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iInjureHerYansh:
Like understanding the female psyche, finding their weaknesses and leveraging on it.
Cos that's what them bitches do to guys.

Yeah, that is one thing that scares me as well, everyone is playing one game or the other, it's hard to know which one is serious and not, thanks for your advice sha, I learnt alot from this thread despite the insults.

Jakumo:
The title of your opening post is a red flag, OP . Modern women under 30 don't want a deep relationship right from the onset. They want a fun-loving man who makes them laugh, who does NOT declare any romantic interest early in the game, and who does NOT resort to using that dreadful word LOVE before even having sex for the first time.

Take things light and easy. Give the impression that you have other romantic interests even if that is not the case. Make little jokes when interacting with women, and do NOT be hesitant to show sexual interest right at the start. If you are waiting to make a few million naira before you regard yourself as eligible to woo a woman, you are already discrediting yourself even before women do so.

Don't be afraid to accuse women of trying to seduce you when they dress sexy. They will act shocked that you have the balls to make such a claim, but have a smile ready on your face to show you are only joking. Your confidence will shine through, and before long, you will be hanging pipe to several different women all competing for your attention.

NEVER NEVER NEVER declare a romantic interest in any woman under 30 because that will scare her off instantly. Don't be heavy like that when they are still in their fun-loving easy-going years. Your bill for advice is in the mail.

perhaps I gave the wrong impression, your points are valid I'd take note of that, I have the personality you're describing though, the fact that I have few friends doesn't mean I'm some robot in reality who doesn't have a life, once you get to know me you'd see the difference between what we put online and what I actually am.

Gerrard59:
No, he should not go out. He should do siddon put inside house. Chant and scream I am Intelligent, but I don't see intelligent women to converse with. He should pay Seyi Tinubu for advert placement with the billboard stating COME TO MY HOLE ALL YE INTELLIGENT PEOPLE. I AM INTELLIGENT, BUT HAVE ZERO SOCIAL LIFE AND FEW PHYSICAL FRIENDS. IF YOU DON'T COME, IT IS YOUR FAULT. REMEMBER, I AM INTELLIGENT. COME O! COME O!! COME O!!!

You're hilarious.

Lexzeey:
perhaps I gave the wrong impression, your points are valid I'd take note of that, I have the personality you're describing though, the fact that I have few friends doesn't mean I'm some robot in reality who doesn't have a life, once you get to know me you'd see the difference between what we put online and what I actually am.

Finally, overcome that natural fear of rejection and approach women in large numbers, like a sailor on very limited shore leave, like there is no tomorrow, and simply assume that many will reject you which is FAR better than seeing gorgeous women and then later feeling that empty sense of regret because you didn't make that move and stop to speak with them.

Pretend that you've met them before as an opening line, then proceed from there with a light-hearted chat about what they are doing that day, with maybe one quick compliment about their beauty thrown in before collecting their WhatsApp number as an afterthought before you go your separate ways. I have been amazed at how raunchy and X-rated women can get over text with time and a little flirtation, all of which paves the way to hot sex on the first or second date with very little delay tactics on her part.

Lexzeey:
Yeah, that is one thing that scares me as well, everyone is playing one game or the other, it's hard to know which one is serious and not, thanks for your advice sha, I learnt alot from this thread despite the insults.

Uwc. Try and Swallow the Redpill too.

Lexzeey:
It's hard o, nothing lucky about it, at first I was okay with it, even when I was doing the little schooling I did I stayed away from girls, I thought I was better off without the distraction, now I'm paying for it, the only two people I dated persisted somehow and even initiated the whole thing, it's not fun at all.

I understand you more than you can imagine… I said, "Lucky you" because you're still young.

Jakumo:
Finally, overcome that natural fear of rejection and approach women in large numbers, like a sailor on very limited shore leave, like there is no tomorrow, and simply assume that many will reject you which is FAR better than seeing gorgeous women and then later feeling that empty sense of regret because you didn't make that move and stop to speak with them.

Pretend that you've met them before as an opening line, then proceed from there with a light-hearted chat about what they are doing that day, with maybe one quick compliment about their beauty thrown in before collecting their WhatsApp number as an afterthought before you go your separate ways. I have been amazed at how raunchy and X-rated women can get over text with time and a little flirtation, all of which paves the way to hot sex on the first or second date with very little delay tactics on her part.

Lol this is so new to me, but I love it, I'll try these tactics and see, thanks.

pansophist:
The more intelligent you are, the less likely you will experience love and romance. Furthermore, the more intelligent you are in Nigeria, it's even harder. And to be broke and intelligent in Nigeria is a suicide mission.

As a hustling guy, you probably want ladies around 26 downwards, the odds are not in your favor. Girls that age are still going on multiple dates weekly with numerous guys, the fun is too much for the ladies to abandon and settle down with a hustling guy like you.

You'll have to go for women your age, so 30 upwards, they should have been done with their fun and ready to settle down, or wait for the ones you're chasing to grow older, fatter, and ready to appreciate you.

Sorry for being the carrier of unfavorable news. But there is no point deceiving you with sugary news, you are already suffering.

The sad reality

Gerrard59:
And who says it is easy? It is actually easier to stay at home, and even cheaper. In fact, as I write, na church I dey come from. I was specially invited today so I could meet the daughter of the invitee and have lunch with the Singaporean medical professionals I met earlier. As it is done in the abroad, you pay for yourself, but the doctors decided to pay for me. Why? We have conversed deeply about various issues. I am proud of myself that there is no topic outside literature, movies and music that I don't know of. Even the invitee's daughter who studies Computer Science at a Canadian university, she and I discussed about the tech industry. She was even interested to meet me. If na OP, he wants the girl to meet him where he is siddoning put.

You think it is every one that would invite a random black guy from West Africa to meet their friends? But I put myself out there and during our various conversations, we saw that we shared the same values. If I was not going to the church, I for no sabi these people existed. If I did not apply to join the university's church group, the medical student wey carry me go her church, I for no meet am. OP wants to meet people, but he has ZERO SOCIAL LIFE AND FEW PHYSICAL FRIENDS. For crying out loud, how would he meet people if he siddon put for house?

The issue is that he is lamenting his situation, but is adamant about not changing it. How on earth do you want to meet people when you don't go out? Who the fvck does he think he is? Even top class researchers attended conferences, but one random Lexzeey believes people should meet in the hole he put himself. Even the doctor's mentor, a renowned specialist in the field globally, went to Singapore and Australia for conferences, but this guy believes people should meet him in the hole he dug. Remember, he stated that he has ZERO SOCIAL LIFE AND FEW PHYSICAL FRIENDS. He is the one lamenting of not having a female partner but has ZERO SOCIAL LIFE AND FEW PHYSICAL FRIENDS

He can’t change who he is to please others ..Besides you are just creating normal chances for yourself and one can still meet whomever they sought in their home playing games or drinking and it ain’t compulsory you should be out there ..

Lexzeey:
Lol you're so ignorant, I'm not in a hole oga, at all, I go out to shop, banks, sometimes quiet bars to unwind after working so hard, don't assume you know me because of your short sighted assessment, why are you people even focused on the wrong stuff? I'm not concerned about having few friends, infact I rather have no friends because I no fit talk, who friends help?

The way friends don't help is the way having a female partner won't help you.

If you remain a bachelor for life, would you die?

Shortcut2life:
He can’t change who he is to please others ..Besides you are just creating normal chances for yourself and one can still meet whomever they sought in their home playing games or drinking and it ain’t compulsory you should be out there ..

Then he should stop the Songs of Lamentation and embrace himself for who he is, rather than expecting to have a female partner when he has ZERO SOCIAL LIFE AND FEW PHYSICAL FRIENDS.

Shortcut2life:
He can’t change who he is to please others ..Besides you are just creating normal chances for yourself and one can still meet whomever they sought in their home playing games or drinking and it ain’t compulsory you should be out there ..

It is absolutely compulsory for any man who seeks female interaction to go out and meet women because women will NEVER go to a man's house in search of companionship. By encouraging a man to give up on the hunt, you are encouraging him to waste potentially YEARS of his life that could have been spent enjoying female companionship, if only he is prepared to invest just a little effort in escaping loneliness.

Finding a woman is a game of numbers with rejection being a necessary and perfectly acceptable part of the game. Furthermore, an initial rejection may not even be the woman's final word. The more beautiful she is, the more tests and obstacles she will place in the path of men who pursue her, in order to weed out those who lack motivation and give up easily. Women are attracted to confidence above all, along with PERSEVERANCE after an initial rejection. Those traits are necessary for survival and success in life, so women value those traits and therefore filter out prospective suitors in a deliberate search for those who know the values that they MUST portray in order to reach that promised land.

There is a whole community online of men who have simply GIVEN UP on finding a woman. They are called INCELS, a horrible acronym for involuntary celibates who have now grown to hate women because they harbor the delusional expectation that women ought to just throw themselves at men due to the perceived wealth, good looks, muscularity, social status, or academic brilliance of those men. By encouraging a lonely man to give up and remain alone and content with his isolation, you are doing him a terrible disservice that could result in YEARS of social isolation and sexual frustration.

OP go out and meet women everywhere you find them. Don't let these INCELS try and rope you into their sorry brotherhood of bitter losers. It is never too late to change up your game and learn the art of banter with women that will in time lead you into their silken panties.

Gerrard59:
The way friends don't help is the way having a female partner won't help you.

If you remain a bachelor for life, would you die?

Then he should stop the Songs of Lamentation and embrace himself for who he is, rather than expecting to have a female partner when he has ZERO SOCIAL LIFE AND FEW PHYSICAL FRIENDS.

Where did I write I am seeking for a girl with few physical friends and no social life, people like you who misconstrue simple things to suit your narrative and give you few minutes of attention should not be taken seriously, if you like die here with your analysis, it's all crap because you know nothing about me or what you're talking about.

Jakumo:
It is absolutely compulsory for any man who seeks female interaction to go out and meet women because women will NEVER go to a man's house in search of companionship. By encouraging a man to give up on the hunt, you are encouraging him to waste potentially YEARS of his life that could have been spent enjoying female companionship, if only he is prepared to invest just a little effort in escaping loneliness.

Finding a woman is a game of numbers with rejection being a necessary and perfectly acceptable part of the game. Furthermore, an initial rejection may not even be the woman's final word. The more beautiful she is, the more tests and obstacles she will place in the path of men who pursue her, in order to weed out those who lack motivation and give up easily. Women are attracted to confidence above all, along with PERSEVERANCE after an initial rejection. Those traits are necessary for survival and success in life, so women value those traits and therefore filter out prospective suitors in a deliberate search for those who know the values that they MUST portray in order to reach that promised land.

There is a whole community online of men who have simply GIVEN UP on finding a woman. They are called INCELS, a horrible acronym for involuntary celibates who have now grown to hate women because they harbor the delusional expectation that women ought to just throw themselves at men due to the perceived wealth, good looks, muscularity, social status, or academic brilliance of those men. By encouraging a lonely man to give up and remain alone and content with his isolation, you are doing him a terrible disservice that could result in YEARS of social isolation and sexual frustration.

OP go out and meet women everywhere you find them. Don't let these INCELS try and rope you into their sorry brotherhood of bitter losers. It is never too late to change up your game and learn the art of banter with women that will in time lead you into their silken panties.

You too Dey spit crap over sabi Dey worry you women affairs minister just few ones you’ve met you Dey claim itk ..

Jakumo:
It is absolutely compulsory for any man who seeks female interaction to go out and meet women because women will NEVER go to a man's house in search of companionship. By encouraging a man to give up on the hunt, you are encouraging him to waste potentially YEARS of his life that could have been spent enjoying female companionship, if only he is prepared to invest just a little effort in escaping loneliness.

Finding a woman is a game of numbers with rejection being a necessary and perfectly acceptable part of the game. Furthermore, an initial rejection may not even be the woman's final word. The more beautiful she is, the more tests and obstacles she will place in the path of men who pursue her, in order to weed out those who lack motivation and give up easily. Women are attracted to confidence above all, along with PERSEVERANCE after an initial rejection. Those traits are necessary for survival and success in life, so women value those traits and therefore filter out prospective suitors in a deliberate search for those who know the values that they MUST portray in order to reach that promised land.

There is a whole community online of men who have simply GIVEN UP on finding a woman. They are called INCELS, a horrible acronym for involuntary celibates who have now grown to hate women because they harbor the delusional expectation that women ought to just throw themselves at men due to the perceived wealth, good looks, muscularity, social status, or academic brilliance of those men. By encouraging a lonely man to give up and remain alone and content with his isolation, you are doing him a terrible disservice that could result in YEARS of social isolation and sexual frustration.

OP go out and meet women everywhere you find them. Don't let these INCELS try and rope you into their sorry brotherhood of bitter losers. It is never too late to change up your game and learn the art of banter with women that will in time lead you into their silken panties.

You’re delusional just because of being an extrovert you making this baseless assumptions and trying to put yourself out as someone who has achieved so much in being out there .. You’re a sicko regardless of op thoughts introverted people are veryyyyy comforted and they love the thought of being alone no one gives a Bleep about those temporary feelings you catch like Covid 19 out there Mr man . Mumu Dey feel funky on top people way he meet

Lexzeey:
I am a hardworking guy, I hustle 24/7, I have no social life, few physical friends, some social media friends, I'm intelligent and I'm attracted to intelligent girls too, it's something I find attractive, and I love traveling alot, especially with a romantic partner, I want someone I can hold a meaningful conversation with that won't resort to dumb and monosyllabic responses, I don't think it's too much to ask for a girl that fits this description, my plan was to settle down in my 20s, but I'm almost 30 and unlucky with love, I've tried so many desperate things like messaging so many girls on fb, most of them don't reply, tried dating apps same news, tried setting for less, same stuff, now all I want is something serious, someone to eventually settle down with and I feel the best time to start dating her is now before I clock 30, please I am open to suggestions, what tactics do I need to employ to get a serious girlfriend quickly, all my life I've only dated twice and it's so depressing seeing people with Thier partners and I'm some lonely guy who only cares about work and video games.

Try a girl with the opposite traits you mentioned. Opposites attract.

pansophist:
The more intelligent you are, the less likely you will experience love and romance. Furthermore, the more intelligent you are in Nigeria, it's even harder. And to be broke and intelligent in Nigeria is a suicide mission.

As a hustling guy, you probably want ladies around 26 downwards, the odds are not in your favor. Girls that age are still going on multiple dates weekly with numerous guys, the fun is too much for the ladies to abandon and settle down with a hustling guy like you.

You'll have to go for women your age, so 30 upwards, they should have been done with their fun and ready to settle down, or wait for the ones you're chasing to grow older, fatter, and ready to appreciate you.

Sorry for being the carrier of unfavorable news. But there is no point deceiving you with sugary news, you are already suffering.

So u want him to marry a retired olosho. Give above 30yrs were don retire from their hookup biz.

What does your social life look like?

Do you have a hobby!

IbrahimSkiba:
Well first of all, I am a girl... My picture is on my profile..

Secondly, I'll settle down, someday.. when I meet the right one.. if God says so

Thirdly.. I'll say my sex life is Okay.

Hahahahaha. Not in a relationship but having a “Great” sex life and you are a lady. Impossible! Except if your definition of Sex means something else, not the usual Fückîng.

Do not deceive yourself, if you keep fuckíng a dude you have no emotional bond with, it will fùck you up mentally, if you are not already fücked up. I mean it. Run away from the act. It work out for guys but not ladies.

narite:
Hahahahaha. Not in a relationship but having a “Great” sex life and you are a lady. Impossible! Except if your definition of Sex means something else, not the usual Fückîng.

Do not deceive yourself, if you keep fuckíng a dude you have no emotional bond with, it will fùck you up mentally, if you are not already fücked up. I mean it. Run away from the act. It work out for guys but not ladies.

OVER SABI

karkinase:
Akwa-Ibom Babe..

Sir

You have any problem with Akwa ibom babe?

chidifrank:
trying to shoot my shot wit you but NL is not having so many options for that

please keep your shot to yourself..
I'm tired of your gender

Olarewaju89:
Do you want to marry him.

No sweet heart
I don't want to marry a man

Edipet:
location: Uyo. Omor

🙄

Michaelspresh:
please keep your shot to yourself..
I'm tired of your gender

30+ woman spotted :-)

Michaelspresh:
🙄

??

Failure2019:
30+ woman spotted :-)

you're really a failure

Michaelspresh:
you're really a failure

Gerraouttahere you flapping slippers boobs

Pained that you're 30+ and haven't achieved anything??😂💔

Failure2019:
Gerraouttahere you flapping slippers boobs

Pained that you're 30+ and haven't achieved anything??😂💔

🤣🤣

Fix yourself first and stop being bitter..
And change this name cos I don't see the need announcing to the whole world that you have failed in every era of your depressed life

Edipet:
??

wetin happen?

Lexzeey:
I am a hardworking guy, I hustle 24/7, I have no social life, few physical friends, some social media friends, I'm intelligent and I'm attracted to intelligent girls too, it's something I find attractive, and I love traveling alot, especially with a romantic partner, I want someone I can hold a meaningful conversation with that won't resort to dumb and monosyllabic responses, I don't think it's too much to ask for a girl that fits this description, my plan was to settle down in my 20s, but I'm almost 30 and unlucky with love, I've tried so many desperate things like messaging so many girls on fb, most of them don't reply, tried dating apps same news, tried setting for less, same stuff, now all I want is something serious, someone to eventually settle down with and I feel the best time to start dating her is now before I clock 30, please I am open to suggestions, what tactics do I need to employ to get a serious girlfriend quickly, all my life I've only dated twice and it's so depressing seeing people with Thier partners and I'm some lonely guy who only cares about work and video games.

You are still young relax.

Gerrard59:
The problem with OP is that he does not go out and meet new people. He literally said he has no friends. How does he want to meet people ni? Which means even with money, he will still encounter problems. I am doubtful he can keep healthy conversations with the opposite sex or even the male gender since he does not meet new people or have friends. What are his hobbies sef?

As for the bold, because a lady is God fearing, no mean say she no like good things of life. A well-educated, articulate and exposed "God fearing lady" will demand greater financial stability than you might expect. I have them on my contact list, and they make it clear that financial stability is very important in the men they desire. E be like say you never meet "God fearing lady" wey get double masters, PhD, participates in gospel outreach yet insists her man must be financially stable and up and doing.

Abi una take the as poor as a church rat of a phrase so seriously?

Those kind of women are not ready to marry, until reality sets in.

Michaelspresh:
🤣🤣

Fix yourself first and stop being bitter..
And change this name cos I don't see the need announcing to the whole world that you have failed in every era of your depressed life

So because my moniker is failure , your daft mind thinks that I'm actually a failure

I'm sure if you see me irl , you go wet yourself:-)