U and your family makes a man spend all his saving and still collect loans, the guy try alot.

Pls your type should avoid me

Ehinjuola:
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they ask him for

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

u and your father are thieves, return what you stole from the young guy......you want to render him poor bcoz he wants to marry you,if he loves me he sld do it can you just listen to yourself.

Phranx1:
Give him space & time also be a dutiful wifey for he will come around, am sure from d explanation this happened in d south, due to economic situations parents should be a bit lenient for our children happiness shouldn't be traded for who's daughter's wedding Is d biggest, in d north even a bucket of akara is enough for a wedding ceremony.

don't mind her and her selfish father.

Na the guy I blame. Why did he go ahead with the wedding? He just carried unnecessary debt for head. It's not good for a man to be too soft. It's easy to control and manipulate such men

Ehinjuola:
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they ask him for

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

You already tried to give excuse for the extortion by stating his salary for us to note.

Was he extorted?

Did you oppose your family or advice him how to penetrate them?

Did you also insist on a small wedding or kept quiet since your father was fighting your battle for you?

That Man is in a deep hole and has mostly relegated your family from his heart.

You better sit up and accept responsibility for every single area you messed up instead of looking for nairalanders to give you support or approval.

Wodu89:



Im surprised people are not mentioning the malice, sulking and the childish behavior he's using to start off. Only focusing on 150k. The husband isn't mature for marriage


How can one start the journey of marriage with such thick malice over such trivial matter. What if one now offends him, will this one be capable of forgiving anyone. What a nonsense. Nigeria raises very pathetic men. See his kinds supporting him all over the place turning side eyes to all his childish antics. I see no sign of maturity at all in the description of his behaviors. Let's hope the op didn't lie on the man but if the description is the husband's real attitude it's not apology he needs, he needs to be sent back to couples counseling sessions.

You see everything in life required stages,you can't jump a stage if you jump it will really affect so many in someone's life,for is own case he need to accept his responsibility as a man.The earlier he accepted it,the better for him.He need to grow up fast to meet up being a responsible man, it's just wedding 💍 expenses that make him muddy like this. what if the wife started given birth to his children he will finally park out of the house be that.Marriage come with alot of responsibility.

merits:



You see everything in life required stages,you can't jump a stage if you jump it will really affect some many in someone's life,for is own case he need to accept his responsibility as a man.The earlier he accepted it,the better for him.He need to grow up fast to meet up being a responsible man, it's just wedding 💍 expenses that make him muddy like this. what if the wife started given birth to his children he will finally park out of the house be that.Marriage come with alot of responsibility.

God bless you. This are the sensible comments I was expecting to see and not the whole bashing of the woman's family. I have always maintained wedding is a test of a man's ability to weather the storms. God bless you my brother. You see clearly

dontrulee:


Any family wey wan extort me or bill me. I go just distance myself away from their daughter. I'll not put myself in debt or pressure because of someone's daughter.

don't mind her and her heartless father,her father should have married her na

mmadu5:
I don’t normally comment on post like this but this one I will surely do .


My dear newly wedded woman you are truly and evil person and inconsiderate I’m sure you don’t even love your husband all you wanted was just to get married and answer married woman I blame your husband for not backing out when he could . He is in for a long ride .

The guy is a morooon so don't blame the young woman, is those kind of guys that make a woman their center. Imagine her statement that "he's the one that want my hand in marriage" as if she does not need the marriage. The guy na confirmed loser

Wodu89:




God bless you. This are the sensible comments I was expecting to see and not the whole bashing of the woman's family. I have always maintained wedding is a test of a man's ability to weather the storms. God bless you my brother. You see clearly

Amen you welcome bro, most people that are bashing the wife family are single or irresponsible people they have no idea of what marriage is, that's why.

merits:



Amen you welcome bro, most people that are bashing the wife family are single or irresponsible people they have no idea of what marriage is, that's why.

The mentality of the man is that one an individual that can't manage a crisis o. Small things men crumble under pressure that's why little challenge people kill themselves rather than take the lessons, become resilientz persevere, hope and rise in faith taking step by step actions trusting the process


This thread to me exposes the sick psyche of our society. We aren't producing much healthy male species.

Wodu89:
Childish behavior. Malice and sulking

Honestly nairaland is filled with small boys like you. Are you married?

okerekingsley90:


Honestly nairaland is filled with small boys like you. Are you married?

You're stvpid. Get lost. I'm not responsible for your misfortunes.

Wodu89:




You're stvpid. Get lost. I'm not responsible for your misfortunes.

No make the mods ban me and you son of a bitch. Who are you to say he is immature. Must a man make millions before he settles down. Are you in his shoes to feel what he is been through. Don't you know how difficult it is in the country? Instead of saying at least the family could have been considerate. You called him immature. No make me swear for you from here and it must work. Stupid pussy

Ehinjuola:
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they ask him for

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

Most issues arise from very little things, instead of trying to defend something that doesn't need defending, why didn't you just apologise and try to see how you could get him more cheerful after he opened up to you?
Instead you responded in such a way that is making him doubt your allegiance to him and now you're not happy with the repercussions.
Sha start from apology and softly telling him that it was not as he thinks it was, that you only responded that way because for you, you took all the tasks he was given to fulfill as a demonstration of his love and value for you

Ehinjuola:
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they ask him for

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

I don't blame your husband for using the word "extort", you would have stood with him and defended him. Many parents have failed to be cognisant that giving out their daughters in marriage is a thing of joy and not an avenue to make uncessary demads from the groom.

And yes your dad pushed him to get a loan in order to fund an unecessary elaborate wedding ceremony,although he should have stood his ground and rejected such frivolous demands.

A wedding ceremony is just for a day and marriage is for life. Your father is in his house while you're here sulking and in a loveless marriage.

You're left with apologising to your husband on your fathers behalf, get busy and help me financially, pray and hope he eventually comes along, men don't easily forget .

okerekingsley90:


No make the mods ban me and you son of a bitch. Who are you to say he is immature. Must a man make millions before he settles down. Are you in his shoes to feel what he is been through. Don't you know how difficult it is in the country? Instead of saying at least the family could have been considerate. You called him immature. No make me swear for you from here and it must work. Stupid pussy

Oode. 150k is too much for wedding. Who asked a man to marry with millions. Dwib. If the children were sick or he had to pay huge sums for child bearing operations him no go pay am Abi


Oode. Don't use your senses. You stvpid poor wretched human

your dad is the problem and you second...

this is marriage and he's not buying you out as a product why will ya dad lay heavy burdens on him,pay bride price,get a hall and also a cow without even trying to know whether his pocket can hold it...thats bad of him(ya dad)

secondly you should have talked to ya dad than telling him if "if you cherish me, you should do it" too bad of you....

you don't know what that man is into now, you don't know how many people his owing right now and truth of the matter The pressure behind him....

first of all try and apologize and see how things will work out..


cherish me love me, won't sustain the marriage Rather peace and finance will....may una no how to use words. peace

Ehinjuola:
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they ask him for

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

this story was taken from a guy on facebook(adewrites)
You didnt even acknowledge him

Wodu89:
Childish behavior. Malice and sulking

Malice isn't a childish behaviour...

Children don't keep malice.....

mmadu5:
I don’t normally comment on post like this but this one I will surely do .


My dear newly wedded woman you are truly and evil person and inconsiderate I’m sure you don’t even love your husband all you wanted was just to get married and answer married woman I blame your husband for not backing out when he could . He is in for a long ride .

The man no get sense at all.

Did you hear the stupid wife say that since he was the one that wanted her hand in marriage he should be ready to pay the bills? If I was in the man's shoe I will never proceed with the weeding again. Why do women think that men needs marriage more?

That guy is a simp. Before he will come out of that debt it will take him 5 years.

dontrulee:


Yes, your family extorted him.

Leave him alone and perform your duties or better still apologize on behalf of your parents.
If you can squeeze yourself, give him 50k or 100k while presenting your apology. He may or may not collect the money but he will know that you care about him and he'll become favourable towards you. If after you've done this and he doesn't improve, then you've married a demon and you should focus on yourself.

END...

Does it look like the girl has up to 10k in her account? If she knows how to make money she would have known that it 150k salary a month is not enough to plan expensive weeding.

Wodu89:



Oode. 150k is too much for wedding. Who asked a man to marry with millions. Dwib. If the children were sick or he had to pay huge sums for child bearing operations him no go pay am Abi


Oode. Don't use your senses. You stvpid poor wretched human

I would have ignored you. You think you have made sense. Would he remain with the 150k for life. Won't he grow if he isn't lazy. If e sure for you come my place I would give you transport stand man to man and talk this rubbish make I no shift you

ibinaboonline:
He is your husband you should know what to do to get him come around

She probably doesn't know because she never paid much attention to his needs while they were courting. She was the prize and the only one deserving of attention.

Happens to the best of us! Her tone sef presenting her case imagine her saying the guy is doing well on a #150k salary inferring with audacity that her family's in the best place to make demands as per bride price and he should jump high in obedience. Yes, every family have a right to what they'd ask as bride price but some things are just off. I pray she gets her head off the clouds back to reality and work on her marriage else she's on a long thing. May she seek and find wisdom.

Jazmine10:
Happens to the best of us! Her tone sef presenting her case imagine her saying the guy is doing well on a #150k salary inferring with audacity that her family's in the best place to make demands as per bride price and he should jump high in obedience. Yes, every family have a right to what they'd ask as bride price but some things are just off. I pray she gets her head off the clouds back to reality and work on her marriage else she's on a long thing. May she seek and find wisdom.

You understand it man some things are just off. That man is just passed cos his wife family were not considerate. Don't be surprised these such people would bring burden or even interfere in his marriage. He is just psychologically down cos he feels his wife could have helped in at least reducing items on the list

Go back home and tell your father all you have told us here. Tell him that your marriage is crashing because of you and him. He's in the best position to advise you.

Pearl619:
You should have talked with your people to reduce the expenses, there is life after the party. The solution now is to sit your hubby down, apologize and ask him the amount of loan that was collected. You both can work together to pay off the loan

It’s too early to start your marriage with this type of atmosphere. The man might be passing through a lot financially. To be honest 150k in this economy is not really a big amount of money.

Best and the best advice so far......

okerekingsley90:


I would have ignored you. You think you have made sense. Would he remain with the 150k for life. Won't he grow if he isn't lazy. If e sure for you come my place I would give you transport stand man to man and talk this rubbish make I no shift you

Poverty laced thinking. Smh

Ehinjuola:
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they ask him for

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

My sister you spoke foolishly, a wise woman will defend her man, no matter what, if it was me I go show una people shege, do you know what it takes to buy a cow now? Or even rent a hall for that matter with a lean salary of 150k, you joined your family to eat your future in just one day, my wife relatives tried the same thing but she put them in their place. We had a budget she made the family to adjust to that budget, they even bought her the wedding gown. Today the woman is happy in her home. You sold out your man, which kind useless cherish be that, you just succeeded in proving to your husband that he is alone in that marriage, that you can never defend him or have his back. Me I will never borrow money to do marriage I will rather end that union. Make your papa marry you.

For the rest brainless women out there that want to make the same mistake. Wait for a yahoo boy or ritualist to marry you. Mad people

Ehinjuola:
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they ask him for

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

do you want to hear the truth? It really was an extortion! What's wrong with u people? With the way things are in this country you people are still asking for heaven and earth becos of marriage? Do u not love him too? Which one is it's only going to be once? What kinda mentality is that? Now you've been sold to him and u want him to be happy? What nonsense! Well sha, I don't blame u. He's still the one to be blamed, cos if I were the one, that woulda been d end. I won't go ahead to marry u. Let your parents kuku marry their daughter since they're placing so much price on her.. nonsense and idiosyncratic culture.

lopatep:
He don collect loan for ur matter.

A foolish man takes out loan to do wedding
A smart man takes out loan to do business

Marriage self na bizness

Ehinjuola:
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they ask him for

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

Your family (especially your dad) disrupted your marriage from the foundation. Of course he was extorted. A reasonable parent who is not exploitative would have shown empathy by working on the list. Don't come here blaming your husband at all. You should be begging him because your family ruined everything he felt for you before the wedding.

Most marriages suffer from this issue. Ladies must learn to stand up for their men during wedding negotiations between families. Men should not be forced to take loans just to marry. It's preposterous! Any man compelled to do so will seek revenge when the rites are well perfected.

Better look for someone to appeal to him.