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Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by sync(f): 5:52pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Never give up on love |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Gabkan7: 5:57pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
If all you said, truely connects. The ball is in your court, but you can still view it from an angle that the mom is only paranoid with her reaction thinking after marriage she might abandon her dreams after all their investment and waits for her returns.If all you said, truely connects. The ball is in your court, but you can still view it from an angle that the mom is only paranoid with her reaction thinking after marriage she might abandon her dreams after all their investment and waits for her returns.If all you said, truely connects. The ball is in your court, but you can still view it from an angle that the mom is only paranoid with her reaction thinking after marriage she might abandon her dreams after all their investment and waits for her returns. |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Gabkan7: 6:01pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
sync:my dear it is relative. Be ready to let go when it will cost you your sanity 2 Likes |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by patorial(m): 6:02pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
henrimoto: Op you must answer this questions o. Cause to me, e be like person wan use your brain but love no go gree you reason am. 3 Likes |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by nnenwa5: 6:09pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Humblelion1987:This is simple for you to handle, don't tell your girl about your plans because she might be relating it to her people. Just call them for a meeting and tell them that you are not against any of their plans. That the only money you have is to marry their daughter and cannot use it for another thing. That you are okay waiting until they send the girl to the UK before you marry her. End the meeting and go. Let them battle the decision themselves. 2 Likes |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by geosegun(m): 6:11pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Don't do the wedding for now. Stay off. Let your wife to be know your position. The Family will be all out to frustrate you in the end if you agree to their condition. Even if you both travel to the UK, You may not enjoy your marital bliss and the lady may end up leaving you in the end. Young man, you may get so frustrated. Life is in the UK is not what people think. Great support and understanding is what will see you through and not emotional love. Your wife family will be controlling her and you will get so frustrated. Don't give in to their conditions. Let things playout from your end and not via your in-laws'. Believe you me, this marriage plan is bound to fail, unless your in-law to be, changed their attitudes. If not, you will be at the losing end. Don't try it. Be frank with your wife to be and let her know your position and stand by it. Your are now being seen as their piece meal ticket and trust me the moment you cant provide, all hell will be let lose. You will lose out in this game if you don't take the bull by the horn. It takes only a month, after your wedding, to realize that, only love, can not take you through this new phase of your life. Your wife, should understand and should be the one to sort things out if she truly loves you. Don't force it. If not, there would be another amazing lady that will give you true happiness and peace of mind THAT YOU SO DESIRE. Even if you are going to travel out later. Don't do it now, not on your supposed in-laws demand. It would be a grave mistake. DONT DO IT! 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by na2016: 6:26pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Gloriagee: OP: I beg you in the name of God to take this advice oo. The girls parent would be a torn in your flesh. I strongly advice you to slow down on things. |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Dijita: 6:28pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
henrimoto:My simple solution is for him to give her belle and stand by to watch. 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by AceRoyal: 6:30pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
FairlyUSEDpussy: Be patient, life will happen to you positively. You can gain speed and achieve in 6 months what your mates took years to achieve. Envy no one. Be optimistic, prayerful and focused. I pray that before this time next year, you'll gain divine intervention, speed, grace and success to achieve much more than you can think of now! 2 Likes |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Yusufisraelj(m): 6:39pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
@Humblelion1987 I know this script very well I've been there, mine was that the lady loved me very much but the mother was against the union because I was from the north and that time I was trying to run a start up defense company, I was managing the very little I had prior to then I was doing well and didn't had much resistance, and I never liked dating beyond two years. However the lady from south, that was the mum's premium excuse, she frustrated the daughter to the point of she fainting, you know what would make a mother do that? At the end last last the mom won. That was my very first relationship I invested everything into. This my take, pray about it first and understand the mind of God concerning your marriage, it could be you're not meant to be, not all that glitters is gold, albeit it could be the mum is a stumbling block, that's why you need clarity first. Secondly what's the ladies position, mine later fell for the mom's trick and gave in after better frustration (no body can survive adversity for long), so the girl could talk to her mom about it but if they keep insisting, bro move on. Thirdly you can't force a marriage where you're not welcomed (who go accept your dowry? Mine was returned, it was that bad), first gain clarity you'll then know what to do. 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Yusufisraelj(m): 6:41pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
AceRoyal: You no see his moniker? Lols |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by roseabbey: 6:49pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
A piece of advice for you, don't send her abroad, instead process it and go by yourself then come back and marry her because if you send her abroad they will not allow her to marry you or she can change her mind 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by forexprophet(m): 6:50pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
JUST GET HER PREGNANT. Story will change sharply. Just run away with her. What kind of nonsense is that. Upon all the scarcity of husband Humblelion1987: 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by frank317: 6:53pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Just get the girl pregnant, nobody will beat u, u are an adult 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by delishpot: 6:54pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Chai, see better husband. Whereas some women are married to men with no dreams, vision or desire to push for growth. And here is a mother about to make her baby girl lose a good man. Agree with your babe to pretend like you took a break from the relationship. Infact that you have left her. And then your babe should blame her mom for making someone who cherished her leave. Let her shake the mom and make her feel like a stumbling block in her love journey. Maybe after 2 weeks if mom hears that you guys have made up she will be less in the mood to raise dust again 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Zupay: 6:59pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
roseabbey: He doesn't need to send her abroad as she can go without his funding because as a nurse if she passes the required exams, many UK agencies and even the NHS would sponsor her relocation. |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Waffarianman(m): 7:07pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Attimes some of Una mattas dey give person headache, very easy matta to handle. Just pray 🙏 for wisdom 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Pinkyposh(f): 7:11pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Stevenbright:Enable who to make her travel out how? Didnt you see the lady has passed her IELTS and CBT exams, nothing is left again Once she gets a job, her employer sponsors and she leaves the country. His money does not matter anymore in this very stage she is in |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Pinkyposh(f): 7:14pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Ulunne777:. His money doesn't matter at this stage, cos she has passed all the required exam to leave the country. It's her employer that will do the sponsor, and the remaining expenses left |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Samabu07(m): 7:20pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
FairlyUSEDpussy:A lot of 33 years have gone to the grave despite having a good occupation, good health, etc. Please stay alive, things will eventually turn for good. 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Pinkyposh(f): 7:29pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Humblelion1987:Standing with her to fight her family will not be the best option. Don't put more pressure, when she's processing her papers after getting a job, let her add you as her fiancé (dependency) if she really loves you, then in 6 months you can join her |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by tunize(m): 7:44pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
FairlyUSEDpussy:You too shall share ur own testimony e go happen and e nor far 2 Likes |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by kunlebco(m): 7:48pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Think9ja: I totally agree with you. They've seen this guy as a maga. They are already squeezing him. He should tell the girl sort all these issues with her family or forget the relationship. 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Stevenbright(m): 7:50pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Pinkyposh: Maybe he said that in subsequent posts. My comment is on the main post. And on that post, no mention of the fact that she already passed the exam but that he registered it for her three times in the space of 6 months. 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by GOSPELTRUTH31: 7:51pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
The worst thing that can happen to you as a Christian is to marry wrong. I shall explain I am not talking about marrying an unbeliever. No. I am talking about marrying someone whose destiny is totally different from yours. When you get married to that person, you begin to live an alternate destiny, you live a life which is far different from God's plan for your life. Be careful not to marry the wrong spouse. Not an evil or bad spouse, just the wrong spouse who was meant for someone else's. May you be delivered from making the wrong life choices. May you listen to God's guidance and direction. Blessings. 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by tunize(m): 7:51pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Clarify something here, is her parent wealthy enough to afford her Uk trip? Or are they depending on you to achieve that? Make person understand something first before advice go follow. 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by enemyofprogress: 7:52pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Aya buruku se ni, ana buruku ni o da. Ajepako professor of English, please help me to translate it for him 1 Like |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by akintunde63: 7:54pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
[quote author=LikeAking post=124646514]Keep quiet! Call off everything, you’ll see how quickly their brain will reset! And if it doesn’t, be ready to bear the consequences. |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by akintunde63: 7:56pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
LikeAking: Call it off and see wonders happen! |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Burgerlomo: 8:20pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Ajione: It's their daughter and not there daughter đź‘Ť |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Burgerlomo: 8:22pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Humblelion1987: It's their daughter and not there daughter đź‘Ť |
Re: My To Be In-laws Are Frustrating Me by Phoenix873: 8:25pm On Jul 25, 2023 |
Been there, done that. It ended in premium regret that I am still nursing till now. I lost a lot of money and that was what pained me most about the relationship. But I have a feeling that, even though you might also have invested and spent (waste) a lot of money on your supposed fiance, you are still presently better off financially wise than me and wouldn't have a problem bouncing back from your heavy loss. So my short and simple advice is; chest am, move on!!! It is unfortunate that like me, you had to learn the hard way. By refusing my advise, and continuing the relationship and spending/sponsorship of the girl, the subsequent but very certain pains that awaits you might be far greater than the pain you would have had to endure if you move on now, which might push you to do something stupid to yourself or the girl out of vengeance. Plenty girls dey wey go give you peace of mind and meet your criteria for a potential wife, you will see them. Move the fvck on from the ungrateful and entitled in-laws and their accomplice daughter. PS: ignore the advise of those asking you to give the girl belle! You will regret trying it as long as your in-laws are alive to influence their daughter in your marriage. ✌️ |
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