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ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

ebijimi7:
Good day guys
I made the worst mistake of my life and I think it's affecting me now
I have a girlfriend I dated for 4 years before we had issue she was 22 years and I was 25 so she doesn't listen to me she kept communicating with her ex although it got me angry and I broke up with her while her friend got married to that her ex she begged me to come back I refused until 2 years after I decided to listen to her then I found out she had dated many guys close to 10 guys why I was with just 1 girl until I started having issues with her so I decided to question her because I disvirgined her and she doesn't like a protected sex after interrogation I discovered she had 1 abortion and I try to man up and accept the fact that it cannot be changed so once in awhile it gets into my head but the one that got into my head recently I collected her phone to help her repair it then that was how I came across the chat with one of her ex that got her pregnant all the nude they shared how they zucked each other and how she went ahead to abort the baby and she was still asking the guy if he wanted the baby and how the baby would have been a year old although she said she no longer communicate with the ex and I discovered she has blocked him and was telling the guy to stay clear that she is married now.
This got me angry and furious although she told me she had abortion but not full information of what happened then I called her to challenge her then she said I'm always using her past to hurt her because I kept saying it and the mother was there and she heard everything and the mother got angry that I disappointed her because she wasn't expecting such from me the mother never knew she did abortion until the convo I had with her then the mother was mad at me that she never expected such from me and the mother is a churchy type of person so she got angry ad said if not for my mother that died she would have blocked me from calling she and her daughter I felt bad that I messed up everything and tht ishoud not have said what I said and she said I should return her daughter's phone and everything belonging to her daughter including her things in my place and since that yesterday I've been begging the mother and it's now looking like she doesn't want me to talk to her daughter any more and I plan to marry her very soon I'm 29 and I don't know where to start from I have been down because I love the girl she made a statement that I felt bad for she said why does nobody loves me I felt broken it's been 24 hours now I've not heard from my gf im sticker in between moving on or wait if anything can be done......

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

blackslayer:
I hope you read this message! I was once like you. Just thank your stars you actually got to know of her past. Some will hide it.
In summary, trust your instincts. If you're here asking questions, that means deep down you do not feel right! Listen to that voice. Based on your intuition alone, I will say run! Based on my experience, I will say disappear! Run my friend. These new age women are not our mothers! Don't forget that. So even if you are a good man, you still need to be extremely careful....especially if you're a good man.

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

Gentlelox:
If the gal's name is Silvia and she is from Sapele... My brother run run run


She dey lie give u.... I dated one so called Silvia that lived in Sapele and attended Delta State University. That gal na lie full her mouth. She lies about everything and fuczks every dic* that calls her. She lies about men dumping her after her good deeds bt in true sense, she useless these men and make a living hell for all of Dem.

I can't go in details about this gal for now... Bt if her name na Silvia, I just saved ur life... Brotherly run for ur Lyf.... Let me give u an hint about her, she has a tattoo on her leg and one other part, can't remember again.

That gal na abortion headquarter.

With more than 9 abortions am aware of already and body counts about 500(am not exaggerating)... He who has ears, make e nor use earpiece block am.

rickleye:
Dude how old are you 20 ?
Leave her alone .
For you to bring this case before the NL elders mean you can’t get over her past.
Personally, if she checks all the boxes , I’ll marry her -but you are concerned about her body count.

Either you slept with 1 person or she 100. You are neither a virgin.

You are asking the wrong question -
Does she make you happy ?

I’ll tell ya a story. I left the country and returned back a few years ago . Met up with an ex who was so happy to see me . I didn’t know she was married.

Anyways, my sister took me to see her at a Barracks and she introduced me to her husband. She said honey - this was the dude I was supposed to marry, the dude I told you about . We shook hands and his answer , I must be the lucky man. And he hugged her saying to me “ your loss”
They are still married with 3 girls . We are still friends.

I can tell you that girl’s past looking for love in all the wrong places. How many times we did it and where ?
But all “that” does not matter .
Grow some balls and be the luckier person and marry her or let her go.

Foodqueen:
Break up with her if u want to and stop using past.

Were you not having sex with the girls you were with in your past.

SUPERPACK:
But can you swear before this honourable court that you have not had sex with more than 10 girls in your lifetime? He who wants equity must come with clean hands - Justice Haruna Tsammani

Major7:
Your situation is entirely different from that of the op. It's not just about her past you know,she keep making up with some of these guys which is a big red flag. If they're bad as she claimed,then what is she doing with them still Op,I pray that God will grant you wisdom to approach the issue better.

IamAsiri:
Where did you read that she kept making up with some of those guys? Go and read the story again .

Dexy4yah:
Please leave her alone, because you will never stop using her past against her...that's the truth.


Exactly! I met a lady like that. As nice as she was, I couldn't let go of her past sexual relationships. She had practically lived with one of the guys for about a year and I was always imagining the sexual activities that had gone down.

The imagination was traumatising. Any little thing, I would mention her past and I could see the torture she was going through. I had to let her go. The best thing is for you to let her go.

If you have ever watched VANILLA SKY starring Tom Cruise, you will understand the psychology.

Surprisingly, some guys don't care about a woman's past. Obviously, you are not that kind of guy.

jeromestarks:
ebijimi7
Just imagine the sound she made when those men were fvcking her and eating her pvssy. Imagine how she put the diuck of some of them in her throat and swallowed their cum.
Imagine how those exs rammed her on bed, on the floor, on the chair and in cars.
Notice how dilapidated her pvssy has become.
Is that the Kinda woman you want as a wife?
A woman that guys (her numerous exs) will be laughing at you from the congregation on your wedding day?
Is that the kinda of woman your mother would want for your?

Women are a copy of their mothers. Know that if you have children with this harl0ts you call girlfriend, your daughters will be fvcked by many men too.
Is that the future you want to subject your innocent daughters to?

Fvck her and also ditch her not just for your sanity but also for the future of your unborn children.
Ciao!

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

charlesdinho:
you said you dated some ladies. are you trying to say you did not make out with any of them? na sex she sex, she no do abortion or kill person

IamAsiri:
You cannot advise OP to leave her now? Why later? Or is OP not one of those who have also "damaged" lots of girls? Are the "damagers" okay to start fresh lives while the "damagees" are stigmatised for life?

SUPERPACK:
Yes and I said so. If you have problem with what I said head to supreme court