₦airaland Forum

1Sharon:
Look are this one. What do you know about kicking a man out of the house.

If the man's name was on the lease how can he be kicked out of his own house ?

fxexperts:
And the ones who decived you in Nigeria, by the time you marry them and take them top the UK, wont they develop this same inflated ego. It is the same thing will igbo men going to their villages to marry village women and taking them to the city, only for the women to tear eye in the city and start sleeping artound with different men. A bad woman is a bad woman, anywhere anytime.

1Sharon:
False.

pansophist:
I have this friend that lives in Germany (lets call him John). I connected John with a Nigerian girl in the UK in 2019. They matched and vibe well but as soon as she knew that he is not a German citizen or with PR, she just jilt the guy.

I was in the UK last summer and met with her. She was still single. She asked about John, and I told her that he is fine, done with his masters in engineering and works for Bosch. He is also a German citizen now.

It was few weeks later after my holiday John told me that she has been disturbing him since for a relationship, citing all kinds of excuses as reason why she suddenly cut off. Excuses such as mental health, dealing with personal and family issues etc.

But John is not an idiot. Anyways, John already moved on and will get married soon to his Ivorian/French fiance. I will be a best man for sure on his wedding. Na my sure paddi.

What I've seen in the UK few times I was there is the need to outsmart the other. The girls won't be with a guy that is just coming up. They date/marry for interest. That's the story of most.

They don't think ahead. If you do Uber today, then in their mind, you'll do Uber forever. It's either a ready-made or nothing. Working together with a guy and build up is almost an abomination. They don't build, the move in.

Whatever.

Enculer2:
He dogged a bullet.

uche87:
Often when single young people move to the United Kingdom, they are always caught between starting new relationships abroad or sticking to their old relationships in their home countries. This short article is aimed at guiding you to make the best decision on the basis of reality and not mere emotions and sentiments.

I will try as much as possible to make this piece less controversial. The aim isn't to break relationships and destroy the efforts of couples in their relationships.

Dating a good Nigerian woman in the UK is amazing. They bring happiness and increase your zeal to succeed by giving you strong backing.
Below are some of the reasons why dating a Nigerian woman in the UK is highly recommended.

(1) Nigerian women are appreciative:

Let's face it, there is no abundance of 'original' male suitors in the UK. Some coloured women even go for several months without anybody stopping them on the street to say hello. This adds value to men (law of demand and supply). So when single women ever meet their male counterparts, they value you like the pound note.

(2) Financial independence:

The UK creates an enabling ground and a level-playing field for everybody to succeed. As long as you are ready to work, you will make good money. UK-based Nigerian women have their own money and take pleasure in buying their own things unlike their counterparts back home, who are at the mercy of Tinubu and his APC friends.

(3) Beauty and fashion:

UK-based Nigerian women are not only beautiful, but they are so classy. They could be fashionable due to the extra cash and the affordability of clothes in the UK. I believe they have more 'packaging' than Amazon lol

(4) Better opportunities:

Nigerian women are doing really well in the UK. They are like the last piece of the puzzle you need to make your life complete. I have seen some men doing blue-collar jobs marry doctors and company management officials in the UK. This opens a door of opportunities and stability.

(5) Adaptability:

If you are in the UK, you are better off dating a Nigerian woman who lives in the country. This is because they have adapted to the system and have a strong knowledge of how it works. This is always as smooth as when Robin Van Persie moved from Arsenal to Old Trafford. He hit the ground running.

(6) Happy Ending:

UK women have very strong 'grips'. Legends in the house would understand. This is because of the scarcity of men and the busy nature of the country. You can't boldly say the same about Lagos-based women who are mostly 'sexually stressed' due to too multiple relationships running concurrently and marketing activities.

(7) Mental stability:

Due to the performing nature of the UK economy (compared to Nigeria), the women are generally happy to an extent because their needs are easily met via simple financial plans. Tinubu, back home has triggered an epidemic of mood swings amongst women with highly counterproductive public policies.

( Fiscal compatibility:

Nigerian women in the UK are largely transparent with their finances. They also contribute to the payment of bills. They know for sure that their spouses might develop hunchbacks carrying those responsibilities alone. This attribute isn't easy to come by in Nigeria where the women regularly say 'Your money is our money and my money is my money' to their men.

(9) Better exposure:

Traveling itself is a form of education. As you pass through places, they also pass through you. Nigerian women in the UK have mixed with different races by virtue of being in the country. This has also broadened their perspective on life and made them better people.

(10) Cooking:

Nigerian women are generally fantastic cooks. They don't just have the skill, but they also have the financial resources to explore new measures of making both local and foreign dishes. Inadequate financial resources impede the abilities of their local counterparts.

Osahon George Osayimwen writes from the United Kingdom.

pansophist:
I have this friend that lives in Germany (lets call him John). I connected John with a Nigerian girl in the UK in 2019. They matched and vibe well but as soon as she knew that he is not a German citizen or with PR, she just jilt the guy.

I was in the UK last summer and met with her. She was still single. She asked about John, and I told her that he is fine, done with his masters in engineering and works for Bosch. He is also a German citizen now.

It was few weeks later after my holiday John told me that she has been disturbing him since for a relationship, citing all kinds of excuses as reason why she suddenly cut off. Excuses such as mental health, dealing with personal and family issues etc.

But John is not an idiot. Anyways, John already moved on and will get married soon to his Ivorian/French fiance. I will be a best man for sure on his wedding. Na my sure paddi.

What I've seen in the UK few times I was there is the need to outsmart the other. The girls won't be with a guy that is just coming up. They date/marry for interest. That's the story of most.

They don't think ahead. If you do Uber today, then in their mind, you'll do Uber forever. It's either a ready-made or nothing. Working together with a guy and build up is almost an abomination. They don't build, the move in.

Whatever.

ednut1:
This one is doing PR for Nigeria women in the Uk. If they have all those qualities listed up there men will be rushing them. They are mostly being avoided for obvious reasons 😆. The average Nigerian woman abroad has this over inflated ego just because she don japa. Tufiakwa

ednut1:
place i lived in. And still have siblings and friends there 🙄. Most of them are married to white women lol

Dshocker:
Na wa for you ooO...

There are men that saved for like 10yrs, bought a house and got married later, only for their wife to take over the house.

Women have more power constitutionally, than men do in Europe and United States

ednut1:
even your fellow 9ja students will refuse to date you talkless of those with citizenship or permanent residency. Na men wey get good jobs and papers dem dey rush o. As a student you are probably starting from one room shared accommodation. Many 9ja babes here cant get wet for u in such accommodation when guys with cars and nice apartments staying alone dey. If you look good, black ladies from jamaica, other african countries or average looking white babes fit give you small nacks 😆.

pansophist:
I have this friend that lives in Germany (lets call him John). I connected John with a Nigerian girl in the UK in 2019. They matched and vibe well but as soon as she knew that he is not a German citizen or with PR, she just jilt the guy.

I was in the UK last summer and met with her. She was still single. She asked about John, and I told her that he is fine, done with his masters in engineering and works for Bosch. He is also a German citizen now.

It was few weeks later after my holiday John told me that she has been disturbing him since for a relationship, citing all kinds of excuses as reason why she suddenly cut off. Excuses such as mental health, dealing with personal and family issues etc.

But John is not an idiot. Anyways, John already moved on and will get married soon to his Ivorian/French fiance. I will be a best man for sure on his wedding. Na my sure paddi.

What I've seen in the UK few times I was there is the need to outsmart the other. The girls won't be with a guy that is just coming up. They date/marry for interest. That's the story of most.

They don't think ahead. If you do Uber today, then in their mind, you'll do Uber forever. It's either a ready-made or nothing. Working together with a guy and build up is almost an abomination. They don't build, the move in.

Whatever.

1Sharon:
Bullshit. If the property is in the man's name this cannot happen. Stop regurgitating what you aren't certain about.

1Sharon:
Most of who? Lol

I thought you were talking about UK raised Nigerian women

Acidosis:
100%

Everybodi eye don open. People are no longer willing to be vulnerable. And this relationship/marriage thing hardly works where partners refuse to adjust their age-long norms and regulations.

pocohantas:
Funny thread. Men and women would marry themselves if they deem themselves compatible and "in love".

I have male and female friends in the UK. The major problem I see is they are overly cautious of themselves and no relationship would ever work where both parties are trying to be "smart".

pansophist:
I have this friend that lives in Germany (lets call him John). I connected John with a Nigerian girl in the UK in 2019. They matched and vibe well but as soon as she knew that he is not a German citizen or with PR, she just jilt the guy.

I was in the UK last summer and met with her. She was still single. She asked about John, and I told her that he is fine, done with his masters in engineering and works for Bosch. He is also a German citizen now.

It was few weeks later after my holiday John told me that she has been disturbing him since for a relationship, citing all kinds of excuses as reason why she suddenly cut off. Excuses such as mental health, dealing with personal and family issues etc.

But John is not an idiot. Anyways, John already moved on and will get married soon to his Ivorian/French fiance. I will be a best man for sure on his wedding. Na my sure paddi.

What I've seen in the UK few times I was there is the need to outsmart the other. The girls won't be with a guy that is just coming up. They date/marry for interest. That's the story of most.

They don't think ahead. If you do Uber today, then in their mind, you'll do Uber forever. It's either a ready-made or nothing. Working together with a guy and build up is almost an abomination. They don't build, the move in.

Whatever.

pansophist:
I have this friend that lives in Germany (lets call him John). I connected John with a Nigerian girl in the UK in 2019. They matched and vibe well but as soon as she knew that he is not a German citizen or with PR, she just jilt the guy.

I was in the UK last summer and met with her. She was still single. She asked about John, and I told her that he is fine, done with his masters in engineering and works for Bosch. He is also a German citizen now.

It was few weeks later after my holiday John told me that she has been disturbing him since for a relationship, citing all kinds of excuses as reason why she suddenly cut off. Excuses such as mental health, dealing with personal and family issues etc.

But John is not an idiot. Anyways, John already moved on and will get married soon to his Ivorian/French fiance. I will be a best man for sure on his wedding. Na my sure paddi.

What I've seen in the UK few times I was there is the need to outsmart the other. The girls won't be with a guy that is just coming up. They date/marry for interest. That's the story of most.

They don't think ahead. If you do Uber today, then in their mind, you'll do Uber forever. It's either a ready-made or nothing. Working together with a guy and build up is almost an abomination. They don't build, the move in.

Whatever.

Acidosis:
100%

Everybodi eye don open. People are no longer willing to be vulnerable. And this relationship/marriage thing hardly works where partners refuse to adjust their age-long norms and regulations.

KingAzubuike:
Lol them don dey do advertisement . Una never see anything yet.

ednut1:
This one is doing PR for Nigeria women in the Uk. If they have all those qualities listed up there men will be rushing them. They are mostly being avoided for obvious reasons 😆. The average Nigerian woman abroad has this over inflated ego just because she don japa. Tufiakwa

OvertheTop:
Even from the Writeup, She is Placing herself Over (Nigerian_Based) Female

1Sharon:
If the woman has papers and he doesn't, he is very much a red flag.

A man that is doing uber can very much do uber forever. Why do you guys always make it seem like upcoming guys always eventually make it? You know well life isn't like that.

Women should date upcoming men as long as she sees the potential in him.

Even the red pill teaches men to be the best they can be and not remain average.

John eventually got married to an Ivorian woman, does that mean he intended to marry the Nigerian woman that rejected him?

You know well that men can date women for so many years and not marry them, they meet another woman and marry her within a year.

ednut1:
the women get married to Nigerian men mostly men looking for papers or imported men from Nigeria 🤣

pansophist:
He intend to marry her. Okay lemme drop a few info about John.

John did his bachelor degree in Germany in German language. So he first learnt German for a year, then did his university studies in German.

John already lives in Germany for six years when he met her. She was a second year student in the UK then, on a student visa.

For john to become German, he has to satisfy residency, social and economical integration. If all these doesn't count as someone with good potential, then please tell me what counts as such.

John is a somewhat nerdy person. Those book warm guys with glasses. Fine boy, but not your typical vibes, party, rough guy.

Anyways, your submissions are somewhat correct, although, that's not John's problem. Johk should worry about John issues, not because other men out there are loosers.

You don't want to be judged or punished wrongly for the sins of others ladies out there. Her point for living John may be valid, BUT stick to it. If you leave him, don't come back. It's that's simple.

If a lady left when things are rough, then back when things are smooth, it simply means she will leave again when things are rough. There is no virtue there. You have to own up to your decisions and stay one place.

ednut1:
This one is doing PR for Nigeria women in the Uk. If they have all those qualities listed up there men will be rushing them. They are mostly being avoided for obvious reasons 😆. The average Nigerian woman abroad has this over inflated ego just because she don japa. Tufiakwa

Eriokanmi:
All these are physical attributes which mean nothing. What of the spiritual aspect? Are you compatible spiritually? Would you guys last as couple and be fruitful in all areas? Most of those using physical and material attributes as yardstick for future partners end up regretting.

Last weekend, I was seeing a client on the island. They're very wealthy. If I mention the name here, this thread go full with attacks but it's not necessary. They have a son who's like 2 feet tall. He's in his 30s. He can't feed on his own. They always shut the door at him each time they're going for events. He's rarely known by the public.

Each time they see this guy, they always feel sad. Before you enter their house, you must go through all manner of security screening as if you're entering an embassy for a visa appointment. The wife is an epitome of beauty. She also schooled abroad as the husband. He's their only son. Marerial things and careers don't guarantee ultimate happiness in marriage.

See God's face before you marry. Also, don't marry because of material wealth or career achievements. Look at those successful people today. They had a history of humble beginnings. I never knew Dangote and Pastor Adeboye were never born of rich parents until I heard their history from Mama ijesha, a nonagenarian who lives at ijeshatedo area of lagos. Dangote came from Kano to lagos as a boy and was squatted by Mallam Maitama who happened to be mama ijesha's first tenant. She showed me their apartment on the ground floor the day I visited her. I bought my land from her son, who asked me to see him on his arrival from the UK. The woman said pastor adeboye once worked part time at her uncle's place, a popular cocoa merchant back in the days. One day, the man had to tell pastor adeboye to stop coming to work there so he could concentrate on his studies and gave him scholarship...many won't hear a story like this but the sweet sides when Dangote's uncle gave him money to start business and all. This generation is too materialistic.

fxexperts:
There are alot you do not understand about the girl in question, and she is not in the wrong, she is just been careful.

I for one has a single girl a medical professional in the UK and she has told me alot of shits that happens with Nigerian guys who just relocated to the Uk.

Most of these guys are actually married men who Nigeria who look for Nigerian girls who are citizens in the UK, get married to them and after they have secured their citizenship, they divorce them and bring in their Nigerian family.

So a lot of Nigerian women in the UK are very aware of this trend and so they are scared, your friend might just be afraid John is one of such people not necessarily meaning she doesn't want to build with him.