these yeye feminists trying to change the narrative sef. You can't force ur warp ideology on we Africans. Carry ur divorce go Europe and US.

Gamusgamus:
This is surely coming from woman who couldn't build her marriage to success
Because of over sabi

Newnas:
I'll get a second wife, it's as simple as that.
I can't be a part-time bachelor for a "your money is our money, my money is my money" woman.

Moreover, woman that doesn't have time for her husband at her youthful age, is she the one that will have time for him when he's old?!

She can't leave her career because of me, so also I can't leave my wellbeing because of her. I'll get a second wife ASAP!

bukatyne:
It is her duty to explain before marriage? A lot of people don't have issues with night duty.

Aren't you the one who has an issue with night duty so should have researched the schedule of a doctor before proceeding with the marriage?

A doctor/nurse who would not be required to work night shifts would be scarce. If I remember correctly, a hospital operates for 24hrs and there must be personnel on site to man them.

Now you know, steer clear from a medical professional.

nlfpmod:
As shared by Vashti Vash Offo:



https://twitter.com/Vash_Offo/status/1660702453648465927?t=iG_-zSFySZJMgg1RI7BOoA&s=08[/quote]Mostly in africa and asia we have what we call SHAME CULTURES, you are shamed apon if you do things that are supported by customs and tradition, Divorce is of them, parents and relatives would rather see you endure your marriage than divorce, to them it brings shame to the family

Then you find how society treats divorcees, soon she divorces and she is doing wel for herself society label her as prostitute and own success without a man in sight grand her the title a prostitute.

In church a divorcee is the last person to be respected or given help

So basically the woman would be too afraid to divorce herself she is afraid to shame her family and also afriad how society will treat her. A divorced man is treated better than a divorced woman and usually we have this quick to rush that the woman should have manage her husband no matter how bad it was. Women are taught to tolerate rubbish from husbands while men are taught send her packing and marry another one

In simple terms most women are suffering in silent due to how society looks and treats divorced women so they rather endure the suffering

Hence you find that when they move to western world they divorce their husbands, not becoz the western world has influence them but gave them the opportunity to walk away from toxic marriages that were held together by a shame culture.

Look at the asians most indian and pakistan, divorces are very low due to shame culture and honor killing, women dont even dare to say they want to divorce

There are circumstance were divorce is needed, i wouldnt want by daughter to come back in coffin

I think the guy married his wife as trophy wife, aka you marry the most beautiful wife by appearance and everyone gives you thump up and also the fact that she is a doctor. But with all that you are also very insecure of beauty and her job. She either becames prisoner or less love and affection she is a trophy wife on display

For those blaming the other gender (male or female) you are forgetting one thing, we behaviour and attitude as collective being eg igbo, yoruba or nigerians as whole are based on society's attitude towards eg its women ot how man are supposed to behave etc

What i mean is this i have heard few people saying our girls have entitlement mentality, think deep who gave them the idea and promoted it? its men those who say i will look after you, the guy literally takeover responsibility of the girls parent. Now it
became a measured standard that
if a guy cant do ABCD is not man. Its the poor guys now who get laughed at and not
the girl

My point is society's behaviour is reflection on its self, you cannt blame one gender, if girls feel
entitled who promoted that behaviour its men