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Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by Mypeople2(m): 12:15pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Ladygee12:Marriage is more than speaking English.When you enter then you will know that silence is also a comment 2 Likes |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by Karleb(m): 12:28pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
pansophist: Bro, I have a younger sister in this kind of situation. Can I send you a pm so that you can put me through? I don't want her to regret in the future. |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by Ladygee12: 12:40pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
franchasofficia:Guy fogerrrrrrrrrit |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by Kobojunkiee: 12:55pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Lifeomann:I see! So your wide is not a partner in your marriage but your slave to you? At least you admit the glaring truth many Nigerians refuse to cop to regarding their demand for submission from their women in marriage. |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by TheEnforcer: 1:25pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
pansophist:What of a girl in her 30s who still rejects men for not being handsome, despite being good and wonderful men?She says physical qualities is super important to her 1 Like |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by placeofallure(f): 4:01pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Ladygee12: Dem take English swear for me o! It's either English or bye bye o! I remember then, I used to read boys' notes to me, I'd dissect them (the letters) with my siblings and we'd have a hard laugh over the horrible ones. The bad English won't let me even see your other good qualities. 1 Like |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by Juliearth(f): 4:33pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Ladygee12: As much as western education is key, we must not underplay the fact the informal education is sufficient. If your woman can sustain a business. , that shows that she is not a dullard. The only problem I see here is communication. I think you should focus on helping her attain fluency in English. That could take a while, but it is totally attainable. Get her a tutor, advise her television engagement to programes aired in English and a change of environment would also help. |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by pansophist(m): 6:28pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
TheEnforcer: You can't force her to see value where she can't, or don't want to see value in. As far she knows the consequences/benefits of her actions, just let her be. You should accept that freedom of choice also means freedom to make bad choice. She will be the one to live with him, not you. It's her life. Leave her alone. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by pansophist(m): 6:30pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Karleb: Abeg, don't pm about your sister. Leave her alone. As far she is an adult and chooses such path, let her be. 3 Likes |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by TheEnforcer: 6:33pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
pansophist:No one is disturbing her of course. But when someone over looks a good man simply because he is not very handsome,then good luck to her |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by pansophist(m): 6:36pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
TheEnforcer: Yes, good luck to her. Don't force people to do what they don't want This life, na suffering full am. And some of those suffering is self-imposed. Accept the above. Then you won't bother yourself when people suffer. Kpata kpata, hundred years from now, we will all die and the suffering or enjoyment would be meaningless. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by Kobojunkiee: 6:40pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Juliearth:Would you yourself be willing to date a man who can't speak English? |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by 1Sharon(f): 6:42pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
TheEnforcer: Women are also visual. Learn that. If she had rejected him for not being rich enough, you'd still have something to say. |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by TheEnforcer: 6:49pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
1Sharon:To be honest I have no qualms with that.A guy should get his finances in order before proposing. I mean you don't have to be a millionaire but you should be doing well So I can't fault a girl for rejecting such a person who isn't doing well |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by 1Sharon(f): 6:55pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
TheEnforcer: So why is it that when women say this exact same statement, men get defensive? It seems to me because the woman is over 30, you think she should just accept any alternative. Men approach women solely based on looks. |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by descarado: 7:12pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:Why not. Good English a criteria? Guy, that's inferiority complex. I have happened to meet colleagues that are so bad in English and yet they are employed in an English soil and heading departments. Some have such thick traditional accents, you then realise Nigerians are actually English people. And guess ŵhat,the English don't care. What they care about is what's inside and what you can give. Psquare as far as I know score zero in English language. Some women will proudly leave their first class husband in English language to follow them. |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by TheEnforcer: 7:13pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
1Sharon:I am the one Saying it myself so I don't know those who get defensive. It's common sense.aand also I didn't say she should accept any alternative because she's 30.The guy is not any alternative, he is doing well finances, talented and has many other good qualities which the girl also attested to.Her only problem is him not being very handsome and that is it. |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by Kobojunkiee: 7:16pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
descarado:All this na tory. Yes, it is a valid criteria for some and there is absolutely nothing inferior about it. As commonsense is communication is key to the health of a relationship and oral communication plays a big role in that for many of us. So the question is simple. Would you consider dating someone who does not speak fluent English? |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by 1Sharon(f): 7:25pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
TheEnforcer: Like I said before women are visual too. Men approach women solely based on looks. No man pictures his dream woman to be an ugly woman 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by descarado: 12:00am On Aug 28, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:I will date and marry such. Yep. No big deal. Na English I go chop or cuddle in the night. 1 Like |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by Juliearth(f): 4:50am On Aug 28, 2023 |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by aquame: 9:51am On Aug 28, 2023 |
It is even better if you are higher than you woman, woman don't go for someone on their level. They will rather go for someone higher than them. A woman bigger than you won't list and respect you. Forget what the world will say that she is not educated. If you can take care of you family as a man and protect her. That is all that matters. A good wife and a good mother is all that matters not education. Even some of our uneducated mother are trying and doing well. Ladygee12: 1 Like |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:07am On Aug 29, 2023 |
TheEnforcer: What's your definition of a "good man"? And what's wrong with wanting a handsome man? Do you not know that, just like men, women are as well very visual? Are you trying to underestimate the importance of sexual attraction? I mean, you can be a good person in layman's terms but if I don't find you attractive, then of what use is your goodness to me? 1 Like |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by TheEnforcer: 12:33am On Aug 29, 2023 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Right ,it all depends on what one wants in a partner,whether it's the deep things,or superficial things .Nothing wrong in wanting a handsome man or a beautiful girl of course. To each his or her own . |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by Kobojunkiee: 1:18am On Aug 29, 2023 |
Juliearth:So what was all that epistle for?
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Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by Kobojunkiee: 1:22am On Aug 29, 2023 |
descarado:Well, unlike you, I can't because good communication ranks high for me in a relationship and English might as well be my first language so no fooling myself abeg. |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by descarado: 8:24am On Aug 29, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:So as you can't, leave those who will. It's that simple. |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by johnsammy200(m): 12:40pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
How about a partner that cannot give you advice when you need it the most, she doesn't know how to give advice. |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:35pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
TheEnforcer: Correct. That I want deep things doesn't mean he must not be fine. It's essential. 1 Like |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by TheEnforcer: 1:47pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Lolz,for that,then I'll dash an ugly man hahaha |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:50pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
TheEnforcer: |
Re: Issues With Choosing A Life Partner by TheEnforcer: 2:04pm On Aug 29, 2023 |
UyaiIncomparabl:OH 728 likes on your pp means there will be no shortage of fine men asking you out so you are well covered |
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