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Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Tokskob2008: 12:58pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
On nairaland another word or way to be extremely wicked is "entitlement mentality". A blood brother giving is younger brother food and shelter is now termed "entitlement mentality" 7 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 12:58pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
aycapri: did the brother invite him?Did they discuss before he came Never assume anyone owes you anything in this life |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Nobody: 12:59pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
From the comments I've read so far, I now conclude that there's a problem with so many families and most people don't even know what family means I now know why some families don't progress in life. 😢 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by ezugegere(m): 1:00pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: That is a wicked mentality. I owe my siblings everything, even my blood self. You can give your girlfriend monthly allowances but think you owe your brother nothing right? No one deserves a brother like you 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by aycapri(m): 1:00pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
vincenteger:aswear, this your response is the real savage 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 1:01pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Tokskob2008:. When times are hard yes even a father giving an adult child is entitlement Nobody owes you anything in this life If a grown man who should be married is a bachelor eating noodles he is not doing well and not in a position to be carrying another adult |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by GoodRocks: 1:01pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Openfortruth: I understand your point perfectly well. Forget those idiots saying otherwise above. This isn't entitlement mentality! It is what is expected of a brother to do! It pains me that your brother won't mind spending all his money on a girl outside. Such brothers are really terrible to live with. I'll urge you to look for aby available work now and do to earn money to sustain yourself for tye main time before learning your apprenticeship program 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by aycapri(m): 1:02pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
[quote author=Gajagojo post=125971057][/quote]irrespective of the situation, he is your brother. |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by chukelvin(m): 1:02pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247:E be like say you be hin brother o...or you get younger brother like am for your house 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Angy55(f): 1:03pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Dpen11: Person when dey learn work want get savings? Did you read the full story? 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Tobex31(m): 1:04pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247:Your assertion on this is wrong, it is still the responsibility of the elder ones to take care of the younger ones.. If parents have taken good care of the elder, it lies on the shoulder of the elder to take good care of the younger ones to lessen the burden on the parents. We should stop on this western culture of comparing responsibility with entitlement mentality. We're in Africa, life is really difficult here... hence the need to assist each other should be key, especially your family members. Our Government don't care about our welfare, it is solely individual responsibility, hence, our need to assist one another where dim fit 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 1:04pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
aycapri: Story If I don't feed him he will remain my brother |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Olam09(m): 1:06pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247:Send the money to him. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Sk5050: 1:06pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247:I don't like your line of advice the young boy is not working still under apprenticeship not even too familiar with how city life operates. His elder brother is just being wicked, because I have also personally expirience such ill treatment from my young uncle in my early days I'm lagos. My point is the elder brother should take responsibility of his brother until the young man understands city life why showing your blood so much wickedness what's food after all, thank God the young boy is even purposeful with his life by choosing entrepreneurship just a matter of time the boy will stand on his feet so why the negative attitude? However just focus on your career soon he will be looking up to you for survival don't allow his behaviour to make you disrespect him. Better still talk to him that he should understand that you're not working yet that he should be patient with you and ones you start earning money you will definitely assist in running the house as well. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by bravehost4u(m): 1:06pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: People like you made me love nairaland. Thank you for this write-up |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Ade3131: 1:06pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: If only you know how fast that table/role can turn, you won't be saying this. He's the younger one and yeah, the elder brother doesn't owe him anything for him to feel indebted, but there's a catch in all of this, God made them siblings for a reason and the question is: is he fulfilling that purpose? It is one thing if the elder brother too isn't capable to feed them both, and the whole story didn't capture that part. He might be younger, squatting and starving today, but might end up the bedrock of their whole lineage tomorrow and by that time, it'll be the elder brother who would be opening Nairaland thread to tell us how he brought his younger brother to Lagos and helped him become a billionaire only for the brother not to help him. Time will tell sha.... and by that time, you and your kind will still tell the elder brother not to feel entitled. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by GoodRocks: 1:07pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Nazgul: Inasmuch as this is right but a brother should help is fellow brother, let alone blood brother! Things like this can make people wicked. Imagine the op makes it in life, you think say he go remember his brother? Dude not everything is entitlement mentality! Y'all needs to Stop this careless statement. A blood brother should be able to help his blood brother, abi is it when he dies of starvation his so called beloved brother will now roll out money to buy cow and bags of rice? Why not help now that he is alive? Make una try get sense for this forum. I'm very sure the said brother wouldn't mind spending money on a girl who adds nothing to his life 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 1:07pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
ezugegere: This is the issue you are entitled to think that way That another person is not like you does not make them wicked We are all different Even you that think you owe your siblings. Your siblings might not think like that to you That does not make them wicked |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by yinkeys(m): 1:07pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Openfortruth:You really don’t need a university degree if you’re not going for a real serious professional course in these times Buy a solid laptop and learn how to code really well Front end and back end development If possible go beyond that to artificial intelligence & machine learning You can also learning video editing online Music sound production These are what would give you solid cash in the future They are in high demand too Good luck |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Angy55(f): 1:07pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: It is not entitlement. The guy is not lazy, reason he came to the city to learn handwork so he won't be 100 percent dependent on his brother while he is at school. If he has, he should share with his younger brother. Person when get money dey trek dey go work come back? 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Angy55(f): 1:09pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Tobex31: God bless you for this. 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by uvie66: 1:10pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247:.... the thing weak me, you are not your brother's responsibility he is not suppose to feed you, if you are over 18 you should feed yourself. |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Cantonese: 1:10pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: Good response. But on the money matter, what should he do if there is no money? In all, I think the OP is deceitful. He talked about hiding the garri that he brought from the village. Can we safely say that he was hiding food from his brother first? Remember that what a person sows, he reaps. |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Angy55(f): 1:11pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
As the guy dey leave he younger brother to starve for house. E sure me say, he go get when one girl when he go dey feed daily, dey spend money on and he younger brother dey starve. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by GoodRocks: 1:11pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247: Are you normal? Do you know what entitlement mentality is? Dude, your post can make people become extremely wicked. Imagine the op makes it in life with this mindsets of yours, you think say he go remember his brother? Dude not everything is entitlement mentality! Y'all needs to Stop this careless statement. A blood brother should be able to help his blood brother, abi is it when he dies of starvation his so called beloved brother will now roll out money to buy cow and bags of rice for the burial? Like are you okay? Why not help now that he is alive? Make una try get sense for this forum. I'm very sure the said brother wouldn't mind spending money on a girl who adds nothing valuable to his life 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by mh53(m): 1:13pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247:e done tay since you enter market 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Nazgul: 1:14pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
GO0DHardDick:You have a point. But the reality of the matter is that your brother and even your parents wouldn't value you if you're adding nothing to their life. The boy is in his hussling stage, so it's safe to say his brother covers 100% of all his responsibilities. The simple question here is what is he giving back to his brother. Does he clean the house, does he wash his brother's clothes...or does he just sit there idling away waiting for his brother to feed him? Believe me, no body would abandon you if you're useful to them. The op is most likely useless to his brother that's why he's being treated this way. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by TheBillyonaire: 1:15pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Your worries are a distraction to your phone repairs venture. Simply focus your energy in mastering your phone repairs and be creative on how to raise money from your phone repair. You can also find some part time job or service you can render for a fee. Also talk to your brother to give you a loan to help you feed, and promise to pay him as soon as you make money. Do not complain just walk to him and greet him with a smile, and plead respectfully with him like an adult for some cash to borrow, when he asks what you want to use it for, tell him in order to buy food and cook in the house but that you will refund as soon as you are able to make money. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by rickleye: 1:16pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
There are always 2 sides to a story. Was he always like this when you first moved in with him ? Reasons why his attitude would have changed could be that 1. You are not pulling your weight around ( Are you doing house chores ? ) 2. Humility - in your write up, you in some ways come across as entitled. 3, lack of love . I can’t imagine having my younger brother around. My house is his house . But I would also tell him that I’d like my house to Remain my abode. Solution. Whatever you are keeping he’s seen it I.e your Garri and is offended that you are keeping it from him. Talk to him and have an open air discussion on modus operandis in his house. |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Gajagojo: 1:16pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
GO0DHardDick: Actually girls add value They get pregnant and have babies There is no greater value in African culture If that brother dies today with no kids it is over This BROTHER sounds like he is ripe for marriage. That should be his priority not feeding another male adult |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Semaj77(m): 1:17pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Mindlog: How do you know it's not humane , do you know what the brother earns , do you know both their living conditions You have heard from only one side and you have already judged , we should stop this attitude of coming to conclusions after listening to only one side of a story 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by lawrenzooo: 1:18pm On Sep 23, 2023 |
Dpen11: Have savings from where? Does somebody who is not working have savings? unless and except you are expecting him to steal. 2 Likes |
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